The Secret to Finding Your Purpose

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Note: Updated June 2018 for clarity and additional resources.

In my lectures and workshops I often hear people say that they don’t know what their purpose is.

They feel confused and disconnected from the world.

They spend their days in jobs that don’t fulfill them.

They feel bored, restless and even resentful.

They desperately want to find their purpose but don’t know how.

A lot of folks feel guilty, too. Especially if they have a career that other people admire. They wonder, “Why can’t I find my purpose in this work? What’s wrong with me?”

I get it. It can be really hard to feel purposeless.

But so often I see folks responding to this feeling in the wrong way. They push and control. They want to prove to themselves and the outside world that they’re worthy and powerful.

Stop searching for your purpose. Instead, allow your purpose to find you. @gabbybernstein #spiritjunkie

The ego makes us think that our purpose is outside ourselves. It convinces us that our purpose is hidden behind a credential, a job title or some altruistic mission. This outside search for purpose can lead to a lot of inner turmoil.

Let your purpose find you!

The key to finding your purpose is counterintuitive. You need to stop searching for it and let it find you!

Watch the video below or keep reading for my tips.

Pay attention to what you love to do

I’ve come to learn that we can’t go looking for our purpose. We have to allow our purpose to find us. When we’re rooted in what we love to do, in what makes us happy and inspires us, that’s when we start to get clear guidance and direction toward what we are meant to do.

For instance, I think a lot about the things I loved to do when I was a kid. I was leading youth groups. I was leading spiritual communities when I was 13. It’s no coincidence that just by doing what I loved, it translated into my life’s purpose.

Pay attention to all the things that you’ve done by choice throughout your life. What is FUN for you? Maybe you love singing. Maybe you love inspiring people through your words. Maybe you love making people laugh. Trust that direction! These passions and hobbies show you what you’re here to share with the world.

The gifts you’re here to share with the world come from what inspires you the most and elevates your existence. If you’re elevated by the practices that you love, then you can trust that you’ll elevate others.

Stop pushing and start receiving

If you want to find your purpose, you must stop pushing and controlling. I know it sounds counterintuitive, but you have to stop trying to find your purpose. That blocks you. Pushing and controlling block you from receiving guidance, intuitive messages and inspiration.

Instead, trust what’s coming to you is exactly as it’s meant to be. Trust that the experiences in your life are leading in the next right action toward what you’re here to do and who you’re here to be. Be open to receiving. Align your energy and begin to attract!

Pay attention to what happens and what you’re guided to. Then take action based on that guidance. Not based on some needy feeling of wanting and needing to know why you’re here and what you’re here to do. Instead, trust that your purpose is being given to you. Be open to receive, and you will find your purpose.

Inspire others by doing what inspires you

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