How to Detach from Outcomes and Trust in the Universe

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Do you struggle to detach from outcomes? I see so many people try to control the outcomes of situations, and this includes myself.

For many years I was very determined to create the outcomes I wanted. I always had a plan, and I didn’t let myself feel safe unless everything went according to that plan.

If you have a hard time letting go and accepting the way things unfold, this post is for you. I want to help you let you go and start receiving!

How are you attached to outcomes?

Get honest with yourself right now: In what ways are you obsessing over an outcome?

  • Are you attached to something happening in the timeframe you’re comfortable with?
  • Are you fixated on someone doing something in the way you want?
  • Do you think something will be a disaster if it doesn’t go exactly as you planned?

The power of detachment

When you embrace your Super Attractor power, you can stop controlling and start receiving. The more we turn over our desires and goals to the care of the Universe, the more greatness we allow. We can stop worrying and trust that whatever is coming our way is of the highest good.

When you’re attached to an outcome, you actually block your ability to manifest your desires and co-create with the Universe.

But when your energy is aligned with the energy of the Universe, you blast open the doors to receive support, ideas, inspiration, solutions and opportunities you couldn’t have imagined!

The moment you release the results, you allow the Universe to back you up.

How to detach from outcomes

If we want to manifest the reality we want, we must be in an energy of detachment. In this energy, we become willing to allow and receive.

These 2 steps will help you detach from outcomes. When you practice this simple process, you’ll live with ease and confidence. And you’ll manifest your desires!

Step 1: Recognize how you’re attached to the outcome

Before you can detach from an outcome, you have to get honest about you’re attached to it. Maybe you post in the comments below and just get honest with me, and get honest with yourself about an outcome you’ve been obsessing over.

Then start to pay attention to how that attachment is affecting your energy and your vibrational frequency. How is it making you feel? You can start to see how it’s not serving you and how it may be blocking you from manifesting your desires.

Step 2: Surrender the attachment with prayer

The moment I embrace my peace within and surrender the outcome is the moment the Universe can truly get to work | Gabby Bernstein | The Universe Has Your Back card deckThe next step is to surrender it fully. This is so simple. It’s just a prayer. You can say this prayer daily for the next 30 days if you want to detach from an outcome. Just say:

“I surrender this attachment, and I allow the Universe to show me where to go and what to do.”

That simple prayer will shift your energy immediately. It connects you to the voice of your higher self, which will help you allow and let go.

In that space of allowing and letting go, you start to come into an energy frequency that is receptive and detached. You start to vibrate with the Universe and trust the Universe with the details.

Remember: It’s this or something better.

Release every outcome

As I say in Super Attractor, the Universe responds when we let go and welcome divine guidance. When there is a controlling energy behind your actions, you won’t receive the outcome you truly want. The key to attracting your desires is to release them.

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People often ask me how often they should surrender to the Universe. My response is: Every day. You can use your prayer as often as you need. Turn to it anytime you catch yourself trying to control, or when you’re really hung up on a certain outcome.

It helps to begin practicing detaching and surrendering in the areas of your life where things don’t feel so “high stakes” and you have a more relaxed attitude toward the outcome. In time it will become easier to release your bigger attachments. Get into this habit by surrendering something that you’re less attached to. Release it all!

Focus on feeling good

Gabby Bernstein on an Adirondack chair with a vase of flowers | Detach from outcomesAbraham-Hicks say:

“The reason you want every single thing that you want, is because you think you will feel really good when you get there. But if you don’t feel really good on your way to there, you can’t get there. You have to be satisfied with what-is while you’re reaching for more.”

Your satisfaction with what is allows you to be happy and peaceful regardless of whether you have exactly what you think you need. So just forget what you think you need and focus on feeling good!

Feeling good will bring you far more than whatever you thought you needed. You’ll release the need to get something, be somewhere or have certain circumstances in place to be happy. Happiness will become the outcome you desire most.

You can start cultivating happiness now. Follow the tips in my blog posts on the #1 key to manifesting and creative visualization to focus on feeling good!

Get more guidance in Super Attractor!

Super Attractor by Gabrielle BernsteinIn Super Attractor, I lay out the essential methods for manifesting a life beyond your wildest dreams. This book is a manifesto for confidently claiming your desires.

In its pages, you’ll learn how to:

  • Do less and attract more
  • Relax and trust that what you desire is on the way
  • Know that spiritual guidance is available to you at all times
  • Feel a sense of awe each day as you witness miracles unfold

Order the book and claim your free Manifesting Jumpstart Workshop!

Witness the miracles unfold

As you practice detaching from the outcome, you’ll start to see many beautiful miracles begin to unfold in your life.

Look out for them. Pay attention and don’t dismiss anything. Celebrate and appreciate every miracle.

You can come back to this blog post and share with me how you detached from the outcome and what miracles you manifested.

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  1. When surrendering my “attachments” to the universe, do I replace the word “attachments” with the attachment I want to surrender.
    I struggle to find the correct words to say!

    Thank you for your blog, I am learning so much.

    1. Great question, Marlie. Yes, you can absolutely do that. For example, I surrender my need to control my relationship. Another example is: I welcome creative opportunities. Let your intuition guide you! xoxo

  2. Hello Gabby,
    I appreciate you & your work.

    Please help me understand because this topic is really really dear to my heart.

    When you say “detach from outcome & trust that whatever outcome is for your highest good” ——- how? If it sucks & it doesn’t feel or look like your highest good?

    When you say “pray to be detached from outcome & to be shown the way” —— if you have been praying for 10 years to the extent that you actually lost not just hope but faith —- to the extent where you feel completely let down by the Universe. As if the Universe is compassionate, holding you through your misery but not helping you to get out of it – despite all your prayers & attempts?

    When you say, “always feel good”, given the above condition that I described, how? How can I always feel good? I must be either a lunatic, a person who is detached to the extent of being mentally & emotionally numb, or I am just engaging in consuming substance & adopting a new belief called: “whateve dude”.

    I will be waiting for your reply.
    Thanks.

    1. I appreciate your courage and honesty, Molly. It sounds like you’re asking what to do when you ask for divine guidance and don’t seem to receive it. The key word is “seem,” because we truly are always being guided, even when it doesn’t feel like it. (You may want to check out this blog post: https://gabbybernstein.com/you-are-guided/).
      One way to trust that the Universe is working towards our highest good, is to try to see obstacles and suffering as opportunities for growth and change. We can do this by shifting our inner dialogue from “Why is this happening to me?” to “What can I learn from this?”
      In the meantime, the secret to feeling good is is to make your spiritual practice a habit: https://gabbybernstein.com/feeling-good-every-day/. Here are some suggested practices: ask for creative solutions (https://gabbybernstein.com/how-to-pray/ and https://gabbybernstein.com/creative-possibilities/) and meditate (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nNVTSpSSPQg).
      xoxo

  3. Hi,
    Thank you for this beautiful post.
    I have always asked Universe for guidance, thanking for leading me and giving me the signs (that were in 99% accurate).
    I lost my job 2 months ago (job that made me unhappy anyhow) and I was absolutely obsessed to get a new one. A particular one. Checking my phone and mailbox constantly day and night.
    My love has just left me a week ago. I believe it happened because I had been cold and distant for some time. It looks not to be repairable at the moment. When this happened, my world collapsed and I was driven to your book The Universe has your back. I Read it within one day. I made a lots of notes. Then i read it slower again and again. I was in such deep sorrow for the lost love, that I let go the Job issue go.
    I got 3 job offers in last 3 days. One better than the other one. I can’t even choose. It was almost unbelievable.
    It must have happened because i stopped focusing on the outcome I believe.
    I am still devastated because of the relationship, but start being happy again and start seing clearer. It is hard just to stop grieving from one day to other, but I am looking forward to start the new work, meet new people and focusing on something else.
    Detach from the outcome.
    It works, It always had, just my own desire was blinding me. I will keep practising and getting aligned with the Universe. Universe knows.
    THANK YOU

    1. Amazing, Persephina! Thank you for sharing your miracle moments. What I love about your comment is that you’re not bypassing your feelings. Great work. We can be devastated and process loss while still having hope for the future. When we detach from the outcome, we open up to creative possibilities– and that’s when the healing or the miracle can occur. Wonderful. xoxo

  4. I have been wanting a new job for a while and have been unsuccessful in finding one. I am doing everything you say not to do! I am obsessing about getting it – when will it happen? will it be everything I want? will I be valued as an employee? will I make the money I want? I can’t stop looking, applying or thinking about it.

    1. Great work recognizing how you are blocking yourself, Leslie, and awesome that you reached out for help. Here are some additional tools and practices to help you surrender and experience an energetic shift:
      /need-to-control/
      /new-blog-super-soul-sessions-talk-5-steps-spiritual-surrender/
      /surrender-goals-universe/
      /strengthen-faith-weaken-fear/
      xoxo

  5. I asked for direction and a sign. I’d been lost for two decades. For the past 3 years certain artists had been showing up on my playlists, music I normally wouldn’t listen to. Then it began to happen more often. I’d turn on the radio, there they were. One morning I’m reading the local paper and there’s a story about the artists I’d kept finding on my radar and the label they’re on. I keep reading, the article is about more about the owner. It seems he’s come back home from New York. Home is my neighborhood! He was born and raised here, like me. I looked him up and found his information easily. I started writing a song and recorded it in my garage. I had such an odd feeling that this person would like it, would “get” it. I felt in sync, every strum, every beat. Everything I’d been doing since surrendering to the universe was coming together. All the crazy directions I’d been going in, it was freeing to just trust and let go.
    I knew sending a song to someone who probably got 100’s each week would probably never even get to him, but I did it anyway. I had nothing to lose.
    5 days later he called within minutes of listening to song and we had such a great conversation. We talked about the future and making a record together. He said he was excited and that he’d be in touch in a few days.
    It’s been a couple of months, no contact. I finally sent an email a week ago, no reply.
    I paid attention to the signs, responded happily and never questioned any of the things life was leading me to. I felt a deep confidence and happiness I’d never felt. Letting go and trusting was for me, very peaceful.
    Now, I’m sad and a little humiliated by the whole affair but I’m not going to ask “Now what?” or sit around becoming attached to an outcome that for me was a dream. I’ve been reaching out and asking for guidance and I’ve accepted this is not going to happen.
    I do wonder though, what’s worse: never feeling that thrill of acceptance after 30 years of working so diligently at something I love or finally knowing what that feels like and finding out it’s better than I ever imagined it could be and then losing it.
    I just thought you should know that sometimes, as successful as this is for some people, it’s just as possible for it not to work out for others.

    1. Showing up and sharing here is a sign that you’re ready to make meaningful change, Jeannette. There is a chapter in Gabby’s book, The Universe Has Your Back, called: Obstacles Are Detours in the Right Direction. Here, Gabby explains that often times the situations that appear to us as “rejection” are the Universe’s way of protecting us from something and/or redirecting us toward our highest good.
      You might find it helpful to check out these additional resources:
      https://poosh.com/how-to-handle-rejection/
      /fear-holds-us-headlock-get/
      /new-blog-super-soul-sessions-talk-5-steps-spiritual-surrender/
      /surrender-goals-universe/
      xoxo

  6. Hi there
    So when I am detaching from my specific person that I am manifesting do I not chat or talk to him unless he does ? Cos I am always the one initiating contact ?
    Regards
    Yasmeen

  7. Thank you Gabby I am almost there, it’s been 4 years practicing this, it’s the most challenging. I get to this attachment trap when I get mistreated or when I cannot help as much as I would like to at the time where there is a need. It’s as if I react poorly to situations and go back to wanting more and having the illusion that it will solve my problems or be free.
    I do a lot of good for others and myself, when things go wrong and I’m being mistreated by the very same people I get confused and as a highly passionate person my emotions can sometimes take me to a very dark place.
    I always say I don’t expect anything in return it works 100% when it’s strangers, if it’s people in my circle I doubt that I have mastered not expecting the same treatment.
    I give you my car to go anywhere anytime, when I lose my car I ask to use yours there’s complaints and excuses.
    I work on this detachment almost all the time it’s when I lose my independence that I feel at people’s mercy. I will admit I still try to be perfect so my relationship can work or things to go my way, I will finally get the girl but I want it to be effortless, I’m not too bad but I can do better.

    Thanks for the tips I’m a good student, I’m sure I will get there soon.

  8. Hiiii! I am trying so hard to detach from something I have wanted for over ten years. I’m married, but in love with someone else. My intuition has been telling me I am meant to be with him, and I have been praying and praying that whatever happens be for the highest good for all. So when my inner voice is telling me one thing so strongly, how do I detach from that, or should I? Should I detach from how and when it will happen, or detach from the whole thing? I have been guided by many divine synchronicities, but am still waiting.

    1. No one can answer this question for you, Rebecca, but what we can do is give you the steps on how to allow that answer to be given to you. Right now you’re in the logical mindset of “How do I figure this out?” and ultimately that blocks our sense of feeling and knowing the next right action. The greatest gift you can give yourself is to stop trying to “figure it out” and let your intuition be your guide. The way that you develop tuning into your intuition is through prayer and meditation. I want to offer you this simple prayer: “Thank you universe for showing me what to do. Thank for showing me what is of the highest good for my relationship.” Then sit in meditation to receive guidance. xoxo

  9. We’ve been working toward conception for 2 years. At first, my best girlfriend and I wanted to be pregnant together. When she got pregnant it added so much pressure to get on with it! Then another girlfriend beat me, then another and now I’m officially the last to start a family. It has felt disheartening. I meditate twice a day and visualize holding our child in the hospital room after delivery. I get so detailed with it that I end meditation in happy tears. But it seems our time still hasn’t come. I suspect it’s not that having a child isn’t for our highest good and it’s more about a desired outcome. I think wanting to be pregnant with my friends forced the universe to deliver on one possible outcome but it probably isn’t the best rendition of this experience is my guess. The Universe always knows what is the ideal outcome. But, remaining loving and calm in the presence of my friends and their families is so difficult for me … What do you recommend? Are there mantras when I feel anxiety creep in when I’m holding their children?

    1. Sending you big love, Gabrielle. Here is a great affirmation for you: “I am patient knowing that whatever is of the highest good is coming to me.” You can find the gorgeous art work and affirmation here on this blog post that will hopefully serve and inspire you: https://gabbybernstein.com/gabby-bernstein-birth-story-2019-reflection/
      Here is an additional post that I think will resonate with you: https://gabbybernstein.com/new-blog-super-soul-sessions-talk-5-steps-spiritual-surrender/
      xoxo

  10. Thank you Gabi, just came across this whilst searching for guidance on detachment. It resonates well. Instead of focusing on the journey, trust you’ll reach your destination, and the journey will figure itself out. This is really helpful. I’ve had to cancel a long-awaited solo trip to see friends on the other side of the planet, was very upset about it not happening and have been anxious about when I will finally go as I was so attached. I can see that if I just trust and know that it will happen instead of getting hooked on “when will we all be able to fly again, will it be this year, next year, etc”. then it will all fall into place at the right time and in the right way.

  11. I enjoyed your post. I dated a girl & she dumped me abruptly after 9 months. She was disrespectful to me by her actions & and made fun of me. On Fay she likes my photos & sends me holiday greetings. She acts like thinks we are friends. I am owed an apology & explanation for her actions. It’s been 4 years & still nothing.

    1. Isn’t being focused on feeling good being attached to an outcome– the outcome being feeling good? What if you are so focused on feeling good that it actually makes you feel bad?

  12. Gabby-
    Thank you for this! How do you distinguish between when you are attaching to an outcome vs. tapping into a feeling of intuition that your guides are using to point you in the right direction? For example if I want to start a new business and I have a vision for that business, am I holding to tightly to that outcome or could those visions be guidance to keep moving forward?

    1. Great question, Laura. You can absolutely hold a vision for starting a new business without attaching to an outcome. You could do that by surrendering the need to control the details. By leaning on your spiritual tools and practices, you can be patient and allow your intuition to guide you in taking the next right action rather than allowing fear to take over. Here is another blog post that you might find helpful:
      https://gabbybernstein.com/release-resistance-attract-everything-want/
      xoxo

  13. I have commenced sessions with a Healthy Life Doctor to heal the issues that I have with body. My desire is to wake up vibrant every morning free of physical pain and debiltating migraine’s. Have perfect health. Connecting with this particular practitioner felt like it was meant to be. I was guided to him in the most unexpected way, however now I feel I have some doubt about how effectiveness the treatments will be for me, if they will work, am I wasting my time and money. I also have attachments as to how I felt after the initial treatments.

    1. Hi Christine, it sounds like this is an opportunity to turn inward and witness what is coming up for you so that you can discern whether it’s the voice of your ego (fear) trying to block your potential to heal or the voice of your intuition (love) trying to open you up to a miraculous healing. Here are some practices that you might find helpful:
      https://gabbybernstein.com/how-to-know-the-difference-between-your-ego-and-your-intuition/
      https://gabbybernstein.com/connect-intuition-trust-guided/
      Of course, if you feel called to, this may also be an opportunity to discuss what’s coming up for you with your wellness team.
      xoxo

  14. Does anyone really have the answers, if something is making you miserable, depressed, stressed out, let it go. I really believe that just because we plan, dream, strive for, it doesn’t mean we will get it. All I wanted in this life was to be married, have a family, good friends or active social life & my own business, money. The Universe gave me the opposite of what I wanted whilst I also had to endure seeing others receive what I desired. Am letting go in fact I no longer want those things, too late to start a family medically, business is not even bringing in a decent income, trying to look for a decent job i would like yet there is an age barrier, striving to achieve those goals gave me so much misery but yet ironically also finding that there is nothing that I have left to aim for in life. I don’t think I can trust the universe it seems so cruel.

    1. Thank you for your honesty, S.M. Showing up and sharing here is a sign that you’re ready to experience an energetic shift.

      It may be helpful, through your spiritual practice, to ask for guidance that leads you to someone who can help you process your unhealed feelings and shift from fear to faith. For example, you might be led to an EMDR specialist, an EFT practitioner, or a support group with people you can lean on. I am a strong believer that the universe works through people.

      In the meantime, you may find these blog posts helpful:
      https://gabbybernstein.com/strengthen-faith-weaken-fear/
      https://gabbybernstein.com/shift-lens-life/
      https://gabbybernstein.com/let-go-story-tell/
      https://gabbybernstein.com/the-appreciation-game/

      Sending you much love and hope that you begin to feel that the universe has your back. xoxo

  15. Hi thank you for sharing this.
    I really want to meet a partner and get married to the point where I’ve physically started to feel anxiety as I’ve wanted it for so long. I’m meditating as often as I can and the prayer you put will hopefully be helpful. however as I have a pushy family they are pressuring me to find someone which makes me feel inadequate

  16. I love your blog, I often get tricked by this concept of letting go. I am very new to manifestation and the law of attraction. Somehow manifesting something you are letting go sometimes feel counter intuitive or contradicting. Can you please help me get some clarity? I want an specific outcome to happen, so i will manifest that, then how do i let it go? and how do i ask for signs and still let it go? I have been asking for signs and recently have been seeing them (although i am constantly looking for them too), when i see them i get happy and just imagine my live with the outcome i want (which then, to me, means that i am not letting it go). This has led me to become anxious and desperate at times because i then want it to happen right away. Please help and thank you in advance!

    1. Paul, the Universe wants us to have exactly what our hearts desire and what is for the greatest good for all. It’s important to get clear and communicate your dreams and desires to the Universe. And with that clarity, fully surrendering the outcome, meaning that you’re open to the greatest possible outcome. While you leave the details up to the Universe, it’s vital that you continue to take aligned action to move towards your desires. When taking aligned action and trusting the Universe, you’ll move forward in flow.

      Know that surrender is a daily practice! Here are the tools that I regularly use to tap into that spiritual surrender: https://gabbybernstein.com/new-blog-super-soul-sessions-talk-5-steps-spiritual-surrender/

      These posts may also serve you:
      https://gabbybernstein.com/need-to-control/
      https://gabbybernstein.com/secret-asking-universe-sign-trusting-guidance-receive/

  17. hi,

    Thanks for the post. I know Law of Attraction and apply it everyday
    i want PARTICULAR outcome to manifest. i want EXACTLY that. if i do not get that, then i am unhappy, SAD, disappointed
    i am happy NOW, because i believe that i will receive or received what i want(ed)
    i want something but the REALITY (as decided by the Universe) is DIFFERENT then how can i stay happy? i think i am missing something here, pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeee help me.
    or
    How to stay happy even when i dont get what i want?

  18. I am attached to getting my lover back I am constantly wondering when he will come back, I know he is on his way but I am having trouble detaching from wanting to know when and wanting to see results

  19. Hi Gabby
    Iam attached to the outcome of being able to find my soulmate at the age of 47, knowing well that it will be extremely difficult. Plus Im dreading my present life. It has affected my moods and since end if last year have been feeling down and unmotivated. Could you advise? Thanks

    1. Thank you for your honest share, Su. When you witness yourself experiencing low vibe thoughts and feelings, try to remind yourself that you can choose again. For tips on how to do that, check out this blog post: https://gabbybernstein.com/choose-again/ .
      It will also be helpful to set the intention to focus on feeling good. Here are some of the practices that I use to feel good: https://gabbybernstein.com/feel-good/.
      Finally, it sounds like you will feel relief by practicing surrender. I discuss the 5 Steps to Spiritual Surrender here; https://gabbybernstein.com/new-blog-super-soul-sessions-talk-5-steps-spiritual-surrender/.
      I hope this helps! xoxo

  20. hi,
    I am feeling quiet lost with my souls purpose, stuck in addiction, 27 years old, no job, no family, relationship breakdowns, abserloutly hating my environment, no friends, ect,
    recently I took a online quiz with hayhouse Australia and it turns out I could be a spirit junkie, and your book was recommended to me for guidance and support while finding my life purpose. this is all new to me, but I am going to be purshacing your latest book and relaying on your guidance while I find what it is I am meant to do in this lifetime. thankyou

    1. Hi Ashleigh,
      I’m sorry you’re struggling with addiction. I understand how overpowering that addiction can feel. If you have not read my book, Spirit Junkie, I definitely recommend checking it out. This book has been an inspiration for so many people’s sobriety.

      Have you ever considered going to an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or Narcotics Anonymous (NA) meeting? The 12-Step Program has saved many lives. I suggest Googling AA or NA in your area and checking out a meeting. The path to recovery is laid out for you in the Twelve Steps and it’s a super supportive community.

      Also, check out the website intherooms.com. It’s a great place for online addiction support.

      You are in our prayers and I know that you can find peace and happiness. All you need is the slightest willingness to open the door to recovery.

      Sending you deep love. xo

  21. Hi Gabby-

    Thank you for this. I am completely attached to a position that I interviewed for Friday. I have been absolutely obsessing over it and am constantly watching my phone for an email or phone call. I replay the interview and the things I would’ve or could’ve said during it, in my head, all day long. The job is in my field with an amazing company, right where I want it to be. It’s hard for me to believe the universe would bring me a position that checks all of my boxes, and it not be for me. I’ve been unemployed for 3 months now, so it’s like I’m almost desperate…
    How do I stay focused on projecting positive energy into the universe, and not giving in into the small voices of doubt in my head? I am pretty new to manifesting and it isn’t as easy as it seems (I am a control freak) lol.

  22. Hi Gabby, i was part of the 21 days Manifesting Challenge.

    In the past few months i have been having trouble with my boyfriend who I have been dating for 6 years. He now tells me that he isn’t sure about himself and his life and it doesn’t feel right to drag me along. He has been such a sweetheart and is an amazing person with whom I have actually seen a future with. Can you tell me how to deal with this as I desire to be in a committed and romantic relationship and I want to make this work for both of us.

    Thank you.

  23. I think I may have an attachment to attracting $500,000 because I desire it to start my new life. I feel like I have an attachment because I keep thinking about it and kinda keep looking for it because I keep seeing other people successfully manifesting large sums of money and I’m excited to receive mine. I’m confused if I’m actually attached or just excited lol. I feel it may be attachment since it hasn’t come yet because other people manifested their sums quicker. I would love your opinion and Guidance to let me know where and if I’m going the wrong way or not. Thank you!!

    1. Kimberly if you feel like you cannot move forward or feel complete without this money, then there may be an attachment. Here in this blog post, I discuss that the secret to prayer is forgetting what we think we need: https://gabbybernstein.com/how-to-pray/ . Rather than believing that you have to wait until you receive this money to start your new life, it maybe helpful to check out these practices and start now: https://gabbybernstein.com/start-achieving-dream-today/. xo

  24. I’m attached to the outcome of a situation with a friend, I let my fears and insecurites gets the better of me and crossed her boundaries which lead to her cutting me off by blocking me on all social media platforms we used to talk. I’ve been trying since then to ask spirits for help and trying to manifest her back into my life, but I still keep checking her twitter page and having anxiety about the outcome.. She has high vibrations and I’ve been in low vibration for a while now, i’m trying to change that but with my attachment to the outcome it’s hard to believe in my intuition and need to surrender, I’m trying to surrender but it’s hard, since this friend is a friend i consider to be my person, someone i trust the most and the one who showed me the path of light and spirits. I know the outcome i want wont come unless i change, but its hard.

  25. Hi Gabby- thank you for this post. I hear and strive for everything you’re saying but detachment seems so far out of my reach right now. I’ve been in a long distance relationship for 3 years now. I am in the US and my boyfriend is living in Greece. However, he is not from Greece and he requires a visa to come to the states, even just for a visit. He has been denied that visa a few times since we’ve started dating. Given that, I have been traveling there a lot which I was so happy to do in the beginning. I am not sure why things started to change but we have not been having the easiest time. I noticed he doesn’t give me the attention I need anymore and that he stopped putting in the necessary effort it takes for our long distance to work well. I need strength to detach from controlling the outcome because I constantly get disappointed when expectations are not met. I know at this point I do not want to think about ending things with him, so I need to work on letting what will be just play out.

  26. Gabby: I am trying..i feel better just reading your words. I read everything on the law of attraction I can get my hands on. It is soooo very hard I do well for a while then…Bam.. My daughter is 28 she is a heroin addict and a prostitute. She has been beaten and near death so many times. I try to disconnect from this situation, but just when I am back on track. I get notification she in jail or beat up or some other nightmare. Tried since shes 15 to get her help, multiple rehabs…till we were broke. Now I rebuild my life. I want to Gabby I need to detach and surrender every day to keep the darkness from constantly creeping back in. My situation is not all that normal everyday, problems not everyone deals with such an extreme problem with the amount of Trauma that comes with this…I cannot even put in to words what goes on its bad.

    1. Hi Denise,

      I’m sorry you’re witnessing your daughter’s struggle with drugs and prostitution.

      Have you ever considered going to an Al-Anon meeting? Al-Anon is specifically for family, spouses, and friends of those struggling with addiction. I suggest visiting https://al-anon.org/ to read more about how Al-Anon can help and how to find a meeting in your area. It is a super supportive community and a great resource.

      You and your daughter are in our prayers.

      Sending you deep love.

  27. Have been trying to get pregnant for the past 7 years, and because of male factors we’ve been told that the only option my husband and I have is IVF treatment. We went through 4 cycles (including 2 frozen cycles) to date with no luck. The road has been very trying, with lots of ups and downs, miscarriages, tears, frustrations, and lost hope. To the point that we barely had a life anymore. All that mattered was having a baby, and if it did not happen, all was lost. Until fall last year, when somehow (divine guidance I truly believe in my heart) I discoverred your book ‘ The Super Attractor’, and found my spirituality again, strength, and hope. You helped me realize that no matter the outcome, life is so beautiful, and that I have so many gifts in my life RIGHT NOW, that I need to be grateful for, and for which I now thank the Univers every day. There is so much laughter now in my house, the relationship between me and my husband is so much stronger. We are going for a 5th cycle next month, and I know in my heart that no matter what, the Univers is by our side and all will happen in divine timing. I recognize my attachment to the outcome, and learning now how to release, live in the moment, be grateful for NOW and what this moment has to offer. Your meditations, and the 21-day manifesting challenge help me tremendously, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your teachings and all the love that you are.

  28. There is a man I am in love with. We broke up last year and have been casually dating again in recent months. I know I’m attached to the outcome of us ending up together because he’s the most amazing man I’ve ever met. I’m trying to detach and tell myself if it doesn’t work out the universe has something better for me and that I should be manifesting a loving supportive relationship, whatever the universe decides that will look like and with whom they determine is best for me. It’s so hard to detach but I’m trying my best.

  29. I recognize I am attached to the outcome of my desire to succeed in my online business and this is creating blocks for me.
    I left a traditional business in 2019 to join an online business in Personal Development and have gained so much from the courses but still my business has not yet fired up.
    I have been fixated on the outcome of my desires, set myself time lines to have income coming in and seen them pass without any wins. Yes, I have been obsessing over the outcome.

  30. Really needed to read this. Currently seeing a Man who is afraid of commitment, have been friends for 2 years. The relationship feels right to me, somehow, but not sure if I am rationalizing. I am trying not to expect things from him and trying to let go of “where” it is going and trying to focus on being friends and enjoying his company for as long as we are meant to be on this path together. I am aware that there is fear on my part and that is holding me back. So detaching is something I am going to practice.

    1. These are great insights, Patti. I’m so grateful that this blog post served you. I’m honoring your intention to practice detaching!. xo

  31. Thank you for this! So perfectly timed with what I needed to hear right now. I surrender and trust the Universe will respond with even more than I can imagine.

  32. Hi,

    I had been pushing the man I’ve been seeing for the past 3 months away. As a result of doing some inner work with the help of “Super Attractor,” I realized that it was because I felt unworthy of love. Today, I shared with him why I’ve been pushing him away (I.e., abandonment issues) and my daily practices for the manifesting challenge. I thought that outcome would bring us closer and it would make him realize how much I cared since I was changing my old ways.

    Instead, he actually broke things off. Before me, he was engaged to a woman after dating for 4 years and the relationship ended in August after he learned that she had been cheating on him. He informed me that he was still angry and needed to sort things out by himself and that this had nothing to do with me. I think some of the things I discussed was a trigger for him.
    I am trying to trust the universe right now, but it’s so difficult.

    Thank you
    Allison

    1. I’m sorry to hear about your break up, Allison. Know that I am sending you lots of love and strength during this time.

      It sounds like you are doing your best to see this break up as an opportunity to practicing letting go of the outcome and trusting that the universe has a plan for you. That being said, my suggestion for you is to practice the steps to spiritual surrender that I share in this blog post (/new-blog-super-soul-sessions-talk-5-steps-spiritual-surrender/). Surrender daily, and on a moment to moment basis when you need to. This will help you to receive guidance.

      I hope this helps! xoxo

  33. I have a lot in my life right now that is out of my control yet I have a peace about me that everything will turn out just as it should. I live a life full of gratitude and I am generally a truly happy person. I have fear because things kept not going my way but I trust the universe will provide. I choose no fear of any outcome. Our raid to freedom, abundance, health and true live is within our reach. It will be better then I could imagine.

  34. I have recently suffered alot of health issues which went from grief to chronic illnesses within a year. I need to make changes to diet and my thought patterns to allow my body to heal. However I wasn’t listening to it. So I kept getting sicker and it took being in hospital to get a wake up call. Once I started to detach and listen to my body I have started to heal. I am trusting the Universe to guide me and she hasn’t let me down. I have to detach from obsessing about how to fix and control this and trust the Universe to guide me on how to become totally healthy. This is working. Thank you Gabby for reminding me about the power of detachment.

  35. I am attached to the outcome that my client wants to pay me in the same urgency that I want to be paid. I have found myself obsessing over it, checking my email repeatedly (even though I get push notifications) for the money transfer. I find myself telling stories about how he is a ‘liar’ and ‘of course he’s not paying you, who do you think you are getting paid for editorial work when you’re not a professional editor’.
    I surrender this attachment, and I allow the Universe to show me where to go and what to do.
    Gabby, many thanks to you for sharing this article again at the moment I needed to read it.

  36. I left a 2 year relationship 5 months ago with a man I love deeply. He came back a month ago and the connection feels just as strong but he is unable to commit to me still. I know what will be will be but I am finding letting go of a desired outcome so difficult and find myself caught in obsessive thinking which is not helpful to anyone… especially me. I want to be able to let go and trust in the universe to know what is best for me.

  37. Hi Gabby, thank for such a beautiful post. My partner and I have been struggling to have a baby for the past 3 years and I feel over the past 3 years this has become a huge focus in our lives. Just recently I actually did become pregnant (first positive in 3 years), only to find out that it wasn’t viable as my levels were decreasing. I am currently in limbo as I am still pregnant, but not as I await for my body to expel and complete the miscarriage. This has been very difficult time for me as I am really struggling to let this go. In a way I do feel the Universe has given me a huge sign to let me know that I can and will get pregnant, but it is consistently on my mind (the when, how, urgency to try again). How can I completely step back and let go, relax and allow the Universe to do its magic when it’s something I desire so much and have waited so long for.

    1. Hello Kim, my wife and I struggled to have kids for about 7 years and after a failed ivf we were successful on the second ivf. We had our first child. However, we had a second and third child after that naturally (2 and 4 years later).We simply stopped “trying” . they were surprises. I guess letting go is the real key here I hope this helps

  38. I desperately need to detach from the hope that two people, ones I thought were my friends, lied to me and let me believe I was crazy, would one day admit the truth. I know a truth that would harm their partners and their families and when I tried to lovingly approach them initially, they lied and made me think I was the harmful one. At first I was discarded. Then one Tried to constantly come back and make me think i had mental health issues. I finally removed both from my life as much as i could through the support of a counselor. Nothing has changed with their behavior in Two years and some times i wake up feeling sick because its hard to get past grieving who I thought they were. Its hard too, to keep such a sad secret. Was any nice thing they ever did done in kindness and friendship? Was it all lies? I feel like I don’t know anything about people anymore. My trust feels forever broken. And seeing their behavior daily makes it so hard. I kept hoping they would see how hurtful they have been. Or hoping they would admit to lying . But that day will probably never come and I just want to detach from not being able to get over it and have faith I can find caring people again.

  39. Thank you a lot.i do all that you say and to be honest the most difficult times have become in a way fun. But I think you should add one thing. That don’t ever abandon goals, just don’t expect from them : )

  40. I am really struggling with this tricky situation I am in. I’m out of work and I can’t pay my rent and I pushed so hard for more than two months now and nothing is coming in. I send out so much and tried so hard and now I’m sitting here not knowing what to do and how I can detach if I don’t want to loose my home.

    1. Julia, I am so sorry to hear of the incredibly difficulty you are going through and I want you to know that I am holding you in my prayers. Is there a social services agency or perhaps a religious, secular or relief organization you can reach out to? If not, do you have a trusted family member or friend you can stay with while you begin taking next steps to secure yourself financially?

  41. There are 2 outcomes I currently struggle to detach from.

    1) Having a healthy, passionate and loving long-term relationship with the woman of my dreams.

    2) Landing a job with hours that are more convenient and will pay me enough to live comfortably in the NYC area.

    1. Justyn, for your desired relationship, I encourage you to start by making one small change. Re-frame your thoughts and change the language you are using. Say to yourself, “I am proactively seeking my partner.” Focus on the things that bring you joy and have fun during the process. It feels good to feel good! Also, the fastest way to move into a career you love is to start appreciating the job you have right now. The Universe responds to the energy you put out. So when you are feeling unhappy and defeated every day, you lower your energetic vibration and just end up attracting even more of it.

  42. Thank you for your work. We all love to plan, from the smallest thing to years ahead that we often forget that the universe plays an important role and can have plans of its own. Sometimes it’s best to go with the flow.

  43. Yep, this is me to a T! The most recent time I attached myself to an outcome was this morning, when I published my first listings in my Etsy shop. My goal of being able to cover living costs by running a small business from home means a lot, to the point where the outcome of having a successful business is always on my mind and I even map out what that looks like! I can now see I’m trying to control everything, and it’s hindering what the Universe has in store for me.
    I just received your book yesterday Gabby, I’m really excited for the kids to go to sleep tonight so I can tuck into it!

    1. Grateful that you connected here and shared this major aha moment! I’m excited for you to dive into Super Attractor! <3

    2. Hi Gabby,
      I’m trying to decide between a job that has offered me an awesome package but it’s a long commute and will change my lifestyle. Right now I have my own practice/business and doing very well. They are two very different situations and both have a lot of positives. I am in an obsessive loop of all the options and worried that if I don’t take the job that I may not get this opportunity again but also not sure I want to give up working for myself. I feel paralyzed in indecisiveness which is causing a lot of stress and exhaustion. I am very attached to the outcome of both. Any advice would be very helpful. Thank you.

  44. I’m listening to your new book and really like it. I’ve been so attached to a certain outcome and it’s really got me all up in a big old stress ball. Thank you for the tips on letting me try to release it. I really need to do that for my health. I’ll be in Houston on Oct 6! I’m very excited to see you and Mike Dooley too!

  45. Hi Gabby!
    I’ve been really focusing on your 5 steps to surrender and it’s become part of my morning routine to go through each one. Any time I catch myself longing for that new job or moving to a “better” city, I make myself run through the 5 steps again. I used to work so hard researching new jobs, applying for new jobs, and figuring out how I could move, but nothing ever seemed to work for often times weird reasons (I now think for some reason I was never supposed to do it). So here I am, surrendering daily and practicing patience. However, I’m starting to think there’s a fine line between surrendering and just giving up. Is a move from CA to NY truly supposed to just walk into my life? Is a new job going to show up without networking? I’m still sticking to the steps and it does feel good, but how much effort is supposed to come from us?

    1. Hi Megan! You’re doing beautiful work. It’s important to get clear and communicate your dreams and desires to the Universe. And with that clarity, fully surrendering the outcome, meaning that you’re open to the greatest possible outcome. While you leave the details up to the Universe, it’s vital that you continue to take aligned action to move towards your desires. When taking aligned action and trusting the Universe, you’ll move forward in flow. XOX

      1. How do you know, then, what action is “aligned” and “not aligned”? I can think of many things in life that I initially felt good about and they turned out badly. How can you tell when action is divinely guided versus you just making futile and even harmful attempts?

  46. Gabby, I really feel like this post is what I needed and is so relevant to my life right now.
    I’m in a situation where I know I’m going to have to find somewhere new to live (in London), and right now I literally can’t imagine how. I have no idea what the solution will be and how it will happen for me.
    I’m finding myself attached to the fear of the outcome, I’m attaching to negative stories and limiting beliefs that fill me with worry. This makes me stressed and feel hopeless, rather than hopeful, positive and excited about this move! It’s making me feel quite alone and vulnerable, which I also know isn’t the case, I just have to trust and know I’m being guided.
    So therefore I’m going to surrender the attachment to the fear, I allow the universe to show me where to go and what to do. Saying your simple prayer everyday I think will help me. Hopefully day by day I will feel better and see the comfort of the universe support me. And I will make sure I make feeling good a priority!
    Thank you again Gabby, I also can’t wait for your new book. I think it’s coming out just in time for this manifestation- I bought The Universe has your back just before I got my first job, I think it was meant to be!
    Lots of love, Ella x

  47. I loved THE UNIVERSE HAS YOUR BACK, And, plan to attend your book signing in San Francisco in October. Please consider writing a book for young kids 7-10? My grandson is 8, a 3rd grader, loves school, his teacher, loves to read… He’s “all boy” and so very kind & respectful, but out of control, emotional and hateful when he doesn’t get his way. (He is so easily influenced by other kids, adults, movies, etc.) If kids had a “how to” book on being an instrument of love and still be KIDS I think you would have another best seller. Look forward to Super Attractor!
    Sending a hugh hug,
    Fran
    Monterey, CA

  48. Love these ideas. Can’t wait to see what manifests from detaching from outcomes! I have been anxious about a publishing date for my book. Now I’m going to let the universe and prayer take over!

  49. Reading through these posts has made me realise that we all have similar problems in some respects in terms of selling our homes, finding the right place to live, finding the right partner, health issues etc. It’s good to share and follow the guidance – it’s really hard to surrender to outcomes but I think it has to be the best way. We will receive if we truly surrender and trust and to enjoy learning along the way.

  50. Do you accept private messages and give private replies? I’m having problems manifesting and letting go for the universe to work on the outcome for me.

    I’ve managed to manifest the odd text message and meet up’s but need to manifest more, I know it can happen but something is blocking me.

    HELP X

  51. I have manifested crazy things while surrendering the outcome and a major miracle came from using the process you described in your book “the universe has your back” when looking for a house. I had exactly the same experience of seeing my sign coming through in crazy ways once I signed the contract
    ( my mother without knowing anything sent me a photo of a quatrefoil – my sign- that she had just found). Still, in my job I am desperately looking to be promoted and my being attached to the outcome made me stressed and this negatively impacted the perception people have of me, which is hindering my promotion. I need to detach and surrender to achieve my goals. This in turn is teaching me to nurture relationships and let go of judgment about other people progress.
    Thanks for your amazing books!

    1. I love reading this major “aha” moment! You are doing great work Kaori! Continue to incorporate these steps daily in order to fully let go and trust, and get ready to experience some major shifts.

  52. Thank you for your work! You are a beacon of being PRESENT. I’m so glad to see you take care of yourself on your journey–so many women are wired to keep giving and not caring for themselves that they end up depleted. Self care is NOT selfish! You have such an aggressive book tour schedule with so much travel involved, please, please, please take good care of yourself so that you can continue with your passion and not burn out!
    xo,
    Yvonne Karney, MD

    1. Thanks for your sweet message Yvonne! I have daily self care practices that include meditation and movement. Sending you big hugs! XOX

  53. Hello Gabby!
    I am one of those people who loves to plan and set goals. I love to organize and plan things in my life and, like you mentioned in the post, I have a feeling that it gives me safety. Long time ago one of my best friends taught me that it is ok to plan, but it is important to be aware that plans are there to be changed. To be honest I did not understand this concept up until a few years ago and I am still working on it. The control and attachment syndrome is a quite strong one. However, once we realize that when we let go wonderful thing really come to us and we open and receive it, we are on our way to freedom and happiness. Approximately 5 years ago, after my divorce and breast cancer episodes I began my spiritual journey. There were many emotional ups and downs at that time. I was craving for love, for a healthy loving relationship, but all I was getting were bits and pieces. At one point I realized I was following an old pattern – a control pattern of trying to change somebody so he can fit into my “type of man”. Once I became aware of this, I decided to be alone for a while and detach. I started to do an affirmation I found on Louise Hay’s website: “I have a wonderful partner. We are compatible emotionally, intellectually, physically, and spiritually”. I wrote and lived with this affirmation for a few months and then I let go. Two months later a man entered my life and I was able to see him. We recognized each other. Besides my children, he is the best thing that happened to me.

    But, even though I obviously know all of this, I still have a problem when it comes to achieving my other goals involving my job and finances. I am constantly planning and dreaming of a breakthrough in this area of my life, but things are somehow slipping away. I have a hard time to let go, because I do not want to give a wrong sign to the Universe that I am not doing anything to improve my situation and that I gave up by not doing anything.
    So let’s detach!
    Love, Ana

    1. This is gorgeous Ana. Continue to call on your spiritual practices in order to surrender and trust all the abundance in store for you. Since you deeply connected with mantras in the past, here’s a beautiful mantra for you to start using daily: I have the power to co-create my reality. <3

  54. I’m so grateful for you Gabby! Look forward to seeing you at Attune in Atlanta! I’m trying to stop stressing on outcome of freedom from using alcohol for my anxiety. I’ve cut my drinking down from every day 2-3 drinks a day to few times a week 1-2 drinks…I know that’s progress but I’m still not completely letting go of the outcome. The Universe is already showing me its magic as I literally don’t like the taste of alcohol anymore – it’s like a social comfort when I’m out with friends. I know it’s fear. It gets worse around Anniversary of my husband’s death. I’m trusting the universe for a supernatural healing and deliverance. Thank you so much. Will try your EFT technique as well.

    1. Hi Ro. I’m grateful that you shared here and sorry to hear that you’re struggling with alcohol. I personally understand how overpowering that addiction can feel. Have you ever considered going to an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meeting? The path to recovery is laid out for you in the Twelve Steps. This practice has saved so many lives and has been instrumental in my recovery. I also recommend the website intherooms.com. It’s a great place for online addiction support. I want to share the 5 tools that have been a daily part of my recovery and hope they support and inspire you too. I write about them here: https://gabbybernstein.com/5-spiritual-tools-use-sober-recovery/ Know that you are in my loving and peaceful prayers. <3

      1. Thank you so much for these recommendations Gabby. You truly are a gift to this world and I can’t wait to read your link and also checkout the online resource you’ve recommended. See you at Attune!

    2. Hi Ro,
      I went through the same process with drinking after my father passed away. The book This Naked Mind changed my life. The entire book is great but it gets much better a few chapters in. I had immediate relief from my desire for alcohol. The podcast by Rachel Hart helps too.
      Good luck!
      Susan

  55. Hello Gabby, thank you for writing this new boo. I am already looking forward to the Dutch version. Maybe you will come to Europe one day to give a talk. I will most certainly try to make it to hear your talk. Have a great life, filled with joy and pleasure, good health and always surrounded by people that love you.

    1. I’m excited for you to read Super Attractor Karin! Stay tuned for upcoming additions to my travel and book tour schedule. Sending you lots of love! XOX

  56. I’m in the midst of launching an on-line program for my yoga & mindfulness business & have felt so trapped in frantically manifesting the outcome. Reading this I realise exactly where I am going wrong! Time to shift my energy, release my attachments & let the universe work her magic. Thank you Gabby – I love your work & can’t wait to read Super Attractor! Btw, when are you coming across the pond for a book tour & some workshops?!

  57. I’ve been practicing this for a while and it’s made all the difference in my daily life. Releasing control takes some serious practice. The one area I feel is the absolute hardest is with my health. I have this “special” health struggle that affects my everyday life. I’ve seen countless doctors and none have had an answer. I’ve been told I’m crazy, I’m fine, and just plain they don’t know. I’m attached to the outcomes of “What if I’m like this forever?” I’ve gone through the DABDA of grief and back again. I’ve prayed from the depths of my soul. I really struggle to detach from the outcomes here, especially on the really physically trying days.

    1. Hi Macy. Grateful that you connected here and shared your story. I can hear your deep inner guidance and trust, which can understandably get thrown off by daily health challenges or lack of clarity from practitioners. Keep trusting that inner knowing. By returning to that place of love, trust, and surrender, you will move towards getting the support you need, both from professionals and from your body. I have a daily mantra for you. I recommend saying it while looking in the mirror: I allow the energy of the Universe to move through me. <3

  58. Hi Gabby! I’ve been holding onto the outcome of selling my condo so I can move into a home with a backyard for my kids and dog. I’ve been focused on this outcome for about three months. It is literally all I think about. There have been a ton of showings – and even an offer, but it never came through because of the high taxes in my area. I’m going to use your surrender to attachment prayer starting now. Thank you, as always! xoxo Amanda

    1. Beautiful Amanda! Continue to use these steps and as you do, notice how you open up to big shifts. Sending lots of love your way. <3

  59. Hello Gaby,

    Thank you for being obedient to your story and in doing so touching so many lives.

    I will be in Houston to attend your workshop, I can’t wait!

    Warm regards from Curaçao (Dutch Caribbean),
    Gilian

  60. I’ve gone a bit Back and forth with a detachment. I’ve been training all winter to get my level 2 ski instructor certification and I was so stressed about it that I changed the date to the exam so I had more time to rest and train. After that, I reminded myself why I am doing this. To become a better skier, not to say I’m level 2 qualified. So regardless of the outcome, I’ll still have become a better skier. Now that I’m taking the exam, I’ve noticed my feelings about really wanting to pass have returned and I’m working on letting go of those and finding solace in just focusing on becoming a better skier. Over the past few days of training when I’ve felt low vibe and when I was blocking energy, I let go and asked the universe for help and to guide me, and The results are amazing and I’m back in alignment again! Thank you gabby for sharing all of your knowledge with us 🙂

  61. Thank you for this beautiful message! I’ve been wanting to be a mother for so many years now, and many obstacles have been in my way. I know deeply in my hearth that I need to be detached to the outcome in order to really manifest it in my life, but it has not been easy…I know it has affected my energy for a while, even thought I try to stay positive with everyone and I’ve been doing great things in my life. I will surrender by praying, big love Gabby 🙂

    1. Beautiful Julie. Continue to incorporate the steps in this blog, which will help you open yourself up to a place of trust and surrender. <3

  62. Thank you. This brought me to my knees and gave me a deeper realization of how I am still trying to control my outcomes and not allowing God to work with/for me. I have not received what I want, so I have been throwing out thoughts to help God understand me better and understand more clearly what I really want. I feared God wouldn’t get it right, or send my request in bad timing, or in the wrong way. So I kept dropping hints and suggestions to help him out. Kind of like when I was a kid and would drop hints to my parents about what I wanted for Christmas to ensure I got the present I really wanted. I have been asking God for so long to bring my family back together and love each other, to bring me loving friends, to find a better job, to have more money, with no result. I meditate daily, but to be honest, I think a part of me used it as a bargaining chip to get my way. I have not detached from the outcomes I want, because I fear that if I don’t help it won’t happen. I really need to get over myself and let go. I can’t micromanage God and the Universe. I will try again.

    1. Thank you for this absolutely gorgeous, heartfelt share. This is a major “aha” miracle moment! Continue to commit to the steps in this blog, being loving and gentle with yourself and your process. You are ready!

  63. Hi Gabby I am learning about detachment. I feel on my birthday my spirit guide allowed me to detach from a controlling force in my life. I will also apply that to outcomes. I very much appreciate your guidance and am very open to using your help as a stabilising force. A high compliment indeed. 🙂

  64. I am struggling with this, my desired outcome is a buyer for my flat and the subsequent successful purchase of my dream home which I have found. I am praying, meditating, visualising and journaling. Trying so hard not to let doubts creep in and feeling very mixed up with it all.

    1. You are doing great work Kirsten. Instead of trying hard, let’s create a sense of ease, a sense of relief and trust. A good mantra for you is “it can be easy”. If that doesn’t resonate at first, don’t worry! Commit to using the steps in this blog, knowing that it might still feel hard at first, but that there is major ease ahead.

  65. Dear Gabby,
    Yesterday night I was getting ready to sleep, I was upset and frustrated for an outcome that I want to control at work… I was not even able to get sleep so I decided to open the podcast of Super Soul Conversations, for some reason, (I think the Universe guided me) I selected yours. It made so much impact on my heart…. I fell sleep and this morning the first thing that I’ve done is to watch your videos in you tube, read your Twitter and now I’m here in your blog. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
    *Sorry for the typos, English is not my first language.

  66. My hubby and I moved our daughter to a new country at the beginning of last year to offer her a better future than we could in our birth country. The universe aligned everything jobs, house, school, finances) perfectly. We applied for residency and everything went smoothly until I had a bit of a medical issue that required a specialist (long wait) and some confirmation blood tests. Everything was sorted and the medical referred to Immigration (the last thing they were waiting for) a week ago! I spent last week constantly checking my email to see if our residency had been approved and every time there was no mail I would get anxious and more concerned. This just reminded me that I have to let go of the attachment I have to this happening in my time and celebrate how good it is to be in this country with a very happy hubby and daughter. The residency will come through at the perfect time – just like the rest of the journey did! Thanks Gabby for the reminder

    1. YES Carrie! Continue to trust and collaborate with the Universe. I love reading about your amazing journey. You’re doing beautiful work. <3

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