How to Stay Positive Around Negative People: Be a Mirror for the Light!

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Note: Updated May 2018 for clarity and additional resources

When we’re around negative people it’s very easy to be taken down by their energy. If we’re not paying attention, we can soak up their darkness without even realizing it.

If you’re an empath or if you’re highly sensitive to other people’s energetic vibrations, you may be especially prone to taking on other people’s negative energy. This practice is very important for you!

We must be mirror for the light rather than a sponge for the darkness. @gabbybernstein #spiritjunkie

How to stay positive when people try to bring you down

In this video and post, I offer guidance on how to stay positive when people try to bring you down. The tools I share will help you avoid getting sucked into negativity. Instead, you will spread light and actually lift up others as well!

Is there a low-vibe person in your life?

Is there someone in your life who tends to be negative? Or someone you tend to be negative with? Maybe your friendship started because you both worked in a job you hated, and you bonded by venting over it. And now, months or years later, complaining and ranting is still the basis for your friendship.

Maybe there is someone in your life who is going through a tough time and is leaning toward the negative. And when you’re around them, your energetic vibration plummets. You go from positive to pissed off in minutes. We’ve all been there. We’ve been the negative person and the person who got dragged down!

I was recently in a petty, ridiculous argument with someone in my life who tends to lean negative. I honor her and I admire her, but I tend to get into negativity with her. I started to notice myself picking up the low vibes just being around her…

Be a mirror for the light

be the light judgment detox gabby bernsteinSo I stepped away from the argument and I sat in my meditation. In my meditation I started to just listen. What came forth was radical. What came forth was the message, “Be the mirror for the light rather than a sponge for the darkness.”

I heard it loud and clear. My job isn’t to soak up the negativity, fight against the negativity and create more negativity. My job is just to stay rooted in my conviction and commitment to the light.

This is your job, too. Stay grounded. Stay committed to positivity, to the truth, which is love, to the truth, which is light, the truth, which is forgiveness and compassion and non-judgment. When someone is being negative or even attacking you with their words, you don’t have to say anything at all. You don’t have to fight back.

Instead of saying something that you might regret later,  just be in the energy of the light. Trust that being positive and staying in the light will not only protect your own energy but reflect the light back to the other person as well. They will soften. Their energy will lift, if only a little bit at first. Plus, your energy toward them will change. You will see them in the light and easily forgive their negativity.

We’re all just energy beings bouncing off of each other. If we as lightworkers take on the responsibility to be the mirror for the light, we will have a much easier time dealing with the negative people in our lives.

How to be the light every day

If you have negative people in your office, just make a commitment every day to sit at your desk as a mirror for the light. Envision that you’ve got mirrors around you and the light is reflecting off you.

If your romantic partner brings negative energy home, be that mirror for the light. If you have a coworker who always complains, be a mirror for the light. If you have a friend or a loved one who always starts ranting or gossiping the minute you get together, be a mirror for the light!

gabby bernstein miracles nowI understand this isn’t always easy. It’s not something that comes naturally to us. Sometimes it does require a lot of effort and commitment and conviction. But all you need is the willingness. Start to practice it. Get into the habit of being the light. Check out my book Miracles Now for lots of fast, easy ways to protect your energy and raise your vibration.

Leave me a comment below. Let me know what comes up for you. Let me know the challenges and let me know the miracles.

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