How to Use Manifesting to Get Anything You Want: My Interview with Marie Forleo

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One of my favorite interviews ever is a conversation I had in my NYC living room with my girl Marie Forleo. In this MarieTV video I talk about how to use manifesting to get anything you want.

True success is an inside job… so watch our interview or keep reading for my guidance!

How to manifest anything you want

You can watch our full interview from 2012 in the video below. You can also keep reading for my biggest tips on how to use manifesting to get anything you want.

What is manifesting?

Energy flows where my intention goes. | The Universe Has Your Back card deck by Gabby BernsteinManifesting is acquiring the experience of what it is that you want to feel, and then being, living and believing in that experience. And finally, allowing that experience to come into form.

You can practice manifesting to attract whatever you want, whether that’s a successful business, good health, a relationship or even a material object.

Sometimes we manifest things far beyond our wildest dreams. So when manifesting, it’s important to stay open to possibilities that are beyond what you think you need. When you align with the loving energy of the Universe, there are no limits to what you can attract. When we’re manifesting it’s important to be open to, as I say, “this or something better.”

Manifesting is very creative. It’s the process of vibrating at a high frequency, and allowing that energy to co-create with the energy that’s around you.

Manifesting is natural

In the video above, Marie says:

I know I like to always believe that I’m co-creating with the Universe, because I really believe there are no such things as coincidences. I’ve had too many experiences in my life where I’m like, “Oh my God, that’s what I wanted and it all seemed to line up, and it was incredible.” So, that’s really part of what we’re talking about here, right? Our ability to play an active role, but almost paradoxically a passive role, in helping things that we want come into our life.

This is exactly right! There’s a line from the metaphysical text A Course in Miracles: “Miracles occur naturally, and when they’re not occurring something has gone wrong.”

Miracles occur naturally

That synchronicity, that flow, that effortless action, that allowing that Marie talks about above — “Oh, I was thinking about that and it just showed up” — that’s how life is supposed to be!

Miracles are natural.

It’s just that we get in the way. Our negative belief systems, fears, anxiety, anger toward the past, future tripping and projecting: They all get in the way of allowing miracles to occur naturally.

3 steps to manifest anything you want

You may have some resistance to manifesting. Maybe it seems a little out-there. So I’m going to break down into clear steps that you can practice and try for yourself. Follow the steps below to manifest anything you want, or something better!

Step 1: Get clear about what you want

The first step in manifestation is to get very, very clear. If you’re not clear about what you desire, then you’ll start to call in some things that are not really what you want. You’ll be confused, and as a result you can call in some funky stuff.

Spend time gaining clarity around your desire. For example, I often say that I was a published author three years before I actually was a published author, because I believed so deeply.

I manifested my book with clarity and faith

Add More ~ing to Your Life: A Hip Guide to Happiness, by Gabby BernsteinThe recession hit when I was manifesting my first book, Add More ~ing to Your Life. I was talking one day with my stepfather, telling him all about my book that I wanted to bring into the world. He said to me, “Well, you know it’s a really tough time. It’s going to be really hard.” He was resisting my vision because he, like many people at the time, was having a hard time with the realities of the world.

I looked at him with so much conviction, and so much faith, and I said, “I believe in miracles. I believe I am a published author.” I published my book soon thereafter and it was very successful even in a recession.

That faithfulness, that belief system, is what allows a manifestation to come into form. But I had also done a significant amount of work to release all the limiting beliefs that I had been holding on to. That’s step #2.

Step 2: Understand your limiting beliefs

Once you’re clear about what you want, you can then get clear about all the ways that you don’t believe you can have it. All the limiting beliefs and all the negativity that might be blocking you.

For example, while manifesting my first book deal I had to clear the limiting belief that I couldn’t write. I really hadn’t written much past eighth grade. I didn’t do well in English classes in high school, and I didn’t take any writing courses in college. I had a negative belief about myself that I couldn’t write.

When we become willing to heal, the Universe leads us to exactly what we need

It takes courage to get real about our limiting beliefs and overcome them. This was a big one for me. But I overcame it by recognizing that “I can’t write. I’m not a writer,” was just a story I told myself.

Healing a limiting belief can just be witnessing that it’s not working and that it’s holding you back. When we witness that the old story isn’t working, that’s when we’re led to exactly what we need to overcome it, whether that’s a book, a teacher, a course, a therapist, anything.

Step 3: Trust that the Universe has your back

The Universe has my back. | The Universe Has Your Back card deck by Gabby BernsteinLetting go of our old stories and disbelief is a daily process. The more we let go of disbelief, the more we begin to be in the presence of our manifestation. We feel as though it’s already here, even when it hasn’t shown up yet.

In the example of me publishing my first book, I felt like a published author years before I was a published author.

Similarly, I felt abundant even when I was scrapping to get by. I still felt the presence of abundance, which allowed abundance to come into my life.

One key is to appreciate everything that is working. If you want to manifest abundance, appreciate everything in your life that reflects abundance, such as the food in your fridge, the money in your bank account, the paychecks you receive.

Don’t let the external world dictate your internal condition

When manifesting, you cannot let your outside world dictate your internal condition. The outside world will reflect your internal condition. So if you’re letting the outside stuff tell you, “I’m not good enough,” then you have a manifestation mishap. You’re not allowing yourself to co-create.

Your work is to focus on the internal. And I’ve done that in many cases in my life. Like picking up quarters to pay my gas money, and in that presence of not having a lot of money I still felt abundant.

Let the outside world reflect the amazingness you feel inside.

I did all that work to release my disbelief, and in that presence of believing my abundance, I’ve allowed a tremendous amount of abundance to come into my life.

We’ve got to hold the energy, and let the outside world reflect that amazingness inside.

“When will this manifestation ever show up?”

If you’re following the steps above and your manifestation hasn’t shown up yet, you might be getting impatient. You might be asking, “When is this going to come?” And as a result, you might start feeling some resistance to the process.

When you’re not patient, you’re controlling, you’re grasping and you’re manipulating. In short, you’re blocking the natural order. You’re blocking the positive energy that is flowing toward you, because you are vibrating a frequency of negative energy. Because you’re in fear.

Patience is the most important part of the manifestation process

The most important part of the manifestation process is patience. There’s another beautiful line from A Course in Miracles that speaks to this: “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.”

I am a published author.
That man is on the way.
I am abundant.

When we have that certainty, then we can allow, we can be patient and we can be in the know. We can release the timeline and trust that the Universe has our back. The timeline that we think is best may not be best. Relax, allow and let the Universe bring you exactly what you want.

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  1. The other day I asked for a sign about something. I asked to be shown a elephant the next day. Instead of being shown a elephant a man in a podcast I was watching said the word elephant. Does that count as a sign?

  2. Hi Gabby,

    First thank you so much for your help, I have purchased and love your book The Universe has your back.

    I did manifesting things in my life, mostly without realising I was manifesting. But I struggle with manifesting someone back into my life. A lover. We been together for 2 years, but with a lack of communication and fear of commitment, we ended breaking up even tho there was love. Its been a few weeks now, we dont talk , and I know we could have done better cause I did some self reflection on the relation. Id like to try again with him. So I want to attract him back, manifest our love again and a healthy and strong relationship. What would be your advice to let go of anxiety that I might not get what I want? When something is truly desired , its in the heart, its hard to let go as if you shouldnt think about it anymore? I think that’s why im blocking the answer from Universe. Id like to feel like trust that its coming but anxiety takes the best of my efforts sometimes. Any suggestions? Thank you very much

  3. Thank so much gabby for providing concrete examples in this video! It helped me see that I may lack some clarity in my own life. Also appreciated your mention of patience as you reinforced my belief that it pays to wait so to speak. And by the way, you ain’t got grade 8 English anymore. Your work is some of the clearest and more actionable I read. It exudes assertion and truly inspires me!

  4. Hi Gabby, I just finished your book. I had it read in 2 days and amazing doesnt even come close. The stories you tell about synchronicity are mindblowing and brought tears to eyes. Tears of joy. I also loved all the prayers and mantras you put in each chapter. You are truly a blessing and I wish the absolute best for you on your journey. I am grateful from the bottom of heart for your incredible book. Thank you and lots of love and light to you.

  5. Hi Gabi! I am trying to manifest a love relationship with a specific person and I have done all the steps from your books, but so far nothing materialized. I have been practicing meditation, visualization, affirmations, etc for over a year. I have days when I feel relaxed and have a high love vibration, with an intense feeling that my desire is already real and days when I am depressed, discouraged, impacient and sad… I feel that I am going round in circles for over a year, not knowing how to break this vicious cycle … can you suggest some techniques or ideas on how to solve this and let go of my desire once and for all? I find that the hardest part of the LOA process is to let go … how can I really let go if I do want to have him in my life romantically? Thank you!

    1. Hi Alina! When calling in love into your life, it’s great to get clear on your desires, which you have beautifully done. And after having that clarity, release them to the Universe, trusting the process and praying for “this or something better”. This means truly surrendering and being open to all the signs. Often love shows up in a totally different package, as a different person, and in an unexpected place. <3

  6. Hi Gabby,
    Thank you so much for all your work. I have re read the Universe has your back and found it so useful. I have a question regarding manifesting. Is it possible to manifest more than one thing in your life? Or do you concentrate on one area of your life until that has come to pass so to speak? Can you for example manifest love in your relationships and also the dream job? Any insight would be great. Thank you 🙂

    1. Absolutely! It can feel great to get clear on your desires, get grounded in meditation, and then pray for the greatest possible outcome for all. And then be open to all the signs from the Universe. Things may or may not manifest at the same time, but you can keep moving forward, tapping into that inner wisdom and trust. <3

  7. Such amazing insight and magic put into beautiful yet simple context. I love, love, love this stuff! Miracles are natural, such an important reminder. Thank you xxx

  8. Hi Gabby, I have just ordered your book as I am quite interested in joining your Facebook group. I have an account on Facebook but never use it because I find I almost have to live my life ‘in hiding’ because of my upbringing in a chronically abusive environment. Still in recovery – am considered in ‘old age’ now so thanks universe for sorting me out sooner so I could have my own family and be free of depression (she says sarcastically)! But I am finding faith again in reading and re-reading your manifestation posts and if it helps my current health and financial situation, then I am grateful. I am always grateful for any graces I am given in spite of everything. I am very bad at reading help books after so many disappointments, so this is a big step for me!

    1. Grateful that you shared here, Ann. This is a beautiful sign that you’re ready to make some major shifts. I hope to see you in the Miracle Membership Facebook group in the future. Big hugs! <3

  9. Thank you for this, Gabby! You have provided another lightbulb moment for me. Patience is the key! Also, I need to re-read The Universe Has Your Back, STAT! 🙂 All the blessings to you! xoxo

  10. Thank you Gabby for these “gold nuggets”..
    Thank you for being that light which provides a path, stepping stones, and the bridge in which to cross!
    This part of my journey and transformations reflect letting go and becoming the best version of myself!
    Thank you gabby, for all the hard work you’ve done in your life so that your light and love could shine into my reality !
    My deepest Gratitude,

  11. Read your book “The Universe Has Your Back” in only two days. Thank you for sharing your love, lights and insights for the world. It felt like reading a message from myself to myself. (Gabrielle to Gabriella). Keep shining, Gabby.

  12. I am going to follow this advice to the letter – I really think it will improve my life 🙂 I love to read your learned advice – I find it really supports me. I need a lot of help in my life. Thank you.

  13. Hi Gabby,
    Your books, blog, emails & videos have been a valuable resource to me. The Universe has your Back, has given the tools I needed to stay positive and strong during my healing. I am very GRATEFUL for your wisdom and for sharing it with the world.

  14. Hi Gabby. This video was the first time I met you 2 years it led me to you book may cause miracles which changed my life forever. Your energy and enthusiasm reached me in a way nothing had ever before. Thank you for sharing your gift.

  15. hi Gabby, How does manifesting work when it comes to your relationship? My boyfriend and I are having a rough time right now and we are spending some time apart and i know that we are meant to be together. How can being in my vortex help him and then help us?

    1. Hi Natalie. Tap into your own inner wisdom and put that energy towards you. Strengthening and healing the relationship you have with yourself will be a reflection of the relationship you have with him. <3

  16. Hi Gabby, I am new, and loved the video and what you are teaching us here. My question to you is what is the best way to heal the limiting beliefs?

  17. I am so happy I found you. You are so truly amazing and inspiring. I look so forward to your emails and can’t wait to read your book. Thank you for your positive energy and sense of hope that I will manifest my dreams. Thanks for helping with that. Lots of love and light to you and everyone else with their hopes and dreams. Stay positive and hopeful everyone

  18. Cool. You can also use energetic manifestation techniques.
    i do about 5-7 energetic items daily – all of it works (Using chakras, sacred geometry energy, fun exercises, etc). Its feeling the energy and using different techniques to call it in. Its quite magical. This is the basis though. I journal daily to acknowledge and release thoughts or beliefs that dont serve me.

  19. so this is my question…re: clarity….but you also say, in prayer, never to pray for a certain outcome; to pray for the highest good of all, and let go of your own agenda…for I am in a position now, for first time in my life not being totally clear; it’s not about ONE avenue that would bring joy and allow me to make a contribution to the world, which is always what my joy is about..contribution and helping someone, something grow, ….so if you know you no longer really need to be pigeonholed, …can’t you be open to possibility?

    1. Hi Lisbeth! You can get clarity on what your desires are, but then release them to the Universe, praying for the best outcome for all. This allows you to let go and trust that the Universe is collaborating directly with you. <3

  20. Gabby
    Tus palabras tienen un sifnificado peofundo, y creeme yo experimente algo extraño un contacto de energia y que salio de mi
    Y en lo espiritual esta en la actualidad y en el espieitu viene del universo de Dios que hace que te manifiestes y dar lo mejor pienso que los de buen espiritu son lo triunfadores del Universo pero es importante creer en la familia y seamos guiados con valoees espirituales y tienes mucha razon y la recetaen casos de desesperación y angustia ES LA PACIENCIA CON AMOR DE MI PARA TI

    1. Hi Arturo. Please continue to return to your spiritual practices and be open to all positive signs and messages from the Universe. A daily meditation practice will help you tap into your inner wisdom and help you to feel grounded and supported.

  21. Hola Gabby
    Me llamo Andrea y agradezco todos los libros que tienes, me han ayudado mucho tranquilizar mi mente, a ver las cosas de otra forma y sobre todo a iniciar y continuar en el camino de la paz espiritual. Gracias por tu libros!!

  22. “If you’re not clear about what you desire, then you’ll start to call in some things that are not really what you want.” My thoughts went immediately to my career, my time, the people I surround myself, and even what’s in my closet (how else do we accumulate weird stuff??). “Clarity” is hard, and requires patience. As I chip away at one belief, there are others that are uncovered. <3 Thank you for your words, Gabby. Hugs!!

  23. Gabby, I have read your books, done all the techniques, meditated like crazy and projected love out onto the world. It hasn’t worked for me. I wanted more than anything to save my marriage and focused all my energy on this, but my husband just told me he wants a divorce. I am devastated and now feel like all of this is just nonsense, does not work, and is a waste of time. I SO wanted to believe, but my faith is completely shaken.

    1. Hi Maureen. Thank you for this heartfelt, brave post. I’m sending lots of loving and healing thoughts your way. When we go on a healing journey but find ourselves spinning in circles and not seeing or feeling any shifts, it’s often due to what I call over-spiritualizing.I myself was stuck in this pattern in the past. The tools in this blog post have helped me tremendously and I hope offer you support: XOX

  24. Hi Gabby, this is Rahul here!. Would request you to let me know a clear process to manifest things as at this point i am looking for many things to come together and yes i am keeping it positive and applying law of attraction.

  25. Wow! Thank you for stating this so beautifully. Your examples were especially helpful. I did some creative thinking about all three steps. It put me in such a good, easy mood. I am ready and pumped to make a phone call to prospect some lucrative projects from a customer. Your ripples are in my pond, ha ha!

  26. Hey, is it possible to manifest something that was truly never meant to be yours in the first place? I have had a manifestation mishap (which coursed a lot of pain). But on the other hand I have seem “smaller” things that i have had manifester come to life.

    1. Hi Lesley! When calling things into your life, it can be helpful to have clarity on the contrast (what you don’t want) in order to know the things you truly do desire. Take this opportunity to have gratitude for the clarity, which will help you manifest what it is that you do want. XOX

      1. Hi Gabby
        Thank you for your inspiring real and fearless light that you have shared with the world …I first saw you on Oprah soulful Sunday and what an incredible talk that was !
        I’m trying to let go of fear and have faith that all is well and the universe has my back !
        Love and blessings to you
        Xo Roxanne

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