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In this blog post I share how to connect to your spirit guides by following 10 steps.
I believe we all have spirit guides, and when you cultivate a relationship with your spirit guides you will receive clear, wise guidance to help you in every area of your life.
These steps work together to help you establish a relationship with your spirit guides!
My experience with spirit guides
Since I was very young, I’ve felt a presence of spiritual guidance within me, around me and connected to me.
In my book Spirit Junkie I shared the story of how I first started meditating when I was a teenager. I would sit and silently repeat a mantra. During this practice I started to feel a presence around me. I started to feel my extremities tingle. My hands and arms would go pleasantly numb, and I felt an undeniable presence of love, wisdom, peace and support around me.
Even in the darkest hours of my life, I could turn to that connection of spiritual guidance for comfort. When I started asking for help again, the guidance showed up fast. Spiritual intervention is the reason I bought A Course in Miracles. The book literally dragged me to the counter at the bookstore!
Eventually I began to call on that guidance every day as a regular practice. This presence has become a companion and a guidance system that has led me, supported me, and given me clarity and direction when I couldn’t find it on my own.
We all have spirit guides
We all have our own spirit guides. We have guides that are ancestors and deceased family members. Some entities may have names. In some cases it may be a group of guides that all have the same name.
Maybe you’ve had experiences like these in your life. If you have, the 10 steps I share below will help you to have even more of them. You’ll deepen your connection to your spirit guides and learn how to call on them anytime.
If you haven’t had experiences like these, I welcome you to keep an open mind. If you are willing to connect with your spirit guides, these 10 simple and beautiful steps will help you.
Maybe this sounds a little trippy to you. If so, let me reassure you. Your guides are loving and wise. They are here to support you. Connecting with them is a comforting and joyful experience.
These guides are only here to give you love and light. There are plenty of entities in this sphere, but the guides that we call on, our spirit guides, are only here for love and light. In this blog post you’ll learn how to call in only the spirits of the highest truth and compassion and love.
How we experience our spirit guides
Once you begin inviting in these spirit guides, there are different ways you might experience their presence.
You can experience them as an inner knowing, a voice within. You may be able to audibly hear the voice of your spirit guide, or you might even see them! I haven’t had this experience, but many people have and it’s amazing.
Sparks of light
Sparks of light are another indicator of a spirit guide’s presence. Sometimes when I know my guides are with me, I see little sparks of light. It’s very cool. It’s such a groovy thing to be able to see that light knowing that there’s a presence with me at that moment!
Books falling off the shelf
When books fall off the shelf, your spirit guides are the ones who are kicking them off the shelf for you! I can’t tell you how many people have written to me or spoken to me at an event and said they discovered my book because it literally fell off the shelf in front of them. You can experience this kind of guidance! It is available to you.
Free-writing after meditation
Another way you can experience the presence of a spirit guide is through writing. You can call on your spirit guides through meditation, and following your meditation you can free-write and allow the voice of your guides to work through you.
Connecting to your spirit guides is about learning to rely on the voice of love. The reason these guides are here is to constantly bridge your thoughts from fear back to faith, forgiveness, love and light. They present you with creative solutions and beautiful opportunities.
10 steps to connect to your spirit guides
If you are ready to invite in that voice of love, follow these 10 steps to connect to your spirit guides.
Step 1: Get into the habit of asking
The first step to connecting with your spirit guides is to get into the habit of asking. We often forget that we have guidance within us and around us. We can remember it when we’re reading a book like The Universe Has Your Back, or when we’re in a yoga class, or we’re doing a Kundalini meditation. In those spiritual situations, we can remember that there’s a guidance beyond us.
But in the busyness of day-to-day life, it’s really easy to forget this connection. When we forget about it, we start to rely on our strength. That’s when fear starts to set in.
In order to change this, we have to change our habits. It’s important that you start getting into the habit of asking your guides for help. The more you ask, the more you receive — period.
Think about all the things that you need help with. Maybe you need help conceiving, or making more money, or healing a relationship that’s struggling.
Make a list of what you need your spirit guides’ help with
Make a list of the five to 10 biggest things you need help with. You can do this now, or you can come back to this exercise after aligning with your inner wisdom through prayer or meditation. Listen to that inner wisdom and let the thoughts come through.
Once you have made this list, offer up everything you need help with and invite in the guides of the highest truth and compassion to reveal solutions. Say, “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing the solutions to these problems.” Then go through your list.
- “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for offering solutions to my issue with my health.”
- “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing the solutions to the problems I’m having in my marriage.”
- “Thank, you guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing the solutions to my struggle with finding a career I love.”
Just go one by one asking the guides to help you. If you want to get really laser focused, you can choose just one and offer it up daily for a while.
Only call in the guides of the highest truth and compassion
Remember always to call in the guides of the highest truth and compassion. You don’t want to invite the funky guides to the party! Be very specific and clear about what kind of guidance you’re calling in so you don’t get any riff-raff coming through.
As with the human world, there are lots of different characters, and we don’t always want to invite every character over for dinner. The same goes for spiritual relationships. We want to open up our consciousness, space and energy only to the guides of the highest truth and compassion.
Don’t worry about this too much. You call the shots, so do not fear those other beings. They can’t come in without your permission. Just make sure to call in only the guides of the highest truth and compassion.
You can call on your guides anytime
You don’t have to wait for a problem to crop up in order to call on your spirit guides. Before I get on stage, every time I give a talk, the first thing I say backstage to myself is, “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for speaking through me.” Whenever I do that, I know that the words that I need will come through me. The simple act of asking is all that is required for the guidance to show up.
Step 2: Listen
The second step in connecting to your spirit guides is to listen. The way to do this is through meditation. When you meditate, you quiet your mind so that you can hear the wisdom of the guidance that’s within you and around you.
We have to slow down our vibration to become aligned with the presence of these guides. When we attune our energy to the frequency of love and peace, we can more easily connect to the vibrational messaging of our spirit guides.
Align your energy through prayer and meditation
You can say a prayer such as, “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion. Thank you for showing me what I need to know. Thank you for leading me in the right direction. Thank you for whatever it is that I need.”
Then you can sit in meditation for five, 10 or 20 minutes. This can be a very simple meditation. You can simply pay attention to your breath, becoming mindful of the sounds and sensations around you. Or you can repeat a mantra silently, which is one of my favorite ways to meditate. I also have a spirit guides meditation to help you connect.
Step 3: Write with your spirit guides
Once you’ve meditated, your next step is to write with your spirit guides. Open your journal or just grab a few sheets of paper. At the top, write an invitation to them, such as:
- “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing to me the solutions to these issues.”
- “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing to me whatever you want me to know.”
- “Dear guides of the highest truth and compassion, I welcome you to write through me now.”
Then simply let your pen flow.
Just riff onto the page. Let whatever needs to come through come through. Ideas, stories, topics, inspired visions, things that you may not have thought of on your own, will begin to come onto the page. You can also try my spirit guides meditation and free-writing exercise.
Your guides may speak directly to you
You may find in this writing experience that your guides begin speaking to you directly. Instead of writing in the first person you may begin writing in the second person. When I am channeling my guides they often say, “Dear sister…”
In some cases, your handwriting might even change. You might feel a presence of energy moving through you. You might feel a heat in your body. And that means that there’s a presence that’s working through you to give you some kind of direction.
Step 4: Ask for a sign
Your guides can play fun games with you! They like to show you that they’re present. So get playful with them and ask them for a sign. If you’ve read The Universe Has Your Back, you know my sign is an owl. Sometimes I ask for lilies. Sometimes I ask for numbers in sequence.
Recently I’ve been healing some physical things, and for a while I kept getting numbers in sequence. It was just the guides saying, “We’ve got you. We’re with you.”
Have you never asked for a sign before? Or have you asked but not known whether you received it? Read this post to learn how to ask for a sign and know when you’ve received clear guidance.
You’ll be blown away when you start to ask your guides to show you signs! It will rock your world.
Step 5: Pay attention to the guidance you receive
It’s one thing to ask for guidance. It’s another thing to witness it, to really take it in and relish in the presence that’s supporting you.
When you pay attention to the guidance you receive, you’re letting yourself be in the awe and wonder of all the love that is around you. It’s a big deal. This beautiful feeling is available when you truly let yourself be the witness of this amazing support that is always with you.
The practice of paying attention to guidance isn’t about demanding. You don’t go around all day asking, “Where’s my guidance? Where’s my guidance?” Instead, you simply allow yourself to be open to the wonder of that guidance.
Your guidance may show up in cool and unexpected ways, even in ways I haven’t mentioned here. Your guidance can show up as a song on the radio, or maybe a spark of light, or somebody saying to you exactly what you needed to hear. Our guides work through other people. They work through doctors, friends, children and even strangers.
Step 6: Stay in an energy of gratitude
As I mentioned in step 5, you want to thank your guides. Rather than being in a place of neediness, you want to be in a place of gratitude. Shift the way you talk to your guides. If you find yourself thinking things like, “Guides, why haven’t you given me this yet?” or “Guides, I don’t believe in you. Why haven’t you shown up for me faster?” — you show your distrust of them. You’re telling them that you’re not really open to their guidance and that you want to be in control.
Your gratitude keeps your relationship strong
Instead, you want to be thanking them, appreciating them and feeling deep love and gratitude for them. When you see your sign, say a silent thank-you to your guides. When you receive any form of guidance, thank them. Just say silently, “Thank, you guides, for showing me this solution.” Or, “Thank you, guides, for this sign.” When you are given a spiritual assignment, thank them for that as well.
Your gratitude keeps the relationship so strong and keeps those guides present with you all the time, because they know they are welcome.
When you open your heart to offer your guides gratitude and appreciation, they boomerang that energy right back to you. It’s hard to describe what it feels like to be in this place of constant love and gratitude with your guides. It’s a tremendous and beautiful feeling. And it is available to you.
Step 7: Release the outcome and trust in a plan better than your own
Your guides have a plan better than you do. Your guides want to bring you to the right relationship, the right career, the doctor you need, the experience that will help you.
We get in the way of that guidance. I have often avoided that guidance by trying to control situations. I obsess over how things should go and try to manipulate outcomes to get what I think is best. When we do this kind of thing, we push away our guides.
But when we let go of our plans and trust in a plan that’s much greater than ours, we start to truly feel like we’re being led. When we surrender, we can feel our guides leading us to the next right action.
This is what I refer to as taking spiritually aligned action. Releasing the outcome is mandatory to truly be in co-creation with your spirit guides.
Step 8: Be more childlike
If you have young kids in your life, you may be aware that many children can still see their guides. They may even speak about them. Usually around the age of 7 the veil starts to close and we shut down to this guidance system.
To lift that veil and reconnect with your guides, be more childlike! Do things that bring you joy. Jump on a trampoline. Go for a run. Paint. Swim. Cook. Whenever I’m cooking, I feel the presence of my guides around me.
Do the things that bring you joy, and that guidance will just show up fast. You’ll feel it. Remember, joy is the most powerful vibration we can embody!
Step 9: Ask your spirit guides for their names if you feel called to do so
You don’t have to do this step. But if you feel called to ask your guide’s name (or multiple guides’ names), ask them to reveal their names to you. The first name that comes to mind will be the name of your guide. Whatever name comes through is the name of your guide. It may sound like a strange name, but that’s their name. Trust what you hear. The first name you hear is right.
One of my guides is a guide called Lily, and she came to me many years ago. I just knew her name was Lily. After several years of knowing Lily, I had a medium give me a reading. At the end of the reading, she said, “Lily wants me to tell you thank you, because she loves working with you.” I hadn’t told the medium about Lily or written about this guide. The medium just knew she was there.
Step 10: Trust in your own psychic ability
Believe in yourself. Believe in your capacity to call on this presence. Believe in your capacity to connect to these guides and to feel that support. Believe that you have an ever-present energy of love that is always within you and around you supporting you and guiding you.
The more that you trust in your own psychic ability, the more you’ll be able to hear and the more you’ll be able to be led by this presence.
Allowing the presence of these guides to come into your life is a great gift. Not only will they support you, but they will also support you in supporting others. They’ll help support you in being a light in the world.
We need this presence of light to support us right now. We need this presence to support us through the chaos of these times, through the dramas, through the terror, through the violence. We need this presence to bring us back to love.
Grounding yourself after connecting with your spirit guides
When you tune into the spirit realm you may feel your energy shift. It’s important to take time to ground yourself after connecting with your spirit guides. You want to always remember that you are having a human experience and you’re here on Earth in a body. To ground yourself back into your body you can do a few simple things:
- Stomp your feet to ground yourself into the earth.
- Sit on a rock to feel connected to the earth.
- Take time to sit in stillness and drink a cup of tea or eat a snack. Do something that is consciously caring for yourself.
- You can also zip up your energy. Imagine there’s a zipper at the bottom of your feet and zip yourself up all the way over your head and back down to your ankles.
Follow any one of these practices to get grounded after connecting to your guides.
Connect with your spirit guides regularly
The more you talk to your spirit guides, the more you’ll rely on this ever-present guidance system. As you ask for and surrender to divine guidance, miracles will occur more and more often.
Your spirit guides want to connect with you. Follow these 10 simple steps to open up the conversation.
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