There’s something important I want you to know: You have a transformational story.
And that story has the power to heal and inspire others.
I talk often about the power of transformational stories. In all my books and talks, I share my own stories as well as others’.
Why our stories matter
You know how your ears perk up when someone says, “I have a story for you”? That’s because we love stories. We learn through stories. Stories inspire us to change our lives in radical and amazing ways. I’ve seen it happen countless times.
People tell me all the time how my story of getting sober, which I share in my book Spirit Junkie, inspired them to get sober, too.
They also tell me how my story of spiritual surrender helped them find their faith and release the need to control. In my SuperSoul Sessions talk, I shared my story about releasing the need to control… and to this day I still get emails from people about how much it helped them.
Plus, I can’t tell you how many times another person’s transformational story has been the catalyst for my own growth.
“What if I don’t have a transformational story?”
But even though we all recognize the power of transformational stories, I have noticed people getting hung up on something. When I talk about this topic, oftentimes someone will ask, “But what if I don’t have a transformational story?”
I want to call this out right now!
The fact that you’re reading this blog post means there’s a voice within you that wants to share your story. You wouldn’t have had a reason to click on this post otherwise. It’s proof that you have experienced some kind of inner transformation. You wouldn’t be reading this if you weren’t on a spiritual path.
Your story doesn’t have to be painful to be powerful
Your story doesn’t have to be a trauma story to have a major impact. This is a misconception, and it’s a harmful one. This myth leads us to think our pain has purpose and that we must suffer and struggle in order to succeed. It can keep us stuck in the story of victim.
Your story doesn’t need to involve overcoming trauma in order to be powerful. In fact, if you haven’t been through serious trauma then that is something to be deeply grateful for.
Your story also doesn’t have to involve a total life overhaul. You don’t have to quit your job, sell everything you own and backpack around Europe for two years to gain beautiful insight. Deep inner transformations can happen in the most familiar and ordinary places and situations.
If your transformation did happen as a result of something very painful or traumatic, then I want to offer you a lot of love and support for being willing to heal and doing the spiritual work required. And I want to remind you that you don’t have to tell a story you aren’t ready to tell.
So let’s settle this once and for all. You are here because you have a story. And your story is what heals. Now your work is to embrace that truth and uncover your story.
There are many kinds of stories
In my talks, books and courses, you’ll notice I include many different stories.
They’re not all earth-shattering stories of life upheaval. Rather, they’re stories about mindset shifts around topics such as money, work, relationships and happiness.
There are many kinds of stories.
In recent weeks, we’ve seen powerful stories from people of color about their experiences. One beautiful example comes from the activist, speaker, CEO and author Haile Thomas. She shared this story with strength, grace and vulnerability on Instagram — you can watch it here.
Your authenticity is what matters most
What matters about your story is that it’s authentic. Your truth is what heals. Everyone’s story is different. Remember that you got here today because you have a voice inside you that wants to share your story. Honor your own transformation for what it is. When you stand in your authentic truth, you give others permission to do the same.
Your transformational story may take place over a few months or a few decades. Regardless of your timeline, it’s likely that your “big” story contains smaller stories of more subtle shifts.
Take the example of Spirit Junkie. In it I told my story of detouring into fear and addiction, and then surrendering to spirit, getting sober and changing my life. That’s a major transformation. But it played out over many years. And in that time frame, I experienced many smaller transformations and revelations that added up to radical change.
In my 2011 TEDx Talk, I shared a very condensed version of my story. I had just 16 minutes for my talk, so you can see how I adapted my story for this format:
And, of course, my story didn’t end there! As you continue on your spiritual path and in your life, you will experience new spiritual assignments and miracles, and you’ll have more transformational stories and lessons to share.
Now let’s begin uncovering your story.
How to uncover your transformational story
Below is a fun writing exercise that will help you unpack your transformational story and bring it to life!
Step 1: Free write
Open your journal or a Word/Google document, and then free-write the answers to the following 3 questions. Don’t edit yourself at first. Just let the words flow.
- Where were you (literally or figuratively)?
- What happened?
- Where are you today?
Step 2: Review your story
Add anything you may have missed and edit your writing to make it clearer and cleaner. You can continue to revise and polish your story. Over the next few hours or days, other elements may come to you. Add them in.
Step 3: Share your story!
You can share your story in whatever way feels good to you. You can:
- Share it in a comment on this post (I’ll be reading all of them)
- Post it on social media, whether as a written post or as video/audio
- Call or email a friend and ask to share it with them
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You don’t need to have a big following, an established business or a writing degree to share your story through books. People in every stage of life, from every background, and in every profession hear this call.
Over the past several years I’ve met and worked with many people with important stories to tell and lessons to share. They’ve been first-time writers, experienced authors, and everything in between.
If this is resonating with you… I believe you’re one of them.