How to Release the Story of Victim

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I recently called a girlfriend who’s going through a really tough time. The second she picked up the phone I could feel her energy. It was at a very high-strung, nervous vibration and she was speaking really fast.

She went right into the story of all the things that were going wrong. All the problems, all the issues, all the fear. And I have a lot of compassion for her because I know she’s going through a very difficult, scary time with a lot of uncertainty.

But I knew immediately that she was diving into the story of the victim. But then a power greater than us intervened.

How to release the story of being a victim

Watch the video below or keep reading to learn how to release the story of victim.

When I was talking to my friend, suddenly, without even thinking, an intuitive, authoritative voice came through me. I said, “You have to let go of this story. This story is being repeated and repurposed, and it’s perpetuating this anxiety, this tension and this fear.”

And she took a breath and said, “I know you’re right, because this story doesn’t make me feel good. But I get in it because for a minute it makes me feel like I’m in control.”

Trying to control things only disempowers us

That’s the big issue for all of us. When we see ourselves as a victim in some way, we want to regain our power. So we try to control the situation by overanalyzing it and obsessing over it. We think the only way to feel better is to let it out and talk about it. But the more we talk about it and bring it up to people, the more we’re trying to control it.

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All that talking about the victim story doesn’t relieve our fears at all. It just creates more drama and makes us feel more powerless and anxious. That’s how my friend was feeling when we started talking. So I gave her two powerful, proactive steps she could take to release the story of victim.

The 2-step process to letting go of your victim story and reclaiming confidence

When you find yourself feeling like a victim and telling that story, take these 2 steps to let it go and reclaim your confidence fast.

Step 1: Say “WAIT: Why Am I Talking?”

miracles now book gabby bernsteinThis is a great tool that I put in my book Miracles Now. When you find yourself repeating your victim story or hashing out a situation with a friend for the millionth time, take a beat and ask yourself, “Why am I talking?”

Give yourself a moment to notice what you’re doing and say, “Okay, I’m in fear. I’m trying to control.” Allow yourself to witness the story so you can shift it.

Step 2: Go general

Going general is a powerful technique from Abraham-Hicks. When you start going into a negative story, you create momentum and more fear picks up, and you start feeling totally out of control of your thoughts. So once you’ve said “WAIT,” you can go general.

The concept of going general is to reach for thoughts that are general thoughts that you believe in so that you can start to shift your energy and shift out of that story.

General thoughts can be thoughts like, “I am good enough,” or “I have resources,” or “I have people who want to support me.” You can begin with neutral thoughts and gradually make them more positive. As you start to reach for these general thoughts you create momentum in the other direction. It puts you on a new path that feels energized, supported and more powerful.

Change your story and raise your vibration

By following these two steps, you can release the story of victim and get out of a low vibrational state. You will raise your vibration, which will attract more of its likeness.

When you begin to change your stories, you change your experiences. The stories we tell are the experiences we live — so as you refocus your energy and tell new stories about what’s working and what’s thriving, you’ll begin to awaken a different presence within you.

That presence will create a reality far beyond your wildest dreams.

My intention is that you take these steps seriously and stop rehearsing the role of victim so you can claim the happiness that is your birthright.

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