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Even if we know what we want to manifest, our limiting beliefs can cloud our vision.

And cloudy vision just won’t cut it. You have to get crystal clear about your desires and ensure they are in alignment with what you believe (key word!) you are able to attract.

By focusing on what brings you joy, you create an energetic alignment that’s like unlocking a magical portal for successful manifestation. 

Alignment is undervalued—yet it holds so much power. In this episode of Dear Gabby, I break down the manifesting steps you must never (ever!) skip.

in this episode I’ll share:

  • The #1 thing that holds us back from achieving our dreams
  • Who you should never share your desires with
  • The 3 main manifesting steps I use myself
  • Free meditations you can use to manifest even more!

Remember, it’s when resistance is absent that you allow the Universe to do for you what you cannot do for yourself. Make that your manifesting mantra.

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dear gabby #174 Nov 06, 2023 manifesting

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GABBY: Hi there, Gabby here. This podcast is intended to educate, inspire, and support you on your personal journey towards inner peace. I'm not a psychologist or a medical doctor and do not offer any professional health or medical advice. If you are suffering from a psychological or medical condition, please seek help from a qualified health professional.

Do you wanna connect with your spirit guides? I think it's a lot easier than you think, my friend. We love spirit guides over here on Dear Gabby. And spirit guides are loving beings that guide us to learn valuable life lessons and return us to that sense of safety inside and guide us throughout our life.

And the more that you communicate with them, the more you can access their infinite wisdom. It's like any friendship. The more you pick up the phone and call that friend, the more they can give you. And so, you can actually pick up the phone, you know, make a big call to those guides today. You can connect with your guides right now by practicing my free spirit guides meditation.

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Hey there. Welcome to Dear Gabby. I'm your host Gabby Bernstein, and if you landed here, it is absolutely no accident. It means that you're ready to feel good and manifest a life beyond your wildest dreams. Let's get started.

GABBY: Welcome back to dear Gabby. Welcome back. We're in the studio. We hustled across Canal Street. We did my curling iron literally while I was eating a snack and getting my lashes done. This is a production that is on the move, people, but we're really happy to be here because it's manifesting season in Gabby world.

It's manifesting season in Gabby world. Are you ready? We're going into a big wave of manifesting. I know that's what you want. I know that's what you guys are most excited about. I am so thrilled to be able to just bust out some major methods. So I figured I'd begin this season—the season of Dear Gabby that's manifesting—with a little beginner's guide to manifesting.

So if you're out there and you're like, I know I want to manifest. I know I want to be able to attract my desires. I want to be able to begin to be a magnet for what I want in my life, but you don't know how, this is your episode.

This is the beginner's guide to manifesting. I'm also going to bring in a few guests and just answer some questions. And so here's the vibe. We're talking about it. And I think that there's three tips I'll give you right now for the beginner's guide to manifesting.

Number one, clarify what it is that you want to attract into your life because often we can think, okay, I want that, but maybe it's too good to be true. Or I'd like to attract this relationship, but, or I have that desire to do this work, but, or there's something that may be in the way.

I want you to become crystal clear about what it is that you desire and also really make sure that it's in alignment with what it is that you believe you can attract.

Because if we start, this is kind of leaning into step two, align yourself with that desire. What do I mean by that? If you think that you can't have it, or you think that it's too far from reach, or there's a lot of buts in the way. The buts block the manifestation.

So what could we do instead? Not minimize your desire, but simplify maybe. Maybe it's something along the lines of, I want to manifest this relationship of my dreams and there's a little but there. Maybe you adjust that desire slightly to, I want to manifest my greatest joy so that I attract the beautiful relationship of my dreams.

And so it's less about getting the thing and more about being in alignment, more about being in joy. So for instance, right now, instead of being like, I want this next level of my career, I'm literally just manifesting more creative space.

Does that make sense, everybody? Leave a comment if that resonates with you because when we get into this place of recognizing that it's not necessarily about attracting the thing, it's about attracting the feeling. So that's your second step, getting into alignment with the feeling of what you desire.

I'll recap. Step one, clarifying your desire, claiming it, but also making it more about the desire to feel a certain way. Then the second step is to get into alignment with that feeling. So my manifestation right now is all about feeling creative and less about trying to get to some level or get to some kind of thing. It's about feeling creative.

The feeling is what manifests. The feeling is what manifests. You manifest what you believe. You manifest what you feel. You manifest the energy that you bring forth. If you are out of alignment with the feelings, beliefs, and energy of what you desire, you will block your manifestation.

So the deal here today is the third step is about letting that desire be magnified, allowing that desire to be magnified. And so noticing the points throughout your day, where you might be minimizing the desire, maybe you're coming in and you're looking for the problems rather than the solutions. Or maybe you are talking about your desire in a way where you're saying, Oh, well, it's too good to be true. Or I can't have that thing.

I want you to subtly adjust your energy around your desire. And for some people, this may mean just shut the F up. Because if you talk about it too soon, it could actually get in the way of what it is that you're attracting. So really hold the energy around it and magnify it by protecting it.

Magnify it by only talking about it with the people who really care about it. Magnify it by stopping yourself in the moment when you notice, Oh, I just went out of alignment. I got to get back in. And to help you with that alignment, I have something amazing for you to help you get into that alignment.

There's two free manifesting meditations I'm going to give you. You go to DearGabby.com/manifest. You can have access to these two free manifesting meditations. These will rock your world. The manifesting meditations that are in here are going to help you get back into that alignment, harness that energy, rocket it out to the world. And when you notice yourself getting out of alignment, come back to that energy.

So here are your steps one more time. Step one, be clear about your desire. Claim your desire. Write it down. Be a yes for it. The second step is to align yourself with the feeling rather than the desire, rather than the thing.

It's the feeling that manifests. It's the energy that manifests. It's not the thing. So focus and harness your attention around that feeling of what it feels like to attract what you want into your life. And make sure you really hold those feelings close. Honor that energy and step three, respect that energy.

Shut the F up around people that you think are going to be naysayers. Talk to the people who are your super attractor running buddies. Keep it close. Keep it connected. There's two free manifesting meditations that I have for you. DearGabby.com/manifest.

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So let me just do one more recap just so it's really grounded. Clarity is king when manifesting. Clarity is king when manifesting. So clarify that desire, nail it, know it, feel it. Make sure, number two, that that desire is backed with an energy, not an outcome. Outcomes are BS. Focus on the energy. The energy is what attracts.

And number three, stay in alignment with that energy. You can go do those two free manifesting meditations at DearGabby.com/manifest. You can really just shut up when you're talking to people that you're with that are naysayers. Just disengage, talk to the people that are your crew and own this.

This is your journey. I'm so happy to be your guide. And this is manifesting season, people. The main message that I want to make sure it comes through for anybody on this manifesting journey is that the more you try or the more you push, the more you resist. And it's in the absence of resistance that your manifestations come into form.

It's in the absence of resistance that you allow the universe to do for you what you cannot do for yourself. We often get stuck in this story that I have to make something happen, but all the making is blocking the manifesting. True manifesting is about being in an energy of joy, an energy of accelerated enthusiasm.

And does that mean that we don't have a bad day? Of course we have a bad day, but we get back into alignment gently. We honor our feelings. We respect our emotions. We come back to a centered place. I actually have this Gabby coaching membership and I created this because it's about being in alignment, staying in alignment.

And for me, my practice has always been come back to grace, come back to grace, come back to grace. And the more you have that comeback rate and the faster that comeback rate becomes, the more alignment you live in. And when you live in alignment, the universe reveals to you extraordinary gifts, extraordinary support, messages beyond your wildest dreams, guidance, people, everything that you need to develop the life that you desire.

And I mean that fully and completely. Listen, for those of you who are new to me, you know, I, when 25 years old was like a strung-out junkie on cocaine. And here I am now living a life beyond my wildest dreams because I made a commitment to lean into grace, to lean into joy, to lean into optimism and possibility and to do the work to heal my inner world.

This is not just about super attracting or the universe has your back, which are my two most popular books—The Universe has Your Back, Super Attractor. People always like, I want to manifest. I want to manifest. But you know what? My biggest manifesting book of all is Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace.

And the reason that that book is such a big manifesting book is because when we actually heal our inner world, that's when our outer world begins to expand. So yes, this is a beginner's guide to manifesting. Yes, this is a journey of just developing and unleashing that energy within us. But most importantly, never forget that the real message here is to tune up what's happening on the inside so that the outside world is a reflection of your internal condition.

I really hope this served you. If you love this episode, leave us a review in Apple, go leave us a review. We want to hear from you. We want to get your feedback. We want to know what your energy is around this. I want you to feel the energy of what this episode is offering you and spread it wide because more people need to know these messages.

Thank you so much for joining me. And if you love this, make sure to get your two free manifesting meditations. They will rock your world. Go manifest.

GABBY: Okay. Let's bring somebody in. Alys, please. Hi, Nicole.

NICOLE: Hi. Thank you. Thank you for having me on and great time to talk about this. My question is kind of more about what you were just saying about returning to grace.

Because I feel like when you start this journey of manifesting, I feel like it goes alongside with when you start meditating. Because for me that, they came hand in hand, and you kind of start off with this really big high, because you've, I've never done it before, and you know, you start noticing things.

And every time I went into meditate, like I could just feel shifts and it felt really powerful. But then you kind of plateau almost. And I mean, I try to live my life where every day I feel joy and every day I noticed the things that I love. And I, I hope cause I, you know, like I love my life. I have a wonderful—

GABBY: I understand your question. I'm going to, I'm going to just dive in. Is that okay, Nicole? It's kind of about what happens when you plateau. Is that right?

NICOLE: Yeah. It's what happens when you plateau. And then when you're trying to dream these big, amazing dreams, that's hard. It's hard to get out of your everyday life and what you've known and what you've been raised on.

And I know I can have these big dreams. It's like. I know I can, but it's almost like I can't let myself dream that big. It's almost too scary.

GABBY: Got it. So, Nicole, I love you. Just before I start. Great question. Thank you. So, Nicole, here's the story. When you have day to day life or an upbringing that's the opposite of this kind of thinking or stories from the world that are the opposite of this desire, you have to come back to what I just taught you.

Which is that it's not about the outcome. It's about the day to day feeling. So instead of thinking, Oh, I have to hold this big dream and see this dream into reality. It's more about, I want to just feel good. I want to focus on my energy. I want to lean into positive conversations. Remember, one of the steps I gave you was just to shut the f**k up, right?

So there's going to be moments where you're going to just not talk about this at all with the people that are the naysayers. Or keep it close. Maybe journal about it at night when you're in your own solitude and you're in your own space. Dream about it as you walk around, but just don't let any outside influences minimize your dream.

And that's about you being consciously co-creating your reality by feeling good, by tending to your experiences on the inside, taking care of your internal condition, doing therapeutic work, doing spiritual work, practicing your meditation. It also answers your second question is like when I'm meditating regularly and manifesting regularly, and then it plateaus.

So there's a great thing I want to share with you, which is simple. When things get good, keep going, reach for more. The plateauing occurs when you just are like, oh, I got there. We're always reaching for more. We always have this openness about what it is that we desire. Keep shining the crystal that is you.

And so, undoing the stories of our past and disconnecting from the naysayers and coexisting in a world that's filled with a lot of terror and trauma and manifesting, sure, that's not easy.

But when we make joy our priority, when we make our inner world our priority, when we make our breath our priority, when we use an app like the Gabby coaching membership and you lean into it and lean into it and lean into it and lean into it. And you come back and you come back and you come back. Your comeback rate becomes so much stronger than your fear.

And so that pattern, that repetition, and that commitment is not about trying to get an outcome. It's about aligning with a being and a presence that allows the outcomes to come to you naturally.

I really want to emphasize that the miracles happen in the moments. The miracles happen in the moments. This isn't about just I'm there tomorrow. It's not about being anywhere. It's about being right here in the presence of the greatness of who you are. How'd that feel? Feel good, Nicole?

NICOLE: Okay.

GABBY: Thank you, Nicole.

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GABBY: All right. Big love to Nicole. Let's take in one more. We have time for one more. Thank you so much. That was absolutely gorgeous. That was excellent. Excellent freaking questions. Time for one more, Alyssa. Hi, are you back? Are you back? Have you been with me before?

ALESSIO: Just by listening, but not with recording.

GABBY: Beautiful. Welcome, sweetheart.

ALESSIO: So my question is basically, how do I manifest independence when I managed to basically manifest almost everything else?

GABBY: Independence in what way?

ALESSIO: I've kind of built a company where my family is part of it. Other people are part of it. Which is beautiful. And I want to lean more into myself.

Maybe, you know, that doesn't change, doesn't mean change fields necessarily, but feel like I'm more walking my path and not watching everybody else.

GABBY: I love it. Okay. So Alessio, here's what I want you to do. I want you to apply those three steps. First step is I want you to clarify what does this desire mean to you?

So I want to manifest more independence in my existing career. Or I want to manifest more independence with this family dynamic. Just clarify it for yourself so it's very crystal clear, my love.

The second step is to really make sure that it's not about an outcome. But about a feeling. So I want you to really think about what does it feel like? Was there a time in your life that felt really independent for you? Or maybe when you're out with your friends or you're working out or you're just doing something casual or a creative project.

What in your life feels like independence? I want you to do more of that. I want you to feel into that. I want you to cultivate that feeling now and not wait for it. It's not about an outcome. It's about experiencing it.

And then the third step is to make sure that you are protecting and honoring and respecting that desire by maybe not bringing it up with your family. Maybe not talking about this desire with anybody that isn't in full alignment and support of it.

I'm here to support you right now in this desire. You have hopefully some spiritual running buddies out there. And to stay in connection to it, to lean into it. Go get those two free manifesting meditations—DearGabby.com/manifest. Go grab them.

And my love, use those daily to stay in a container where you feel aligned with that desire and don't talk about it with the people who don't support it. Because what happens my love is when you change your energy, everybody else around you changes too.

When you start to assume the energy of that independence, you're going to be blown away by what happens in your family dynamic. Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. Everything starts to shift.

So this is the practice. Follow these three steps. Stay in alignment with that desire. Expect miracles. Expect miracles.

What a gorgeous show, my friends. What a gorgeous show. I am so proud to be able to just bust in here, give you this guidance, support you on your manifesting journey. It's manifesting season right now. In addition to those two free meditations, go to deargabby.com/manifestingchallenge. Manifesting Challenge, get yourself in there. Get yourself ready to go.

We're going to do a manifesting challenge together. It's going to rock your world. Do not miss this.

Deargabby.com/manifestingchallenge and get excited for manifesting season. It's here. Here we go. Get ready. So I'm going to really be focused on you guys next week.

I love you. Thank you for jumping in so quickly. Thank you, Alessio. Thank you, Nicole. Thank you, Alyssa. We love you guys. Peace.

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