How to Surrender Your Goals to the Universe

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I’m excited to share a lesson from my book The Universe Has Your Back about how to surrender your goals to the Universe.

We often block our own divine guidance when we are:

  • Highly goal oriented
  • Focused on the future to the point that we’re future tripping
  • Trying to make something happen

I taught on this topic in a Facebook Live session and took questions. Watch the video below or scroll to keep reading (or both):

Goals overshadow guidance

Here’s the passage from The Universe Has Your Back. It begins with a Universal lesson, which are sprinkled all throughout the book. This Universal lesson is: Goals overshadow guidance.

The part of me that wants to be in control doesn’t like the word hope. To my fearful mind, hope implies that there’s something I’m unable to make happen on my own. While I may not like that concept, it’s exactly what I needed. Hope helps us move through our problems and choose to perceive them in a new way. Hope is the conduit for miracles. For me to move past the sadness, shame and need to control, I had to surrender to hope and let go of my plans.

In this process, I was reminded of the need to turn inward for answers. Carl Jung said: “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” When we look outside for our faith we get lost in the dreams of who we think we should be, what we think we need and when we think we need it. But when we turn inward we surrender to the one and only truth, which is love. When we surrender to love we can experience our darkest moment as the greatest catalyst for transformation.

The pathway back to hope is through surrender. It’s not something that comes naturally to us — it must be a daily practice.

Stop trying to ‘make things happen’ and surrender your goals instead

I Surrender to a Power Greater Than Me | Gabby Bernstein | The Universe Has Your Back card deckThis practice of surrender is what I want to talk about. How can we look inside and awaken instead of looking outside only to dream?

We need to look inward and learn to rely on that presence of hope and faith much more. Our ego mind really wants to give up on that word, hope, because it implies that we can’t force something to  happen on our own.

But the core message of The Universe Has Your Back is to stop trying to “make” things happen and start aligning with a greater sense of certainty and serenity. In that alignment, you’re tuned in to a power greater than yourself.

And that is when the Universe begins to co-create with you!

The more in tune you are with the Universe, the easier life is

The practice of surrender is one of turning over your need to control, turning over your obsessiveness, turning over your belief system that you have to make everything happen.

This is something I’ve been working on in my own spiritual practice: accepting that the less I do, the more can happen around me. There’s a lot to be said for creating, showing up, and putting your heart, soul and sweat into something. But that action has to be backed with alignment.

The more in tune with the Universe that you are, the easier your life will be. You’ll be more faithful and better at healing your fearful perceptions. You’ll live with more ease.

Q&A with readers about how to surrender your goals to the Universe

In the Facebook Live video, I answered some excellent questions from the people who joined me. I condensed my answers below.

Don’t goals give us clarity?

Layla said: “I’ve found that goals can give clarity to attract what you want when you’re able to surrender to the exact results.”

Yes — this is a beautiful message! There is value in having clarity. Holding visions of where we want to go is a big part of how we manifest miracles in our lives.

There’s nothing wrong with having goals as long as they are surrendered. Holding a vision and having clarity on what you want is beautiful as long as you have offered up your vision and you’re in alignment with the Universe.

Your goal should always end with this idea: It’s this or something better.

Our need to control blocks guidance

When we insist on achieving our goal in a specific way or on a certain timeline, we interfere with the Universe’s divine plan and we actually block guidance. Our neediness and sense of pushing keep us from manifesting.

So check in with yourself. Ask: Have I offered up my goals? If you see that you haven’t, or that you’re future tripping, the practices in The Universe Has Your Back will help you release your goals and get into alignment with the Universe.

See what happens when you actually let go — when you say, “It’s this or something better.” When you’re in a place of surrender, your energy relaxes and you make space for guidance.

How to tell the difference between the Universe and the ego

Sophia asked: “How do you distinguish between signs from the divine Universe and those from our ego?”

Owl | How to surrender your goals to the UniverseWhen you’re receiving a sign from the Universe, it often feels like a great surprise or a gift. When it’s a message from your ego, it’s usually something you’ve been hunting for. You may be subtly manipulating circumstances to deliver you this “sign.”

When a sign comes from the Universe you’ll likely be a little bit blindsided and be like, “Oh! There you are. How cool.”

Here’s an example: If you’ve read The Universe Has Your Back, you know that one of my signs is an owl. It’s a sign that guided my husband and me as we searched for and then found our Mountain House.

Well, recently we moved on from our Mountain House and bought a new house in the same town! After we’d closed, my broker mentioned he had a gift for us, something he saw and thought I’d like. When we walked in the door, I saw his gift and unwrapped it in the hallway. It was a beautiful bowl … with an owl print!

Now, my broker hadn’t read the book and I’d never talked to him about an owl being my sign. I was very content with the choice I’d made. The Universe just surprised me with it, saying, “Welcome to your new home! You’re on the right track.”

This is how you know it’s the Universe. When a sign is from the Universe it will be in your face. There will be no question.

If you haven’t read The Universe Has Your Back, the book includes a step-by-step practice on how to ask for and receive signs from the Universe.

How do you know you’ve surrendered to the Universe?

Danielle asked, “How do you know you’ve surrendered?”

This is a great question. And the answer is very simple: You wake up without anxiety about your goal. You feel more ease. You feel more relief. You have the same experiences, but you feel very differently about them. When you surrender a goal to the Universe, you feel at peace when you think about it.

I hope this book serves you and gives you the greatest sense of certainty and safety in the midst of the chaos of the world. Thank you for reading and for being the light.

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  1. Hi Gabby, we are always told that to achieve our goals we have to work hard. How can I surrender my goals to the support of the Universe while still moving towards them and putting the work in? Much love, Holly

    1. Great question, Holly. When we commit to our daily spirit practice, we create the space via prayer and meditation to receive guidance. This guidance leads to inspired action, so rather than taking action from a place of fear and lack, we are taking action based on joy and faith. Here is another blog post that you might find helpful: /getting-want-doesnt-struggle/
      xoxo

  2. I’m 45 years old and I’m trying to surrender the goal of wanting another baby – a goal I have been holding onto for three years. Surrendering feels like mourning the fact that I may not have another baby and become OK with that. But manifesting is all about getting on the same energy frequency – visualising it – feeling it as though it were here. How can I let the goal go and truly surrender if every morning I am visualising and getting on the frequency of having a baby? To surrender means no practices or mediations about having a baby?

    1. Great questions, Razia. Surrendering does not mean no practices or mediations about having a baby. When we truly surrender we are releasing the need to control the outcome because we have so much faith that the universe will deliver in the right and perfect way at the right and perfect time. Here are some additional posts and practices that you might find helpful:
      https://gabbybernstein.com/new-blog-super-soul-sessions-talk-5-steps-spiritual-surrender/
      https://gabbybernstein.com/strengthen-faith-weaken-fear/
      https://gabbybernstein.com/how-to-detach-from-outcomes/
      xoxo

  3. I didn’t quite get what you are trying to say mam.
    1)what is this thing or process when you say alignment?can you please elaborate on that.
    2)I am a class 13th student( you would understand tht if you were in india).
    and I cant really explain you how it feels to be in 13th. In short miss can you just tell how to surrender a goal.

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