[Sept. 26 update] I just published my new book, Super Attractor, and I’m so excited. I feel really good about it.
I’m especially grateful because this wasn’t the case with my last book launch.
In late 2017, I was getting ready to publish my book Judgment Detox.
Writing this book had been a beautiful and transformational experience. But when it came time to launch it, I let myself get really stressed out.
I became overwhelmed with fear. I felt like there were so many factors out of my control, and I felt pressured to perform.
I got so caught up in my fear that I tried to control everything in order to feel safe. An old story of mine started playing in my mind on a loop: “If I don’t do it, no one else will.” I wouldn’t let anyone support me. Not my team, not my friends and not the Universe.
Instead, I tried to force the Universe to give me the results I wanted. But my energy was so chaotic and fearful that I unconsciously repelled my desires.
I was seriously out of alignment with my Super Attractor power. I wasn’t co-creating my reality… I was manic manifesting.
What is manic manifesting?
Manic manifesting happens when we try to control our manifestations. It’s very common, because we all get hung up on outcomes. We all want things to go a certain way.
People often say to me, “I’m doing everything right, but nothing is working. I pray, I meditate, I use affirmations, I journal, but I’m still not attracting what I want. What am I doing wrong?”
More than anything, our energy is what attracts.
Here’s the thing: We can have all the spiritual tools in the world, but if we don’t tune in to the Universe, we can’t receive.
When we try to control or manipulate our manifestations, our energy becomes frantic and needy. This is a very low-vibration energy that simply doesn’t match the high, loving vibration of the Universe. Our energy attracts its likeness, so in this low-vibe state you’re a magnet for more low-vibe situations and experiences.
We manifest when we align with an energy of joy
Those of us on a spiritual path can sometimes think, “If I meditate enough, pray enough, talk about what I want enough, create a vision board, if I do enough spiritual work, then anything I want will just come to me.”
But manifesting isn’t about “getting” and “making.” It’s about being. It’s about being in the energy of love, joy and faith.
Press play below for more on the difference between manic manifesting and true manifesting…
When we align with an energy of joy, inspiration, excitement and enthusiasm, we are truly manifesting.
When you are in that space, it doesn’t matter if that specific thing you desire is with you in this moment. What matters is that you’re in the joy already. Aligning with that presence of joy now gives you the momentum to attract more of its likeness.
So how can you get back to a place of joy, let go of that need to control and start attracting what you want?
How to stop manic manifesting
I want to give you 3 steps you can start following today to stop manic manifesting and start attracting what you want.
But first I want to tell you about an awesome new workshop I’m leading that will greatly support your manifesting!
The Manifesting Jumpstart Workshop
When you order Super Attractor you get my Manifesting Jumpstart Workshop FREE!
In this 2-hour online workshop, I teach you spiritual tools and techniques to prepare you for the book and help you feel good!
- You’ll learn how to stop repeating negative patterns and start attracting what you want.
- I’ll give you step-by-step guidance to help you get ready for the powerful methods in the book.
- And you’ll leave with practices you can start using right away.
This workshop is totally free when you order Super Attractor.
Now let’s talk about a few steps you can take today to stop manic manifesting…
Step 1: Recognize that you’re manic manifesting
The first step is to get honest about how you’re trying to control your manifestations.
It’s safe to get honest about how we manic manifest and block the flow of the Universe, because we must look at our ego in order to bring it to the light.
The fact that you’re here, reading this blog post, is proof that you’re ready to let go of manic manifesting behavior and reclaim your Super Attractor power!
When you notice that you’re obsessing over an outcome or catch yourself trying to play tricks with the Universe, begin by simply witnessing your behavior without any judgment. The sooner you recognize how you’re manic manifesting, the sooner you can surrender and get back into alignment.
Step 2: Pray for the highest good
The fastest way to release a needy and controlling vibe is to stop praying for what you think you need and instead pray for the highest good for all.
Whenever you pray for the highest good, you get your agenda out of the way. You surrender to the Universe’s plan and release your own.
When you’re fixated on what you think is best, you could be blocking something even greater! What you think you need is often in the way of what’s of the highest good for you.
Step 3: Focus on how you want to feel
I have a whole chapter in Super Attractor called “It’s Good to Feel Good.” That’s how important it is.
Here’s an excerpt from that chapter:
…Many of us don’t even realize that feeling bad is a decision we’ve made. We think things like, “I’ll feel good when I get clean bill of health.” Or, “I’ll feel good when I have the money in the bank.”
When we do this, we’re putting the outcome before the feeling. We have it all twisted! We think that we must live in fear in order to get something we want, which will then allow us to feel good. But the truth is that once you feel good, you start to easily attract what you desire! When we make feeling good our priority, everything else can flow.
Here’s another short clip where I explain why focusing on how you want to feel is what’s most important when manifesting:
There are a couple of easy ways to focus on how you want to feel so you can stop manic manifesting and start co-creating.
Pay attention to what’s thriving
A Spirit Junkie once asked me this question on a Facebook Live: “If I’m wishing for love to enter my life, do I need to focus on manifesting love and not on the hope that the really cute guy next door will be the one?”
I told her, “If you focus on thinking that he’s got to be the one, you’re manic manifesting. Instead, start focusing on what it feels like to be in the presence of love. One way to do that is to put your attention on the love that’s already in your life — like the love in your friendships and your family.”
When you appreciate what’s thriving in your life, you attract even more of it.
Cultivate the feeling you want through visualization
You have the power to create the world you want to see! Spend a few minutes a day visualizing what you want (and most importantly, how you want to feel). This practice is called creative visualization.
Watch this video for my guidance:
As I say in the video, being in that feeling is what truly manifests your desires into form. You start to feel what you want to create even before it you can see it.
When you start focusing on how you want to feel, you can stop manic manifesting and start allowing.
How I stopped manic manifesting and got back into alignment
In the midst of my last book tour, it became clear to me that I was badly out of alignment. My energy wasn’t supporting what I wanted.
One night I told my husband that I was done with the drama and misery. I said, “I’m getting more help and I’m clearing space to focus on my gifts.”
My words were a prayer that shifted my energy within seconds. I started focusing on how I wanted to feel, daydreaming about feeling supported and free. I elevated my energy, began effortlessly attracting and wrapped up my book tour in California feeling awesome.
This happened because I stopped manic manifesting and told the Universe I was ready to realign.
If you’re ready to realign, follow these steps. Order Super Attractor and watch your free Manifesting Jumpstart Workshop. Leave a comment below stating your new intention!
Remember: When you release your desires to the care of the Universe, you will be given much more than you could ever imagine.