Accept and Release

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Hey Spirit Junkies! This week’s vlog is about accepting and releasing those who harm us. When we feel attacked or judged by others our immediate response is to attack back. This never works. When we attack back we’re investing in the other person’s fear-based illusion. By investing in their fear we experience more fear. This vlog guides you to take action towards detaching from the need to attack back. Enjoy this three-step process to accept, release and set yourself free. For further guidance releasing listen to my guided meditations.

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  1. Love this so much! Was JUST having a convo about this last night and you are reinforcing all that was said and then some! I love when that happens =) Such great advice, and one of my biggest obstacles/opportunities for a shift in perception!

  2. This couldn’t have come at a better time! I am about to go into a meeting with a couple of gals and we are all upset with each other for reasons I won’t get into. I have been losing sleep about how to handle talking about the issue well so that we don’t have hard feelings and damage our relationship. This put things into perspective and I will go into the meeting with these new tools. THANK YOU!

  3. Wonderful vlog!! It’s like you always know what topics to remind us of. This lesson about not investing in the illusion is SUCH a powerful and important one. Thanks! xo

  4. Hello Gabby,

    I have thoroughly been enjoying your vlogs over the past few months, since you were first introduced to me. Your messages are beautiful and so necessary for this time. I also just purchased your meditation, which a another beautiful product! I wanted to give you some feedback though – for your vlog. The lighting in the room in which you’re recording doesn’t really – well, suite “your brand”. I would love to see you in a brighter room, with more natural light. It would be much more fitting given the brightness and brilliance that you speak of.
    Looking forward to next week as always, namaste. Katharine.

    1. thanks for your feedback katherine:) good news. I’m working with a production company to professionally produce a web series. This will be BRIGHT and shiny:)

  5. Very inspiring!!! And very intelligent!! And so very true!!! Whenever someone is “attacking” me, I put up my shields (envision mirrors or just ask for the white light of divine protection) and then I send them love back! It works!!!!!! They actually come around and send me love back too!!!

    So fantastic πŸ™‚

  6. This couldnt have come at a better time. This clog seriously just changed my whole outlook on one of my relationships. You are a true blessing Gabby! Thank you!!!

  7. Hey Gabby,

    This is suchhhhh a fantastic message – I’ve definitely been feeling attacked/judged by someone I know for the last few days and as much as I keep trying to ignore it rather than letting go I’d just been crafting rebuttals in my mind. Screw that, I choose to release it and focus more on me and positivity. THANK YOU for helping me! When the student’s ready, the teacher presents herself indeed! πŸ˜€

    Lisa from Toronto

  8. Beautiful. I needed to hear this. I was WAY invested in how annoying someone in my life is and complained openly to my husband. He said “Yeah but, she’s in pain right? That’s why she does it.”. Yes. Totally.
    I love the reminder about the holy instant. Thank-you for your service!!

  9. Great Vlog! It really has wonderful and useful information without any fluff. It’s what I needed today, very timely. Have a super week!

  10. Thank you so much for your wise words Gabby! I have a lot of people in my life who I have to interact with daily that are very negative, gossipy and just complain a lot and it’s hard not to get sucked into it. This advice helps a lot but I’m wondering if you have advice on how to respond directly to their negativity without sounding condescending. Thanks so much!

  11. Thanks Gabby for taking the time to guide us with your words. Today’s topic is really on-point with my life. It’s something that I needed to be reminded of, and I will put it into practice immediately. PS I’m really enjoying your ~ing book. I’ve already implemented several things that you mention. Thanks so much!

  12. Hi Gabby,

    Thanks for the video. I feel like I have so much to change about myself, but am overwhelmed by my issues and where to start. I easily fall back into my normal behavior. I just got your mediation, and am trying to find your book at the bookstore (they did have it at my local one). Any process I should start to follow?

  13. Thank you so much sister! This miracle came just at the right time, as it always does! So grateful.

  14. love timely…question…if i have a reaction to my partners asking me loads of questions (reaction is irritability) and then she has a reaction by wanting to back off because she feels “beat up” and then asks “before i decide if i want to move forward with you i’m going to need your deep reflections about how your hurt, anger, frustration, irritation manifest” i almost feel like i dont have an answer for that and it makes me feel like i’m a child having to report why i was irritable…is my ego involved here. makes me feel like “well, then just move on then” and not deal with the whole thing….
    thank you!!

  15. This is a great three-step reminder for dealing with things that are pretty relevant to me in two big areas. Thank you. Brilliantly expressed, Gabrielle.

  16. wow! just what i needed to hear today!! easier said than done though as I find it extremely hard to practice with this particular person. I want to in order so I’m not constantly affected by this persons actions. Their actions seem to always bring up my own feelings of inadequacy and insecurities BIG time!! And I hate giving my power away when I obsess over this person…help! xo

  17. A miracle brought me to the recent issue of Elle you were featured in. I read it two days ago and ever since have submerged myself with all things Gabby! You are unbelievable, and bless you for all that you do for the world. This one really hit home today, and I’m beyond thrilled to continue my journey of your inpsiration.

    <3 KP

  18. This is so applicable to a few relationships in my lives, where I realized I have been feeding their fear by responding back with resentement and anger. I plan to truely practice this steps throughout my day and week as I come into contact with these individuals. I have faith that in turn, they will feel this love and change their behavior in a positive direction. Thank you Gabby for a delightful message – this has started my morning in a happy note πŸ™‚

  19. Thank you – Gabrielle – you r right – the worst thing is to invest in that illusion – cause then we do not walk the “divine” path anymore πŸ™‚ – as you say πŸ™‚ great that the “movement of light” is spreading – kind regards fm Switzerland

  20. Thank you, so much, for this very powerful and uplifting message! It couldn’t have come at a better time… I like to think i’ve gotten better at letting things go, but certainly not with everything, and I need to consciously remember to let go and let love. Thank you for being such a phenomenal teacher and inspiration!! <3

  21. I really appriciate messages such as these. This has really helped me to work past and forgive someone who has kept me in a negative place for a long time. Thank you.

  22. Thanks so much Gabby, this is really helpful!
    Sometimes it’s really hard to stay connected with the truth and we need these steps as a reminder…

  23. Hi Gabrielle! Thank you again and again for your vlogs…. It always makes my day πŸ™‚ I have been having a really hard time lately with releasing people. I’ve been taking to heart what they say to me when they’re coming from a negative place, and it really brought me down for a few days. It’s always nice to have that reminder that they are going through their own tough times, and they’re just having a hard time dealing with their issues. It makes me feel so much better to be able to look at their negativity towards me as an opportunity to be compassionate, even if it means just praying for them. Sometimes my fear overcomes my love, and to think that I’m just spreading that negativity around by not seeing the situation with love, it just makes me want to bring that love back into my thoughts even more. So thank you for the very important reminder… it not only has me looking at these people with more love, but it also has me looking at myself with more love… such a great feeling. SPREAD THE LOVE!! xoxo

  24. I so needed this after being attacked by former friends. It is important to remind myself that the outward attack is really a reflection of their own suffering. It’s also important that we do not have control over another person’s reaction…only the way we deal with things ourselves. When we are in a place of love&kindness&compassion we can better receive it. Gabby, you are an amazing teacher! <3

  25. Thanks Gabby! I think I understood the knowing they were suffering when they projected negativity. And I would say prayer for their peace. What I didn’t really realize is how I was “investing in their illusion” when I reacted negatively, even in small amounts.

  26. Hi Gabby, Thank you so much for this vlog. I realize that there are people in my life who are just projecting negativity and I really fall into those habits of giving it right back to them because its easy and its a habit. I’m going to make an effort to turn that around and use your 3 step guide to stop the insanity. I do not want to invest in their illusion anymore. I truly appreciate your site and am going to buy your book right now.

  27. Recently discovered (via Elle) and happy to note, HUGE fan. Very relatable, enjoying the f bombs (sometimes there’s just no better word) and reminding us to reflect and forgive. They’re tougher than they sound. Will be tuning in regularly and consider me your attentive (and newest) fan in Toronto. You’re right, negativity DOES suck.

  28. Love these vblogs. Even though my mind knows these things and automatically wants to do this when I face a problem or negativity from someone, my ego wants to drag me back down and these vblogs help remind me to shut the voice up! Thanks for all the love Gabby, I can’t wait for your new book!

  29. And I wanted to also say that I love your work and keep up the good work, we need more positive people around us so that we can remember that the main goal is to be happy, make other people happy, love and be loved. Lots of love and peace!!

  30. Gabby thanks for getting “it”! I feel your energy-Namaste………Many times I’ve practiced letting go and sending the other person good energy through prayer. I’ve chosen to. I lost my mother, father and aunt to cancer in the last ten years and I have literally transformed my own life by using those same principles from which you speak.
    I’ve had to search deep within my soul to do so. Thanks for your support- you are a beautiful soul.

  31. Hi Gab.
    I have become familiar with your work through Ashley Turner and I think it is great. I loved this V-log. I have been in a situation with my best friend this week where we are no longer friends and I got attached in the way you discribed and I was having a hard time to release this, letting it go but you v-log helped a lot. Thanks again.
    Hope you come to Denmark some day, if you do, let me know.

  32. Gabby,
    Thank you so much for sharing your insight. I have found your site in the past week, and this v-log has come at a perfect moment for me. It has been a reminder of the need to look inside to find happiness and recognize that sometimes we do have to let go of people even though we care very much about them.


  33. I watched this last night before I went to bed and tried to work through it for some people in my life before I went to sleep. I woke up this morning feeling lighter and more energized than I have in a long time. There’s more work to be done (and videos to be watched), but I think I’m finally on a good path. Thank you so much!

  34. Thank you so much, Gabby, for this. I’ve been having a really traumatic time with a romantic partner, and I’ve invested so much in these illusions of suffering and feeling attacked that it physically pains me. I’ve been watching this vlog for the last month, hoping and praying it will sink in. I need to pray for this man and release once and for all in order to open the door to peace. My gratitude to you is boundless. xoxo

  35. Aloha Gabby! I seemed to have stumbled across your “accept and release” vlog perhaps a month and a half after it was posted but I just wanted to tell you THANK YOU. The 3 steps are PERFECT. I have never looked at the whole “invest/illusion” aspect of uncomfortable happenings with friends… it makes soooo much sense. I meditated for about 25 minutes after and of course amidst the random thoughts I could feel some tears forming and trickling and just felt such a beautiful release. I am going to continue to work on mySELF, seeing and learning from what I may bring to the table while learning to forgive, (aargh, this is a tough one for me, but I am working on this EVERY DAY). Mahalo for the guidance and assistance Gabby! I feel light. xoxo*

  36. Gabriel…thank you so much!! I got up this morning and on the way out to ride my horse I listened to your “Expect a Miracle” vlog and then the one about “Accept and Release” and then this one and the combo of the three completely erased a difficult experience I had with some business people this week and put me back in “The Zone” of Love…I love you…thank you for being who you are and having such a profound influence on my life! XX Robin

  37. Having a hard time letter go of a 25 year relationship with my husband who has recently came out or believes he is transgendered. I have tried to help him in so many ways and tried to convince him that his past childhood trauma was the cause and he needed serious mental rehabilitation to know that what he is doing to his family is wrong… After a year of trying, I have hurt myself mentally and physically and now know that I cannot help him and I must somehow end our relationship, but love him so much it hurts to try… Family tries to help, but they keep saying the ball is in my court and they just don’t know how painful it is to spend a lifetime with a person you love so much and then tell them we can’t stay together b/c I am not gay or like what you have done to yourself and the ways you are hurting yourself. I am lost…I know what I have to do, but taking just baby steps put me into tears and find myself calling him at work crying and begging him to stop…God is no longer with me…no one really knows how to help…do you?

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