Practice the Choose Again Method to Shift Out of Negative Thoughts and Feel Better

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Super Attractor by Gabrielle BernsteinEarlier this month I was looking at my calendar, going over all my upcoming events and interviews and deadlines and travel plans.

My heart started pounding and my mind was racing. I thought, “How am I going to get all of this done before the book comes out in TWO WEEKS?” I could feel myself getting more and more anxious about everything I had to do. I was starting to spiral.

So here’s what I did: Before I fully freaked out, I turned to Super Attractor for help. I knew I had to practice the Choose Again Method, which is the very first method I teach in the book.

The Choose Again Method

This practice helped me so much that I decided to share it with you here on my blog. Anytime you’re feeling anxious, uncomfortable, scared, stressed, angry, disappointed or frustrated… use this method!!

The Choose Again Method stops the spiral of negative thoughts. You’ll slow down your mental momentum and begin shifting toward more positive and empowering thoughts. Bit by bit, thought by thought, you’ll feel better and elevate your energy!

Here are the 3 steps of the Choose Again Method. For a full breakdown, order Super Attractor — I teach this method in chapter 1!

Step 1: Notice the thought.

Anytime you’re stuck in negativity or fear, take a step back by consciously noticing that your thoughts and energy are out of alignment with joy.

Ask yourself, “How do I feel right now?” You can write down your answer in your journal.

In my case, my answer was, “I’m so busy and my calendar is crazy. I’m nervous and anxious.”

Step 2: Forgive the thought.

In an instant I can forgive my fear and choose again | Gabby Bernstein | Super AttractorForgive yourself for being misaligned and celebrate your desire to shift. Thank your negative feelings and thoughts for showing you what you don’t want and revealing what you do.

Say this prayer: “Thank you for revealing to me what I don’t want so that I can clarify what I do want.”

You can also write this prayer in your journal next to your negative thoughts.

Step 3: Choose again.

Answer this question in your journal: “What is the best-feeling thought I can find right now?” Then ask the Universe to guide you toward that thought.

In your journal, write down this prayer or say it to yourself: “Thank you, Universe, for guiding my thoughts toward good-feeling emotions.”

In my case, I started to remind myself that this busyness is an opportunity to get the book into the hands of many people who need it. My calendar is a reflection of my commitment to you, my reader. It’s also a reflection of my commitment to share these methods in a big way.

Continue to practice the Choose Again Method all day

Gabby Bernstein reading her book Super Attractor | Choose AgainImmediately after practicing this method I felt relief. But I didn’t stop there — I continued to choose again throughout the day.

Our fear often speaks louder than our intuition, so we need to lean on our practices regularly. Turn to this method as often as you need it. If you start practicing it now, you’ll feel really hooked up when Super Attractor comes out! And in the book I go more in-depth with this method, offering more guidance on how to choose again regularly so it becomes second nature.

One thing I want to stress is that if you’re feeling really upset when you start practicing this method, you don’t have to immediately catapult into happiness. You can reach for one better-feeling thought at a time, lifting yourself bit by bit into a more positive, empowered and joyful place.

And be sure to check out my blog post on how to reframe your thoughts.

I’m teaching the Choose Again Method on my book tour!

Gabby Bernstein's Super Attractor book tour lineupJoin me on my Super Attractor book tour to see me bring the Choose Again Method to life! During each tour stop I’ll be sharing stories, manifesting techniques and meditations from the book. I’ll also be answering your questions and signing books!

[Sept. 26th update] My tour is now in full swing!! NYC rocked the house and Connecticut is sold out, so click here to get your tickets for my later stops before they’re gone, too. I can’t wait to see you! 🥳

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  1. Hi Gabby. I have read alot of your work and found it very helpful so I am looking forward to Tuesday! I have a question though: is it normal to feel mentally exhausted by the need to keep redirecting my thoughts? I am have been going through a very difficult time these past couple of years and daily I am consciously repivoting and refocusing and forgiving and setting positive intentions. But my mind feels so exhausted by it and just wants a bit of peace without constant retraining! I do focus also on the great things to come out of the positive focus but it just doesn’t take hold on a deeper level, and stress, fatigue and depression take over every time. My head feels scrambled by the constant battle! Am I missing something? x

    1. Hi Rachel! Know that this is a practice. It’s totally normal for the thinking brain to try to go back to its old ways. Instead of judging it, just notice the pattern, notice the feeling, and take a deep breathe. If you treat these healing practices as a “practice”, you’ll find that you’ll start to get into a different groove. XOX

  2. I needed to read this today, thank you! I was feeling excluded and jealous after seeing a hiking buddies post on my group of friends at Steamboat on a hike and in the hot springs. Constantly being pounded with more pics and wondering why did they not ask me? They must not be my friends! Kate did not call me for awhile… she must be talking about me! In reality I knew that I have been saying no for awhile… and if you say no eventually they will stop asking. I am staying away from Facebook for now and focusing on my artwork! I have 4 craft shows to prepare for! Thank you God for this opportunity to get it done! No more low energy! #ladywithaltitudecolorado

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