In this blog post I share how to connect to your spirit guides by following 10 steps. I believe we all have spirit guides, and when you cultivate a relationship with your spirit guides you will receive clear, wise guidance to help you in every area of your life.
In this episode of Dear Gabby, I help you connect to your spiritual guidance system and support that is always around you. When you cultivate a relationship with your Spirit Guides you will receive clear and loving guidance to help you in every area of your life. If this concept is new to you, trust that you’re on this page for a reason. Press play below and expect miracles.
Now, follow these steps to help you establish a relationship with your spirit guides!
My experience with spirit guides
In my book Super Attractor, I open up about spirit guides in a way I never had before. I’d written about Universal guidance and God, but until I sat down to write this book, I’d always held myself back from sharing about the presence of my nonphysical guides.
For many years I was always worried I might freak people out or make someone feel like they had to share my beliefs. But when writing Super Attractor, I felt called to push the metaphysical envelope and speak openly and unapologetically about the spiritual realm. I knew the world was becoming ready to open up to new forms of guidance.
When we become willing to see a world beyond our physical sight, then life becomes easier, we feel safer and we can access our true power.
I’ve grown to rely on these nonphysical guides in every area of my life. Knowing that there is a presence always supporting me has given me unshakable faith and strength. There have been countless moments in my life when I’ve witnessed the divine intervention of my guides.
In my newest book Happy Days, the Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace, I describe how my spiritual practice supported in some of my darkest times. “It’s faith that got me out of the darkness, and it’s faith that keeps me in the light,” I write on page 134.
We all have spirit guides
Here’s what I believe:
I believe there are beings of the highest truth and compassion working on our behalf to guide our thoughts and energy back to love. They’re not physical and aren’t bound by the natural laws of this world. They’re spiritual beings.
These beings come in many forms and they have different purposes, but their common goal is to help guide us back into alignment with the love of the Universe.
When you get stuck in a fear-based thought or pattern you can turn to your guides to help lead you back to love. When you want to receive their guidance, all you have to do is be willing to surrender your fear and see with spiritual sight.
We all have our own spirit guides. We have guides that are ancestors and deceased family members. Some spirit guides may have names. In some cases you may have a group of guides that all have the same name, like with Esther Hicks and Abraham.
If you haven’t connected to your spirit guides before, I welcome you to keep an open mind. These 10 simple, beautiful steps will help you cultivate a connection to your spirit guides and deepen your relationship day by day.
If this all sounds a little trippy to you, let me reassure you that your guides are loving and wise. They’re here to support you, and connecting with them is a comforting and joyful experience.
How we experience our spirit guides
Once you begin inviting in your spirit guides, there are different ways you might experience their presence.
You can experience a spirit guide as an inner knowing. You may feel or sense your guide’s presence, or “hear” a voice within, like a strong intuition or realization. Some people audibly hear (or see) their guides.
Sparks of light
Sparks of light are another indicator of a spirit guide’s presence. Sometimes when I know my guides are with me, I see little sparks of light. It’s so cool to see that light and know there’s a presence with me at that moment!
Books falling off the shelf
When books fall off the shelf, your spirit guides are the ones who are kicking them off for you! I can’t tell you how many people have written to me or spoken to me at an event and said they discovered my book because it literally fell off the shelf in front of them. You can experience this kind of guidance! It is available to you.
Free-writing after meditation
Another way you can experience the presence of a spirit guide is through writing. You can call on your spirit guides through meditation, and following your meditation you can free-write and allow the voice of your guides to work through you.
Connecting to your spirit guides is about learning to rely on the voice of love. The reason these guides are here is to constantly bridge your thoughts from fear back to faith, forgiveness, love and light. They present you with creative solutions and beautiful opportunities.
10 steps to connect to your spirit guides
If you’re ready to invite in that voice of love, follow these 10 steps to connect to your spirit guides.
Step 1: Get into the habit of asking
The first step to connecting with your spirit guides is to get into the habit of asking.
We often forget that we have guidance within us and around us. In the busyness of day-to-day life, it’s really easy to forget this connection.
When we forget that we can call on spirit for help, to call on, we start to rely on our strength. That’s when fear sets in.
Therefore, the first step is to get into the habit of asking your spirit guides for help. The more you ask, the more you receive — period.
Think about all the things that you need help with. Maybe you need help conceiving, or making more money, or healing a relationship that’s struggling.
Make a list of what you need your spirit guides’ help with
Make a list of the 5 to 10 biggest things you need help with. You can do this now, or you can come back to this exercise after aligning with your inner wisdom through prayer or meditation.
Once you make this list, your next step is to offer up everything you need help with and invite your spirit guides to reveal solutions.
Say, “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing the solutions to these problems.”
Then go through your list.
- “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for offering solutions to my issue with my health.”
- “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing the solutions to the problems I’m having in my marriage.”
- “Thank, you guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing the solutions to my struggle with finding a career I love.”
Just go one by one asking the guides to help you. If you want to get really laser focused, you can choose just one and offer it up daily for a while.
Only call in the guides of the highest truth and compassion
Remember always to call in the guides of the highest truth and compassion. You don’t want to invite the funky guides to the party! Be very specific and clear about what kind of guidance you’re calling in so you don’t get any riff-raff coming through.
As with the human world, there are lots of different characters, and we don’t always want to invite every character over for dinner. The same goes for spiritual relationships. We want to open up our consciousness, space and energy only to the guides of the highest truth and compassion.
Don’t worry about this too much. You call the shots, so don’t fear those other beings. They can’t come in without your permission.
You can call on your guides anytime
You don’t have to wait for a problem to crop up in order to call on your spirit guides. Every time I give a talk, the first thing I say backstage to myself is, “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for speaking through me.”
Whenever I say this silent prayer to call on my guides, I know the words that I need will come through me. The simple act of asking is all that’s required for the guidance to show up.
Step 2: Listen
The second step in connecting to your spirit guides is to listen. The way to do this is by meditating. When you meditate, you quiet your mind so that you can hear the wisdom of the guidance that’s within you and around you.
We have to slow down our vibration to become aligned with the presence of these guides. When we attune our energy to the frequency of love and peace, we can more easily connect to the vibrational messaging of our spirit guides.
Align your energy through prayer and meditation
You can say a prayer such as, “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion. Thank you for showing me what I need to know. Thank you for leading me in the right direction. Thank you for whatever it is that I need.”
Then you can sit in meditation for 5, 10 or 20 minutes. This can be a very simple meditation. You can simply pay attention to your breath, becoming mindful of the sounds and sensations around you. I also have a spirit guides meditation to help you connect.
Step 3: Write with your spirit guides
Once you’ve meditated, your next step is to write with your spirit guides. Open your journal or just grab a few sheets of paper. At the top, write an invitation to them, such as:
- “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing to me the solutions to these issues.”
- “Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing to me whatever you want me to know.”
- “Dear guides of the highest truth and compassion, I welcome you to write through me now.”
Then simply let your pen flow.
Just riff onto the page, allowing whatever needs to come through. Ideas, stories, topics, inspired visions, things that you may not have thought of on your own, will begin to come forward. Don’t second-guess yourself or edit a word. Just write.
Your guides may speak directly to you
You may find in this writing experience that your guides begin speaking to you directly. Instead of writing in the first person you may begin writing in the second person. When I am channeling my guides they often say, “Dear sister…”
In some cases, your handwriting might even change. You might feel a presence of energy moving through you. That means that there’s a presence that’s working through you to give you direction.
Step 4: Ask for a sign
Your guides can play fun games with you! They like to show you that they’re present. So get playful with them and ask them for a sign.
Have you never asked for a sign before? Or have you asked but not known whether you received it? Learn how to ask for a sign and know when you’ve received clear guidance.
You’ll be blown away when you start to ask your guides to show you signs! It will rock your world.
Watch this video for more on asking for a sign:
Step 5: Pay attention to the guidance you receive
It’s one thing to ask for guidance. It’s another thing to witness it, to really take it in and relish in the presence that’s supporting you.
When you pay attention to the guidance you receive, you’re letting yourself be in the awe and wonder of all the love that is around you. It’s a big deal. This beautiful feeling is available when you truly let yourself witness of the amazing support that is always with you.
The practice of paying attention to guidance isn’t about demanding. You don’t go around all day asking, “Where’s my guidance? Where’s my guidance?” Instead, you simply allow yourself to be open to the wonder of that guidance.
Your guidance may show up in cool and unexpected ways, even in ways I haven’t mentioned here. Your guidance can show up as a song on the radio, a billboard on the freeway or somebody saying to you exactly what you needed to hear.
Our guides often work through other people. They work through doctors, friends, children and even strangers. Spirit guides love to work through technology, too, which is something I talk more about in Super Attractor.
Step 6: Stay in an energy of gratitude
As I mentioned in step 5, you want to thank your guides. Rather than being in a place of neediness, you want to be in a place of gratitude and appreciation for their guidance and love.
Shift the way you talk to your guides. If you find yourself thinking things like, “Guides, why haven’t you given me this yet?” or “Guides, I don’t believe in you. Why haven’t you shown up for me faster?” — you’re showing your distrust of them. You’re telling them you’re not really open to their guidance and that you want to be in control.
Your gratitude keeps your relationship strong
Instead, you want to be thanking your guides, appreciating them and feeling deep love and gratitude for them. When you receive any form of guidance, thank them. Just say silently, “Thank, you guides, for showing me this solution.” Or, “Thank you, guides, for this sign.” And when your guides give you a spiritual assignment, thank them for that as well!
Your gratitude keeps the relationship so strong and keeps those guides present with you all the time, because they know they’re welcome.
When you open your heart to offer your guides gratitude and appreciation, they boomerang that energy right back to you. It’s hard to describe what it feels like to be in this place of constant love and gratitude with your guides. It’s a tremendous and beautiful feeling. And it’s available to you.
Step 7: Release the outcome and trust in a plan better than your own
Your guides have a plan that’s better than yours. They’re loving and wise, and they want to bring you to the right relationship, the right career, the doctor you need, the experience that will help you.
We get in the way of that guidance. I’ve often avoided divine guidance by trying to control situations. I’ve obsessed over how things should go and tried to manipulate outcomes to get what I thought was best. Inevitably, this only pushed my guides away.
But… when we let go of our plans and trust in a plan that’s much greater than ours, we start to truly feel like we’re being led. When we surrender, we can feel our guides leading us to the next right action.
We must release outcomes in order to truly be in co-creation with our spirit guides.
Step 8: Be more childlike
If you have young kids in your life, you may be aware that many children can still see their guides. They may even speak about them. Usually around the age of 7 the veil starts to close and we shut down to this guidance system.
To lift that veil and reconnect with your guides, be more childlike! Do things that bring you joy. Jump on a trampoline. Go for a run. Paint. Swim. Cook. Whenever I’m cooking, I feel the presence of my guides around me.
Do the things that bring you joy, and that guidance will just show up fast. You’ll feel it. Remember, joy is the most powerful vibration we can embody!
Step 9: Ask your spirit guides for their names if you feel called to do so
You don’t have to do this step. But if you feel called to ask your guide’s name (or multiple guides’ names), ask them to reveal it to you. The first name that comes to mind will be the name of your guide. Even if it sounds strange, you can trust that what you hear is correct.
One of my guides is a guide called Lily, and she came to me many years ago. I just knew her name was Lily. After several years of knowing Lily, I had a medium give me a reading. At the end of the reading, she said, “Lily wants me to tell you thank you, because she loves working with you.” I hadn’t told the medium about Lily or written about this guide. The medium just knew she was there.
Step 10: Trust in your own psychic ability
Believe in yourself and in your capacity to call on this presence. Trust in your ability to connect to these guides and to feel that support. Know that you have an ever-present energy of love that is always within you and around you supporting you and guiding you.
The more that you trust in your own psychic ability, the more you’ll be able to hear and the more you’ll allow this divine guidance to lead you to the highest good.
Allowing spirit guides into your life is a great gift. Not only will they support you, but they’ll also help you help others. They’ll support you in being a light in the world.
We need this presence of light to support us right now, in the chaos, drama and violence of these times. We need this presence to bring us back to love.
Take this practice further with Super Attractor!
In Super Attractor, I lay out the essential methods for manifesting a life beyond your wildest dreams.
This book is a journey of remembering where your true power lies. You’ll learn how to co-create the life you want. You’ll accept that life can flow, that attracting is fun, and that you don’t have to work so hard to get what you want. Most importantly, you’ll feel good. And when you feel good, you give off a presence of joy that elevates everyone around you.
In Super Attractor I push the metaphysical envelope and talk about spirit guides, angels and the spiritual realm in a bigger and bolder way than I’ve ever done before. I break down the different types of guides, share personal stories and offer up more ways to connect with them.
When you order the book you’ll also get my 2-hour Manifesting Jumpstart Workshop free! The steps I teach in this workshop set you up for the powerful methods in the book.
How to ground yourself after connecting with your spirit guides
When you tune into the spirit realm you may feel your energy shift. It’s important to take time to ground yourself after connecting with your spirit guides.
You want to always remember that you are having a human experience and you’re here on this planet in a body. To ground yourself back into your body you can do a few simple things:
- Stomp your feet to ground yourself into the earth.
- Sit on a rock to feel connected to the earth.
- Take time to sit in stillness and drink a cup of tea or eat a snack. Do something that is consciously caring for yourself.
- You can also zip up your energy. Imagine there’s a zipper at the bottom of your feet and zip yourself up all the way over your head and back down to your ankles.
Follow any one of these practices to get grounded after connecting to your guides.
Connect with your spirit guides regularly
The more you talk to your spirit guides, the more you’ll rely on this ever-present guidance system. As you ask for and surrender to divine guidance, miracles will occur more and more often. (For more, check out my blog post on angels and archangels.)
Your spirit guides want to connect with you. Follow these 10 simple steps to open up the conversation.