Fear holds us in a headlock. Here’s how to get out…

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Uncertainty causes a lot of our fear. When we feel uncertain, we often try to control our experiences as much as possible so we can feel safe. Ironically, though, this desire for control doesn’t lead us to safety. Instead, it creates more fear.

The metaphysical text A Course in Miracles teaches that, The presence of fear is a sure sign that you’re relying on your own strength. Tweet!

Whenever we’re trying to control outcomes we’ve separated from our true source of power, a.k.a. our inner wisdom and intuition. When we fully surrender to this inner power, we can come to know true freedom and peace.

If you’re open to strengthening your connection to your inner power, you’re ready for this week’s video blog. Watch now to find out how to release the need to control and welcome peace.

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  1. Lately, I’ve been feeling uncomfortable because I follow my intuition and I get out of my comfort zone a lot and a lot of fears have been coming up. I’m in a point in my life where so many projects are coming together and many great opportunities are coming my way. I think I spend the whole day praying to my guides and the angels to release my fears and to help them lead my way. I believe in miracles… I just have to get out of my own way and stop being a control freak and just allow life at its greatest to happen to me.

  2. Part of me wishes I’d have heard this a couple days ago, but maybe I wouldn’t have been able to hear it. My dad went 1000 miles away for surgery (cancer) and was traveling back alone this weekend. I’ve been praying almost constantly for 48 hours “help me.. thank you. Help me, thank you” has been my mantra 🙂 and he’s finally home but there’s been a lot of worry between those prayers. Tonight, listening to this I can just feel it in my soul and see all the ways God and angels were looking out for us the last couple days, situations that were definitely difficult and uncertain that worked out in the end. Maybe tonight was the perfect time for this message because now that I’m calm I can see all the ways I had to learn and have faith and that everything worked out exactly as it needed to. Thank you Gabby. You’re an amazing teacher and I always appreciate your vlogs.

    1. I have been trying to accept my mothers death. It’s a difficult road but I feel her and angels around me. Thank you for confirming this.

  3. Hi Gabby

    thank you for your amazing meditations and videos. they have helped me tremendously.

    South Africa

  4. Love this message! I woke up feeling off after watching the news and the first thought that popped into my mind was it’s Monday and Gabby will have something uplifting to listen to today. Restart on the day 🙂

    Thank you!

  5. Hey Gabby,
    Just wanted to thank you for the timely video. The past four months have been the most anxious periods of my life and my fears have been so unbelievably large. I really liked when you said “You are not given more than you can handle” as it really resonated with me. I know that in these times I am actually being called to serve. Thanks for teaching me so many great lessons.

    You look beautiful as always, by the way!

  6. Hi Gabby,

    Thank you for this timely video. I’m having difficulties with an important relationship, coping with a bereavement and also looking for work. I feel that my life is so uncertain at the moment and I’m struggling to accept that I need to release my fear and trust in the universe to be guided to my right path.

    Catherine x

  7. This is so exactly what I needed to hear this morning. My family is in the midst of a very stressful ordeal and this morning I was literally holding my breath and physically feeling sick due to the tension. I asked for guidance today , more specifically I needed a sign or something to help me. I received your email and this vlog within seconds of my request for guidance! Gabby you were an answered prayer today. Thank you!

  8. Hi Gabby,

    This is exactly what I needed. My desire for control — and my desire to do the “right things” in order to heal a number of health and body issues I’m experiencing right now — only makes my fear grow. Thank you so much for this call to action. I am ready to commit to surrendering and strengthening my connection to the divine.

    I participated in my first white tantric yoga this Saturday in New York. I started kundalini yoga in August and signed up for teacher training in September. I give you full credit for leading me there. I’m also enrolled in the Institute for Integrative Nutrition.

    You and I met in 2010 at SU when you met with my magazine networking group (Andrea L hooked us up, I was president of Ed2010). I have followed you ever since. I trust you to no end and can’t thank you enough for your constant guidance.

    Sat Nam,

  9. Thank you, Gabby- this was uplifting and calming. I struggle, though, with the seeming contrast between “letting go, letting our higher power guide us” and the idea that we are the creators of our own lives, that we have control over our feelings and can manifest what we want to see in ourselves and our lives. Are we god, or is there a god, or both?? Does this make sense? Maybe I’m looking at it from the wrong angle…

  10. You talk about when you decided to get sober, your unconscious said, everything will be given. I’ve decided to stop drinking since I’m an alcoholic, but unfortunately consequences with the law are scary and I need a miracle, a miracle of redemption, I do deserve it as is the first time I have decided to quit drinking, I want to be the woman I was meant to be, I want to serve, I have been awakened! The law punishment will not serve me I’m scared I need to manifest a miracle

  11. Thank you Gabby! Divine timing for me to get this reminder. I’ve been too busy in my head lately and caught up in “stuff”. This morning I said a prayer and asked for help in living my life with more grace and peace. Then along came your message ????

  12. Thank you. You are such a gift and you convey exactly what I need at that time of difficulty. Your guidance is profound and priceless. Thank you. You are a real angel.


  13. I have been examining my fears lately and after watching and listening to your vlog, I realize my fear is that my divine guidance is not enough.I remember family members implying that ” they” needed to show me, approve, educate me,etc.I am releasing that fear.

  14. I love you so much Gabby and I love this message! I surrender every single day. I pray for more faith. I pray to trust more. I am asking for help and miracles now. I’m so deeply grateful to you for popping my top of and helping me dissolve my fear.

  15. Gabby,
    Thank you so much for the discussions. I am on a path of enlightenment and healing. I am a student of the Course in Miracles and have read your books. I now have subscribed to the “Finally Full” course and I eternally grateful for your words and help- on week one! Yay!! Please keep this going and know that you have inspired me to also become a Miracle Worker!!
    Much love and many blessings!!!

  16. How amazing do you feel when so many people respond with, ‘This is exactly what I needed to hear’? Well, I’m saying the same thing. I was literally in tears this morning grappling with the perceived enormity of the problems I’m facing and how discouraged I’ve become trying to ‘make’ things unfold in the way I think they should. I love the Course and it has been an amazing source of freedom for me. Thank you for sharing this wonderful truth about fear! 🙂 – Jay

  17. Absolutely beautiful message! I have read that in the course before, but it was exactly what I needed to hear, thank your delivering 🙂

    I also like to say this to myself when I feel fear, from A Course in Miracles: There is nothing my holiness cannot do because the power of God lies in it.


  18. This is just what I needed to hear – thank you, Gabby. It was also a reminder for me to take time to pray and really ask for what I’m seeking. I’ve been tying myself in knots trying to “do” and accomplish everything myself and feeling less than when I don’t. Trusting and surrendering,

  19. Gabby,
    For awhile now I feel my fear of making mistakes has me paralyzed. In the areas of love and finances, I’m scared that any move will be the wrong one. I have lost trust in my intuition and I feel I cannot hear it anymore. How do I get past this?

  20. You are of service gabby, this message was of service to me, and now may I be of service to the world in which ever way I am guided to serve this world for it’s greater good! Spreading love till then. Thank you 🙂

  21. Thank you Gabby for your in and inspirational words. I have lived with fear all my life-but the causes changes from day to day. Listening and keeping up with you has helped me know there is a better way. I am a work in progress but that is the key -progress. Once again keep on writing, loving, and living. I am your biggest fan.

  22. Hi Gabby!

    This video is so relevant. I’m in the middle of my final law exams and I’m petrified of failing. They are worth 100% – so a lot is riding on them. Any other suggestions of how to handle this stress?

    You inspire me, thank you!


  23. Thank you sooooo much for sharing this Gabby. I heard Wayne Dyer refer to one of the same quotations ‘ If you knew who walked beside you, you would never be afraid..’. But today I really heard it & really believed that I have a support system around me which makes me think that I was mad to have been carrying around my problem for so long.

  24. Gabby B thank you for wise words! It’s all in us but it’s how we remember to trigger it before we reach the flight or fight moment… The moment you stop and say I surrender! I let it go! the universe has yours back! May be we only get the release when there is nowhere else to turn? I know it’s a fine line between letting go and letting fear eat you up! I often feel I am doing a balancing act. Although I really want to be fully committed to letting go! Blessing Satnam xox

  25. Hi Gabby!

    THANK YOU for sharing this vlog today. It is in line with where I’m feeling pain and struggle right now. In the past, I’ve been hurt and let down by close people in my life, so my habit is to do it all on my own, and resist help from anyone, based on a fear of rejection and being hurt. Giving my fears to the universe and TRULY trusting that it has my back is something I have to remind myself of a lot right now. I feel comfort in your words and understanding, and I thank you. ????

  26. Hi Gabby!

    THANK YOU for sharing this vlog today. It is in line with where I’m feeling pain and struggle right now. In the past, I’ve been hurt and let down by close people in my life, so my habit is to do it all on my own, and resist help from anyone, based on a fear of rejection and being hurt. Giving my fears to the universe and TRULY trusting that it has my back is something I have to remind myself of a lot right now. I feel comfort in your words and understanding, and I thank you. ????

  27. Thank you Gabby! Loved hearing this, and the meditations are awesome!! How do I get rid of procrastination! It is really getting in the way! It’s like fear comes up, and then I am paralized!!! to do anything!

  28. Hi gabby,

    Lovely message and very much needed for me today. I have just got the book in a Course in Miracles. I’m finding it overwhelming and not sure where to turn with regards to its content. I’ve started picking up and reading a few pages where ever I open the book for guidance. It has helped that I’ve read your books first. Any hints and tips to following the book and getting a better understanding?
    Love and light to you vicki xxx

  29. Fear is such a obstacle for all of us…Thank you Gabby for speaking to this topic for all of us.

    In my yoga teacher training this weekend, we discussed the aspect of surrendering to the Supreme Being. So, I love the mention of trusting and knowing and asking for help (whatever that may look like for each of us).

    I have always loved it being said…”What would you do if you knew you could not fail?”

    Thank you Gabby for sharing!

    Brandy xo

  30. It’s amazing and totally awesome how the universe brings you exactly what you need at any given moment. And the person receiving the gift, sign or however one wants to call it, must be open to receiving it. I’m saying this because I have experienced these miracles in the past but through this past year i have fallen short to pick up on these signs due to an experience I never wish upon anyone. I’ve been picking up the pieces one by one and am trying to regain my sense of self worth again. It’s been an emotional roller coaster of fear, anger, lose and hurt. Fear is so paralyzing and I want to be free again.
    I woke up this morning and listened to this video and your words really spoke to me, especially right now at this particular moment in my life.
    I thank you a million times over for your Truth, your Kindness, your Love, your Wisdom, and your Guidance.

  31. I recently discovered you on oprah. I downloaded spirit junkie and it spoke to so many familiar things in my past. I am still part skeptic but picked up miracles now. I haven’t gone far but recently faced a tough issue. I don’t do well speaking up for myself. So much fear, doubt and feelings of unworthiness. I tackled a huge issue with family. I kept chanting in my head that uncertainty was my ego….I needed to trust in something higher than myself. I faced it, dealt with it and I swear to you…felt a calm come over me that I have never felt before, I can’t tell you how those inner voices just shut up finally…..
    This is fascinating and I’m moving forward in learning. I just can’t shake that feeling that I’ve been touched by something beyond my comprehension.

  32. I will go play this video every time i need the reminder, the re-assurance that all is well. Thank you for this video, this gift.

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