Tell me if this sounds like you?
“I’ve made lists. I’ve built the vision board. I’m praying and journaling. I’ve said it a thousand times, I told all my friends. I’m doing everything right, but it’s STILL NOT HAPPENING! What am I doing wrong?”
Believe me, you’re not alone. I’ve been there.
In late 2017, I was getting ready to publish my book Judgment Detox. Writing this book had been a beautiful and transformational experience. But when it came time to launch it, I let myself get really stressed out.
I became overwhelmed with fear. I felt like there were so many factors out of my control, and I felt pressured to perform.
I got so caught up in my fear that I tried to control everything in order to feel safe. An old story of mine started playing in my mind on a loop: “If I don’t do it, no one else will.” I wouldn’t let anyone support me. Not my team, not my friends and not the Universe.
Instead, I tried to force the Universe to give me the results I wanted. But my energy was so chaotic and fearful that I unconsciously repelled my desires.
I was seriously out of alignment with my Super Attractor power. I wasn’t co-creating my reality…
I was manic manifesting.
What Is Manic Manifesting?
Check out this video to see how Manic Manifesting unfolds:
Manic manifesting happens when we try to control our manifestations. It’s very common, because we all get hung up on outcomes. We all want things to go a certain way.
Here’s the thing: We can have all the spiritual tools in the world, but if we don’t tune in to the Universe, we can’t receive what we desire.
When we try to control or manipulate our manifestations, our energy becomes frantic and needy. This is a very low-vibration energy that simply doesn’t match the high, loving vibration of the Universe. Our energy attracts its likeness, so in this low-vibe state you’re a magnet for more low-vibe situations and experiences.
Look, there’s nothing wrong with being clear. But, it’s not about having a perfect vision board or the most amazing list. You can do all that work, spend a lot of time with the list and talking about what you want, but you forget to assume the energy of what it feels like to be in that manifestation.
So whether you want a new relationship, more money, a better attitude, a more solid relationship to your family, there is a way to stop manic manifesting and experience a quantum shift. To do that you must commit to see things differently.
The moment you decide to feel better, you’re going to think better and have a better life.
Do you want to know the secret to manifesting? Manifesting isn’t about getting; it’s about allowing. As soon as you let go of control you become a magnet for what you desire. Listen to this episode of Dear Gabby and I’ll help you stop controlling and start manifesting. You’ll no longer feel stuck, blocked or powerless. Instead, you’ll harness the creative forces within you and take powerful actions to become a Super Attractor.
We manifest when we align with an energy of joy
Those of us on a spiritual path can sometimes think, “If I meditate enough, pray enough, talk about what I want enough, create a vision board, if I do enough spiritual work, then anything I want will just come to me.”
Sorry folks, manifesting isn’t about “getting” and “making.” It’s about being. It’s about being in the energy of love, joy and faith.
When we align with an energy of joy, inspiration, excitement and enthusiasm, we are truly manifesting. Aligning with that presence of joy now gives you the momentum to attract more of its likeness.
So how can you get back to a place of joy, let go of that need to control and start attracting what you want?
How To Stop Manic Manifesting
I want to give you 3 steps you can start following today to stop manic manifesting and start attracting what you want.
Step 1: Recognize that you’re manic manifesting
The first step is to get honest about how you’re trying to control your manifestations.
When you notice that you’re obsessing over an outcome or catch yourself trying to play tricks with the Universe, begin by simply witnessing your behavior without any judgment.
The sooner you recognize how you’re manic manifesting, the sooner you can surrender and get back into alignment.
Step 2: Pray for the highest good
The fastest way to release a needy and controlling vibe is to stop praying for what you think you need and instead pray for the highest good for all.
Whenever you pray for the highest good, you get your agenda out of the way. You surrender to the Universe’s plan and release your own.
When you’re fixated on what you think is best, you could be blocking something even greater! What you think you need is often in the way of what’s of the highest good for you.
Step 3: Focus on how you want to feel
I have a whole chapter in Super Attractor called “It’s Good to Feel Good.” That’s how important this step is.
Here’s an excerpt from that chapter:
…Many of us don’t even realize that feeling bad is a decision we’ve made. We think things like, “I’ll feel good when I get clean bill of health.” Or, “I’ll feel good when I have the money in the bank.”
When we do this, we’re putting the outcome before the feeling. We have it all twisted! We think that we must live in fear in order to get something we want, which will then allow us to feel good. But the truth is that once you feel good, you start to easily attract what you desire! When we make feeling good our priority, everything else can flow.
There are a couple of easy ways to focus on how you want to feel so you can stop manic manifesting and start co-creating.
Step 4: Get Prepared: Join My Manifesting Challenge!
Do you have rituals to prepare for the New Year (or any fresh start)? I take this VERY seriously. Days before the New Year I always practice this ritual.
It’s a great practice that sets you up for powerful manifesting. All you need are a piece of paper, a pen or pencil, and a match.
On New Year’s Eve, write down what you want to manifest in 2022. You can keep it simple or be very detailed in your description. What matters is that your desire makes you feel good! When you finish writing down your desire, fold it up and place it in a safe place until midnight. (This could be your back pocket, a dresser drawer, or a decorative box.)
When the clock strikes 12, stand over a sink and safely burn the piece of paper with your desire written on it. Burning the desire shows that you trust it’s being taken care of. Surrender your desire once and for all and know that your request is being heard. You can also bury your desire outside, as long as the ground isn’t frozen! Just use a garden spade or shovel to dig a small hole and surrender your desire under a sliver of moonlight.
And here’s the next step …
On the morning of January 1st, start the New Year with a clear plan for how to manifest your desire!
I’m leading a 21-Day Manifesting Challenge starting 1/1/22 to give you the exact daily steps to manifest far more than you could ever imagine.
This 21-day plan is designed to put you into an energy of alignment so that you can have fun along the way to what you desire.
Let me be your manifesting coach this New Year.
PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT’S THRIVING
A Miracle Member once asked me this question on a Facebook Live: “If I’m wishing for love to enter my life, do I need to focus on manifesting love and not on the hope that the really cute guy next door will be the one?”
I told her, “If you focus on thinking that he’s got to be the one, you’re manic manifesting. Instead, start focusing on what it feels like to be in the presence of love. One way to do that is to put your attention on the love that’s already in your life — like the love in your friendships and your family.”
When you appreciate what’s thriving in your life, you attract even more of it.
CULTIVATE THE FEELING YOU WANT THROUGH VISUALIZATION
You have the power to create the world you want to see! Spend a few minutes a day visualizing what you want (and most importantly, how you want to feel). This practice is called creative visualization.
Watch this video for my guidance:
As I say in the video, being in that feeling is what truly manifests your desires into form. You start to feel what you want to create even before it you can see it.
When you start focusing on how you want to feel, you can stop manic manifesting and start allowing.
How I stopped manic manifesting and got back into alignment
In the midst of my last book tour, it became clear to me that I was badly out of alignment. My energy wasn’t supporting what I wanted.
One night I told my husband that I was done with the drama and misery. I said, “I’m getting more help and I’m clearing space to focus on my gifts.”
My words were a prayer that shifted my energy within seconds. I started focusing on how I wanted to feel, daydreaming about feeling supported and free. I elevated my energy, began effortlessly attracting and wrapped up my book tour in California feeling awesome.
This happened because I stopped manic manifesting and told the Universe I was ready to realign.
Remember: When you release your desires to the care of the Universe, you will be given much more than you could ever imagine.