Are You Manic Manifesting? How to Let Go and Trust in the Universe

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Super Attractor by Gabrielle Bernstein[Sept. 26 update] I just published my new book, Super Attractor, and I’m so excited. I feel really good about it.

I’m especially grateful because this wasn’t the case with my last book launch.

In late 2017, I was getting ready to publish my book Judgment Detox.

Writing this book had been a beautiful and transformational experience. But when it came time to launch it, I let myself get really stressed out.

I became overwhelmed with fear. I felt like there were so many factors out of my control, and I felt pressured to perform.

I got so caught up in my fear that I tried to control everything in order to feel safe. An old story of mine started playing in my mind on a loop: “If I don’t do it, no one else will.” I wouldn’t let anyone support me. Not my team, not my friends and not the Universe.

Instead, I tried to force the Universe to give me the results I wanted. But my energy was so chaotic and fearful that I unconsciously repelled my desires.

I was seriously out of alignment with my Super Attractor power. I wasn’t co-creating my reality… I was manic manifesting.

What is manic manifesting?

Manic manifesting happens when we try to control our manifestations. It’s very common, because we all get hung up on outcomes. We all want things to go a certain way.

People often say to me, “I’m doing everything right, but nothing is working. I pray, I meditate, I use affirmations, I journal, but I’m still not attracting what I want. What am I doing wrong?”

More than anything, our energy is what attracts.

Here’s the thing: We can have all the spiritual tools in the world, but if we don’t tune in to the Universe, we can’t receive.

When we try to control or manipulate our manifestations, our energy becomes frantic and needy. This is a very low-vibration energy that simply doesn’t match the high, loving vibration of the Universe. Our energy attracts its likeness, so in this low-vibe state you’re a magnet for more low-vibe situations and experiences.

We manifest when we align with an energy of joy

Those of us on a spiritual path can sometimes think, “If I meditate enough, pray enough, talk about what I want enough, create a vision board, if I do enough spiritual work, then anything I want will just come to me.”

But manifesting isn’t about “getting” and “making.” It’s about being. It’s about being in the energy of love, joy and faith.

Press play below for more on the difference between manic manifesting and true manifesting…

When we align with an energy of joy, inspiration, excitement and enthusiasm, we are truly manifesting.

When you are in that space, it doesn’t matter if that specific thing you desire is with you in this moment. What matters is that you’re in the joy already. Aligning with that presence of joy now gives you the momentum to attract more of its likeness.

So how can you get back to a place of joy, let go of that need to control and start attracting what you want?

How to stop manic manifesting

I want to give you 3 steps you can start following today to stop manic manifesting and start attracting what you want.

But first I want to tell you about an awesome new workshop I’m leading that will greatly support your manifesting!

The Manifesting Jumpstart Workshop

Order Super Attractor by Gabby Bernstein and get the Manifesting Jumpstart Workshop free

When you order Super Attractor you get my Manifesting Jumpstart Workshop FREE!

In this 2-hour online workshop, I teach you spiritual tools and techniques to prepare you for the book and help you feel good!

  • You’ll learn how to stop repeating negative patterns and start attracting what you want.
  • I’ll give you step-by-step guidance to help you get ready for the powerful methods in the book.
  • And you’ll leave with practices you can start using right away.

This workshop is totally free when you order Super Attractor.

Now let’s talk about a few steps you can take today to stop manic manifesting…

Step 1: Recognize that you’re manic manifesting

The first step is to get honest about how you’re trying to control your manifestations.

It’s safe to get honest about how we manic manifest and block the flow of the Universe, because we must look at our ego in order to bring it to the light.

Tweet: When we align with an energy of joy, inspiration, excitement and enthusiasm, we are truly manifesting. @GabbyBernstein #SuperAttractor

The fact that you’re here, reading this blog post, is proof that you’re ready to let go of manic manifesting behavior and reclaim your Super Attractor power!

When you notice that you’re obsessing over an outcome or catch yourself trying to play tricks with the Universe, begin by simply witnessing your behavior without any judgment. The sooner you recognize how you’re manic manifesting, the sooner you can surrender and get back into alignment.

Step 2: Pray for the highest good

Instead of praying for an outcome, I pray for the highest good for all | Gabby Bernstein | The Universe Has Your Back card deckThe fastest way to release a needy and controlling vibe is to stop praying for what you think you need and instead pray for the highest good for all.

Whenever you pray for the highest good, you get your agenda out of the way. You surrender to the Universe’s plan and release your own.

When you’re fixated on what you think is best, you could be blocking something even greater! What you think you need is often in the way of what’s of the highest good for you.

Step 3: Focus on how you want to feel

I have a whole chapter in Super Attractor called “It’s Good to Feel Good.” That’s how important it is.

Here’s an excerpt from that chapter:

…Many of us don’t even realize that feeling bad is a decision we’ve made. We think things like, “I’ll feel good when I get clean bill of health.” Or, “I’ll feel good when I have the money in the bank.”

When we do this, we’re putting the outcome before the feeling. We have it all twisted! We think that we must live in fear in order to get something we want, which will then allow us to feel good. But the truth is that once you feel good, you start to easily attract what you desire! When we make feeling good our priority, everything else can flow.

Here’s another short clip where I explain why focusing on how you want to feel is what’s most important when manifesting:

There are a couple of easy ways to focus on how you want to feel so you can stop manic manifesting and start co-creating.

Pay attention to what’s thriving

A Spirit Junkie once asked me this question on a Facebook Live: “If I’m wishing for love to enter my life, do I need to focus on manifesting love and not on the hope that the really cute guy next door will be the one?”

I told her, “If you focus on thinking that he’s got to be the one, you’re manic manifesting. Instead, start focusing on what it feels like to be in the presence of love. One way to do that is to put your attention on the love that’s already in your life — like the love in your friendships and your family.”

When you appreciate what’s thriving in your life, you attract even more of it.

Cultivate the feeling you want through visualization

You have the power to create the world you want to see! Spend a few minutes a day visualizing what you want (and most importantly, how you want to feel). This practice is called creative visualization.

Watch this video for my guidance:

As I say in the video, being in that feeling is what truly manifests your desires into form. You start to feel what you want to create even before it you can see it.

When you start focusing on how you want to feel, you can stop manic manifesting and start allowing.

How I stopped manic manifesting and got back into alignment

Gabby Bernstein praying | Manic manifestingIn the midst of my last book tour, it became clear to me that I was badly out of alignment. My energy wasn’t supporting what I wanted.

One night I told my husband that I was done with the drama and misery. I said, “I’m getting more help and I’m clearing space to focus on my gifts.”

My words were a prayer that shifted my energy within seconds. I started focusing on how I wanted to feel, daydreaming about feeling supported and free. I elevated my energy, began effortlessly attracting and wrapped up my book tour in California feeling awesome.

This happened because I stopped manic manifesting and told the Universe I was ready to realign.

If you’re ready to realign, follow these steps. Order Super Attractor and watch your free Manifesting Jumpstart Workshop. Leave a comment below stating your new intention!

Remember: When you release your desires to the care of the Universe, you will be given much more than you could ever imagine.

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  1. There is a powerful force in the universe that is already working, but you may not be tapped into it so that it can benefit your life. The Law of Attraction tells us that we attract what we put out into the world, but you must understand and use its critical tenets if you want this principle of the universe to work for you.

  2. I so needed to read this today. Thank you! Question about the workshop….I bought Super Attractor when it was first released. I read it immediately! Love it! Do I have access to the workshop? If so where do I find it? Thank you.

  3. Hi Gabby,
    I purchased Super Attractor several months ago after seeing you on the Tamaron Hall show. I was hooked! Loved your charisma and energy as it spoke directly to me. Since I have the Audio book Super Attractor, how do I access the Manifesting jump Workshop video?
    Thank you from the bottom of my heart, for the great contribution you have made to my life.
    I love you and start each day reading your blogs and watching your video’s.

      1. Hey Gabby,
        I was given Super Attractor for my birthday and I absolutely loved it. I’ve taken so much from your words, have felt inspired, and read the morning mantras every day. Thank you so much.
        Since the book was a gift, I unfortunately don’t have the receipt. Would it still be possible to access the Manifesting Jumpstart Workshop as I’d love to do it?

  4. I really love this blog post – it is what I needed to hear right now. Thank you! I have a question about the workshop though. I bought “Super Attractor” in a store and not online. How can I access the workshop?

  5. i really want my relationship to work with a guy and we were in love(i still am and i think he is too)but because of some reasons we had to take some time apart!i pray every day that he loves me and we will be all good again and visualize the day that it happens and i’m pretty sure that he still loves me and we work this out even if right now it seems it never happens but i’m sure the universe gives me what i want and God hears me!i wanted to ask you that is what i’m doing and saying is wrong and manic manifesting?what should i do?i really just want HIM and nothing else and i’m insistent on that!sorry it’s long but appreciate ALOT if u answer❤️

  6. Thank you! This was very helpful. You have truly changed my life in many ways!
    I do feel I am manic manifesting, as I am in time crunch to get a new job. I just lost my job and have to provide for my girls.
    I wake up nervous and meditate with you and feel better. How can I just let go and trust it will all work out?
    I feel like journal, meditate, listen to to much maybe – manic manic!

    Grateful for you xo

  7. How does this work if you are a specific manifester based on human design? Obviously do not want to be manic about manifesting and write down exactly what I want but then leave it up the God/Universe to work with me to create it. How do you feel about this approach? Does it take away from surrender?

    1. It’s important to get clear and communicate your dreams and desires to the Universe. And with that clarity, fully surrendering the outcome, meaning that you’re open to the greatest possible outcome. While you leave the details up to the Universe, it’s vital that you continue to take aligned action to move towards your desires. When taking aligned action and trusting the Universe, you’ll move forward in flow.

  8. What do we have to do if we already manifested on something very specific, like « I want my relationship with this guy to work ». Do we tell the Universe we wanat to take it back, do we manifest again on something more based on the feeling, do we just let it go like this and hope for the best? ahah…

    1. Stephanie, it can be very difficult to let go of our need to control and to trust in the Universe. When you ask for guidance and pray for the highest good, the Universe gets to work. What unfolds for you may not be what you expected or thought you wanted, but it will ultimately be even better. I recommend starting a daily surrender practice, because surrender is not a one-time event. This post may serve you:

  9. Question: How do we hope for something specific that we want (and it was confirmed to me spiritually that it will happen), yet not be attached to the outcome? It sounds like opposing ideas, and I’m struggling most with understanding that.

    1. It’s tough. I know it is. I really really understand this one. And I believe it is often a moment to moment gig, releasing the outcome. The more relaxed we are around a desire, the more receptive we are. Our energy is aligned and we’re magnetic. It can be hard to accept that you may not receive exactly what you envisioned (although you may), but you can trust that you WILL receive what is of the highest good. I suggest leaning on a simple prayer or affirmation to release the desire as best you can. I say something like, “Universe, I’m turning this desire over to you. I ask for the highest good, and I’m stepping back and letting you lead the way.” Use it all the time. And put your focus on FEELING GOOD more than achieving any one particular outcome. Feel good right now, no matter what. xo

  10. Hi Gabby,

    Thank you for this video. My question is: Is it better to just focus on manifesting the way we want to feel (eg abundant, safe, loved, etc) rather than on any specifics at all? Is focusing on specifics in any way necessary or helpful?

    Thank you! xo

    1. Hi Amma! It’s great to get clear on what you want to manifest. I especially love journaling on my dreams. And once you have that clarity, leave it up to the Universe and release any attachment to those details. Try meditating or praying, which will help you to let go and trust that your dreams will show up in ways that you may have never imagined. <3

  11. Gabby. I cannot tell you how much joy I am feeling, genuine joy which is coming naturally. Overcoming cancer this year & losing 33lbs since May, if I take my off the ball then the universe let’s me know about it. Be, Do, Have. Thank you for being my guru in your guidance & love . I’m Alive . When you coming to the UK

  12. Gabby, reading over manic manifesting and I find it rather interesting. I recently discovered while listening to a podcast on “How To Manifest Your Desires”. I had never heard of this practice and had no idea it even existed. The one thing I had heard over and over is you needed to be specific on saying what you wanted. If you wanted someone new in your life then say what color hair, what you wanted from them etc. I am looking for employment and I was to write down my exact criteria and it would happen. Well can I just say it hasn’t appeared as of yet. Yes I am trying to keep positive and open minded even though those fear based negative thoughts pop up. I like your way of thinking and will try to have a more open mind to what the universe is sending instead. thanks

    1. Thanks for sharing here Laura! It’s great to get clarity on what you want and even journal about it and pray on it. And then, surrender your desires to the Universe, trusting that it will manifest in perfect timing. Things often show up in ways we could never imagine! <3

  13. Hi Gabby,
    When you talked about praying for the Highest good for all, and not focusing on an outcome, it sounded right. but just after that, you teach to visualize the specific outcome you want to get.
    How does it go together ?
    Thank you

    1. Hi Hadas! It’s great to have clarity on what you want, envision it, even write about it. And then, release that vision to the Universe, trusting that your desire will be taken care of, in a way that is for the greatest good of all. It often comes alive in ways that we could never imagine.

  14. This made me clear I manic manifest. I am so specific and detailed and it’s not happening the way ‘I want it to.’ It is time to pray for the highest good and Surrender to the Universe’s plan. Looking forward to your workshop next week and the book! Thank you!

  15. Gabby, sometimes though it is hard to be in the joy while feeling fearful, not loved, not lovable. Clearing that is the first step it seems, before we can even visualise the joy, hope and the love that is around us. So many of us are steeped in the negative, the old inherited patterns from childhood, and /or actual difficulties in our lives. Feeling the love is not possible until we accept that we are in a state of fear – and we sometimes need quite a while to process the letting go of fear. THEN we can start to find the positive, even if it’s just the faintest glimmer of the positive, that we are deserving rather than undeserving.

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