I want to give you a very simple tool that has helped me greatly when I need to forgive someone.
If I’m in a heated place, no matter how angry or wounded I may feel, when I use this practice I can always come back to a place of oneness and forgiveness. Check out the video and then read on for more.
This forgiveness practice is simple: Sit in your meditation and call in the person who you resent or who you’re mad at. (It might even be yourself in some cases.)
Think about all the things you love about them. Call on all the reasons you feel connected to them, all the ways in which they bring you joy, all the ways they support you.
If you have a hard time thinking of things you love about the person you want to forgive, you can call on the valuable lessons you’ve learned from difficult times with them.
Call on the good that has come from this relationship. Start to cultivate the feeling of that goodness, love, acceptance and appreciation.
As you do this you’ll feel a sense of relief wash over you. This is forgiveness.
The feeling of relief, release and surrender means you are letting go.
Remember that forgiveness is a process. When you need to forgive someone, I recommend being in this practice for 30 days. Use this simple meditation tool once a day for a month and let that presence of relief start to settle in.
Let the relief move through you and clear you.
While this forgiveness practice is simple, forgiving someone can be hard. When you have a lot of hurt or anger, it can be difficult to surrender. But all it takes to forgive someone is your willingness. And you can start by focusing your practice on someone you might resent just a bit — that can be a lot easier to release.
For more guidance on the journey towards forgiveness check out my book, Spirit Junkie, A Radical Road to Self-Love and Forgiveness.