Trust Your Own Opinion

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This vlog is about releasing the need for other people’s opinions and accepting that you are your greatest adviser. The more you listen to your inner guide the stronger your intuition will be.

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  1. My ego very often seeks validation for what my Soul already knows. When I bypass my thoughts and follow my inner guidance, the Universe will validate me anyway, leaving little synchronicities along the way…like this vlog!

    1. i love what you said – “my ego seeks validation for what my soul already knows.” i’m giong to tweet you!

  2. Gabby,

    thank you for the reminder that my inner wisdom always knows. When I start asking others for their opinion I realize that I am disconnected from Source and it’s a clue I need to sit on my pillow!

    Congratulations on getting engaged!

    With deep appreciation,
    Laura

  3. Gabby, thanks again for a wonderful reminder. I am still having trouble hearing, and suppose also listening to, my inner guidance system. I think about what I want and my intentions for each day and the future, but I feel as if I am living in fear and doubt most of the time. Any time I do make a decision, it immediately feels wrong, and I second guess myself. How can I move past this and learn to hear what my ing wants to tell me. I want to hear it, but it seems there is only static right now! Thank you.

    Neely

    1. Neely,
      As I’m starting to do this work, and have begun learning just how much fear has run my life, I too am beginning to recognize just how much I continue to second guess myself. I am able to convince myself of pretty much any answer or decision, making it difficult for me to know which is actually the right one, the one my inner guide is truly leading me towards. When I do make a decision I start off feeling is in alignment with the universe and my inner guidance, I begin to feel the action I take towards it is pushing too much, which has been my MO in the past and then I begin the cycle of doubting myself again. I am assuming this is because I am just starting this and am hoping that it will just take continued work and meditation. Thanks for sharing this and it’s nice to know we’re not alone in this.
      ~Shanna

  4. Interesting experiment. This is something that I constantly fight with and the universe always shows says “I told you so in the end.” Intuition is a powerful force! Thanks for the reminder.

  5. Hi Gabby,
    This vlog came at a perfect time for me. Thank you for this divine message and reminder to listen to the voice with in. All the more reason to stay connected to our ~ing.
    With Love,
    Alana

  6. I totally identify with this. So many times I have asked opinions of others and I end up going with what I had already been thinking. I’ve already started not seeking advice so much anymore but sometimes I still do it especially in times of great heart ache.

  7. Hey Gabby!

    This video completely aligns with what I was going through the past week. I am making some big decisions in my life right now and have been burning a lot of energy asking for opinions and all along I really knew what I wanted to do. As always, you are so insightful and your videos help me connect with myself on a higher level. Thank you for posting!

    Love,

    Karishma

  8. Thanks for this reminder, Gabby! I’ve only recently started on this journey and am still having trouble giving all control to the Universe and listening to my inner guide. Sometimes I second guess what comes to mind because I’m not sure if it’s what my inner guide is telling me or if it’s what I WANT my inner guide to tell me. Perhaps it’s just the ego second-guessing that decision and prolonging the inaction. I’m seeking more validation for something my inner guide has already told me. I’ll keep this in mind as I go throughout this week! Thanks again!

  9. Gabby,

    So timely. I have struggled with this since my teens and now, as a new business owner, this lovely habit tends to rear it’s ugly head far too often. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences and reminding us, yet again, that we are enough. Keep on keepin’ on with your amazing self!

  10. Love this vlog. I’ve been experiencing this myself every since having a very diving moment in which my intuition told me it was time to make a specific change. Since sharing it with others, I’ve been inundated with their opinions, without asking for them! But I’m really working on just listening to my inner guidance because it felt SO RIGHT, and that’s what matters.

  11. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. The idea of getting a bridge job to my dream job concerns me. I don’t want to divert my focus and momentum away from my message/mission of the business I am launching.
    Quite the conundrum. My inner GPS says don’t do it, my bank account says do.

  12. This post really resonates with me. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve found myself frozen and unable to make a decision at all after asking and receiving multiple opinions from others. Then I feel guilty because I’ve annoyed the people I asked by not taking their suggestions. So, YES this week I will practice listening to my own Inner Guide!! Thank you!

  13. Trusting my inner self has been a pillar of strength in my walking. No matter where you are in your life. YOUR inside has the answer for almost all things. Blessings to you. Thanks for sharing yourself with us. Your delightful.
    Lots of love – Ali

  14. Ciao Gabby, Congrats!
    I just started this new job, a great job! However, my trainer is an Alcoholic and always reeks of Vodka and the Manager won’t leave me alone about joining her church. in the interview I was asked if I was Christian! I feel at risk with these two women. I want to call them out on the inappropriatness of this behavior, but Im in fear of losing my great new job. My inner guide is in conflict :(

  15. Love it Gabby, thanks for sharing the insight! I really resonate with what you said about pissing people off if we ask for advice and take no actions!
    The relationship between us and our inner-voice just like any relationships which need time, dedication to develop and strengthen. A lot of people struggle to “hear” their inner-voice. What I find useful is to practise to be a good listener during a conversation first. Our inner-voice is so subtle, if we don’t know how to hear the actual human voice, we won’t know how to hear the inner-voice either (which is a lot quieter).
    Sending love!

  16. Thanks for sharing, Gabby…yes, very true about the part where you ask others for validation of something you know ‘you already know the answer to’…I tend to do that quite often, because I am afraid I might not make the right decision. In reality the right decision is based on my intuition and following the choice that feels right for me.

  17. Love this. For the past two weeks every yoga class my intention has been “trust yourself”… I continue to set this intention and have noticed transformation in my communication with my family & clients. Also, not saying “yes” to please or avoid conflict, but, instead honoring my inner voice and moving to a space of peace in the differences.

  18. Yes!!! All last week I was seeking opinions of others.. completely ignoring my inner guide… finally I tapped into myself … and calmed down.. trusting that the Universe will guide me just as I need to be guided… I needed this vlog as a reminder… of what I already knew! How ironic.. 😉
    Much love and blessings,
    Heather

  19. Hi Gabby, Thanks so much for this truth. This is exactly what’s going on in my life right now! I’m 26 and trying to figure out what to do with my life after. I have a dream that’s far fetched, and it keeps on coming up from within, while I constantly listen to others for the right answer. I knew I needed to connect and listen, but I wasn’t remebering that the answers would come from within. You are so on it. Thanks!

  20. Hi Gabby!! This really resonated with me today. I’m going to go with my gut on a particular situation I am walking through trusting that I’m being led to the right thing. Thank you, Gabby! I love you!!

  21. Word. I needed this reminder, it’s been so hard for me to listen to myself lately! When I start to feel really clingy towards my BF and it’s my inner guide’s way of saying, “Hey Girl, it’s time to check in!”

  22. Gabby, as usual, you hit it on the head and it was a great reminder for me. I just launched my website as a motivational speaker and motivational performer (my solo show, Hot Mama Mahatma is a comedy about my spiritual journey to India, which led me to Mama Gena’s:))!
    Anyway, I have been starting to play with blogs and vlogs and getting clear that it is my unique voice that needs to be out there. Evidence? Mama Gena’s just asked me to do mini-movie for their online community. I did it without consulting anyone but me, and guess what? It is a hoot…and a hit! Thanks for sharing with such honesty. It’s a gift.

  23. JUST WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR MAMA! I was feeling so strongly recently, that listening to my own gut and instincts is the best thing. You message was a beautiful reflection back to me of something I was already feeling so strongly. SUpport from the Universe.

  24. mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm…..
    thank you for the peace you eminate and no doubt will perpetuate in my life and so many who you touch!
    all the best-
    xo
    tara

  25. Awesome! Just what I needed to see before delving into my projects for my personal and financial growth, and into the 4th week of Marie’s program today! Thank you :) Namaste

  26. Great advice. I also know that very often I used to ask the opinion of others only because I wanted them to agree with me and validate my thoughts. It was scary to take total responsibility for a decision that may or may not be the right one. Thanks Gabby

  27. Good one Gabby ! Today I felt a strong urge to go up to a woman who’s child was having a temper tantrum in the middle of Starbucks … I was gonna buy her a coffee, coz I could feel she needed some support… So I asked my girlfriend what she thought, then lots of people left the store to get away from the commotion … So did we. Then I decided I was going back. I walked back into the SB, over to the woman and said I wanted to buy her next coffee. Her face was angry/ upset & she said was a bit uncomfortable and said no. I just smiled and sympathized with her situation and said, girl you deserve a coffee and to feel good. Her face changed, she smiled, accepted my coffee offer ($) and I wished her a happy day… I just wanted to bless her and give her some + NRG… The stress on her face left, and I also felt good for trusting that I needed to act on my intuition … I’m going to take this lesson into other areas of my life, and daily thoughts… Awesome vlog Gabby! Thanks…

  28. Hey Gabby–
    I blog for tweens at funfreeMe and your message is amazing! Today I blogged about my new Personal Codes of Truth (Installation I) and my first is to Love & Trust Myself. I mentor w/Mastin Kipp, and he has helped me learn that the worst think we can do is break promises to ourselves, and that means we trust & love us first–and live from the inside out, rather than from the outside in! I hope you don’t mind if I link to your vlog on my blog (‘cuz it rhymes, you know! . . .) I am a true follower of your message and you inspire me with your books and your vlogs. Bless you (and awesome getting engaged!!!!)
    Hearts!
    😉 dana

  29. I love this Gabby. Makes so much sense. You cracked me up when you said you “stopped pissing people off” LMAO

    Step one for me is pranayama (breathing) and getting in touch with my heart. That way my Goblin can shut up and I can hear my intuition.

    Bisoux,

    DY

  30. Gabby! You hit the spot again!
    Congrats on the engagement – now can I have your heart ring?! :)
    Much love from London

  31. This is great. Just what I needed to hear. My intuition and reality are in a big fight. What I am being told and what I am going through are huge contrasts but I will let SPIRIT win. Kick EGO the curb and learn what I need to learn through the process. Great vlog!

  32. Oh my goodness, that is soo me! I always do the same thing! What’s u said on ur video really spoke to me today. Thanks so much! I’m go to do this! I’m going to start listening to my own intitution first n quite wasting my own time, cause I know what’s best for me!!!!
    Thanks again!

  33. All too common- gathering opinions like flowers that end up dropping petals all over the place and making more of a mess 😉
    I think you are right to go with your intuition and when I go with what feels right to me… It never fails to amaze me!

    1. Love the “gathering opinions like flowers that end up dropping petals all over the place and making more of a mess” comment! So poetic and profound!
      Yes— I have lived in that mess for a long,long time. BUT NO MORE!
      😉 dana

  34. Perfect timing mama! I have always been the type who needed to poll the audience before taking my own advice anyway. It’s like Bridget said “My ego very often seeks validation for what my Soul already knows.” After watching this I let my ~ing lead me and not only did things turn out the way they needed to but they turned out WAY better than I could’ve expected. xo

  35. This vlog was a positive confirmation on a decision I just made late today. I was looking everywhere for validation on what I should do, how I should proceed, and it was really making me agitated and unhappy. I finally said, “Screw it, just listen to yourself,” and took action and I immediately felt better. Sometimes trusting my own intuition seems the more risky choice and I realize that’s why I look for answers from others. But their way is their way, and mine is mine. Thank you for the affirmation. Namaste, sister!

  36. Yes, yes, yes. . .profound words. . .we have all of the answers, just need to listen to that internal voice, and btw you are looking gorgeous these days! Namaste’

  37. Thank you for this reminder Gaby! I am getting stronger and stronger in this practice because I do find that I always come back to my heart. I am sure this part of your spiritual practice will be IN FULL EFFECT as you plan your wedding! Whoot whoot!

    Lots of love,
    Erin

  38. Thanks Gabby, love your guidance and presence. Thanks for this reminder – sometimes I forget I even have my own opinion, forgoing all that I know for myself and about myself. It only leads to confusion, frustration and being STUCK in a pile of POO.
    Thanks again Gabby

  39. Hi Gabby!

    I love love love the necklace you wear. Can you tell me about it? What it means/represents?

    Love Ya! Bless your heart & love that you’re living out loud :-)

    Leisa

  40. Gabby,
    Do you have any advice for knowing when it is fear steering the ship of decision making instead of your inner guide?

    What are some things to look for?
    –Brandi

  41. Gabby,

    I can definitely relate to this! often, especially in this time of my life, i feel lost and in need of other people advice and guidance…instead i should start more looking into myself, and trusting myself….

    Thank you so much for sharing!
    Have a wonderful week!

  42. On a more serious note, I think it has to do with following your own truth, and I don’t think it’s possible to do that following other people’s opinions. I also find that sometimes my truth is tested – I decide that I want A or I don’t want B and someone will come along to ‘help’ me decide if my opinion/view is valid and how important it is to me.
    I think we gather a number of ‘theories’ (our theories are formed by our experiences and our experiences are formed by our theories, right?) that help us on our journey and because the journey is personal, it cannot be lived using any outside tools.

    Hope this all makes sense!
    Rania xx
    (we miss you in London already!)

  43. Hey Gabby!
    TY4U! I am working on a new web site & have been going back & forth between 2 names. My gut says one (less is more) but my head says the other (longer name but might be easier to understand). Both are good but I’ll be trusting my gut knowing the universe has my back!

    Enjoy a happy engagement! Your wedding will be beautifully you!!

  44. Gabby , I understand about listening to that still voice inside, but how can you tell when that voice is truly your intuition trying to protect you as opposed to fear?

  45. This just reinforces what I was already thinking about. I think focusing on the intuition is better than focusing on your feelings. God is in the heart so what greater guidance can we have if we will only trust it more.

  46. Thanks for this Gabby, its very pertinent to where Im at at the moment. I have an interesting guidance system, whereby when Im not listening my right nostril gets blocked, (i call it my NGS ) the instant i start to listen my nose clears and i can get on with it. A lot of the time, because ego is so quick, i get frustrated when i can’t hear, and the frustration becomes resentment and so I get more blocked. Vicious cycle that ego loves, because its gettin what it wants. To not let me hear my guidance. I’ve started forgiving myself for not being able to hear, and accepting when Im feeling really blocked. But mostly still get really upset and frustrated when i can’t hear clearly, because i love my guidance so much. I always get awesome stuff. Also you look REALLY beautiful in this vlog. Blessings, ‘Seyi xxx

  47. This was a perfect reminder! I recently had this very strong gut reaction of wanting to become a holistic health coach. I let all the chatter in my mind lead me to ask friends and family what they think… while in my heart I knew what the next step was. So I am taking it tonight! Wohoo! thank you!

  48. Thanks so much for this ‘nudge’ Gabby. I tend to use my husband as a fall back in this department . . . and then when he tries to give me his unsolicited opinion it really gets my dander up. He’s responding to my unsure energy. I will practice this week in following my gut.

  49. Hey Gabby.

    So timely!
    I find myself at a cross-roads. My recent double mastectomy breast reconstruction is uncomfortable. I feel as though I’m one of those people who just can’t tolerate them. And my thoughts turn to being single. Who will love a breastless me? Can I really blame a guy for not wanting to take that on? We’re talking about primal stuff here. Aesthetics rooted in our monkey brains. It’s been a few weeks of obsessing about someone else. Who is this guy anyway? This ruler of my future satisfaction?

    It’s about MY opinion. How I feel about me.

    So thanks for the words. They were floating around but you grabbed them all and put them in a video.
    (AND, I’m not pouring myself that second glass of wine)

  50. Gabby,

    Thank you soo much soul sister for the beautiful and awakening advice. Trusting one’s ing is so very important, you always know just what to say to make my day brighter! Thank you for your lovely wisdom, amazing joy and beautiful light! :)

    Love,
    Jackie

    P.S. You look so radiant! Wishing you all the best and sending lots of good vibes your way! 😀

  51. This vlog post couldn’t have come at a more perfect time. I have been spending the last two weeks questioning myself about my business and this new direction I want to go based on things that other people have been telling me I “should” do. I know what I want to do but listening to others opinions and advice really left me feeling anxious and panicked and wondering if what I wanted to do was the right thing.

    Then I hit play on this post and it was like a big ah-ha moment. I knew immediately that the reason I was feeling so crummy was because I was listening to everyone else and not myself. I know what I want to do and even if it doesn’t make sense to anyone else something in my gut is telling me that it’s the way to go.

    Thanks for guiding us all to listen to ourselves…its amazing how easily we forget.

    xo,
    Amanda

  52. Gabby,
    I have spent the last week trying to make a decision, one that from the get go I knew which way I should decide, but have been pestering my friends to validate it, which only served to confuse the issue. This was a blessing to hear this morning.. Separating my ego from my true inner spirit will always lead me to the right answer
    Much love
    Eimear x

  53. Gabby,
    Thank you so much Sister this wonderful blog! I m always gaining so much because of you, you are Godsend. I used to struggle a lot deciding what i wanted to do and at the same time hearing a voice within telling me to trust myself. I m so happy you say this i did few things and listened to my intuition and felt great.

  54. Just what I needed to hear today. You are so right, asking for other’s opinions to validate my own is a bit insane, The whole point is for me to remain centered and know that if I do t to ask for others opinions each person would give an opinion based on THERI experience and feelings, not mine. And I am very intutive, so I just need to honor what I already know!

  55. Hello Gabrielle, I liked this last recommendation about trusting our guts feelings. It would be really useful if you could recommend us some meditation video about following our inner guide or our intuition. Thank you!

  56. This is my favorite vlog that you’ve done so far! Whenever I ask for anyone’s opinion it’s only to justify whatever decision I’ve already made. So totally wasting my time!

  57. Gabby,

    You are such a gift. I love your energy, your message, your being’ness.

    I also love the necklace you’re wearing (you wear it often). Could you tell me what it is, what it represents etc.

    You can just email me if you have time.

    Loves & Hugs!
    Leis’

  58. I’ve been working with this EXACT issue for years. My boyfriend just pointed out last night how I continuously search for validation from people when I already have the answer within myself. Thank you for your encouragement and the opportunity to understand how to tackle this issue in a positive light :)

  59. This is SO awesome, Gabby! Thank you!! I wish I would’ve had this video 10 years ago as an insecure teenager who got in a terrible habit of needing approval/validation/reassurance from everyone else to make the decision I wanted to make. What ended up happening was me either not doing what I wanted to in order to please other people/do what they thought was right or doing what I wanted only after getting “permission” from the people around me. It was a really, really tough habit to break and I’m not all the way there, but I’m certainly getting better at it. I’m going to practice this week not asking others for advice or reassurance and like you said, going with my first gut instinct. Thank you for this!

  60. Wow. I am just realizing I’ve been doing this all of my life!
    I have so many big decisions in my life since I got divorced…regarding my children, my career, our home/house/living situation.

    I ask my Self, my -ing to show me the way.

    Love to All of us! Annemarie

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