October 2nd is one of the most important anniversaries in my life.
At the start of October in 2005 I was deep in the throes of addiction and spiraling toward rock bottom fast. Here’s how I put it in my book Spirit Junkie:
Things got bad. I had no real friends, my family was constantly disappointed in me, I weighed about 98 pounds and my voice was totally shot. My business was going under, my business partner wanted me dead and my self-loathing was at an all-time high. I was severely depressed from the drugs, and I literally had lost my mind. I couldn’t remember where I’d parked my car the night before, or the name of the intern I’d hired a year earlier. I was a mess.
Then, after a crazy party on the night of October 1st, I came home and wrote in my journal as I tried to come down from the drugs I’d taken. I wrote: “I need help. God, Universe, whoever is out there … I need a miracle.”
I fell asleep. The next morning — October 2nd, 2005 — I woke up with a loud, clear inner voice talking to me.
For many years this voice had been a whisper, one that I’d mostly ignored. But that morning there was no denying it. I had asked for help and now I was receiving it. The voice said, Get clean and you’ll have everything you want.
I had no choice but to listen. I had surrendered, and God was answering my prayer.
I have been sober since that day.
And just as that voice promised, from the moment I got clean I’ve been manifesting everything I desire. My happiness, health and success went from zero to off the charts. I owe it all to that spiritual surrender. Committing to living in the light, staying clean and sticking with my spiritual practices has changed my life in every conceivable way.
In my 12 years of sober recovery I’ve turned to many spiritual tools for help along the way. It’s not that getting clean and walking a spiritual path have made all my problems and challenges disappear!
Instead, my spiritual practices help me handle every challenge with grace and confidence. They remind me that there is a power much greater than me, and that I can call on support and guidance from that power whenever I want. These practices give me peace, insight, comfort, love and support.
Today I want to share some of the spiritual tools that I lean on all the time in my spiritual recovery. It is my hope and my intention that you will incorporate these tools into your own life and spiritual practice, whether you are recovering from substances or negative habits.
1. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
EFT has completely changed my life. You may be familiar with it because I’ve been sharing EFT lessons for years. It’s a psychological acupressure technique that supports your emotional health by stimulating certain meridian points on the body.
When you tap on specific energy meridians found on your face, head, arm and chest, you can release ancient fears, limiting beliefs, negative patterns and even physical pain. (Check out an intro to EFT here, and check out my guidance on ending sugar cravings with EFT here.)
I have practiced EFT with some incredible teachers, including Nick Ortner. Nick and his sister, Jessica, are the founders of The Tapping Solution. Tapping with Nick is a beautiful experience. I highly recommend his video for tapping on anxiety.
If you want to go deeper with EFT, Nick has a new book coming out tomorrow that I’m super pumped for! It’s called The Tapping Solution for Manifesting Your Greatest Self. In it he shares a 21-day process for releasing self-doubt, strengthening your sense of inner peace and manifesting an awesome life.
2. Kundalini meditation for addiction
I created a blog post around the Kundalini meditation for addiction a few years ago. You can follow along with me in the video or read the instructions below it. This is a very simple meditation that is easy to practice and to incorporate into your everyday life. It’s been a lifesaver for me.
You can use this amazing Kundalini meditation for any type of addiction, from alcohol and drugs to fear-based thoughts and negative patterns. We all deal with addiction in some form. Practicing this meditation regularly will bring you immense relief.
3. Turning each day over to Spirit
Every day I consciously turn over my day to Spirit. I pray for guidance and support, and I release all outcomes.
Surrender is a daily practice. Sometimes it’s a moment-to-moment practice. When I gave my Super Soul Sessions talk earlier this year, I shared my 5 steps to spiritual surrender. Step 1 is to take your hands off the wheel through prayer.
One powerful prayer is what’s known as the Acceptance Prayer. This prayer is found in The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. I turn to it when I find myself struggling with acceptance and surrender:
…And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation — some fact of my life — unacceptable to me and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God’s world by mistake.
You can simply say a short prayer every morning or anytime you find yourself trying to control outcomes. You might say, “Today I surrender my goals and plans to the care of the Universe. I offer up my agenda and accept spiritual guidance.”
Then pay attention to the guidance you receive. Because when you ask, you will receive.
If you struggle with this concept, check out my blog on how to trust in the healing path.
4. Step 10 of the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous
The 10th step of Alcoholics Anonymous is “We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.” (You can see all 12 steps here.)
When I take an inventory and recognize that I have judged someone or was in the wrong, I can get real about my thoughts and behavior instead of ignoring them. Then I can make amends and choose love instead of the fear-based voice of the ego.
This daily spot-checking keeps resentment and frustration from building up and blowing up. It strengthens my relationship to Spirit, to the people I love and to myself.
5. Understanding my triggers
Becoming conscious of my triggers and childhood wounds has been essential in my recovery. The more I understand my triggers, the easier it is to catch myself in my addictive patterns and choose differently.
One meditation that has helped me heal deep wounds from childhood is the Kundalini Meditation for Releasing Childhood Anger. If you have resentment, anger or trauma that stems back to when you were young, practicing this meditation regularly can set you free. You can access it here:
When you feel yourself being triggered and need a fast dose of serenity, there are two tools you can use in the moment. One is a simple, powerful prayer that I share in this video. Another is the Backpack Meditation. This is a Kundalini meditation that you can bust out whenever stress is taking over.
When I notice myself slipping into old patterns, I can be compassionate toward myself for having those triggers. I can acknowledge my spiritual assignments and show up for them fully in order to heal them, and can I feel safe to let go of the story that I tell myself so that the Universe can write a new one for me.
For an even deeper dive into healing old traumas, keep an eye out for my next book, Judgment Detox. It comes out on January 2nd, 2018, and it includes truly life-changing practices that will help you heal even the most painful wounds. I’ll let you know as soon as it’s available for preorder.
I’ve shared my truth in this blog, and now I want to hear from you. Are you on a path of recovery from any kind of addiction, whether it’s alcohol, substances, unhealthy relationships or anything else? What tools have helped you the most?
Share your miracles below. I’ll be reading every comment.