Do you ever feel like the same situation or problem keeps coming up in your life again and again in different forms?
One common one has to do with dating. Lots of people have told me they feel like they keep manifesting the same relationship with different partners.
Or maybe you keep repeating a cycle when it comes to money, or with your job. Maybe you have a physical problem that resurfaces every so often.
What are spiritual assignments?
When the same type of problem, person or situation keeps appearing in your life, that’s because it’s one of your spiritual assignments. (I also call them Universal assignments. I use these terms interchangeably.)
In my book The Universe Has Your Back I dedicate an entire chapter to them.
Spiritual assignments show us that we’re always being guided, even when it doesn’t feel like it. The Universe wants us to heal, so we’ll keep being presented with our issues until we choose to heal them.
I went live on Facebook to talk about this chapter of the book and give an overview of how to recognize spiritual assignments and show up for them. You can watch the whole video below or keep reading for guidance.
(If you don’t see a play button, don’t worry. Just click and the video will start playing.)
What does a spiritual assignment look like?
In the book, one example of spiritual assignments that I give is that of my friend Lance, who had this core childhood wound of feeling like he wasn’t smart enough. As an adult Lance became sober and quit dating for a few years to focus on his recovery. When he decided to start dating again, he got into a relationship with an awesome woman who was super into him and respected him deeply.
Amazing, right? Well, not to Lance. He came to me one day saying he had to break up with her because she clearly needed to be with someone smarter than him. His evidence for this was that she’d rib him for things like misreading a recipe or not being up to speed on some news story.
What she intended as loving jokes triggered his wounds big-time. Being 10-plus years into my own recovery, I saw this immediately and was like, “Whoa, hang on!” I explained to Lance how his girlfriend was literally the perfect spiritual assignment.
I could see the light bulb go off over his head. The Universe knew that he was ready to tackle this issue now that he’d been in recovery for long enough to feel stable in it.
7 steps to showing up for your spiritual assignments
Whatever your spiritual assignments are, you can show up for them and heal them. Follow my 7-step process when you’re ready.
Step 1: Recognize the spiritual assignment and call it by its name
Its name is fear. When you find yourself in a super uncomfortable situation, recognize and accept that fear has shown up in this way to get your attention.
When you can see the situation as an assignment, that’s the beginning of healing. This is a beautiful step!
Step 2: Accept that you can’t avoid the spiritual assignment
We should be grateful for all the situations that make us the most uncomfortable, because without them we would not know there is something unhealed within us.
Take that in. Read it again. How awesome is that?
Can you be grateful for your discomfort and and see it as an opportunity to grow and do more healing work, instead of seeing it as a punishment to complain about?
When a spiritual assignment (aka Universal assignment) comes up for me, I say thank you for the assignment. I thank the spiritual assignment for giving me the chance to heal.
Step 3: Honor your feelings
In The Universe Has Your Back I give you a beautiful meditation to do that helps you honor your feelings.
Let yourself be present with what’s up with your pain and fear. If we want to get to the root cause of these assignments and really show up for them, we have to be willing to feel the pain.
When you notice yourself triggered by your spiritual assignment, breathe into the pain. By feeling the pain you allow it to pass through you. You strip away its power.
My coach Rha Goddess says that feeling a feeling for 90 seconds can transform it. You can literally set a 90-second timer on your phone and give yourself that minute and a half to safely feel that feeling you’ve been avoiding. You can know that you will have transformed it in some positive way when the timer goes off.
You can check out the book for my guided meditation that supports you in this practice as you honor the spiritual assignment that keeps presenting itself to you.
Step 4: Call on compassion
Instead, I honor myself for being willing to heal and witness. When you have the courage to witness your spiritual assignment, take a moment to call in self-love and say, “Here’s this old belief system again, but I’m awesome for showing up for it.”
Being compassionate toward yourself is a big part of healing your old wounds.
Step 5: Place your faith in the Universe
Here is the prayer I put in the book to help you place your faith in the Universe when you’re dealing with your spiritual assignments:
Thank you, Universe, for presenting me with this divine assignment for spiritual growth and healing. I am ready and willing to show up for this assignment with love. I welcome your support. Show me where to go, what to do and what to say. I trust I’m being guided.
Step 6: Clean up your side of the street
So often when we get caught up in our spiritual assignment, we can create a lot of drama around it. It’s easy to blame other people for our discomfort.
With my friend Lance, he went back to his girlfriend and said, “Hey listen, here’s what came up for me, and I didn’t show up for it in the best way.” In doing this he was able to restore their intimacy.
In The Universe Has Your Back I offer up a detailed breakdown of how to clean up your side of the street.
Step 7: Welcome healing
Are you ready to start showing up for your spiritual assignments and heal them once and for all? Learn more about The Universe Has Your Back!
ALL these steps are laid out in the book, with a beautiful meditation and lots of guidance. I hope this serves you.