Practice the Choose Again Method to Shift Out of Negative Thoughts and Feel Better

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Super Attractor by Gabrielle BernsteinEarlier this month I was looking at my calendar, going over all my upcoming events and interviews and deadlines and travel plans.

My heart started pounding and my mind was racing. I thought, “How am I going to get all of this done before the book comes out in TWO WEEKS?” I could feel myself getting more and more anxious about everything I had to do. I was starting to spiral.

So here’s what I did: Before I fully freaked out, I turned to Super Attractor for help. I knew I had to practice the Choose Again Method, which is the very first method I teach in the book.

The Choose Again Method

This practice helped me so much that I decided to share it with you here on my blog. Anytime you’re feeling anxious, uncomfortable, scared, stressed, angry, disappointed or frustrated… use this method!!

The Choose Again Method stops the spiral of negative thoughts. You’ll slow down your mental momentum and begin shifting toward more positive and empowering thoughts. Bit by bit, thought by thought, you’ll feel better and elevate your energy!

Here are the 3 steps of the Choose Again Method. For a full breakdown, order Super Attractor — I teach this method in chapter 1!

Step 1: Notice the thought.

Anytime you’re stuck in negativity or fear, take a step back by consciously noticing that your thoughts and energy are out of alignment with joy.

Ask yourself, “How do I feel right now?” You can write down your answer in your journal.

In my case, my answer was, “I’m so busy and my calendar is crazy. I’m nervous and anxious.”

Step 2: Forgive the thought.

In an instant I can forgive my fear and choose again | Gabby Bernstein | Super AttractorForgive yourself for being misaligned and celebrate your desire to shift. Thank your negative feelings and thoughts for showing you what you don’t want and revealing what you do.

Say this prayer: “Thank you for revealing to me what I don’t want so that I can clarify what I do want.”

You can also write this prayer in your journal next to your negative thoughts.

Step 3: Choose again.

Answer this question in your journal: “What is the best-feeling thought I can find right now?” Then ask the Universe to guide you toward that thought.

In your journal, write down this prayer or say it to yourself: “Thank you, Universe, for guiding my thoughts toward good-feeling emotions.”

In my case, I started to remind myself that this busyness is an opportunity to get the book into the hands of many people who need it. My calendar is a reflection of my commitment to you, my reader. It’s also a reflection of my commitment to share these methods in a big way.

Continue to practice the Choose Again Method all day

Gabby Bernstein reading her book Super Attractor | Choose AgainImmediately after practicing this method I felt relief. But I didn’t stop there — I continued to choose again throughout the day.

Our fear often speaks louder than our intuition, so we need to lean on our practices regularly. Turn to this method as often as you need it. In Super Attractor I go more in-depth with this method, offering more guidance and examples on how to choose again regularly so it becomes second nature.

One thing I want to stress is that if you’re feeling really upset when you start practicing this method, you don’t have to immediately catapult into happiness. You can reach for one better-feeling thought at a time, lifting yourself bit by bit into a more positive, empowered and joyful place.

And be sure to check out my blog post on how to reframe your thoughts.

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  1. Surprised no acknowledgement or reference to Diederick Wolsack who developed a six step Choose Again process in great detail around ACIM principles.

    1. Gabby quotes and uses ACIM in many of her teachings, but it’s not the center of her teachings. You’ll find ACIM sprinkled in her work over the years as well. xoxo

  2. Gabby!!! You would NOT believe (except you totally would because that’s your gig) the incredible gifts I have received through these practices! Just finished Super Attractor, had never heard of you or any of your work. Ive had 5 people including my salon business partners, and a friend with whom I want to start a non-profit, read it in the past couple of weeks who are also manifesting and receiving messages and guidance from their guardians and guides. Most importantly we are shifting into a new space of allowance and ease in our lives and have been able to do so with grace because of your book! I’ve turned into a direct connect to universal intelligence using a deck of cards to give powerful messages to those who are in need and every time they have been appropriate and directing. I have THE BEST “game with your guides” story to tell you!!!! I don’t see anyone writing novels here, so I’ll save it if I can find an email address, but you will DIE slash not be surprised at all, but hopefully as delighted as I was. This book is a reminder of every single belief that I have ever had! Dished out in a relatable, gentle way that is easy to digest and even easier to implement into your life. MAGIC!

    1. Wow, it sounds like you’ve had a really powerful experience, Peggy. I’m so glad Super Attractor is serving you in this way! If you’d like you send your “game with your guides” story to Gabby, please email it to xoxo

  3. Thank you so much Gabby. I just finished your book Super Attracter, I can’t tell you how much it helped me. You have inspired me so much to start a spiritual practice, and I just did the choose again method to help me with some crippling negative feelings. Thank you so much for everything you do, it’s people like you that give hope to all of us in need, especially during COVID19, a scary time. Love, Emma

  4. I was listening to Jay Shetty and you were his guest on one of his episodes on On Purpose. I immediately looked you up and did my research. The same day I bought your book. Right now I had a negative feeling/thought and asked myself, “What should I do to not feel this way?” I quickly went to my audible and clicked on your book to listen to the Choose Again Method. Love your book! I told my sister and my daughter about it and they are both reading it as well. Thank you so much.

  5. Hi Gabby

    A friend recommended your book on Audible and I absolutely love it! I find myself re-listening to chapters rather than listening to it in a linear ‘chapter by chapter’ form. But I think its great that you give us some really easy to apply and practical methods to align with the highest version of ourselves rather than sticking with negative feelings. The Choose Again method is my favourite.

    Thanks again!

  6. Would you be able to give some examples? I am a bit confused on step 3 on choosing another thought that would make me feel better. For example, if I am mad at a family member. In step 3, I would choose to be happy at them ?I feel that is not realistic. If you have a link to examples that would be great. Thank you in advance!

    1. The Choose Again Method slows the momentum of negative thoughts and helps you shift your mood by choosing better-feeling thoughts.⁣ In Step 3, you’re reaching for the next best feeling. You’re not required to land on the ultimate solution! Pick a thought you believe in.⁣

  7. Hola Gabby, soy Mary de Venezuela, muchísimas gracias por compartir tus bendiciones, el libro Super Attractor saldrá en español, feliz día!!!

    1. So happy you have connected with this work. It may take some time for Super Attractor to be translated into Spanish. Stay tuned. xo

  8. Hi Gabby. I have read alot of your work and found it very helpful so I am looking forward to Tuesday! I have a question though: is it normal to feel mentally exhausted by the need to keep redirecting my thoughts? I am have been going through a very difficult time these past couple of years and daily I am consciously repivoting and refocusing and forgiving and setting positive intentions. But my mind feels so exhausted by it and just wants a bit of peace without constant retraining! I do focus also on the great things to come out of the positive focus but it just doesn’t take hold on a deeper level, and stress, fatigue and depression take over every time. My head feels scrambled by the constant battle! Am I missing something? x

    1. Hi Rachel! Know that this is a practice. It’s totally normal for the thinking brain to try to go back to its old ways. Instead of judging it, just notice the pattern, notice the feeling, and take a deep breathe. If you treat these healing practices as a “practice”, you’ll find that you’ll start to get into a different groove. XOX

  9. I needed to read this today, thank you! I was feeling excluded and jealous after seeing a hiking buddies post on my group of friends at Steamboat on a hike and in the hot springs. Constantly being pounded with more pics and wondering why did they not ask me? They must not be my friends! Kate did not call me for awhile… she must be talking about me! In reality I knew that I have been saying no for awhile… and if you say no eventually they will stop asking. I am staying away from Facebook for now and focusing on my artwork! I have 4 craft shows to prepare for! Thank you God for this opportunity to get it done! No more low energy! #ladywithaltitudecolorado

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