Are you struggling to meditate lately? If so, you’re not alone. One of the most common comments I’m seeing is, “Gabby, I’m having a hard time meditating right now.”
Another one I’m getting a lot: “How do I meditate regularly when I don’t have my typical routine?”
I want to address this in a major way!
The other night I was watching a YouTube video of the trauma expert Dr. Bessel van der Kolk and he said, “We need to organize our interior lives because our exterior structure has disappeared.”
He went on to explain that what’s happening to us right now is that we’re in an immobilized state. In that state, trauma and fear can get stuck in our subconscious and in our bodies. We need daily rituals to move that energy and clear out our subconscious.
My meditation routine (and committed schedule) is what’s getting me through this time. And I’m actually feeling more centered than ever before.
I can see and feel the collective chaos in the world right now, so I’m responding with a clear direction for anyone who feels out of control and disconnected from meditation.
Whether you’re new to meditation or you’ve had a practice for years, it can be hard to commit to stillness when we’re in times of crisis.
But stillness is what we need most right now.
And as Dr. van der Kolk suggested, we need to make that meditative stillness and self-care routine our priority.
Are you struggling to create time to meditate?
Before the global shutdown, there were all kinds of things going on in life to distract us from meditating — busy workdays, kids’ activities, hanging out with friends, going shopping, running errands, feeling rushed in the morning and so on.
Now, during the coronavirus pandemic, many stress factors are new or greatly amplified. Even if you have more time, you may be struggling to relax and use it well given all the anxiety and uncertainty of the times.
Meditation is one of the highest forms of self-care.
When I asked people why they were struggling to meditate, here were the most common responses…
- I have no spare time now that my kids are home and I also have to work.
- I have too much time and I have no idea how to structure my day.
- I feel guilty because I’m sitting around doing nothing but I think I should be impactful with my time.
- I’m extremely overwhelmed because I have to go to work at this time and I need a meditation practice but I can’t imagine how I’d fit it in.
I understand all of these concerns and I’m committed to helping you create the spiritual structure that you need to thrive right now.
Yes, you can thrive.
All you need is the desire to meditate and to follow the plan I made for you.
The benefits of regular meditation
Meditating helps us relax, recalibrate and energize our minds and bodies. It gives us the divine opportunity to connect with our deepest selves and realign with the flow of the Universe.
It also gives us the gift of being present.
Meditation helps us become better at dealing with all that stress and finding peace. The more you meditate, the better you are at accessing that feeling of peace and grounding all throughout the day, not just when you’re on your meditation cushion.
That means that even in the most difficult times, you can feel calmer and more centered.
Meditation is one of the highest forms of self-care. We don’t meditate because someone is making us. It’s not an assignment or a chore. It’s a privilege.
How to meditate regularly
If you’ve fallen off with your meditation practice, just follow these three steps to get back on track!
It doesn’t matter whether you’ve gone days or months (or years) without meditating. You can change the pattern today.
Step 1: Ask yourself, ‘How do I want to feel?’
Revisit all those amazing benefits I listed above! When we take a little time each day (even just a few minutes) to quiet our mind, the rewards are massive.
Not only does meditating make you feel physically better, but it also gets you into alignment with the Universe. Your energy is elevated, you feel supported and you allow intuitive guidance to flow.
So if you find yourself resisting the idea of meditating, pause for just a moment. Ask yourself how you want to feel and connect with your desire. Whatever it is, meditation will clear the path.
Step 2: Forgive yourself for falling off track
Do you tend to beat yourself up when you don’t meditate? Do you think something like, “I’m such a slacker. What is wrong with me? How can I call myself a spiritual person if I can’t even meditate regularly?”
Stop that spiral. When you fall off track with meditating regularly, forgive yourself immediately.
Let’s just accept that we always fall off, even if it’s just for a few hours or a day. If you get into that story of, “I suck, I can’t believe I fell off again, I’m not good enough,” then you won’t get back on.
So just forgive yourself right away and remember that you can get back into meditating regularly at any moment of any day.
Are you having a hard time forgiving someone (or yourself)? Forgiveness can often feel impossible. Well, my friend, the struggle ends today! Listen to this episode of Dear Gabby. I offer five steps to forgiveness. Follow my guidance and learn how easy forgiveness really is. What you’ll appreciate most is how simple the path is. Press play and learn two spiritual practices for clearing negative energy, how to stop pleasing people, and the exact methods I use to forgive others and myself.
Step 3: Meditate!
I’ve mastered meditation through my own deep desire to feel good. My meditation practice is the most important thing I do every day. It’s kept me calm, healthy and grateful no matter what I may be going through.
You might find meditation daunting or think it’s impossible to shut down your thoughts, or that you don’t have time to meditate. I’m going to bust those blocks now!
I’ve laid out the plan for you and I’ll guide you every step of the way. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve been meditating for years or are a complete beginner. All you have to do is show up.
The Meditation Challenge offers a simple, structured daily practice that will get you excited about meditation and make it easy for you to do.
And here’s my promise: By the end of this 21-day challenge, you’ll have a calm mind, a positive attitude, and the ability to attract what you desire.
When you join the Meditation Challenge you’ll get:
- 21 daily meditations (a different style each day)
- Exclusive member platform and journal
- Daily emails to keep you on track (plus text support if you want it)
- Community support (literally the coolest group ever!)
- A live training session with me on Day 21!
If you want to meditate regularly and reap the benefits of this practice, don’t give up when you fall off track. Don’t make excuses or beat yourself up. Just get back on!
Once you do, you’ll feel instant relief.
Even five minutes of meditation in the morning can recalibrate your mind and energy for the rest of the day. Meditation is the way we reconnect to the loving nature within us.
Through meditation we slow down our mind and reorganize our energy, which clears space for our inner guidance system to function. But we have to slow down to tune in.
I hope this post serves you and helps you commit to meditating! You deserve to feel good no matter what’s going on in the world. Meditation clears the path.
Here’s one of my favorite meditations to get you started: