What Are Your Spiritual Assignments and How Can You Show Up for Them?

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Do you ever feel like the same situation or problem keeps coming up in your life again and again in different forms?

One common one has to do with dating. Lots of people have told me they feel like they keep manifesting the same relationship with different partners.

Or maybe you keep repeating a cycle when it comes to money, or with your job. Maybe you have a physical problem that resurfaces every so often.

What are spiritual assignments?

When the same type of problem, person or situation keeps appearing in your life, that’s because it’s one of your spiritual assignments. (I also call them Universal assignments. I use these terms interchangeably.)

In my book The Universe Has Your Back I dedicate an entire chapter to them.

Spiritual assignments show us that we’re always being guided, even when it doesn’t feel like it. The Universe wants us to heal, so we’ll keep being presented with our issues until we choose to heal them.

I went live on Facebook to talk about this chapter of the book and give an overview of how to recognize spiritual assignments and show up for them. You can watch the whole video below or keep reading for guidance.

(If you don’t see a play button, don’t worry. Just click and the video will start playing.)

What does a spiritual assignment look like?

In the book, one example of spiritual assignments that I give is that of my friend Lance, who had this core childhood wound of feeling like he wasn’t smart enough. As an adult Lance became sober and quit dating for a few years to focus on his recovery. When he decided to start dating again, he got into a relationship with an awesome woman who was super into him and respected him deeply.

Amazing, right? Well, not to Lance. He came to me one day saying he had to break up with her because she clearly needed to be with someone smarter than him. His evidence for this was that she’d rib him for things like misreading a recipe or not being up to speed on some news story.

What she intended as loving jokes triggered his wounds big-time. Being 10-plus years into my own recovery, I saw this immediately and was like, “Whoa, hang on!” I explained to Lance how his girlfriend was literally the perfect spiritual assignment.

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I could see the light bulb go off over his head. The Universe knew that he was ready to tackle this issue now that he’d been in recovery for long enough to feel stable in it.

7 steps to showing up for your spiritual assignments

Whatever your spiritual assignments are, you can show up for them and heal them. Follow my 7-step process when you’re ready.

Step 1: Recognize the spiritual assignment and call it by its name

Its name is fear. When you find yourself in a super uncomfortable situation, recognize and accept that fear has shown up in this way to get your attention.

When you can see the situation as an assignment, that’s the beginning of healing. This is a beautiful step!

Step 2: Accept that you can’t avoid the spiritual assignment

Here’s a gorgeous quote I put in The Universe Has Your Back. It’s a quote from my teacher Ken Wapnick, who was one of the great teachers of A Course in Miracles:

We should be grateful for all the situations that make us the most uncomfortable, because without them we would not know there is something unhealed within us.

Take that in. Read it again. How awesome is that?

Can you be grateful for your discomfort and and see it as an opportunity to grow and do more healing work, instead of seeing it as a punishment to complain about?

When a spiritual assignment (aka Universal assignment) comes up for me, I say thank you for the assignment. I thank the spiritual assignment for giving me the chance to heal.

Step 3: Honor your feelings

I find a deeper meaning and personal growth amid discomfort | gabby bernstein card deckIn The Universe Has Your Back I give you a beautiful meditation to do that helps you honor your feelings.

Let yourself be present with what’s up with your pain and fear. If we want to get to the root cause of these assignments and really show up for them, we have to be willing to feel the pain.

When you notice yourself triggered by your spiritual assignment, breathe into the pain. By feeling the pain you allow it to pass through you. You strip away its power.

My coach Rha Goddess says that feeling a feeling for 90 seconds can transform it. You can literally set a 90-second timer on your phone and give yourself that minute and a half to safely feel that feeling you’ve been avoiding. You can know that you will have transformed it in some positive way when the timer goes off.

You can check out the book for my guided meditation that supports you in this practice as you honor the spiritual assignment that keeps presenting itself to you.

Step 4: Call on compassion

the universe has your back gabby bernsteinWhen I recognize a spiritual assignment come up in my own life, I don’t judge myself for being back in the old belief system.

Instead, I honor myself for being willing to heal and witness. When you have the courage to witness your spiritual assignment, take a moment to call in self-love and say, “Here’s this old belief system again, but I’m awesome for showing up for it.”

Being compassionate toward yourself is a big part of healing your old wounds.

Step 5: Place your faith in the Universe

Here is the prayer I put in the book to help you place your faith in the Universe when you’re dealing with your spiritual assignments:

Thank you, Universe, for presenting me with this divine assignment for spiritual growth and healing. I am ready and willing to show up for this assignment with love. I welcome your support. Show me where to go, what to do and what to say. I trust I’m being guided.

Step 6: Clean up your side of the street

So often when we get caught up in our spiritual assignment, we can create a lot of drama around it. It’s easy to blame other people for our discomfort.

With my friend Lance, he went back to his girlfriend and said, “Hey listen, here’s what came up for me, and I didn’t show up for it in the best way.” In doing this he was able to restore their intimacy.

In The Universe Has Your Back I offer up a detailed breakdown of how to clean up your side of the street.

Step 7: Welcome healing

true healing | gabby bernstein card deckIn this step I’ll let you go to the book because it’s laid out really beautifully for you. When you read this chapter and follow the steps, you will be amazed by the miracles that unfold!

Are you ready to start showing up for your spiritual assignments and heal them once and for all? Learn more about The Universe Has Your Back! When you order the book you will also get my 2-hour Art of Manifesting online workshop free.

ALL these steps are laid out in the book, with a beautiful meditation and lots of guidance. I hope this serves you.

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  1. Hello Gaby…. I just wanted you to know that I’ve been searching for a new books.. The universe has your back………. About 5 years ago my best friend had passed away we were always Reading new books always talking about the universe ..positive thinking. ….. I had moved to Rochester New York.. Been living here about 11 years now……… Just wanted to say thank you!!!! Bonnie ..

  2. I just purchsed the book The Universe has Your Back!
    I can’t wait to get started! I also picked up a journal and SUper Attractor!
    I am serious about moving forward and automatically felt a connection to you & your site!
    Thak you for what you do!

  3. Hi Gabby! Thank you so much for this. I have been on the spiritual path for about a year and a half now, and oh my Goddess, it has been a bumpy ride!! This morning, I woke up at 3 am for some reason, with loads of energy, so I decided to take a walk. I’m up here in snowy Rochester, NY, and the night before it had snowed quite a bit, so the roads were slushy. As I was walking, a car right behind me swerved and came very close to hitting me. A passerby witnessed the entire incident, and remarked that I was almost killed. Oddly enough, I had this feeling of peace of lightness surrounding me while the entire thing occurred… there was no fear whatsoever (I’ve been repeating the mantra “I am divinely guided and protected” for awhile, now, which I’m sure makes a difference in my mentality). But of course, as soon as I got home, my mind started racing, the fear kicked in, and I shaked and cried, and started second-guessing the enormous work I’ve done with Spirit to establish trust and show up as the most authentic version of myself. Naturally, I got on the Internet looking for messages or hints as to why this happened, and miracle of miracles, I was led to this! I’ve actually had a deep seated fear of being hit by a car while walking since my son was born three and a half years ago. Every time we walk, I have to pray beforehand and do a creative visualization to get there safely. Now I know that isn’t even necessary, as the Universe wants me to get to the root of this, and place even MORE faith and trust in it’s ability to keep me and my family safe. My freaking out has completely dissolved and I feel happy and empowered again. A million thank you’s to you!!!!! 🙂 🙂 -jillian <3

    1. Jill thank you for sharing here. It sounds like this intense experience helped you shift from fear to faith. I’m grateful that you’re spiritual practice is supporting you and that you are more certain now than ever before that the universe is always guiding and supporting you. xoxo

  4. Hello. When you refer to spiritual guides or the Universe do you mean God? Im a little confused.
    Can you clarify this for me? Thanks

    1. I refer to God as the Universe, source, energy, as one. Everyone has their own relationship with this and comfortable with different titles, so please do what feels best for you <3

  5. I began my spiritual journey recently after suffering with my own demons and overbearing ego. I can’t even remember how I came across ‘Spirit Junkie…’ but I am glad I did as it has left me inspired. I completed it within 4 days which is a record for me (as I have never found a book to grab my attention).
    I’ve always been interested in spirituality, and meditation while maintaining my kick-ass female spirit, but never knew where to start on my journey… so wanted to say thank you!!

    I have a long way to go before I feel like I know what I’m doing… but I’ve started eating better, started meditating and am dealing with my health issues and pain… now to conquer my ego and show it who is boss

  6. The chapter on universal assignments is helping me heal a deep, old would I’ve been carrying for years. For the first time I feel light and free from this wound — I recognize the pain that came up was just an assignment to help me face it and let it go. I’ve spent so much time and energy being upset by this assignment, but once I recognized it as an assignment, the pain immediately disappeared. Truly a miracle. Thank you so much, Gabby.

  7. I watched your spiritual assignment video and literally 5 mins later my assignment showed up. My secret debt from my husband who asked me if I had a line of credit because my bank sent me marketing mail. I had so much going on when he asked me that I wasn’t ready to answer him just lied to his face. On Monday I’m suppose to go to the bank with him to clear it up. I’m freaking out instantly felt sick body chills. Tonight I have a chance to have a good talk since grandparents will be with our kids. I’m petrified my marriage will end… but reading your book to give me courage to speak my truth with love and finally heal myself so our marriage will truly be all that I ever wanted.❤️

  8. I absolutely love this, and this section of the book – I’ve been working through it now for a few months and it’s been life-changing for me! THANK YOU! I’m also a career & life purpose coach, supporting spiritual women and men out of meaningless careers and into careers or businesses full of passion and purpose. I send them your way for just about everything!! You are such a bright, guiding light for so many of us. Thank you for being you, and for supporting us to do the work we were put on earth to do. So much love for you Gabby.
    Erica xx

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