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Today’s Dear Gabby is a Big Talk with my EMDR therapist Tammy Valicenti — and it’s probably one of the most important podcasts I’ll ever do. 

I’m so glad you’re here! I believe that my spirit guides led me to Tammy … and that your spirit guides led you to this Dear Gabby. This conversation could truly change your life, because it’s about a healing modality that had a MAJOR impact on mine! 

In my new book Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace, I write this: 

The relief I experienced from this profound psychiatric healing approach made me want more of it. What I love most about EMDR is how spiritual it is. As the Universe would have it, I was guided to an EMDR specialist who helped me go even further in the process. Her ability to intuitively guide me to explore unresolved memories and emotions was a spiritual process.

It was as if she was attuning with my energy to allow Spirit to work through her to guide me. I have always believed that Spirit works through people (particularly therapists, doctors, and healers). And in this case, I felt truly guided by a force of love working effortlessly through this woman. Often I would see sparks of light flash behind her chair.

This was a common experience for me in therapy sessions. Those sparks of light are angels and Spirit guides peeking through to let me know that I’m in the presence of a healer. Whenever I’d see a spark light up, I’d know Spirit was working through my therapist to help me heal.

-Happy Days, Chapter 6, Page 125

meet my emdr therapist

Well, my friend, the healer that I wrote about was Tammy Valicenti… and she’s here on Dear Gabby to break EMDR down for you in the most soulful way! 

Have you ever been curious about this type of psychotherapy? 

Or, do you just want to learn about one of THE most powerful tools for feeling relief fast?

You’re in the right place!

in today’s episode you’ll learn:
  • The roots of EMDR (someone channeled it on a walk!) and exactly what to expect from your first session  
  • The difference between trauma with a big T and trauma with a little T … and the big T trauma that we often overlook 
  • How to expand your ability to process big feelings the moment they’re triggered (Tammy calls this “returning to the place of big love”) 
  • How unprocessed trauma stays trapped in the body…and how EMDR can help you release it

use emdr to bust through limiting beliefs

There’s a really important concept called “upper-limiting” that Tammy and I cover in this podcast. If you feel that you might be sabotaging your own success in any way—either consciously or subconsciously—I really want you to hear this.  

“Upper-limiting” is a tendency that trauma survivors have to play small. We might hold ourselves back in relationships, or in our finances, or in our careers. And the reason we do it is so profound. Press play to hear Tammy explain why we might keep ourselves small to avoid being retriggered … and how we can break through those blocks to meet our full potential. 

If you’ve been through trauma of any kind, please know that you’re not alone in “upper-limiting” yourself. This is a very common side effect of feeling ashamed or afraid… but everything can change once you learn to recognize it. 

Surrender your old story and become willing to embrace a new one.


you are resilient

Tammy read Happy Days cover-to-cover, and in this episode she shares her tips for how to use the book! Tammy advises being gentle with yourself as you work through the exercises. Go slow, and (if you can) find a therapist or a friend to work through the book with you. But in the meantime, I want you to know that I’m there with you on your Happy Days journey, too. 

As I wrote this book, I used it as an opportunity to extend my own calm, resourced energy to you. Through the way I wrote to you—and through the guidance, compassion, and vulnerability that I shared on each page—I wanted to show you my resilience. And I wanted you to know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that resilience is possible for YOU. 

expect miracles

You’re already on the right path. Whether this episode of the Dear Gabby podcast opens you up to EMDR therapy, or whether you’re inspired to read Happy Days and try a different healing modality, that is something to celebrate! 

I’m proud of you. Just by pressing play, you’re taking serious steps to heal old wounds, bring relief to your entire system and bust through blocks and limitations!

get more gabby

The following are helpful resources and books I mention within the episode. 

  • Tammy Valicenti is a psychotherapist and the founder of Transformation Solution. And since I’m lucky enough to call her my EMDR therapist, I’ve experienced her profound healing power firsthand! If you’d like to learn more about Tammy, please visit her website
  • In my book Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace, I share more about my journey with EMDR therapy. I also provide candid details on the other tools—both spiritual and therapeutic—that helped me recover from trauma. Today, my life is a happy dream. And if I can reach this place, so can you. I’d be honored to guide you down the path to profound freedom and inner peace. And if you’ve already read the book, please leave a review! I’d love to hear your honest thoughts.  
  • Want to hear my EMDR playlist? Cue it up here! You can use this music to help you meditate and to help you manifest. 
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This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I am not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from any psychological or medical conditions, please seek help from a qualified health professional.