You Don’t Have to Struggle to Get What You Want

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I can do less and attract more | Gabby Bernstein | Super AttractorThe second chapter in my new book, Super Attractor is called “It’s Good to Feel Good.”

I put this concept right up front because we often resist feeling good. And this resistance is a major block to our Super Attractor power.

In this post, I want to show you that you don’t have to struggle in order to get what you want.

We’ve become accustomed to fear

Fear can feel like a natural way to protect yourself and stay in control. We’ve all grown far more comfortable in a state of fear than in a place of joy and faith. You may be thinking, “Wait, I don’t walk around feeling scared all the time. How am I in a state of fear?”

The answer is that fear takes many forms. Feelings such as anxiety, defensiveness, judgment, and the impulse to control all stem from a sense of fear. When you rely on fear, as most of us do, you are disconnected from the free-flowing love of the Universe.

Do you believe you can’t get what you want without struggle?

Society has convinced us that if something is worth having, it requires struggle, heroic perseverance and sacrifice.

We’ve been taught that pain has purpose and that to succeed is to suffer. That we have to “make” things happen, and that nothing good ever comes without struggle.

This isn’t to say that we don’t experience very difficult circumstances in our lives. I have been through them myself. Trauma, addiction, I have been there.

I’ve chosen to see even traumatic events and addictions as learning devices rather than shameful dark periods. Every difficult situation in my life, no matter how hard it seemed at the time, has offered me grace on the other side. Choosing to see difficult times with grace has helped me move out of the story of victim and feel proud of myself for my willingness to grow.

I want to emphasize that while suffering can help us heal or grow, it’s NOT the key to our successes.

Struggle is not required to manifest what you want.

You don’t have to suffer to find success

The plain and simple truth is this: We don’t have to struggle to be happy. I want to abolish that idea today. Clear it out of your mind.

In this video I share how suffering actually blocks our success. Since I learned this lesson, my manifesting has skyrocketed…

Our belief in struggle actually blocks our successes

Many of us have convinced ourselves that struggling is the key to our success or that our pain has purpose. We get stuck in these stories, which actually block our capacity to create.

The metaphysical text A Course in Miracles teaches, “There are no idle thoughts. All thinking produces form on some level.”

Each thought we have emits energy. That energy either brings us closer to the supportive flow of the Universe or resists it. The energy behind our thoughts directly affects our experiences. When we have a fear-based, low-vibe thought on repeat, it creates energetic momentum that will eventually start to manifest in our life. If we believe in suffering, we will suffer.

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This was the case for me. For years I told myself that if I didn’t hustle, everything would fall apart. As a result I worked 24/7 and had a lot of fear beneath my faith and happiness.

And while I was accomplishing a lot, I was actually blocking myself in the most massive way. I blocked people from helping me, blocked my energy from flowing freely and blocked manifestations coming into my life.

Create the world you want with ease

As soon as I released that belief that I had to struggle to be successful and deserve happiness, I blasted open the doors to Universal support and guidance.

I invited people into my world to help support me on my mission. I’ve grown my business, I’ve had a child — I’ve manifested far more than I could imagine!

I’m not exceptional. You can do this, too.

Let go of the need to suffer and struggle today

Happiness is my birthright | Gabby Bernstein | The Universe Has Your Back card deckMy goal for you today is to just let go of the idea that you have to struggle to get what you want and be happy.
Drop it.

Release it.

Bring this mantra into your life: “I do not have to suffer to be successful. I can be happy and free and create the world that I want to see.”

Using an affirmation of freedom and receptivity and joy will begin to cultivate a new energy around you, and that freedom is what allows you to attract what you desire.

Open yourself up to what this means to you. Let go of suffering in this moment. You can post in the comments below. You can declare what feels right to you, like, “In this moment, I am letting go of my suffering.” Or, “In this moment, I recognize I don’t have to be in pain to have purpose in my life.” Put it on the page and let me support you!

Joy is the ultimate creator

When we make feeling good our priority, we attract the success, happiness and well-being we want with ease. Joy is a very high vibration that is aligned with the love of the Universe. When we embody this vibration, we become magnets for people, situations and experiences that match it.

Your willingness to have fun and be creative also opens up your channel to communicate with the loving energy of the Universe. In a state of joy, guidance comes effortlessly.

See my 3 steps to get into the stream of well-being. And check out my free workshop (info below), where I teach you the practice of accepting that good things can come easily!

Take this practice further — order ‘Super Attractor’!

Super Attractor by Gabrielle BernsteinIn Super Attractor, I lay out the essential methods for manifesting a life beyond your wildest dreams. This book is a manifesto for confidently claiming your desires.

In its pages, you’ll learn how to:

  • Do less and attract more
  • Relax and trust that what you desire is on the way
  • Know that spiritual guidance is available to you at all times
  • Feel a sense of awe each day as you witness miracles unfold

Order the book and claim your free Manifesting Jumpstart Workshop!

Change your mantra and choose joy

I want to leave you with this clip where I talk about how I kicked my belief in struggle and chose joy instead! Let it inspire you. Then use the affirmation above to declare that you’re ready to let go of suffering — because you don’t have to struggle to get what you want.

I hope this serves you.

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