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the key to improving relationships

When we come up against challenges in relationships—romantic or otherwise—our instinct is usually to point the finger at the other person. But the truth is, we hold the key to harmony in all our relationships. 

What we really need to do in these moments is gently place a hand on our own heart and look inward. That’s how we empower ourselves to see the part we play—which is the only part we can actually change. 

relationship challenges are spiritual assignments

Blaming others may give us a temporary escape from looking inward, but ultimately it stops us from showing up authentically. Because the people who activate us are just a reflection of the hidden shadows we need to heal within ourselves. Instead, we need to ask ourselves, What’s being triggered inside me … and why

relationships are spiritual assignments for our personal growth and radical development

When we recognize that, we can begin to take responsibility for our own healing. And then our relationships naturally begin to heal.

understanding triggers and behaviors

If you catch yourself exhibiting extreme or reactive behaviors, your first thought might be to suppress these reactions, or “fix” them to make them more “correct.” Instead, try recognizing them as parts of your younger, unhealed self and befriend them.

Real self-love emerges when you become curious about these activated parts of yourself. When you witness your judgment without judgment, you can break free from destructive patterns and experience more harmony and happiness with the people you care for most. 

in this episode, I’ll share:

  • How to break the cycle of self-attack and judgment 
  • Why and how to cultivate gratitude when others judge you
  • Tips for befriending the activated parts within you  
  • How to summon your resourced internal parent

This episode will give you some of the deepest wisdom I have to offer. These are lessons I’ve applied in my own relationships—including the one I have with myself. The results were nothing short of miraculous. 

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This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I am not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from any psychological or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified health professional.