One time when I was giving a talk in England, a woman asked me, “Gabby, do you live in the light all the time?”
I looked at her and I was like, “No way. I get taken out all the time… but I come back fast.”
We don’t have to live in the light all the time
This is something I want to get real about right now, because I get asked these kinds of questions a lot. Many people think that if you’re a spiritual teacher, that means you are enlightened 24/7. That you live this happy-go-lucky life of perfect joy and serenity.
And then they wonder what’s wrong with them that they don’t live this way.
So let me be very clear: I do not live in the light all the time. I don’t expect you to, either.
I don’t care about how perfect of a meditator you are. I don’t care about how often you pray. I don’t care how many Kundalini kriyas you do.
What I care about is your comeback rate.
I care about how quickly you come back to love.
It happens to you, it happens to me, it happens to Oprah. It happens to everyone.
The question is not: How do I live in the light all the time? Because that’s not possible.
Instead, the question is: How can I come back to love and feel better fast?
How can we come back to love and feel better fast?
Check out this clip of a talk I gave at the yoga festival Wanderlust in L.A. In it I talk about an experience I had just that day of being willing to tune back in and then restoring my thoughts back to love. (Warning: I drop an F-bomb, so put in headphones if you’re watching this at work or around kids!)
After you watch the video, keep reading for five simple ways to calm down, get grounded and realign with the loving energy of the Universe before you freak out.
We can’t live in the light all the time… but we can come back fast.
How I tuned back in before a live talk
In the video I talked about the experience I’d had that very day when I was backstage getting ready. I felt pretty out of it because I had woken up at 4 am since I was still on East Coast time, and meanwhile there was a whirlwind of energy around me.
I easily could’ve just slumped into a chair and told myself, “I’m way too drained to give a talk right now.”
Instead, I recognized the opportunity to tune back in and restore my thoughts back to love. I prayed and then I meditated. And then I went out of my dressing room and I encountered a man dressed all in white carrying sage and a pitchfork. So I said to this beautiful stranger, “Sage me, man!” He swirled the sage around me and focused his pitchfork vibration on my third eye and helped me tune back in.
As much as I love this encounter, the truth is that you don’t need to be at a yoga festival and have an awesome hippie sage you in order to restore your thoughts back to love! All you need is the willingness to tune back in.
5 simple ways to restore your thoughts back to love
Below I share five simple ways to restore your thoughts back to love and feel better right now. These tips and techniques are adapted from my book Miracles Now, and they all work in just a few minutes!
Use these techniques when you notice yourself feeling drained, stressed, anxious, scared or angry.
They will not only help you feel better instantly, but practicing them regularly will shorten your comeback rate, raise your vibration and amp up your attracting power!
Technique #1: When in doubt, choose peace
Living a miraculous life takes commitment. In every given moment we have a divine spiritual assignment in front of us: Choose love or choose fear.
Bring this concept with you throughout your day. In the moments when you witness yourself choosing fear, attack, judgment, and separation, simply say: “I choose peace instead of this.” Make this your mantra.
When you choose love in any way you’re unconsciously connecting to your higher self, asking for love to reinterpret the situation. When you face a difficult situation, use this principle with even more conviction. Trust in its power and you’ll see results you couldn’t have imagined. A Course in Miracles says, “Miracles arise from conviction.”
Practice this principle in all situations and heighten your commitment to miracles. In an instant you will feel peace set in.
Technique #2: Release the oxytocin!
Sometimes the simplest way to drop a BADitude and bring on the happiness can come through an everyday action. Certain actions activate oxytocin, which induces feelings of love, trust and a sense of bonding.
When you’re feeling funky, oxytocin can turn your mood around, make you feel more connected and revive your overall energy.
One way you can can rev up your oxytocin anywhere, anytime, is to place your hand on your heart. When you do this, your body receives the signal that it’s safe to calm down.
Once you place your hand onto your heart, breathe into it. As you breathe into your heart imagine feelings of love, compassion, and ease pass over you. Proactively collaborate in your healing by breathing into your heart.
Technique #3: Surrender control
The ego tries to control all outcomes regardless of how powerless you are over them. This need to control is a major stressor that wreaks havoc on your well-being and happiness. I know this firsthand because I am a recovering obsessive!
The reason we try to control outcomes is because we’re afraid that if we don’t make it happen, no one will. The key to releasing your need to control is to accept that there is a power greater than you working on your behalf to support you.
A simple surrender practice
To get you back into the groove of Universal energy, practice an awesome tool that will help you surrender your need to control.
Make a list of all of the things you’re trying to control. Next to each issue write: I am powerless over this situation and I surrender it to the Universe. Carry this list around with you.
Whenever you notice yourself obsessing, bust out your list and surrender.
Let me be clear: I am not suggesting that you do not have dominion over your own actions. But once you have made your move, it’s time to surrender the outcome.
A simple intention to surrender your control is all you need to experience miracles.
For more guidance on how to surrender, check out my SuperSoul Sessions talk on the five steps to spiritual surrender.
Technique #5: Feel your feelings for 90 seconds
This is a technique I learned from my coach and dear friend Rha Goddess. When you have an urge to push down a feeling or escape it, instead give yourself permission to feel it for 90 seconds. You can set a timer.
You can be free from your negative patterns once you truly feel the feelings that dwell below them. The next time you notice yourself caught up in a fearful experience or addictive pattern, take a moment to feel the feeling in your body.
Describe it thoroughly (a tight knot in your stomach, tight jaw, fluttering heart, etc.) so you can clearly identify it when it arises. Then for 90 seconds breathe in and out, allowing yourself to experience the feeling fully.
Don’t deny the feeling or push it down. Just be present with it. After 90 seconds witness the shift in your body, mind and actions.
Check out Miracles Now for 103 more ways to come back to love fast
In my book Miracles Now, I offer 108 handpicked tips and tools to help you release stress, find your flow and connect to your true purpose!
These simple techniques combat our most common problems — stress, burnout, frustration, jealousy, resentment. Inspired by some of the greatest spiritual teachings, these practical, moment-to-moment tools will help you eliminate blocks and live with more ease.