For all of 2020, I was doing fertility treatments an hour and a half away from home … and I needed to shift my perspective.  

Every month, the treatments weren’t working. 

I was flooded with hormones, I was nervous about COVID. I was annoyed about traffic. And I was growing increasingly frustrated. I almost let the feelings of defeat overwhelm me. 

And this, my friend, is when I had to practice what I’ve been preaching for decades. 

How to Shift Your Perspective

I dug deep into my spiritual practice and I realized that I had an important choice to make: I could choose my own story, and I had two options for what that story would be. 

If I chose one path, I could tell myself, “Screw this. I don’t want to be in the car this long. I don’t want to be going to a doctor’s office every week for a year, shooting myself up with hormones in the middle of a pandemic.” 

But I didn’t choose that story. Instead, I chose to focus on learning and growth. 

In my story, those long car rides were called “spiritual school.” On the way to and from the doctor’s office, I listened to every spiritual podcast I could find. (Including mine!) I did a whole Internal Family Systems Therapy training. (This is the therapy that changed my life, and I write about it in my new book Happy Days.)

I sipped my coffee, I ate my snack bars … and I’d call my friend MaryAnn on the way home, just to riff on spiritual topics. 

The experience ended up being like therapy on wheels. It became a ritual that I actually looked forward to! 

Choose Grace

Forgive your fear and choose again

Sometime later, my therapist said to me, “I can’t believe you went through your IVF experience with such a good attitude. Even though it took so much out of you, and even though you had so many disappointments, you went through this with grace.” 

“It’s because I chose that,” I responded. 

And that’s the theme of today’s Dear Gabby podcast: choosing our stories. Choosing our vibes. And setting the stage for the life we want to live. 

If you’re a Dear Gabby listener, you know how I usually roll. 

I open up my line and let the callers come in. For a few minutes at a time, I coach people through anxiety, frustration, or whatever else comes up for them. Then I let the next caller come through. 

But not this time. 

My First Live Deep Dive

Today’s episode of Dear Gabby is my first Dear Gabby deep dive, where I did a one-one-one workshop with just one caller. I’d planned to take several calls …

But the Universe had other plans. 

The minute I heard Courtney’s voice, I knew her story and her bravery would serve others. I also knew that we were being guided— an orb of light streaked across my screen when she dialed in!!!!  

And so, I put my agenda to the side. I shifted my perspective, and let Spirit show me what to do. 

A spontaneous one-on-one workshop unfolded, imparting some of the most beautiful lessons I’ve ever been able to share on-air. 

Lessons of Love

Listen to this episode to discover: 

  • How to show up for something we dread with joy and love (I know it sounds crazy, but hear me out on this!) 
  • How to turn a super-scary situation into a miracle
  • The way to transform a diagnosis into an opportunity to grow 
  • How to connect with your spirit guides by asking for a sign (here’s a hint: Courtney’s about to see a lot of bran muffins) 

This episode of Dear Gabby is packed with so much goodness. You will be blown away by Courtney’s radical (and fast) transformation. And if she can do it, so can you! No matter what’s going on in your life, you can shift your perspective in a powerful way. Listen now. 

Sharing our stories with others to help them heal is one of the bravest acts we can do. I know this intimately, because it took me 42 years to write my new book, Happy Days; The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace.

In the book, which comes out on February 22, 2022, I share my own story of overcoming childhood trauma. I open up about some of the most vulnerable parts of my past, and I share the exact tools I used to heal. I hope the book will serve you, and help you shift your perspective.

Can I also ask a favor? 

Please listen to this episode of Dear Gabby till the very end, so that you can join in on a healing prayer for Courtney. I believe in the power of collective energy, and we need your light! 

Let’s wrap this beautiful mama in healing light with these words and intentions: 

A Healing Prayer

I call on the guidance of the highest truth and compassion to enter into this space that we’re in today to guide Courtney, to protect her, to hold her, to give her the gift of spiritual connection. 

We ask the angels to place their hands upon her shoulders, guide her in and out of each healing process, and help her experience the radiation with grace, freedom, ease in her body. 

We ask the angels to make this experience a miraculous one, make it an experience that she can look back on and say, wow, look what I learned from that, how much I grew from that. Look how much grace I experienced. 

We ask the guides of Courtney’s children to step up right now, to help out, to support their learning and their growth and their safety. And we say thank you to all of the guidance that is around you and within you. 

We trust that all is well. All is well. All is well.

Get More Gabby

The following are helpful resources and books I mention in the episode.

Want even more support? I created the Miracle Membership to help you design a spiritual practice you can stick to—so you can feel connected, supported and inspired every day. Each week I deliver coaching lessons, guided meditations, journaling exercises and so much more. Plus, it’s easy to access on your phone, computer or tablet. Click here to join.

My new book, Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace, is now available for preorder. There is bravery in sharing our life stories, struggles and triumphs—and these are mine. This is the most vulnerable book I’ve written yet, and it’s also my most important spiritual work. I hope it serves you greatly. 

If you need additional support, please click here to find some mental health resources I trust. I’m proud of you for being here. 


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