Recently I did a Facebook Live on a phenomenon I see WAY too often: manic manifesting.
People tell me all the time that they’ve been obsessing over the outcome of some situation. I hear it from my readers, my audience members and my friends. I’ve done it too!
How to stop trying to control manifestations
We all get entangled in manic manifesting sometimes. Freaking out over an outcome is very common and can be pretty sneaky. But this needy energy doesn’t serve us, and it gets in the way of real manifesting. It keeps you from co-creating with the Universe.
To help you stop manic manifesting, I’m going to share a lesson from The Universe Has Your Back. It will help you release outcomes and release the need to control.
If you want to watch this lesson in the video of my Facebook Live session, just press play on the video below. Or just keep reading!
True manifesting and aligning with the presence of joy
I shared this passage from The Universe Has Your Back on Facebook recently:
We all get caught up in that ego manifesting routine. It’s to be expected. I want to call it out now so that you can be mindful of it and gently guide yourself back to truth whenever you get caught in the obsession over the “how” and “when” things will manifest. Instead of obsessing about the outcome, focus on how you want to feel.
The way to get your needy and controlling vibe out of the way is to stop praying for what you think you need and instead pray for the highest good for all. Whenever you pray for the highest good, you get your agenda out of the way. You surrender into the Universe’s plan and release your own. Remember that the Universe doesn’t respond to manipulation — the Universe responds to love.
We have to think about our practice of manifesting and co-creating with the Universe as a collaboration, not a demand. It’s not a checklist of what you want and think you need. It’s a collaborative energy. When we align with an energy of joy, inspiration, excitement and enthusiasm, that is manifesting.
When you are in that space, it doesn’t matter if that specific thing you desire is with you in this moment. What matters is that you’re in the joy already. Aligning with that presence of joy NOW gives you the momentum to attract more of its likeness.
That is the key to manifesting.
Often what I see with many spiritual folks is that they start to get manipulative.
You might think: If I meditate enough, pray enough, talk about what I want enough, create a vision board, if I do enough spiritual work, then anything I want will just come to me.
Manifesting isn’t about getting. It’s about being.
But, truly, it’s not about getting and making. It’s about BEING. It’s about being in the experience, expression and energy of the love and joy within you.
That is what The Universe Has Your Back is about. It’s about how to get back into alignment with that sense of certainty and joy that we all have access to and that is our birthright.
When we have that presence of faith in our life, we can detach from the outcome, stop manic manifesting and trust in the Universe.
There are lots of different ways that we manic manifest. Let’s check out some questions and examples that came up during the Facebook Live event.
Facebook Live Q&A on manic manifesting
Q: If I’m wishing for my love to enter my life, I need to focus on manifesting love and not on the hope that the really cute guy next door will be the one?
Yes! If you focus on thinking he’s it, he’s got to be the one, you are manic manifesting. You’re trying to control the outcome. Those specific demands are actually getting in the way of true manifesting and blocking you from a relationship that could be far greater than what you’re fixated on!
Instead, start focusing on what it FEELS like to be on the presence of joy and love. One way to do that is to focus on the love that’s already in your life — like the love in your friendships, the love in your family and the love in your creative work. Focusing your attention and energy on the love that’s already thriving in your life helps you feel that presence. The excitement and enthusiasm that result make you a magnet for more of that energy.
Remember, while it’s important to be clear about what you want, it’s MORE important to be clear about how you want to feel.
Q: How about making a job decision? I prayed and asked for signs, I asked others for prayer, and I can’t see the answer.
This is another instance of manic manifesting. Sometimes we get so hooked into thinking we need to get the answer right now, and we’re interfering. The best thing to do here is just step back. Take your hands off the wheel, pray for the highest good for all, and turn it over. Chapter 5 of The Universe Has Your Back is especially helpful in identifying manic manifesting and healing our need to control!
Q: Why does it feel like while I’m working toward being present, I’m being sent a lot of tests by the Universe to see if I really am?
The obstacles that happen in our life are detours in the right direction. If a lot of obstacles show up for you, that’s beautiful guidance from the Universe, sending you in the right direction. In those moments of discomfort, be curious about what kind of guidance you’re receiving.
What you think you need is often in the way of what’s of the highest good for you. If you’re feeling like there are a lot of assignments being presented to you (there’s a whole chapter in the book about Universal assignments), you need to show up for them — or they’ll just keep coming up.
A daily practice of surrender
The secret to manifesting is letting go and trusting. The key to my successes, particularly in the past year, in my marriage, my friendships and my career, has come from my willingness to let go. I’ve been proactively practicing the principles in The Universe Has Your Back. Every day I surrender and I turn over my desires. Living these practices has given me so much more than I can imagine.
Doing the practices in this book proactively and having them in your back pocket helps them become second nature. As you use them more frequently, the easier it is to get back into alignment. All of this is really very simple: It’s about getting into alignment with the presence of love. That’s when we are letting ourselves be led and guided by the Universe.
For a simple way to do this, mark spots in the book that have prayers and each morning, open up to one and say that prayer. It’s a magnificent way to align with the Universe from the moment you wake up.
It’s a lot simpler than we make it, my friends.
If you don’t yet have The Universe Has Your Back, grab it now! Stop manic manifesting and start co-creating!