You know those people who always interject their voice and opinion?
Well, I’ve gotta be honest with you … that’s me!
Yup, I’m always offering unsolicited advice. I have to get the last word in, and I’m often disruptive in group settings (in person, on Zoom, even on the beach!).
Cringe! I’m a bit like Larry David.
And ugh, lately my Larry Davidness has gotten the best of me!
Each time I inject my voice or opinion into an unwelcome environment, I leave feeling energetically hungover, regretful and filled with shame.
I always vow never to do it again. But I keep falling back into the same pattern.🤐
So last week I decided to stop judging myself and become curious about what lived beneath the pattern.
I asked myself a series of questions:
What do I know about this pattern?
How long has it been around?
What does it want me to know?
Are there any thoughts or sensations connected to it?
As I became more and more curious, I was amazed by what was revealed.
I let this part of me speak up: I want to be seen and heard.
Whoa! In an instant I felt an energy of extreme compassion flood over me. I felt how young this part of me was and how long it had been around.
It was like connecting to an inner child who desperately needed attention—from anyone.
This curiosity and compassion allowed me to consider ways I could help this younger part of me.
Instead of trying to force myself to never act like that again, I committed to listening to this younger part of me and not overriding it.
The process of checking in with this part of me is the method I created for my forthcoming book, Self Help. It’s a compassionate inquiry that enables you to connect to the inner child parts of you.
When we choose to check in, we stop checking out with bad habits and behaviors. If you have a habit or behavior that you want to heal (we all do), then listen to my conversation with Dr. Richard Schwartz about Internal Family Systems and how this unique approach can give you the greatest mindset shift of your life.
The methods in my forthcoming book, Self Help, are the exact practices I use every day. They’ve offered me a new freedom and happiness, and I can’t wait to share them with you!
In this episode you’ll learn:
- The origin story of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and how this innovative approach to therapy was developed
- A simple guide to recognizing and connecting with your inner “parts” — the key to understanding your emotional landscape
- Discover the 8 C’s of Self energy that unlock clarity, calm, and confidence in every area of your life
- How IFS rewires your mindset, transforming how you see yourself and empowering you to feel more aligned, confident, and whole
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In this book, I demystify the power of Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy, taking its life-changing teachings out of the therapist’s office and into your everyday life. You’ll discover how extreme patterns like addiction, rage, pleasing, or constant self-judgment often develop as ways to suppress old feelings of inadequacy, shame, or fear.
Once you bring these patterns into the light and care for them, healing happens swiftly.
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disclaimer
This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I am not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from any psychological or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified health professional.