Note: This post was updated in July 2018 for clarity and additional resources.
I often witness people over-spiritualize their issues without dealing with them in an honest way.
What does it mean to over-spiritualize? Some people just rely on affirmations to feel better without getting to the root cause of their discomfort. Other people talk a big game about forgiveness but don’t have a genuine desire to let go and forgive.
If this resonates with you, there is no shame in it. I’ve over-spiritualized many times!
What’s important is that we get honest about whether we are over-spiritualizing and how we’re handling our feelings.
How to stop over-spiritualizing and move through your feelings
If you are over-spiritualizing instead of really dealing with your issues, I have two concrete tools for you. Watch the video below or keep reading for my guidance!
What is over-spiritualizing?
I see a lot of people walking around carrying a lot of pain, discomfort and negative experiences that they haven’t let go of. Many people resent family members, friends, coworkers and people from their past. They feel this pain every day but don’t know how to deal with it.
When we don’t know how to deal with our pain, we use our spiritual practice to almost overstep the healing process. We repeat affirmations but don’t fully believe them, and we aren’t doing the spiritual work that goes along with those affirmations. We may be walking around saying things like, “I forgive, I love, I release.” We post those quotes on Instagram but that’s it. We’re using affirmations in place of doing the actual work of feeling the experience. This is over-spiritualizing.
I did this for many years. I understand it. We don’t actually want to go to the depths and the darkness of the discomfort. That’s what we have to do in order to actually move through the pain. But we’re scared of that darkness. But if we just use affirmations, say prayers and do meditations, we’re skipping an important step. That step is getting honest about our feelings and honoring them. This is why you might not see any changes despite all your awesome spiritual practices!
Even Louise Hay, the queen of affirmations, would say, “You have to feel your feelings and you have to move through those feelings.” We can’t skip that step of going into the depths of how we feel. This is how we heal. That’s why I’ve gotten really into EFT tapping and Kundalini yoga.
Feel your feelings with Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and Kundalini
I love both of these practices. EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. It’s also known as tapping. This is a practice that allows you to get really honest about how you feel and what’s coming up for you. It gives you fast relief so that you can say the things that you’re scared to say and immediately feel better about them.
The thing I love about Kundalini is that you allow your emotions to move through you naturally so that you can shake them out and have a cathartic experience. That experience of catharsis can be our greatest tool for moving through discomfort, pain and deep patterns of negativity.
Even if you don’t have time in the moment to turn to EFT or Kundalini, you can feel your feelings and experience a miracle! You can simply say out loud, “I feel uncomfortable.” (Although you can practice this stress-relieving Kundalini technique in just 1 minute!)
Speak your truth
One of the greatest tools for starting a practice of feeling your feelings and moving through them is just to speak the truth.
Many of you responded really beautifully to a video blog I did about how I handled negative comments on the internet. I think that the reason there was such a strong response to that video was because I got honest about the fact that I was hurt and upset. For me, the great healing occurred not because I just said, “Oh, I forgive and delete, and I’m moving on.” That healing occurred because I said, “I’m hurt. This is uncomfortable.”
I let myself have that feeling. I let that emotion come forward and then I expressed it to all of you. And then, once I had felt it and honored that feeling, I forgave and I deleted.
Have you ever had a moment where you expressed your truth to someone and everything changed? That’s often when people fall in love with you more! I’ve had that experience countless times in my life. I’ve just told someone, “This is how I feel,” and our relationship has changed forever. It’s become stronger, deeper and more real. Vulnerability heals. Truth, spoken with kindness, heals.
When you say how you feel and share your truth, you also give others permission to do the same! You become the teacher.
Honor the process and let it unfold
Don’t be afraid to say how you feel, because in that genuine authenticity you are experiencing dramatic growth. My hope for you is that you can open up to what is truthful and honest for you. Use your tools, such as EFT and Kundalini, to move through those authentic feelings. Even if you can’t do it in the moment, do it later in the day when you have the time. Let it be a process. Let it unfold.
In that process you can always bring your affirmations back in. You can always bring your prayers back in. But let yourself feel. Just remember to not over-spiritualize your life. You don’t want to give an affirmation for everything, because that’s not living in your truth. Before you post that mantra on Instagram or repeat that affirmation all day long, give yourself a chance to get honest and honor your feelings.
I hope this serves you. If you feel moved to do so, post in the comments below about what it is that you want to work through. Share how you feel. When you express that feeling, you can start to receive a lot of relief in that instant.
Get new spiritual tools every month and find spiritual running buddies
I want to make it really easy for you to get the most out of your spiritual practice. I want you to feel safe and supported as you explore your feelings and go into those depths. And I want you to move out of that discomfort fast and experience miracles!
That’s why I created my Miracle Membership. This is a monthly subscription platform where I give you brand-new content every month on a specific theme. The new content includes a brand-new meditation every month. Some of those meditations include guided Kundalini meditations and EFT videos!
Plus we have a private Facebook group where you can find spiritual running buddies and be really open about how you’re feeling! This is a very supportive and high-vibe community where you can get honest and get support.