Release Resistance and Attract Everything You Want

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The topic of resistance is one of my core teachings.

When I say “resistance,” I mean resistance to happiness. Resistance to freedom. Resistance to the love of the Universe.

Our resistance is the reason we stay stuck in patterns that keep us from thriving. In this post, I’m going to explore how and why we resist and share my 4-step method for releasing resistance with joy and ease.

The key to attracting what we want is to release resistance

The key to attracting everything we want to is release the resistance to love. As I say in Judgment Detox, in the absence of resistance you become like a magnet for more greatness. This is your attracting power. When you feel good and align with love, your energy sends out a signal to the Universe. Your energy vibrates the clear message that you’re aligned with joy and you welcome more if it.

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When you accept this state of being, the Universe can work on your behalf. You’ll think of something you’d like to call into your life and it will appear. Old issues that used to confound you will no longer show up in your life. Problems and obstacles will naturally resolve themselves quickly. And you’ll feel a connection to everything and everyone around you.

One of the most powerful ways to release resistance is to heal judgment of all kinds. (I go deeper into this below.) You can get started on your Judgment Detox journey today by taking my free Judgment Detox Mini Course.

Free Judgment Detox Mini Course by Gabby Bernstein

This free 3-part mini course guides you through some of the most powerful practices in my book Judgment Detox.

When you dedicate your life to releasing resistance, you accept the love of who you are. In that state of love you’ll feel more supported and aligned with what you desire. Life becomes fun and it flows. Love is your natural inheritance, and the Universe responds effortlessly to it. The vibration of love is so strong it has the capacity to change your worldview and your entire living experience.

Why do we have so much resistance?

My faith is stronger than my fear | Spirit Junkie App by Gabby BernsteinI know it seems strange to think that we actually resist love, happiness and freedom. But as Marianne Williamson famously wrote in A Return to Love, “It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.”

We resist love because we have an ego. The ego is the opposite of love. It’s fear, judgment, separation and attack. We’ve grown to rely on the ego as our source of safety and security.

The truth is, we’re far more comfortable in a state of fear than in a place of joy and faith. We’ve learned to rely on fear as a way of protecting ourselves from being disappointed, hurt or triggered.

We think, “If I were to lean on love, who would I be? How would I protect myself?” We don’t trust in the safety and protection of the Universe because we’ve been programmed to believe in the fears of the world. Many of us also struggle to put our faith in a higher power because it’s not something we can see.

How we try to control our lives

We have different ways of trying to control our lives. Some people know they have “control freak” tendencies (like me) whereas others have a harder time understanding that they, too, try to control.

Some of the ways we try to control include…

  • Being so committed to a goal or outcome that we bulldoze everything in order to achieve it
  • Scheduling and planning every detail of our days
  • Trying to “fix” other people or get them to see and do things our way, instead of accepting them for who they are
  • Numbing out with drugs, alcohol, work, sex, self-destructive actions and other addictive patterns — this is a sneaky way of controlling because you’re trying to control your mood or avoid feelings or situations that scare you
  • Praying for certain outcomes instead of praying for the highest good for all

How resistance manifests in our lives

In the video below I outline some of the ways that resistance manifests in our lives:

Resistance to love shows up in many different forms, such as addictive patterns, denying yourself joy, chronic stress, physical conditions and avoidance. They are all ways we attempt to protect ourselves instead of placing our faith in the protection of the Universe.

What we resist will persist

Stepping into the light can be scary because it requires healing, learning and changing. We have to be willing to look at our patterns, witness our judgment, honor our fear and surrender to spiritual guidance.

We don’t have to release resistance. We always have a choice. But as long as we resist love, we will continue to struggle.

Release resistance in 4 steps

If you’re ready to begin releasing resistance, follow the four steps below. Step into the light and know that you are protected and guided by the Universe at all times.

Step 1: Acknowledge your resistance

The first step to breaking free from resistance is to acknowledge it. We have to recognize that while our loving miracle mindset longs to be at peace, our fearful ego says, “I don’t want to be free. I don’t want to give up judgment. I don’t want to release control.”

Acknowledge your resistance to love.

When we accept that we are addicted to fear, we can let ourselves off the hook for anything in the past and for the detours into fear we will continue to make on our spiritual path. We can forgive ourselves for holding on to old patterns.

Resistance will continue to show up in our lives. That’s okay. Just acknowledge it and forgive it so you can return to love fast. Once you have acknowledged your resistance, you are ready for step 2.

Step 2: Surrender to spiritual guidance

We have been programmed to believe in the fears of the world. One of the most common ways we believe in the world’s fears and, as a result, resist love is by trying to control our lives. Check out this clip from my SuperSoul Sessions lecture:

Believing in love requires a mental reprogramming. When you surrender your plans and release control, you allow the voice of your intuition and the energy of love to be your guide.

Welcome this guidance with a prayer of surrender:

Today I surrender my goals and plans to the care of the Universe. I offer up my agenda and accept spiritual guidance. I trust that there is a plan far greater than mine. I know that where there once was lack and limitation there are spiritual solutions and creative ideas. I step back and let love lead the way. Thy will be done.

Step 3: Release judgment

Love is the antidote to judgment. Love heals all. | Judgment Detox by Gabby BernsteinIn many cases, judgment has been our greatest defense mechanism. We have used it to defend against our vulnerability. We fear that if we let our guard down and act compassionately and lovingly toward one another that we’ll be taken advantage of and no longer be safe.

The more conscious we become of how we use judgment to “play it safe,” the more we realize how unsafe it really is. We can begin to see how judgment breeds more judgment. When we attempt to protect ourselves with judgment, we create more separation and deepen our disconnection from love.

Love can seem far scarier to us than fear. We’re terrified to let love in because we fear that when we do we’ll be susceptible to more pain. But love is the antidote to judgment. Love heals all.

I’m making it easy to release judgment!

I want to make it really easy for you to release judgment! So I created a FREE 3-part mini course that guides you through some of the most powerful techniques in my book Judgment Detox.

Gabby Bernstein's free Judgment Detox Mini Course

If you have 5 minutes a day for 3 days, you can do this course. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve read the book or not. Click here to get instant access!

Step 4: Proactively choose joy

We have a sacred responsibility to lean toward joy. The more joyful we are, the more light we can shine upon the world, the more power we have to express our presence, and the more positive energy we can put out.

When we lean toward joy we raise our vibrational frequency, which gives us the energy necessary to show up and serve. Joy is the inspiration behind creative solutions for seemingly hopeless problems. It provides us with generosity so we can give more where there is need.

When you’re in a state of joy you leave a positive imprint on every being in the world.

Learn how to get into the stream of well-being and choose joy!

Releasing resistance activates your Super Attractor power

When you have faith in the Universe, you can do less and attract more | Super Attractor by Gabby BernsteinOne of the biggest blocks to being a Super Attractor is our resistance to feeling good. In order to claim everything you attract, you need to welcome worthiness and happiness. You need to accept that struggle and pain aren’t required for growth, success or a meaningful life. It’s good to feel good!

In the absence of resistance you’ll become a magnet for what you desire and you’ll feel the energy of love supporting you in every aspect of your life. In this place of nonresistance you can reconnect to your true love nature and be in tune with the vibration of the Universe. You’ll become a Super Attractor.

Follow these steps today and begin to release your resistance to the presence of love within you.

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  1. Thank you so much for your light and guidance. It has helped me so much to stay grounded and at peace with myself. Sometimes we feel that we are unworthy of love and punish ourselves for even feeling good. I’ve learned so much from your books about how to love and accept myself. I’ve experienced miracles! Thank you Gaby for everything you do for humanity! We need you now, more than ever! Sending you love and light!

  2. Hi Gabby, I appreciate the way you are trying to make our lives better everyday. But there are few dilemma I’m facing lately.
    1. You said that, those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety, but that “certainty” Makes a belief system and creates expectations, is it right to have this kind of thoughts? Because if anything goes wrong and we can’t get what we believed in, our whole belief system get shattered and we lost our faith in universe.

    2. You said, if we don’t show up for our problems the problem keep showing up. The exact thing is happening with me. The same pattern keeps coming up to me for last 6 years. But i don’t know what to do. Where’s the exact problem lies. Can you please help me with these.

    1. These are great questions, Sweta.
      1- Being “certain of the outcome” doesn’t mean that we are attached to specific outcomes or expectations– it means that we are being faithful. In other words, when we have faith that the universe is at work, we can “afford to wait, and wait without anxiety”. If you haven’t seen it, you may want to check out Gabby’s SuperSoul talk where she discusses the 5 Steps to Spiritual Surrender: /new-blog-super-soul-sessions-talk-5-steps-spiritual-surrender/
      2- If the same problem continues to come up for you, here are some practices that I think you will find helpful: /spiritual-assignments-can-show/
      xoxo

  3. Hi Gabby, and thank you for this post. I’ve been following you for a little while, I have read “The Universe Has Your Back” and I’ve tried to put your teachings into practice. Because I am very much a control freak and a very motivated and determined individual, I always go after things I want in life. As a result, I have achieved many great things, but I also do struggle with others – like finding love and getting my own business off the ground. I have a very strong self-belief and I know everything is possible for me, and I am not afraid to put in the work to get there. But on reflection, with that comes a strong desire to control. In my head, I want these things to happen sooner rather than later and the way I want. I look at people who are successful and they are really determined and goal oriented and that makes me think I will have to be too. At the same time I am super positive person, I am rarely anxious or stressed, I am deeply grateful for everything I have in my life, I appreciate the small things and I truly believe that most of the time I live in joy. So I guess my question is – how do you strike the balance between surrendering your plans and goals and trusting everything will work out for you, and still fill your days with meaningful action that helps you to get closer to your goals – like working on my business daily or going out to meet people?

    1. Great question, Liz. When we commit to our daily spirit practice, we create the space via prayer and meditation to receive guidance. This guidance leads to inspired action, so rather than taking action from a place of fear, lack, and the need to control, we are taking action based on joy and faith.
      Here are some additional posts that you might find helpful:
      /getting-want-doesnt-struggle/
      /need-to-control/
      /how-to-detach-from-outcomes/
      /new-blog-super-soul-sessions-talk-5-steps-spiritual-surrender/
      /surrender-goals-universe/
      xoxo
      xoxo

  4. I started mediation about 10 years ago with Abraham Hicks because I was feeling very down I quit my job to follow my husband’s work to another city. If I hadn’t moved I would never have known about this wonderful spiritual guidance that was available to me. I went to acupuncture in my new city and it was that very doctor that introduced me to Abraham. Saved me
    I have since moved every 3 years and I’m now in Asia
    Needless to say I’m struggling with everything that’s going on and we can’t go home. Feeling trapped has been so difficult. Sure enough your Super Attractor book showed up for the fIrst time on my kindle. This book is really helping and I love the journal.
    I’m such an outdoors person and living in intense heat for 3 years is soooo difficult. I practice feeling joy as best I can but it’s draining.
    I pray everyday we can move closer to home I feel for all expats who can’t go home.
    I would love any words of encouragement Thank you for saving me too!

    1. Wonderful, Sue. I’m grateful to hear that Super Attractor has served you in this way. Here is a practice that I rely on to help me create an energetic shift whenever I’m feeling discomfort or out of alignment: /the-appreciation-game/. Sending you big love.
      xoxo

  5. Twice I have opened myself up and twice I have been rejected so I think it is safer to build the fortress back up so my heart doesn’t get broken again. I can’t take any more hurt.

    1. Sending you prayers and healing light, Debbie, as you experience this heartbreak. Here is are some posts and practices that I think you will find helpful:
      /a-video-lesson-guided-meditation/
      /be-more-resilient/
      /compassion-blog/
      xoxo

  6. Hello Gabby,

    Thank you for being so wonderful and choosing to be real and share with us. This year has been shall we say “interesting”? I had a falling out with my father over the woman he would like to marry. COVID hit us all and changed our lives and certainly brought a great deal of fear into them. I lost my job of 17 years in June. I had worked very hard to climb up in the company and even now in August feel I have not processed. For a self-confessed control freak this has been tough. I can say though that with the changes and challenges I was forced to identify not only my control or lack of control issues and that I used work like drug to mask feelings of not being good enough or worthy. Unless I’m busy and adding value to my family, I feel I’m not contributing and therefore not worthy. I am starting to interview now for jobs and find I’m questioning my ability and worth. I am sure this is impacting my relationship with my husband who has said repeatedly that all he wants is for me to be happy. I should say I also hit the magic 50 number this July and so this may be a bit of a mid-life thing too! 🙂 When you were recovering, how did you change your perception of yourself and allow the happy to seep in? I know that the Universe will struggle to support me if I cant let go of control and allow the happy in and feel worthy. What has been your best help with the blah’s as I call them.

    With great love and respect
    Michelle

    1. This is super insightful, Michelle. Great work. This sounds like an opportunity to practice self-compassion. Rather than allow our fear to keep us stuck in old patterns, we create a radical shift when we can thank our current situation for showing us the wounds within ourselves that need to be healed. Here are some posts and practices to help you do this work:
      /compassion-blog/
      /self-conscious/
      /be-more-confident/
      /true-authentic-self/
      xoxo

  7. Thank you for this, Gabby. Your books and everything you share have truly changed my life and perspective, and I’m forever grateful to you for your light. I’m looking forward to doing my full moon ritual today and releasing the resistance I’ve been experiencing. Fear and judgment definitely take the steering wheel for me way too often, and I struggle to ask them to please get in the backseat while I let the Universe drive 🙂 I’ve realized I’m very afraid of allowing myself to be seen, fear judgment, and my ego definitely doesn’t feel safe to let me SOAR.
    A spiritual coach just pointed out to me that I’m focusing way too much on the “how” and not remembering to focus on the “why” when working toward my goals. I felt a huge shift in hearing that, and along with your post, I’m seeing how much I’ve been resisting and letting my ego/fear drive WAY too much. I’m working on getting back in alignment and looking forward to seeing things shift as that happens. I want to lean into allowing myself to soar, be seen, be vibrant while helping others to see that in themselves and to find the tools (like your books!) to assist in the journey, but I still struggle with the fear of being judged for being too “woo-woo” or self-agrandizing. Seems like that’s still my ego talking, right? It’s ok to feel good and to want others to light their light by mine. How do you handle the idea that ‘haters gonna hate’ no matter what?

    1. Self-compassion. Whenever we are feeling judged, Natalie, there is a part of us that believes that there is some truth to this judgment. You may have heard Gabby say, “The outside world is a reflection of our inner state.” We create a radical shift, when we can thank our “haters” for showing us the wounds within ourselves that need to be healed. Here are some posts and practices to help you do that:
      /compassion-blog/
      /self-conscious/
      /be-more-confident/
      /true-authentic-self/
      xoxo

  8. I love when I show up and the Universe hands it to me on a silver platter. The reason I said “when I show up” is that the Universe is always there…I just have to be willing to see the signs and hear the message. I am always amazed when I learn what the Universe has in store for me. For example,
    I just started “Judgement Detox” and your blog is discussing the exact things I need to hear. Thank you, Universe and Gabby! 🙂

    1. Beautiful, Chastity. Love that you’ve recognized that divine guidance is always available to us– it’s our choice to tune in to it. Sounds like you’re more than willing to show up– you’re doing great work!! xoxo

  9. Thank you Sooooo much dear Gabby, what I appreciated most was the prayer for highest good for all. Instead of being selfish and asking for something to happen according to our own ego wish , we do take into account others and what is best for all. A relationship I would love to see unfolding… well now I am praying for the highest good for both of us , according to God’s will.
    I love being radiant with Kundalini yoga and do succeed being radiant at festival and so on, then all of sudden, something I believe I need, comes in the way of my mind, I can see it destroying my radiant body without being able to do anything about it though I meditate a lot.
    Am trying so hard to get back on track , maybe I could just release a bit and relax accepting I cannot be shining all the time, I have to allow myself perhaps to be less radiant some days. What is your experience about it ?

    1. Great question, Yasmine. First, I’m so glad this post resonates with you. Second, here is an additional post that I think will really help you experience a shift in perception when it comes to being “less radiant” some days: /come-back-fast/. xoxo

  10. Hello there Gabby,

    I’m feeling the tears rolling down my cheeks (and my heart aching) while I write. My mum passed away 2o days ago, she was healthy, active, fun and loving. She just died suddenly, unannounced. As a result, I’ve been struggling with resisting my need to caress her face one more time, to see her, to embrace her, to listen to her. I’m a devoted meditator but all I’ve been able to do is breathwork. I feel so sad and strange and my children and husband do too. What do you recommend for tough times like this? I can’t help but resisting not seeing her or listening to her voice.
    Thank you, love, Georgi

    1. I’m deeply sorry for your loss, Georgina, and I want you to know that I’m holding you with a lot of love and compassion right now.

      To help you process your feelings of grief and loss, I encourage you to reach out to an online grief counselor or support group.

      In the meantime, here are some other resources that you might find helpful:

      Books
      The Grief Club by Melody Beattie
      Tears to Triumph by Marianne Williamson

      Tapping
      Important note: Unexpected emotions can arise when you practice EFT. If your loss is very recent, or if you feel overwhelmed by grief, tap with caution or wait until you have recovered more. Talk your therapist or doctor before tapping if you’re new to it or not sure how to handle strong feelings that may come up.
      Brad Yates video for tapping on loss & grief: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kDyw3MLwzmo&feature=youtu.be
      The Tapping Solution (Nick Ortner) 52-minute audio lesson and EFT guidance on processing grief: https://www.thetappingsolution.com/blog/grief-hurts/

      Meditations
      Jack Kornfield guided meditation on grief: https://jackkornfield.com/meditation-grief/
      Chopra Center written guidance on meditating after loss: https://chopra.com/articles/healing-after-loss-meditation-for-grieving

      You’re in our thoughts. Sending you much love. xoxo

  11. Dearest Gaby, as always your work teach me a lot and inspires me like a warm breeze in the summer.
    I have a question, what if I think my inner resistance is that the Universe judge me to deserve more. Or if I need to go through more lessons to learn things I don’t know yet. How I can change this mindset if is so… The most crazy thing is that all I want comes from love and I believe that I could give more and more – I think I am missing a part to manifest better or maybe I don’t know how to ask to the Universe properly?
    Keep shining, sending you lots of love ! xoxoxo
    Sofia

  12. Dearest Gabby, as always your work inspires me deeply. Keep shining your light beautiful Mamma!!!!!! Lots of love to you

  13. Dear Gabby,

    I became very spiritual earlier this year after some hardships in 2017 and it has been the most magical year of my life. I fell in love with your teachings, I meditate everyday, I practice kundalini yoga, I quit drinking completely, have released toxic people from my life, and most crazy of all I focused on growing my business and more than tripled my income. I am a completely different person today in October compared to earlier this year in January. It’s all thanks to my connection to source and being guided. I am about to make a huge decision by quitting my 9-5 career because it is the only thing in my life that I dislike and feel completely disconnected to. I loved my job before but I’ve changed as a person and no longer see it the same way. I would like to focus on growing my business further because it makes me happy and allows me to be free. There are so many things that I want to do and this 9-5 job is holding me back. I am wondering if these changes are happening too fast? It feels like the right thing to do but right now I am feeling fear over this decision. What if things don’t go well for my business and I end up regretting leaving my 9-5 which is stable and safe? I am meditating on this daily and I feel like once I make the move, a million tons will be lifted off of my shoulders. But I can’t help but feel this fear right now. I don’t know if I should give it more time. Can you please give me some advice?

    1. Hi Agatha! Thank you for this beautiful share! You’re up to amazing things! Continue to trust that inner guidance and know that you’ll have total clarity on the right time to leave your job. Remember that having this current job is a blessing, as it will allow you to build your new business at a pace that feels right rather than rushed. Shifting your energy around the current job into appreciation will help you continue to grow the other business. XOX

  14. These insights have been helping me so much as I struggle with my sense of self-worth and with believing it’s okay for me to be happy. Thank you. <3

  15. I was running late for work today my alarm didn’t sound in my mind I thought great it’s going to be one of those days! Then I stopped that thought right there and called out some positive affirmations to my drive to work….when I got into work I received some news about a job within my work place and the manager saying I should apply for it. This was the best news to me. Just shifting and changing my thoughts actually turned my what I thought wasn’t going to be a good day into a very good day with new opportunities x

    1. Resistance shows up in areas where we try to control the outcome and where we’re interacting and making choices from a place of fear rather than love. <3

  16. Wow Gabby, this was exactly what I needed to hear today. I tried to control my future by having a lot of resentment towards my current job. Thinking that I needed to make it very clear that I am not in the place I desire. Afraid that if I accept my current status things will never change. I now fully see and understand what I was doing and how control and resistance where keeping me stuck. Thank you. Lots of love ❤️, Fiona

  17. What do you do when you are resisting telling someone you’re into them because you are 95% sure they don’t like you back. I am being a realist or is it the fear of rejection amongst other fears talking?

    1. If you’re making a decision from a place of fear, that’s your ego talking and not your inner guidance. If it feels right and aligned to share your truth and tell this person, try setting an intention and praying for the greatest good for everyone involved, rather than a very specific outcome. XOX

  18. Thank you so much Gabby! So amazing! The prayer/ mantra to surrender is just so great! So looking forward to Super Attractor! With love from Cape Town , South Africa ♡

  19. Hi Gabby,

    Thank you for this and all of your helpful content. As I start to break things down and see the real patterns, in order to find resistance, I’m feeling anxious over the “what ifs” and so much anxiety around regret. How can I release all of that in order to attract better?

    Thanks

    1. Hi Kari. Try going through the steps in the blog, making sure to be patient and gentle with yourself. If you feel called, I think my mini course will offer you lots of support, which will help you move away from the resistance and anxiety and tap into love and your inner guidance https://gabbybernstein.com/minicourse/. Showing up here is a beautiful sign that you are ready and brave for some big shifts. XOX

  20. This is exactly what I needed….a spiritual solution to an “issue” I’m trying to control regarding a career move. I can bring joy into every moment, trust that I am being guided every step of the way, that there’s a plan far greater than mine, and know that I’m in the stream of well-being. Thank you so much for all your work. What you’ve put out over the years has really changed my life. <3

  21. Hi Gabby,
    I must admit for the past year I have been meditating and surrending my deepest desires to the universe. However to my surprise nothing was happening. I really didn’t think I was resisting these desires. After all who would resist what they really want!
    Then yesterday I followed one of your tapping videos to release judgement and to my surprise I it really helped. So last night I was lead by the universe to a video by Brad Yates about tapping to realease your resistance to money. At the beginning of the video Brad produces a wad of cash (approx $5000) and asks you to look at the money and notice what feelings and thoughts come up. My first thought was “I would be scared to lose it” Resistance! I continued with the tapping session. Surprised by my thought I sat and journaled for a while to see if any other thoughts came up. I found that I was also scared of the changes this money would bring, even though they were all positive. Resistance! Also I was concerned that having lots of money may change my relationships with family and friends. Resistance!
    And I am wondering why I am not manifesting what I want. I feel like I was wanting the money to flow because that would be a good thing in my life and would have many positive effects on my life, and yet I was resisting it like it was bad. So of course the universe doesn’t want to give me something that could be bad for me.
    On the bright side I know that the resistance exists now so I can work on eliminating it from my life so my desires can flow to me. I feel like I have had an epiphany!!! I think I am beginning to get it!

  22. Dear Gabby, have you written a chapter on this… in your new book… I feel personally very anxious about this topic and wished their would be a book on that…‍♀️Thank you

    1. Hi Cynthia. My upcoming book Super Attractor will cover these topics in detail <3 In the meantime, try going through the steps in this blog and make sure to be very loving and gentle with yourself as you do. Sending you big hugs. <3

      1. Thank you thank you thank you …
        Needed this today.
        Confused and feeling anxiety about unemployment, bad environment, money and health problems… Needed calmness…You are an angel in my world ( especially with the name gabrielle ). Thank you god bless again love cynthia

  23. I just got your book. I’ve been struggling with suicidal thoughts, and hoping to get my mind right. I struggle to meditate.

    1. Bryan, if you’re having suicidal thoughts, please call this number right away to get support: 1-800-273-8255. This is a suicide hotline, with trained, wonderful people to support you. They will be able to provide you with a nonjudgmental, safe, and supportive plan of action. You can also chat online with them here if you do not feel like calling: http://chat.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/GetHelp/LifelineChat.aspx Sending you deep love and healing.

  24. I’m sort of hung up on this word resistance. How can I acknowledge it if I don’t quite know what it is or means? Does it mean I’m scared to quit a waitressing job I hate because I am terrified of not having an income when I’m already in a lot of debt and have payments due for classes, groceries and just living? (Living in a very low vibration I might add with no car, no extra money for personal joys like shopping, personal care, exploring the city and surrounding natural wonders, nice lunches by myself, etc., no real excitement about my dreams or forward motion toward them that I can see, living just day to day in my apartment because I can’t afford anything else and getting anywhere in LA with no car is excruciating, just going from my classes to my work to my theatre and back- week in week out so all the weeks and months blend together into one unsettling groundhog-day.) I can see this is not the way I want to live… but where is the resistance? What does resistance mean? That I don’t WANT to change anything because hanging on by a thread is the only thing I can SEE?

    1. Hi Lilli. Resistance often shows up in areas where we try to control the outcome and in areas where we’re interacting and making choices from a place of fear rather than love. If find yourself often operating from a place of fear, that’s your ego not wanting to let go. I think my FREE 3-part mini course will serve you greatly. You can check it out here: https://gabbybernstein.com/minicourse/ <3

  25. I love your work. I love this work. It has changed my life. After the loss of a pregnancy at 6 months I was defeated by life wondering how to move forward. 2 years later I am so happy! Im in a great relationship, I have a loving tribe and a great career. Just keep doing the work and expect miracles ❣
    So grateful for you,
    Lacey

  26. In a state of searchinh and possibly surrendering to the wrong thing. Possibly giving up or giving in. I will surrender and be guided. The decision is too hard for me to make so I trust. Thank you Gabby!

  27. I dont understand the true meaning of surrendering. I read about it yes, I understand the concept yes, I’ve taken the 3 day course, read all of your books, become a miracle member and so much more,still I dont understand how I’m supposed to feel in the end.

    1. When things feel complicated, go neutral and easy by focusing on feeling good and having fun. Sometimes when we focus too hard on making shifts, we move away from feeling happy. Make having fun and feeling great your #1 priority. Do at least 1 fun thing each day that lights you up. Try this for at least a month and see how things start to shift!

      1. Great advice. “Lightening” up is the path to enlightenment (Bashar channeled by Darryl Anka).
        The most recent life altering shift in my life was when I did the kundalini Breath of Fire to Surrender, Gabby did at Wanderlust I’m pretty sure a few years ago. It’s on YouTube.

        I felt what “surrender”really feels like… and miracles happened in less that 24 hours!!!!!

      2. Thank you for replying to Christine. Such a simple clear response that helped me to validate what I need to be doing. I totally got the “when we focus too hard on making shifts” … so me. I’m going to make sure I have fun today and get into my joy. Thank you. Xoxo

  28. As an artist I found that many other artists….and me included, tend to make a big deal of “planning” or just wanting to know exactly what the painting will look like. Thus, each moment they are “deciding” whether or not to make a line, use a color etc. This “deciding” becomes a source of resistance and they fear they will “ruin” the drawing or painting. Several years ago, I started a daily “practice” of drawing a circular mandala design and releasing totally to my intuitive/God/Universe sense. At first it was a bit of a stretch, but as days, years went by it has transformed my whole approach to painting. No real deciding, idea arrives and my hands act. I am also a violinist. Last year I prayerfully asked for “assistance” in practing. Almost immediately, words arrived as remembered statements from my teacher from long ago, vivid memories of advice given in lessons. Soon they came from his teacher: “Papa Auer” ( Leoplold Auer). I remembered him talking about Auer, but before that had no memory of context. Recently, I read a book byAuer and to my astonishment there were the same advice . Often our “deciding” and “planning ” forms a habit of resistance that puts up a wall of self-judgement.

  29. Thank you Gabby! This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I’m so grateful for your thoughtful guidance. Much love to you.

  30. I believe I need to read this over and over. Maybe everyday this week! I have heard this from you before but today I remember, today I understand, today I feel it and I see how I am resisting to love & feeling joy. Thank you Gabby I love you so much!

  31. Dear Gabby,

    I’m fighting to get back to the light. But I keep messing up and the feelings of failure are making me scared- I want to stop hurting so badly I numb the pain as much as I can but it keeps slapping me in the face…I can’t see a way out. Please please send me some positive vibes.

  32. Hi Gabby
    It is very impressive how you are continually reaffirming the way to a life of happiness and fulfilment. I have always strived for this as well, on a 24 hour basis. I have just turned 60 and I am still dealing with some frozen parts of my brain. When my brain was totally frozen I could not feel anything for many decades and could not make conversation – conversation involves the whole body and not just the tongue! In this state, one has very little control over ones feelings because one has no feelings, just a screaming desire to be free. Abuse can often make a victim feel schizophrenic because of the extreme control it exerts over a very young sponge of a brain – which has nothing to do with one’s own personality. Infact, quite often victims of this kind of extreme childhood experience will not take any substances because they don’t want to feel more out of control. So when people say – you can always control your feelings – it helps to have them in the first place! Living as an empty vessel was a magnet to every kind of pervert in the world and at that time there was no nature because nature should protect but it didn’t. A very frightening life. I have almost won my battle but have emerged still on my own in every sense, including family which has been the most painful part, but I still continue with my Olympic marathon until the last bit of frozen sexual abuse (which shows in my eyes and still makes be very vulnerable and humiliated to expose). But reading many many books on the subject and trying every possible way of self-help, especially when I was very young, just provides a bit of lean-to, it is not a cure and often the practices are too light-weight to make an impact – including any form of meditation etc. Unfortunately though with the very best will in the world, after many many decades of trying, I know some people who are still in a very bad way.
    Ann

    1. Thank you for this brave and heartfelt share, Ann. I deeply honor your healing journey and see the ways that you are tapping into self love and self care. Sending you lots of love.

      1. Thank you Gabby for your response. I wasn’t sure if you would reply but it means a lot to be acknowledged in this way. I am lucky enough to have a spirit guide who came to me in 2005 and who has been restoring me ever since – albeit extraordinarily slowly in real time! But I am a lot luckier than most in this situation though. Many congratulations on your pregnancy.

  33. Hi Gabby,
    Thank you for your beautiful and and inspiration work! Your dedication to love and faith has helped me transform my life in profoundly positive ways! It has aided me in remembering my true divine self! This post is exactly what I needed to read today! The Universe certainly does have your back!

  34. I look forward to listening to the videos. I hope you resume the weekly videos again. 🙂

    My resistance is with having a baby. The pure terror of the whole process and beyond combined with the external pressure to get pregnant made my body react to literally block the option by having 2 separate infections, several rounds of medicines, and I was “out” for 3 months. I couldn’t figure out why the second one wasn’t clearing up despite doing everything right. And I was getting angry… It wasn’t until the other day that I said out loud to my husband, “The pressure is too much. No wonder that area has gone insane!” Gabby, the next day…the 2nd infection was gone. So the physical symptoms were a wake up call, but now the real work has to begin. My literal resistance to being open to something so joyful is still loaded with pure fear. The fear of actually manifesting something so joyful (for various reasons I won’t get into) resulted in a strong physical reaction and that, I recognize through this post, is and was my resistance to love.
    Thank you.

    1. Grateful to witness your amazing shifts. You are on a beautiful, healing path. The big shift for me personally was truly surrendering. Sending lots of love your way. XOX

  35. Sending my deep felt gratitude and Love Dear Sister, I really needed this, this morning. I had a tough weekend and the timing was perfect for this reminder. Thank you.

  36. Thank you Gabby for creating a 3 step mini course. I read your book but I rushed it, looking for an instant fix, and whilst I have intended to revisit it, life events just keep getting in the way. Now is a time I need to release judgement – my mother passed away last week and working through estranged family issues, emotional release and realising other major blocks has left me feeling a real need to shift gear to a place of love but I have felt stuck in this respect. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Namaste

  37. Thank you Gabby for your insightful post, the timing could not have been more aligned with where I am at this time. My mind has been flying off in all directions trying to make decisions for my work path and at the same time I feel a sense of embarrassment because I am a yoga teacher and my students look to me for guidance and teaching relaxation and balance, sometimes I feel like a fraud. After reading this post I feel more settled and calm, releasing my resistance to the lessons that are rising and releasing the control of my destiny path. I asked in prayer this morning for guidance and I opened my email to find this post. Perfect xxx Thank you xxx

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