Don’t Fear Your Fear: 3 Ways to Reframe Negative Thoughts

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You don't have to fear your fear | Super Attractor card deckAre you afraid of your fearful thoughts?

It’s not uncommon for people who believe in the Law of Attraction and who are self-proclaimed Super Attractors to get really nervous when they have a fearful thought.

They think their negative thoughts will become their reality — and they get panicky about manifesting what they don’t want, which then strengthens their fear.

Take a deep breath. I’m going to clear this up.

We all have negative thoughts

A few negative thoughts are not going to manifest a negative outcome.

What we want to be conscious of is how much momentum those negative thoughts build up through repetition.

Abraham-Hicks say, “A belief is just a thought that you keep thinking.”

So let’s not let those negative thoughts get so much momentum that they become beliefs.

Simply put: We all have negative thoughts. And we also all have a choice of what to do with them.

You don’t have to fear your negative thoughts

I know that so many people are terrified right now. Maybe you’re afraid of financial insecurity or you’re worried about your health. Maybe you feel isolated or alone or just down. (And maybe it’s all of the above.)

It’s totally fine to feel those feelings and think those thoughts.

But instead of letting them take over, I want to show you how you can reframe your thoughts in the moment.

In the video below, I respond to a question about being scared of negative thoughts. Press play to learn how to slow down the momentum, and keep reading for a 3-step breakdown.

These are tools from Abraham-Hicks that I’ve chosen to live by.

3 Ways to Reframe Your Thoughts

When you notice negative thoughts pop up, or when you realize they’re gaining some momentum, turn to any of these practices to undo them.

These tools will reframe your thoughts within minutes and shift you into a better-feeling vibration.

1. Play the appreciation game

Appreciation mantra | Super Attractor card deckThis practice comes from Abraham-Hicks, and it’s both simple and profound. Out loud or to yourself, express appreciation for all that is good in your life.

You might say things like:

  • I appreciate my family for supporting me
  • I appreciate the food in my pantry
  • I appreciate technology for making video calls easy
  • I appreciate the way the sun is shining in the window

Just keep going for at least one minute and longer if you can. You can also write down everything you appreciate in your journal, or play the appreciation game with another person.

The act of appreciating will reframe your thoughts and redirect momentum within minutes.

Why appreciation is so powerful

Whatever you appreciate you create more of. This is because when you’re in a state of appreciation, you’re in vibrational alignment with your true love nature.

When we’re in a state of appreciation, we’re actively allowing more of what we want to come toward us while dissolving the blocks to the presence of our Super Attractor power.

So whenever you notice yourself worrying about something out of your control, play the appreciation game to redirect your focus. The appreciations you list can be related to the issue you’re worried about or not — it doesn’t matter.

What matters is that you’re shifting your focus off the addictive pattern of worrying and onto the positive habit of appreciation.

2. Practice the Choose Again Method

When you notice a fearful thought arise, you can choose again. Just witness your feelings and use the Choose Again Method from chapter 1 of Super Attractor to reframe your thoughts:

    1. Notice the fear. Notice when your fearful thoughts start sabotaging your positive flow and ask yourself, “How do I feel right now?” Let yourself feel whatever is coming up for you.
    2. Forgive the thought. Forgive your fearful thoughts and celebrate your desire to shift back to feeling good! You can say out loud to yourself, “I forgive this thought and I know it is not real.”
    3. Choose again. Answer this question: “What is the best-feeling thought I can find right now?” Then ask the Universe for support as you lean toward thoughts that feel good. Take your time to reach for positive thoughts about what you want and how you want to feel.

You can always rely on the Choose Again Method to help reframe your thoughts. If fear has you in a headlock and choosing a more positive thought seems far from reach, you can stay in step 2 of the method and simply forgive the thought.

In an instant you can forgive your fear and choose again.

Forgiving the thought puts you into an energy of acceptance rather than resistance. When you forgive the fearful thought, you’re acknowledging that your fear isn’t your truth.

Forgiving your fear gives you permission to return to love when you’re ready. Accepting a more positive and empowering relationship to fear is the fastest way to dissolve it.

3. Meditate

When we meditate, we shift our energy and stop that negative story that’s on loop. We attune our energy with the loving, peaceful, high-vibration energy of the Universe.

Not only does meditating help us feel better physically and emotionally, but it also helps us hear intuitive guidance.

We don’t find solutions through pushing. We find them through pausing. When we pause, we slow the momentum of our fear. A pause offers us an opportunity to turn inward for answers rather than pushing and controlling. When we pause, ask and listen, we are guided.

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During this 21-day challenge, I’ll give you a simple, structured, daily practice that will get you excited about meditation and make it easy for you to apply.

I’ve laid out the plan for you and I’ll guide you every step of the way. You don’t need to overthink it. You don’t need to be the perfect meditator. And it doesn’t matter whether you have an established practice or you’re a complete beginner.

All you have to do is show up. By the end of the challenge, you’ll feel empowered and energized, able to soothe and ground yourself just by turning inward.

Stay tuned for details. You can sign up starting this Friday, May 1st!

Listen to my free Positive Energy Meditation

My Positive Energy Meditation will help you reframe your thoughts and elevate your energy within minutes. All you have to do is press play and listen to the affirmations!

This meditation is really versatile. You can listen to it anywhere, anytime to feel uplifted and calm. Sit with your eyes closed or play the track while you’re cooking, running, etc. You can make any activity meditative!

Click here to download your free Positive Energy Meditation.

Reframing your thoughts is a moment-to-moment practice

This practice is a moment-to-moment commitment. It requires you to start paying attention to your thoughts, words and energy, and to consciously change them.

In time this will become second nature, but right now you have to develop the habit. So be very kind and compassionate with yourself as you make this change, and celebrate each shift along the way, because each shift is a miracle.

You’ll fall back into fear all the time, so don’t beat yourself up for it. Your goal isn’t to never feel fear. Your goal is to come back to love as soon as possible.

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  1. Thank you so much for this. I definitely feel I needed and was guided to this message today. I struggle with mental health issues which cause a lot of intrusive, fearful, negative thoughts. All day, every day. It’s a great struggle to not feed into each fear and I often get consumed by them. However, I will save this method and work with it!

  2. Thank you so much for this Gabby, I cannot put into words what finding you has done to change my life , you are an amazing person & I absolutely appreciate you and all you do for me, you have truly opened up a hole new world that I am so so happy to be part of ❤️

  3. This came right at the right time for me too. I was just having these concerns when I saw this. Thank you for this post.

  4. Thank you! Just what I needed today. I woke up in fear and immediately started judging, blaming, worrying, obsessing, and feeling an urge to medicate my discomfort. But thankfully I have enough time in self-care tools from recovery, therapy, treatment, self-help books, and all I have learned from you. To know what was going on. I picked up my journal and started writing, called a friend, and then found your email. Thanks again so much for your guidance and support.

    1. Amazing, Allegra. So glad this post reached you at the right and perfect time! You are always being guided and supported. xoxo

  5. When you need it, you read it…This came just at the right time for me today. I was just playing The appreciation game before I go to sleep and I’d like you to know that I appreciate you. Thank you for all your great work xx

  6. This came at the right time! Before I read this email, we have a group that meets twice a week on zoom and this morning I picked the same card and posted it on Facebook today on the-gabby Bernstein book club and miracle membership! Wow!

  7. Yay!! Such helpful tools that came at such a critical time. Thank you Gabby! I will be putting them into practice starting right now!❤
    Sending wellness wishes to you and your family! Cheers

  8. So bizarre. I just quite literally finished journaling – tackling some deep-seated fear issues was where my thoughts led me. 10 seconds later I opened my email for the 1st time this AM and the top email that jumped out was from Gabby on Fearing Fear. I’ve opened this door…. thank you for gently sliding in:))

  9. Gabby:
    WOW! Echoing all of these super genuine and beautiful comments!
    Timing is indeed everything and YOUR timing is always so spot on! Thank you for your commitment to us and to yourself…with your help I am no longer adrift in that daily “default thinking”, rather beginning to set my thought intention each day, and connecting with you and all your powerful tools help me take your suggested necessary actions to not be adrift and avoid slipping into self punishment when I fall off the wagon! You’re the best! Keep it coming!
    Fondly, Anne

  10. I love how you always help me and others reaffirm how to handle negative thoughts and fear.
    Spreading love and helping people… Thank You

  11. Thank you ! Your teachings have helped me out of many difficult situations and helped me rise above my fears. Truly grateful for your guidance.

  12. Came into my life and email right when I was experience great fear surround my job and career. It was a great and powerful reminder to forgive myself and my thoughts and choose again. Trying to focus on the positives.
    Thank you

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