How to Witness Your Judgment Without Judgment

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judgment detox book gabby bernsteinI want to give you a sneak peek of Step 1 of Judgment Detox. It’s called Witness Your Judgment Without Judgment.

This first step alone can bring you incredible relief and completely resolve some of your judgments and resentments!

But before we dive into how to heal judgment, let’s talk a little about why we need to heal judgment.

Why we need to heal judgment

I believe that judgment is at the root of all our problems, from the pettiest disagreements to the most catastrophic world events. Our belief that we are separate from one another leads to gossip and bullying as well as deep divisions and violent hate. Healing judgment is extremely urgent right now. I created a video that shows just how pervasive it is and the harm it causes.

Before going any further, watch this video. You’ll quickly understand how important it is that we heal judgment.

As you can see, judgment is no small matter. The world is desperately in need of lightworkers and healers. Furthermore, healing your own judgment doesn’t just help you. It creates a ripple effect that will be felt by everyone you come into contact with. It will radiate energetically far beyond what you can imagine!

Witnessing your judgment is a brave and sacred act of love

I want to be super clear about Step 1. This step is not called “Witness Your Judgment.” It’s called “Witness Your Judgment Without Judgment.

That difference is critical. Witnessing your judgment is a brave and sacred act of love. I want you to remember that, because witnessing your judgment can make you want to judge yourself for judging. Doing this only gets you further tangled up in the judgment cycle. Instead, I want you to understand a few things.

4 important truths about judgment

witnessing our darkness is a brave and sacred act of love | gabby bernstein judgment detoxWe all judge.

That’s why I wrote this book. I judge every day! We all judge. Accept that you judge. Accept that we all judge. You will come to understand why we do it.

You don’t need to get rid of judgment altogether.

First, there are some judgments we need (I go more into this in the book). Second, you can’t control every thought that comes into your mind. You’re not some perfectly enlightened being. You are human! The goal is not to never judge — the goal is to witness judgment, forgive the thought, release it and choose again. Eventually this will become second nature!

Witnessing is the first step toward healing.

Witnessing is the first step toward healing any kind of behavior or negative pattern. It takes courage. I applaud you for having that courage. If you weren’t willing to heal your judgment, you wouldn’t be reading this right now.

Being brave enough to witness your judgment without judgment is liberating!

You will feel an incredible sense of freedom from Step 1 alone. For a long time you’ve been denying and rationalizing your judgment and feeling guilty, consciously or unconsciously. That guilt is about to transform into clarity and relief.

Step 1 of the Judgment Detox

In Step 1 you will take an inventory of your judgments. When we take an honest inventory of the ways we judge, we can become aware of the root cause of all our suffering: our separation from love. At our core we are loving, kind, whole, healthy and compassionate people. But over the course of our lives we’ve separated from that love and wholeness. We’ve become fragmented beings with dark, scary parts.

Judgment has been our greatest defense mechanism

In many cases judgment has been our greatest defense mechanism. We have used it to defend against our vulnerability. We’ve built up a wall against the presence of love and grown to rely on judgment as our protector in a world full of fear and trauma.

We put enormous effort into hiding our vulnerability, but it’s our vulnerability that truly heals us. When we feel safe enough to expose our shadows, that’s when we become free. We don’t have to protect our shadows any longer. We can begin to dismantle the wall that separates us from real, authentic, fearless love.

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By witnessing our judgment we take down the first brick in the wall and peek at what’s behind it. We can see our shame, fear and feelings of separation. Uncovering our true feelings helps us understand our triggers and honor our wounds so that we can work through them.

When we witness our judgment, we accept that it was merely a defense against our wounds.

A 2-step exercise to lay the foundation for the Judgment Detox

Today you can prepare yourself with a 2-step exercise that will lay a foundation for the work you’ll do in the book. You can do these steps throughout the day. They will help you become aware of judgment and practice being the nonjudgmental witness.

Step 1: Notice what it feels like to be in judgment

I explain how to do this in this short clip from my Judgment Detox workshop:

What does it feel like when you judge someone? Do you feel tired, angry, restless? Do you get depressed? Does your energy plummet? Does a knot tighten in your stomach?

Open your journal and just jot down what it feels like to be in judgment.

Step 2: Say a prayer

When you notice yourself judging, ask yourself a simple question: Am I looking through the eyes of peace or am I looking through the eyes of judgment? Asking this is a prayer. You become the nonjudgmental witness of your judgment and you open up to the possibility of seeing differently.

This two-step practice will prepare you for the beautiful work you’ll do in Step 1 of Judgment Detox.

Share your experiences with Step 1 of the Judgment Detox

Let me know how this exercise goes for you! Leave a comment below. What have you noticed by being the nonjudgmental witness of your judgment? What does it feel like to judge? What does it feel like to be open to seeing things differently?

Leave a comment, and be sure to get Judgment Detox today!

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  1. Thank you for this post! I have read Judgment Detox and love all the tools you offer to stop judging. While reading the book I realized I never really felt loved when I was a child. My mom had 5 girls in 6 years, I was the 4th, needless to say I didn’t get the attention/love I needed. I started school at 4 years old and was bullied pretty much everyday. Spit at, name calling, left out of everything. I was very immature, lacked self esteem and confidence, quiet, shy little girl who only wanted to be home with my mom. At 4 years old my judgment of myself started. The feeling of not being good enough, no self confidence or self esteem and feeling sad and angry. Unfortunately, the anger is what took over. I battled with my sisters, parents and friends. I yearned for attention. While reading Judgement Detox I realized how much this has affected me my whole life. I now witness my judgment without judgment, I am aware of it and with the tools you have shared in your book I can now work on myself. Thank you for all you do! I am truly grateful and blessed I have found you and your work. Be the light, surrender to love and be at peace with myself is what I most strive for everyday!

    1. Thank you for your honest share, Trish. Wonderful that Judgment Detox has brought this to your awareness so that you can feel it and heal it. Sending you big love as you continue on your healing journey! So glad this Judgment Detox and this post resonate with you. xoxo

  2. We just talked about this topic of judgment in our book club on The Universe Has your Back. I suggested we soften the term by using discernment as it feels differently to me. It might be the same thing though. This topic of judgment is a tough one. I do believe we are all looking for the same thing . I truly try to recognize that we all have our own journey and so judgment becomes easier for me to let go of. It is almost like a detachment. I try to bless the situation and people and honor where they are at.

    1. Beautiful, Brenda! Thanks so much for sharing your experience! It sounds like you are doing great work! xo

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