I updated this post in December 2018 for clarity and additional resources.
Have you got a case of the “When I haves”? The “When I haves” are the tripped up mentality that “When I have that job, or when I have that relationship, or when I have that money, then I’ll be happy.”
You’re right where you need to be
Future-tripping leads your mind to control, manipulate and over-think. In addition, you’ll be led to thoughts like, “When will I get there?” and “Why am I not there yet?” This obsession with future outcomes will always lead to discomfort.
You’ve turned that future outcome into an idol. You’ve placed the outcome on a pedestal
proclaiming that “I can’t be happy until I have this thing.”
Or even worse, you tell yourself that because you don’t have it now, your life totally sucks and you’ll never be happy.
If you have a case of the “When I haves,” then this blog post is for you. I’m sharing three steps you can take to overcome this negative mindset!
3 steps to overcoming the “When I haves”
Step 1: Take the focus off yourself
By choosing to shift your focus from a woe-is-me mentality to a service mentality, you’re immediately blasted into another dimension. You’ll be brought back to your true reason for being on this planet: to give love and receive love.
By repositioning your focus off yourself you’ll quickly feel a sense of relief. You’ll feel calmer and begin to release your obsession with the future. Most importantly you’ll get out of your own way and be of service to someone else. You’ll see that this idea that “I can’t be happy until…” simply is not true.
Step 2: Remember you’re exactly where you need to be
Embrace the concept that you are right where you need to be. Think about it. Can you remember a time in your life where you thought you’d never survive the situation you were in? In retrospect, can you now find some serenity in that past situation?
You may now understand that you wouldn’t be where you are today without the difficult past circumstance. Use these past examples as an impetus to begin accepting your current life circumstances as learning opportunities for the future.
Have faith that a plan greater than yours will guide you to serenity.
Step 3: Stop thinking and start connecting
This connection I speak of is a connection to the energy of the Universe. The Universe is a constant flow of energy, always creating, always supporting and always attracting. The same energy that makes the planets revolve around the sun also lives inside you.
This energy is vibrating through you at all times. When you’re vibrating with fear, you’re attracting more fearful outcomes to you because they mach your low-level vibration. But when you’re vibrating from a place of faith, you’re guided to outcomes that are in alignment with the calm state that faith provides.
We co-create through daily prayer and meditation
The way to positively co-create with this Universal energy is through daily prayer and meditation. A daily practice of prayer and meditation will help calm your thoughts and bring you into the present moment.
By calming your mind you calm your energy. Therefore, you end up in a much better state for attracting better outcomes. This is what is called co-creating with Universal energy.
Instead of thinking you can’t be happy until you have certain things in place, you’ll make feeling good your priority and attract everything you need!
Your practice of daily prayer and meditation will rev up your positive energy and tone down your fear. Begin your prayers with one of my favorites from A Course in Miracles:
Where would you have me go? What would you have me do? What would you have me say, and to whom?
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Ready to release your “When I haves”?
If you’re ready to release your “When I haves” and surrender to “I’m right where I need to be,” then test-drive the above suggestions for the next 30 days! As a result you will feel empowered by a sense of connectedness to the Universe and you’ll experience release.
Faith will become something that you understand on a gut level. If you do your part to make positive perceptual shifts, you can expect miracles.
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