The Do’s and Don’ts of Manifesting

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IG Stories poll: Have you ever felt confused about how to manifest? | What is manifestingThe Spirit Junkie community recently opened my eyes to something.

I kept getting messages from people on Facebook and Instagram asking about manifesting and saying they weren’t sure they were doing it right.

So I ran a poll on my IG Stories that said, “Have you ever felt confused about how to manifest?”

I was shocked to see that 96% of people said yes!

I felt called to clear things up, so in this post I’m sharing 3 do’s and don’ts of manifesting.

What is manifesting?

Manifesting is cultivating the experience of what it is that you want to feel — and then living and believing in that experience so that you can allow it to come into form.

Gabby Bernstein smiling and laughing | What is manifestingYou can practice manifesting to attract whatever you want, whether that’s a successful business, good health, a relationship or even a material object.

Sometimes we manifest things far beyond our wildest dreams. So when manifesting, it’s important to stay open to possibilities that are beyond what you think you need. When you align with the loving energy of the Universe, there are no limits to what you can attract.

Manifesting is the process of vibrating at a high frequency so that you become a vibrational match with the Universe and can co-create your world.

The do’s and don’ts of manifesting

Let’s break it down more. Keep reading to discover 3 big do’s and don’ts of manifesting. Follow them and you will truly co-create with the Universe!

Don’t: Expect exactly what you want to just drop in your lap

This may be the biggest manifesting misconception around. There’s this idea that all you have to do is make a vision board and write a thousand affirmations in your journal… and then the exact thing you desire will magically appear before you.

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Vision boards and affirmations are great because they offer clarity. I love both of them! But we can get caught up in thinking that we know what’s best. We get very attached to a specific outcome or want things to happen on a particular timeline.

When we do this, we cut off Universal guidance and shift into manic manifesting.

Do: Trust that the Universe has a plan better than yours

Manifesting isn’t about having complete control or satisfying all our short-term desires. True manifesting isn’t even about getting what we think we want. It’s about receiving what is of the highest good for all.

You will have experiences in which you’ll attract exactly what you want. But controlling outcomes to get just what you want isn’t the goal. Remember, your plan isn’t always the best plan.

For example, if all your meditations and affirmations are around landing a promotion at work, you might completely block a way better opportunity at a different company!

In this video I share about how I surrendered to a greater plan when it came to having a child…

There is a plan greater than yours. When you surrender to the art of manifesting you can trust that spirit is guiding you toward your desires — and much more.

A prayer to let go and trust

Here’s a short prayer from my new book, Super Attractor, that will help you surrender your desires and practice patience:

“Thank you, Universe and guides of the highest truth and compassion. I am ready to feel free. I welcome a newfound faith.”

Say the prayer out loud and take a moment to settle into the feelings of what it means to surrender to faith in the Universe.

If you feel some resistance, honor it and then return to this prayer. You can say it as often as you want. It’s a request for guidance. You’re turning over your plans and clearing space for the energy of the Universe to support you in ways you can’t imagine.

Don’t: Try to “make it happen”

Trying to control and force things to happen is a deeply ingrained habit for many of us.

If you’re on a spiritual path, you may have done some beautiful work to release this pattern. But the ego’s need to control is sneaky, and we can fall back into this pattern without realizing it.

Even if you don’t really identify as a control freak (and I’ll be honest: I do), there are some subtle ways that we try to control. If you:

  • Sweat the small stuff,
  • Ask a ton of people for their opinions before doing something, or
  • Avoid dealing with things…

…Then it’s likely you’re secretly trying to control your life.

Remember, the Universe has a plan far better than our own. You can stop controlling and start receiving by tapping into that guidance.

Do: Practice the Spiritually Aligned Action Method

Manifesting is also known as co-creating because it’s a collaboration between you and the Universe. In Super Attractor, I teach a method that I intuitively developed and applied in my own life. It’s called the Spiritually Aligned Action Method.

When we take spiritually aligned action, we can trust that an energy beyond our own is working on our behalf and that everything is working out for us — even if we don’t know exactly when or how it will happen.

I want to give you a sneak peek at this method now…

Step 1 of the Spiritually Aligned Action Method

Oneness is my true nature | Gabby Bernstein | The Universe Has Your Back card deck | What is manifestingPracticing step 1 on its own is a game changer. Try this practice to get ready for the full method in Super Attractor!

Step 1 is to make sure your desire is backed with inspiration and service.

When the desire you’re manifesting is aligned with service and inspiration, it’s invincible.

You might be thinking, “How do I know if my desire is backed with service and inspiration?”

Or, “What if what I want isn’t about changing the world? What if I want to find love or get out of debt? How is that of service to others?”

If your desire brings you sincere joy, then it’s backed with inspiration! And as long as you surrender to the highest good for all, spirit will support it.

However, you also need to understand why you want something and what energy is behind it. If you want a new job so your family will approve of you, or if you want a relationship because you feel incomplete on your own, then your desire is likely backed with neediness and fear.

Here’s how to clear up the energy behind your desire: Ask yourself, “Does this desire make me feel inspired and serve others?”

Open your journal and write about how your desire lights you up inside. Write about how your inspiration and positive energy serves others. When you align your energy with service and inspiration, you can trust that it will propel your vision forward.

Finally, let yourself cultivate the feelings of joy, inspiration and great contribution. Give yourself permission to celebrate your desires!

In this video I share more about what it means to take spiritually aligned action:

Don’t: Save your manifesting practices for one special time and place

Many folks think of manifesting as something they do only while in their Zen den, on their meditation pillow, with every crystal lined up and candle lit. They spend some amount of time in that space meditating, journaling and doing whatever else helps them get aligned, feel good and connect to spirit.

…And then they get up, go about their day and leave their spiritual practices behind.

When you compartmentalize your spiritual practices like this, you’re cutting off the flow of inspiration.

Inspiration isn’t something we can feel only on a retreat, in a yoga class or at a religious service. We do ourselves a great disservice when we put it in a box and keep it separate from the rest of our life.

Do: Make manifesting part of your daily life

Manifesting is something we do continuously. In fact, we’re always manifesting and attracting — it’s just that we usually do it unconsciously.

Instead of saving your manifesting practices for “special” places and times, infuse them into your daily life.

  • Commit to meditating every morning, even if that means sitting in stillness for a couple of minutes and tuning in with your breath.
  • Turn to prayer when you want support or guidance.
  • Play the Appreciation Game!
  • Stay aware of your finances to help attract abundance.
  • And when you do get into your Zen den, be sure cultivate the feeling you want!

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Manifesting is an art

If you’ve had any confusion around manifesting, I hope these do’s and don’ts have helped clarify things for you.

I want to wrap up this post with a short excerpt from Super Attractor about what manifesting truly is…

Manifesting is the creative process of aligning with the energy of the Universe to co-create an experience that elevates your spirit and the spirit of the world. Manifesting isn’t about getting; it’s about becoming. The more you let go, the more you become a match for what you desire.

I hope this serves you.

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  1. Hi, my name is Ashley. I’m new to manifesting. I’ve been Feeling great about everything I script, but I have 2 questions. 1) Can I manifest about the same thing more than once everyday? Can I manifest by scripting and 5×55 method at once the same day, or is one method good at a time ?

    1. Great question, Ashley. It’s not the frequency of your manifestation practice, but the energy behind it. If you are manifesting several times a day due to lack mentality and trying to control the outcome, then that is out of alignment with surrender and faith. If you are manifesting several times a day from a place of joy and faith, then there is no reason to limit your practice. Here is a blog post that will help you check in with yourself:

  2. Hi gabby! I started manifesting some days ago, and I have a huge doubt, is it wrong if I skip manifesting (scripting) one day? Or just because I’m not feeling my best and I don’t want to manifest more of my current bad mood…

  3. hi gabby! Im new to manifestation so I have some questions. what is the best day and time of day to manifest? does there have to be an astrological event happening? Also can I manifest multiple things at once and do I manifest the same thing multiple times?

  4. hi gabby I’m still new to manifestation, but I just had a question… I have been wanting a new phone specifically an iPhone eleven. I’ve been writing on paper about this phone as if I have it already and the advantages that this phone can give me, how I will feel when I have it, etc. my question is, does asking for the phone to someone ”blocks” the possibility or not?

      1. Hi Gabby! I am new to manifestation… I want to move to the USA within a year(due to personal reasons) but my parents don’t want to because they don’t have enough money for that…i am keeping a hope with me that I will shift to USA soon what do u think will this come true???

  5. If what comes up during manifestation is not what we expected and we got to accept it , does that mean our life eventually comes down to fate/destiny ?

    1. Great question, Asha. When life doesn’t unfold in the way that we expect, it’s a beautiful reminder that the universe is at work. Here are some additional posts and practices that you might find helpful:

  6. I really appreciate this website! And I was hoping you can write me back . I want to manifest in love, but from a certain person. I know love should come naturally but this is a bond that I feel is good for me , so I would like to manifest in it, any advice?

    1. Great question, Marie! If you haven’t read Gabby’s book, Super Attractor, I think you would find it helpful. Here are some additional tools and practices to help you ask for your desires and surrender the outcome:

    1. Alexandra, Gabby says that “the #1 Key to Manifesting is feeling is to cultivate the energy of what you want to experience.” You can certainly practice the various manifesting techniques daily. But, you may want to check in and make sure that you’re not manic manifesting. Here are some additional posts and practices to help you manifest your desires and surrender the outcome:

  7. Say if you were manifesting for something really big and you wanna stay really committed to it so you mostly meditate and ask for that one single thing every day, will that affect anything? Am I meant to manifest that thing and let it go and let is just happen or am I meant to manifest that specific thing everyday??

  8. Hi Gabby. I would like to be the Head Girl of my school. I’ve been praying, thinking about the changes I’d make in my school, and researching about the position. I’ve even written this particular goal down on paper, and spoken it into existence I believe that I can and will get the position because my grades are great, i participate in school events and I have a good relationship with my teachers and principal. people have been telling me that they want me to be head girl but I never make it obvious to them that that’s my goal. I think the universe is listening by letting other people encourage me to run for the position. Also, i’ve faced many struggles with teachers this year (the devil used them to attack me spiritually and mentally) i think this is a sign that God has something big in store for me)

    Do you have any opinion on this?

  9. Hi Gabby. Myself and my husband and children are just about to put our house up for sale and hoping to buy another house that’s close to our children,s schools and their friends . We were told by our bank that moving the mortgage over when we buy a another home would not be an issue and also lending us more money for a more expensive house. Just this week the bank has come back and said they might have to lend a lower amount of money because my husband had a small temporary pay cut. This has kind of dampened our spirits a little as we were all super excited about moving. Is this the universe telling is now is not the right time! Any advice would be greatly appreciated . Sarah

  10. When manifesting can I type it up instead of writing it down ? And is it to much to be asking for riches and fame ?

  11. hi gabby, i just have a question. could i manifest a specific person into liking me? and if i can then should i even do it? i really like this boy so much but i don’t think he likes me back. we’re each others best friends! but, i just know he doesn’t like me back. but do you have any tips on how to get him to like me back? thanks xoxo

    1. Nothing is “too big” to manifest, Ella, but remember that the universe only delivers what will be the highest good for all. This is why it is important to be specific about what you ask for and then surrender the outcome, trusting that the universe knows best. Here are some practices to help you do that:

  12. Gabby, What are your recommendations when talking to people that feel focusing on the Universe Power takes away from their belief in God?

  13. Hi Gabby, Can I manifest more that one desire at a time, for example, try to manifest my dream university this week then the next week try to manifest my dream career then the week after that back to my dream uni, then my dream career and so on?
    or shall I try manifest what’s gonna come first in my life?
    And shall I just try to manifest the result, for example for my dream uni I need to get good grades in my test which is in 2 years year, then my 2nd test which is in 4 years then if I get good in that I can go to my dream uni? So do I first try manifesting getting good grades on my first test, then after that ill try manifesting getting good on my second test,then finally my dream uni. Or shall I just try manifest my Dream uni?

    1. Great question, Kavya. We are all manifesting several things at one time. For example, we can manifest on a daily basis as well as hold space for our long term goals. Here are some additional posts and practices that you might find helpful:

  14. Hi Gabby. I want to manifest a person into my life that if never met. He has no idea I exist. Can I do this, or is it to big?

    1. Hi Gabby, I manifest, meditate and say affirmations every morning and night but is there such thing as manifesting too much? For example, I manifest clear skin one night and then the next I manifest a job opportunity. Should I limit my manifestations to one thing until I revive them or keep going with more than one manifestation at a time?

  15. Hi Gabby! I was just wondering about the law of attraction and short and long term goals. Say for instance I have a few really ambitious goals which could all be achieved should one possess the right amount of money. So in order to do that one would need to perhaps open a small business, invest the money in real estate and so on in order to generate sufficient wealth to be able to set about working on the the ambitious goals. Is it better to focus manifesting a short term goal such as opening a small business, but keep long term goals in mind. Once the short term goal has been reached then start working on the long term goal? Or is it better to simply focus on the long term goal because the universe will align and place certain opportunities to be able to achieve the long term goal. Such as the opportunity to open a small business, which will then generate enough income to be able to open the ambitious passion business? Secondly what if there were multiple ambitious long term goals. Should one focus manifesting all of them, or the key goals which will allow for the other goals to come to fruition. I would really appreciate your thoughts on this! I’m sure a lot of people may be wondering about this too! Thank you so much!

    1. It sounds like your desire is to manifest abundance, Eric. If this is correct, there is no need to complicate it by deciding what it is going to look like or how you are going to get it. Simply focus multiplying and increasing your faith and desire. Here are some ways to do that:

  16. hey!
    this was a good read but i always get quite nervous about things like this, is it dangerous? if i manifest can it be dangerous?if so how can i ensure that i do it safely. i’m just really nervous haha. thank you!

    1. Great question, Amelie. The best way to begin a new manifestation practice is to recite a prayer. One Gabby commonly says is, Thank you, guides of the highest truth and compassion, for revealing to me what I need to know.” By doing this, you are being intentional about the energy and experiences that you are inviting in your life. Here are some additional practices:

  17. Hi Gabby, is it ok to share what I want to manifest with friends and even have a manifestation activities with them? I’m thinking of having one with my friends so we will have motivation and collective energy to manifest what we want.

    Or is it better to do it alone?

    Thank you 🙂

    1. You can absolutely manifest with your friends, Julienne! Having a group of supportive friends can help inspire and support you! Enjoy! xoxo

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