Release Resistance and Attract Everything You Want

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The topic of resistance is one of my core teachings.

When I say “resistance,” I mean resistance to happiness. Resistance to freedom. Resistance to the love of the Universe.

Our resistance is the reason we stay stuck in patterns that keep us from thriving. In this post, I’m going to explore how and why we resist and share my 4-step method for releasing resistance with joy and ease.

The key to attracting what we want is to release resistance

The key to attracting everything we want to is release the resistance to love. As I say in Judgment Detox, in the absence of resistance you become like a magnet for more greatness. This is your attracting power. When you feel good and align with love, your energy sends out a signal to the Universe. Your energy vibrates the clear message that you’re aligned with joy and you welcome more if it.

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When you accept this state of being, the Universe can work on your behalf. You’ll think of something you’d like to call into your life and it will appear. Old issues that used to confound you will no longer show up in your life. Problems and obstacles will naturally resolve themselves quickly. And you’ll feel a connection to everything and everyone around you.

One of the most powerful ways to release resistance is to heal judgment of all kinds. (I go deeper into this below.) You can get started on your Judgment Detox journey today by taking my free Judgment Detox Mini Course.

Free Judgment Detox Mini Course by Gabby Bernstein

This free 3-part mini course guides you through some of the most powerful practices in my book Judgment Detox.

When you dedicate your life to releasing resistance, you accept the love of who you are. In that state of love you’ll feel more supported and aligned with what you desire. Life becomes fun and it flows. Love is your natural inheritance, and the Universe responds effortlessly to it. The vibration of love is so strong it has the capacity to change your worldview and your entire living experience.

Why do we have so much resistance?

My faith is stronger than my fear | Spirit Junkie App by Gabby BernsteinI know it seems strange to think that we actually resist love, happiness and freedom. But as Marianne Williamson famously wrote in A Return to Love, “It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.”

We resist love because we have an ego. The ego is the opposite of love. It’s fear, judgment, separation and attack. We’ve grown to rely on the ego as our source of safety and security.

The truth is, we’re far more comfortable in a state of fear than in a place of joy and faith. We’ve learned to rely on fear as a way of protecting ourselves from being disappointed, hurt or triggered.

We think, “If I were to lean on love, who would I be? How would I protect myself?” We don’t trust in the safety and protection of the Universe because we’ve been programmed to believe in the fears of the world. Many of us also struggle to put our faith in a higher power because it’s not something we can see.

How we try to control our lives

We have different ways of trying to control our lives. Some people know they have “control freak” tendencies (like me) whereas others have a harder time understanding that they, too, try to control.

Some of the ways we try to control include…

  • Being so committed to a goal or outcome that we bulldoze everything in order to achieve it
  • Scheduling and planning every detail of our days
  • Trying to “fix” other people or get them to see and do things our way, instead of accepting them for who they are
  • Numbing out with drugs, alcohol, work, sex, self-destructive actions and other addictive patterns — this is a sneaky way of controlling because you’re trying to control your mood or avoid feelings or situations that scare you
  • Praying for certain outcomes instead of praying for the highest good for all

How resistance manifests in our lives

In the video below I outline some of the ways that resistance manifests in our lives:

Resistance to love shows up in many different forms, such as addictive patterns, denying yourself joy, chronic stress, physical conditions and avoidance. They are all ways we attempt to protect ourselves instead of placing our faith in the protection of the Universe.

What we resist will persist

Stepping into the light can be scary because it requires healing, learning and changing. We have to be willing to look at our patterns, witness our judgment, honor our fear and surrender to spiritual guidance.

We don’t have to release resistance. We always have a choice. But as long as we resist love, we will continue to struggle.

Release resistance in 4 steps

If you’re ready to begin releasing resistance, follow the four steps below. Step into the light and know that you are protected and guided by the Universe at all times.

Step 1: Acknowledge your resistance

The first step to breaking free from resistance is to acknowledge it. We have to recognize that while our loving miracle mindset longs to be at peace, our fearful ego says, “I don’t want to be free. I don’t want to give up judgment. I don’t want to release control.”

Acknowledge your resistance to love.

When we accept that we are addicted to fear, we can let ourselves off the hook for anything in the past and for the detours into fear we will continue to make on our spiritual path. We can forgive ourselves for holding on to old patterns.

Resistance will continue to show up in our lives. That’s okay. Just acknowledge it and forgive it so you can return to love fast. Once you have acknowledged your resistance, you are ready for step 2.

Step 2: Surrender to spiritual guidance

We have been programmed to believe in the fears of the world. One of the most common ways we believe in the world’s fears and, as a result, resist love is by trying to control our lives. Check out this clip from my SuperSoul Sessions lecture:

Believing in love requires a mental reprogramming. When you surrender your plans and release control, you allow the voice of your intuition and the energy of love to be your guide.

Welcome this guidance with a prayer of surrender:

Today I surrender my goals and plans to the care of the Universe. I offer up my agenda and accept spiritual guidance. I trust that there is a plan far greater than mine. I know that where there once was lack and limitation there are spiritual solutions and creative ideas. I step back and let love lead the way. Thy will be done.

Step 3: Release judgment

Love is the antidote to judgment. Love heals all. | Judgment Detox by Gabby BernsteinIn many cases, judgment has been our greatest defense mechanism. We have used it to defend against our vulnerability. We fear that if we let our guard down and act compassionately and lovingly toward one another that we’ll be taken advantage of and no longer be safe.

The more conscious we become of how we use judgment to “play it safe,” the more we realize how unsafe it really is. We can begin to see how judgment breeds more judgment. When we attempt to protect ourselves with judgment, we create more separation and deepen our disconnection from love.

Love can seem far scarier to us than fear. We’re terrified to let love in because we fear that when we do we’ll be susceptible to more pain. But love is the antidote to judgment. Love heals all.

I’m making it easy to release judgment!

I want to make it really easy for you to release judgment! So I created a FREE 3-part mini course that guides you through some of the most powerful techniques in my book Judgment Detox.

Gabby Bernstein's free Judgment Detox Mini Course

If you have 5 minutes a day for 3 days, you can do this course. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve read the book or not. Click here to get instant access!

Step 4: Proactively choose joy

We have a sacred responsibility to lean toward joy. The more joyful we are, the more light we can shine upon the world, the more power we have to express our presence, and the more positive energy we can put out.

When we lean toward joy we raise our vibrational frequency, which gives us the energy necessary to show up and serve. Joy is the inspiration behind creative solutions for seemingly hopeless problems. It provides us with generosity so we can give more where there is need.

When you’re in a state of joy you leave a positive imprint on every being in the world.

Learn how to get into the stream of well-being and choose joy!

Releasing resistance activates your Super Attractor power

When you have faith in the Universe, you can do less and attract more | Super Attractor by Gabby BernsteinOne of the biggest blocks to being a Super Attractor is our resistance to feeling good. In order to claim everything you attract, you need to welcome worthiness and happiness. You need to accept that struggle and pain aren’t required for growth, success or a meaningful life. It’s good to feel good!

In the absence of resistance you’ll become a magnet for what you desire and you’ll feel the energy of love supporting you in every aspect of your life. In this place of nonresistance you can reconnect to your true love nature and be in tune with the vibration of the Universe. You’ll become a Super Attractor.

Follow these steps today and begin to release your resistance to the presence of love within you.

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  1. Thank you so much for your light and guidance. It has helped me so much to stay grounded and at peace with myself. Sometimes we feel that we are unworthy of love and punish ourselves for even feeling good. I’ve learned so much from your books about how to love and accept myself. I’ve experienced miracles! Thank you Gaby for everything you do for humanity! We need you now, more than ever! Sending you love and light!

  2. Hi Gabby, I appreciate the way you are trying to make our lives better everyday. But there are few dilemma I’m facing lately.
    1. You said that, those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety, but that “certainty” Makes a belief system and creates expectations, is it right to have this kind of thoughts? Because if anything goes wrong and we can’t get what we believed in, our whole belief system get shattered and we lost our faith in universe.

    2. You said, if we don’t show up for our problems the problem keep showing up. The exact thing is happening with me. The same pattern keeps coming up to me for last 6 years. But i don’t know what to do. Where’s the exact problem lies. Can you please help me with these.

    1. These are great questions, Sweta.
      1- Being “certain of the outcome” doesn’t mean that we are attached to specific outcomes or expectations– it means that we are being faithful. In other words, when we have faith that the universe is at work, we can “afford to wait, and wait without anxiety”. If you haven’t seen it, you may want to check out Gabby’s SuperSoul talk where she discusses the 5 Steps to Spiritual Surrender: /new-blog-super-soul-sessions-talk-5-steps-spiritual-surrender/
      2- If the same problem continues to come up for you, here are some practices that I think you will find helpful: /spiritual-assignments-can-show/

  3. Hi Gabby, and thank you for this post. I’ve been following you for a little while, I have read “The Universe Has Your Back” and I’ve tried to put your teachings into practice. Because I am very much a control freak and a very motivated and determined individual, I always go after things I want in life. As a result, I have achieved many great things, but I also do struggle with others – like finding love and getting my own business off the ground. I have a very strong self-belief and I know everything is possible for me, and I am not afraid to put in the work to get there. But on reflection, with that comes a strong desire to control. In my head, I want these things to happen sooner rather than later and the way I want. I look at people who are successful and they are really determined and goal oriented and that makes me think I will have to be too. At the same time I am super positive person, I am rarely anxious or stressed, I am deeply grateful for everything I have in my life, I appreciate the small things and I truly believe that most of the time I live in joy. So I guess my question is – how do you strike the balance between surrendering your plans and goals and trusting everything will work out for you, and still fill your days with meaningful action that helps you to get closer to your goals – like working on my business daily or going out to meet people?

    1. Great question, Liz. When we commit to our daily spirit practice, we create the space via prayer and meditation to receive guidance. This guidance leads to inspired action, so rather than taking action from a place of fear, lack, and the need to control, we are taking action based on joy and faith.
      Here are some additional posts that you might find helpful:

  4. I started mediation about 10 years ago with Abraham Hicks because I was feeling very down I quit my job to follow my husband’s work to another city. If I hadn’t moved I would never have known about this wonderful spiritual guidance that was available to me. I went to acupuncture in my new city and it was that very doctor that introduced me to Abraham. Saved me
    I have since moved every 3 years and I’m now in Asia
    Needless to say I’m struggling with everything that’s going on and we can’t go home. Feeling trapped has been so difficult. Sure enough your Super Attractor book showed up for the fIrst time on my kindle. This book is really helping and I love the journal.
    I’m such an outdoors person and living in intense heat for 3 years is soooo difficult. I practice feeling joy as best I can but it’s draining.
    I pray everyday we can move closer to home I feel for all expats who can’t go home.
    I would love any words of encouragement Thank you for saving me too!

    1. Wonderful, Sue. I’m grateful to hear that Super Attractor has served you in this way. Here is a practice that I rely on to help me create an energetic shift whenever I’m feeling discomfort or out of alignment: /the-appreciation-game/. Sending you big love.

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