Judgment Detox is out! I’m so excited for you to open the cover and start this beautiful six-step process.
Today I want to give you a sneak peek of Step 1 of the Judgment Detox: Witness Your Judgment Without Judgment.
But before we dive into how to heal judgment, let’s talk a little about why we need to heal judgment.
I believe that judgment is at the root of all our problems, from the pettiest disagreements to the most catastrophic world events. Our belief that we are separate from one another leads to gossip and bullying as well as deep divisions and violent hate. Healing judgment is extremely urgent right now. I created a video that shows just how pervasive it is and the harm it causes.
Watch this video and then keep reading…
As you can see, judgment is no small matter. The world is desperately in need of lightworkers and healers. Furthermore, healing your own judgment doesn’t just help you. It creates a ripple effect that will be felt by everyone you come into contact with. It will radiate energetically far beyond what you can imagine!
So, first things first. I want to be super clear about Step 1.
Witnessing your judgment is a brave and sacred act of love
This step is not called “Witness Your Judgment.” It’s called “Witness Your Judgment Without Judgment.”
That difference is critical. Witnessing your judgment is a brave and sacred act of love. I want you to remember that, because witnessing your judgment can make you want to judge yourself for judging. Doing this only gets you further tangled up in the judgment cycle. Instead, I want you to understand a few things:
- We all judge. That’s why I wrote this book. I judge every day! We all judge. Accept that you judge. Accept that we all judge. You will come to understand why we do it.
- You don’t need to get rid of judgment altogether. First, there are some judgments we need (I go more into this in the book). Second, you can’t control every thought that comes into your mind. You’re not some perfectly enlightened being. You are human! The goal is not to never judge — the goal is to witness judgment, forgive the thought, release it and choose again. Eventually this will become second nature!
- Witnessing is the first step toward healing any kind of behavior or negative pattern. It takes courage. I applaud you for having that courage. If you weren’t willing to heal your judgment, you wouldn’t be reading this right now.
- Being brave enough to witness your judgment without judgment is liberating! You will feel an incredible sense of freedom from Step 1 alone. For a long time you’ve been denying and rationalizing your judgment and feeling guilty, consciously or unconsciously. That guilt is about to transform into clarity and relief.
In Step 1 you will take an inventory of your judgments. When we take an honest inventory of the ways we judge, we can become aware of the root cause of all our suffering: our separation from love. At our core we are loving, kind, whole, healthy and compassionate people. But over the course of our lives we’ve separated from that love and wholeness. We’ve become fragmented beings with dark, scary parts.
In many cases judgment has been our greatest defense mechanism. We have used it to defend against our vulnerability. We’ve built up a wall against the presence of love and grown to rely on judgment as our protector in a world full of fear and trauma.
We put enormous effort into hiding our vulnerability, but it’s our vulnerability that truly heals us. When we feel safe enough to expose our shadows, that’s when we become free. We don’t have to protect our shadows any longer. We can begin to dismantle the wall that separates us from real, authentic, fearless love.
By witnessing our judgment we take down the first brick in the wall and peek at what’s behind it. We can see our shame, fear and feelings of separation. Uncovering our true feelings helps us understand our triggers and honor our wounds so that we can work through them.
When we witness our judgment, we accept that it was merely a defense against our wounds.
Today you can prepare yourself with a 2-step exercise that will lay a foundation for the work you’ll do in the book. You can do these steps throughout the day. They will help you become aware of judgment and practice being the nonjudgmental witness.
Step 1: Notice what it feels like to be in judgment
I explain how to do this in this short clip from my Judgment Detox workshop:
What does it feel like when you judge someone? Do you feel tired, angry, restless? Do you get depressed? Does your energy plummet? Does a knot tighten in your stomach?
Open your journal and just jot down what it feels like to be in judgment.
Step 2: Say a prayer
When you notice yourself judging, ask yourself a simple question: Am I looking through the eyes of peace or am I looking through the eyes of judgment? Asking this is a prayer. You become the nonjudgmental witness of your judgment and you open up to the possibility of seeing differently.
This two-step practice will prepare you for the beautiful work you’ll do in Step 1 of Judgment Detox.
Let me know how this exercise goes for you! Leave a comment below. What have you noticed by being the nonjudgmental witness of your judgment? What does it feel like to judge? What does it feel like to be open to seeing things differently?
Leave a comment, and be sure to get Judgment Detox today if you haven’t ordered it already!