The #1 Key to Manifesting

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Super Attractor by Gabrielle Bernstein[Sept. 26th update]: I just launched my new book, Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams!

Whether you already have it or not, I want to help you get ready for the powerful methods I teach in the book.

So… let’s talk about the #1 key to manifesting. NUMBER. ONE.

What is the #1 key to manifesting?

There are many important elements of attracting your desires… but the #1 key to manifesting is to cultivate the energy of what you want to experience.

Cultivating the energy of what you want is crucial because manifesting happens on the level of energy.

It doesn’t matter how many vision boards you make or affirmations you say. Ultimately, it’s all about your energy. So I want to demystify this concept for you and give you some ways to start practicing it.

Our energy attracts our experiences

We’re all beings of energy. When our energy vibrates at a low level, we attract low-level circumstances. But when our energy is in a high vibration, we attract positive outcomes.

I know that may sound heady, but it’s the truth. This is why the first chapter in Super Attractor is titled “The Universe Always Delivers.” Your energy is always sending a message to the Universe.

My energy creates my reality. What I focus on is what I will manifest. | Gabby Bernstein | The #1 key to manifestingHere’s an example. Let’s say you want to create more abundance in your life, but what you feel in your daily life is a sense of lack or deprivation. You think a lot about what you don’t have, and you compare yourself to people who have more.

Since what you’re feeling is a sense of lack, you manifest more lack. This is because each thought and feeling we have sends an energetic message to the Universe. And the Universe always responds in kind.

The Universe will deliver us people, experiences and outcomes that match our vibrational frequency. You can write a million times in your journal, “I am abundant,” but if you don’t feel abundant, you won’t attract abundance.

It’s really important to understand that we’re always manifesting, whether we’re conscious of it or not.

The #1 key to manifesting: Cultivate the feeling you want to experience!

This practice is so huge that if you practice it regularly, you’ll start to see your desires come into form quickly… and you’ll have fun doing it!

In this video I talk about how to start cultivating the energy you want. Watch it and then keep reading for a more detailed breakdown.

Step 1: Get clear about what you want

Before you can start attracting what you want, you first need to know what it is you want.

Let’s go back to our abundance example. Your first step is to clarify your desire. It might be something like, “I want to feel abundant. I want to have money in the bank and I want to feel financially free.”

When you’re clarifying what you want, focus primarily on how it will feel to have it. This will help you to release it, which is step 2.

Step 2: Turn over your desire

Gabby Bernstein praying | The #1 key to manifestingNow that you’re clear on your desire, turn it over to the Universe. Spiritual surrender is a theme I come back to again and again, because we can’t manifest without it.

Release it, trusting that it’s being taken care of. You can say this simple prayer to turn over your desire:

“I step back and let the Universe lead the way.”

If you want more guidance on how to let go of the need to control, check out my blog post on manic manifesting.

Step 3: Do everything you can to support the feeling you want

Once you’ve gotten clear about your desire and turned it over to the care of the Universe, your next step is to do whatever it takes to support that feeling.

Tweet: When you give yourself permission to feel good right now, you become a magnet for what you want. @gabbybernstein #SuperAttractor

So if you want to feel loved and find romance, then make sure that you’re loving yourself very deeply. Tend to the non-romantic relationships in your life and appreciate the love you do have. Really let yourself receive love from others and marinate in that good feeling.

If you want to feel abundant and earn more money, then make sure you’re respecting and enjoying your money. Pay your bills, save what you can and indulge mindfully on experiences and things that bring you joy.

These don’t have to be extravagant purchases. You can find abundance in a cup of coffee! Let yourself feel grateful for an iced coffee on a hot summer day.

Appreciating what you have now will attract even more of it to you.

Give yourself permission to feel good

Joy is the ultimate creator | The #1 key to manifestingDo you withhold feelings of happiness from yourself until you achieve what you want?

This is very common. It’s also completely backward!

When we tell ourselves something like, “I’ll feel good once I’ve got money in the bank,” or “I’ll be happy once I’m in a relationship,” we’re putting the outcome before the feeling.

We think that by living in fear we’ll attract joy. But the truth is that by living in joy, we become a magnet for more joy!

It’s safe to feel how you want to feel even before your manifestation has come into form.

Here’s how I put it in Super Attractor:

When you approach the world as a vibrational reality rather than a physical space, that’s when your desires become real. When you’re able to access the energy of abundance and have faith that the Universe always provides, you can begin to feel your desire come into form before it shows up in the physical world.

Step 4: Join My Manifesting Challenge

Click here to join the 2021 Manifesting Challenge

Today, commit to cultivating the feeling you want

As you start to dwell in the feeling of what it is that you want, that feeling becomes your reality. Cultivate the feeling and then take actions to really support that feeling!

This practice is the #1 key to manifesting, and I hope it supports you. If you feel called to share, leave a comment and declare that you’re ready to manifest what you want!

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  1. If we know something is important for us and we want it also , ex , to take actions in career , but unable to produce the emotion of desire or drive for such an important aspect of our lives . How to bring about the emotion/feeling ?

    1. Great question, Asha. If you’re unable to cultivate the energy of what you want to experience, it may be a sign that something is blocking you from accessing these feelings. Here is a meditation to help you clear blocks: as well as an additional post on releasing resistance that you might find helpful: Another option is to ask the universe for help by using this prayer from A Course in Miracles:
      Where would you have me go?
      What would you have me do?
      What would you have me say and to whom?

  2. I’m still learning, and I’m trying to wrap my head around the concepts. If we learn to be happy the way things are, how do we desire more without falling back into unhappiness? For example, if I’m happy single, but desire to be in a loving relationship, how do I desire without falling into loneliness or unhappiness?

    1. Hi Christine!
      Great question.
      Like you said, you’re still learning (we all are!) and so it can get a bit confusing at times.
      It’s totally possible to be happy with your present reality and, at the same time, to want to call something more into your life.
      Gabby created a really cool tool that I think might serve you. It’s called a Fatih Statement. This is a great way to cultivate trust in the Universe as you learn more about manifesting.
      You can learn more about it here:
      Also, you may want to try some tools to help you feel grounded. Here’s a great post on that:
      Big love to you!

  3. This was an awesome article! I needed to read this to understand “how I feel and being HAPPY are the way to my own destiny and what I want…. RELEASING AND SURRENDERING will be my total goal from now and forever!

      1. Gabby,
        This may sound crazy what I am about to tell you but I will anyway.
        About 10 years ago I was playing online roulette with a system (lol).
        My system went like this, if you play red for .50cents and black comes up, you now play a dollar on red and so on until red hits. I am not going to bore you with this but what happened next was incredible.
        I was playing this system for about 5 days and was up down and all around town. Now it gets interesting, since I had been playing for hours a day consistently, something happened by day 6; all of a sudden I felt one with the roulette program. I could predict the next roll, without guessing and felt almost hypnotized. My mind was linked is the best way I could describe it. I couldn’t lose. I went from having approx. $600 when I went into the zone and a few hours later I was up to $8,500. Needless to say the link severed at some point after that, and I was just another player and walked away wit just over $2,000. Still stupid in my part because I new when the disconnect occurred , yet I still kept playing and losing.
        This only happened 2 time and in the last 10 years maybe played roulette a dozen times but not with the “system”.
        Gabby, could you hypothesize and what occurred. Thanks

  4. There is something I just can’t get my head around when it comes to manifesting love or a partner. If I ask for it, believe it, then let it go so the Universe can get to work bringing me my partner but my potential partner is also letting go and allowing for it to come into their life, how do we actually get together?

  5. I am willing to learn my lessons through love.

    I am living my purpose as an interdisciplinary artist, dancer, choreographer, teacher and healer.

    My role here is to expand divine love for myself and others.

    I am infinitely loved, guided and deserving of my dreams.

    I am so thankful to be attracting a home by the ocean, financial freedom, ample time to be with my loved ones, with my creativity, with mother nature and have the freedom to travel and share my love in various corners of the earth.

    I attract relationships that are loyal, nurturing, respectful, loving, supportive with people who believe in my passions.

    I am prosperous, abundant, wise and full of light.

    My light radiates wherever I go. The more I shine the more I inspire others.

    We are worthy of our ascension. I am a super attractor.

    May only the highest frequencies of love and light communicate with me now. I am protected. I am free. I am grateful.

  6. This is a great article. Many great blogs out there for sure. I’ve been practicing the law of attraction for a year and it helped a lot in my journey.

  7. I rarely leave comments on any blogs, but it’s as if this blog was written just for me! The words on the page really spoke to me and expressed exactly how I feel currently. Spot on and it really resonated with me. Thank you!

    1. Awesome, Nathan! So glad this post resonates with you! Here are a few more posts on manifesting that you might want to check out:

  8. I’ve worked very hard to get a new job. My current job is 100% negative and does things that hurt my coworkers. I tried to stop it and was mistreated. I’ve emotionally let go. I realize my worth and talents. I’ve pursued other venues, used affirmations, felt the feelings of joy in getting another job and each time it didn’t work right at the cusp of happening. I’ve done it all and now I’m beyond lost. I don’t know what to do. I’m angry and frustrated. I want the universe to stop playing with me. I have been clear in my desire, grateful with my blessings and worked very hard. I’m running out of time. I only have a month left for something to work in my favor so I can leave.

    1. Sending you positive vibes, Lissette. If you have Gabby’s book, The Universe Has Your Back, you may want to check out Chapter 6: Obstacles are Detours in the Right Direction. It’s a nice reminder that even when we feel like we are not being guided, the Universe is at work. Here are some additional posts and practices for you to check out:

  9. I desired to be pregnant more than anything and have for decades. It is now, due to many medical complications, impossible, and I had to have a hysterectomy. I tried through the years and heartache to keep the faith but it was so hard. How do I move forward when the one thing I wanted to manifest so desperately will never come to be? Did I miss out because I went to fear and doubt after every disappointment?

    1. Col, I am so sorry to hear about your fertility struggle. The best gift you can give yourself right now is self compassion. Moving forward is different for each person. Some people may be led to adopt children. Others may decide not to have children themselves but to have children in their lives in other ways, such as nieces and nephews or volunteering/working with kids. I’m sending you love and light on your path. However it works out will be beautiful.

      Here are some additional posts and practices to support you on your journey:

  10. i want to manifest someone back into my life ive had a past connection with them but they left my life is there any manifestation to get them to text you or something?

    1. Ava, you can send healing light, you can send energy, you can pray for people, but they have their own free will. For example, if someone doesn’t want to heal and you’re praying for their healing, they won’t heal. If you are in the shared intention with that person, absolutely you can co create their manifestation with them by holding them in what they want to. But if they’re not in the same vibration, your prayer will uplift them. It will elevate them, it will send them energy, but you can’t pray for someone to be something that they don’t want to be.

      Gabby’s cord cutting meditation and her blog on special relationships may be helpful to you:

  11. Thank you Gabby for explaining LOA so simply. Most importantly, cultivate the feeling you want ! I understood so so better now. Living in now is simple and easy once we know our action and desires supported by our faith !!
    Thank you so much
    I ordered your book in past named: The Universe has your back !

    1. We are so grateful Gabby’s post resonated with you Nikita. You’ll love The Universe Has Your Back. <3

  12. Hello, I want to manifest success. How do i visualize that when i am not sure what i want to succeed in? I just know i want to achieve something that will touch the heart of many.

    1. Like Gabby says in the blog post, “the #1 Key to Manifesting is feeling is to cultivate the energy of what you want to experience.” This means taking some time to get clear on what you imagine success to feel like energetically and visualize yourself feeling those feelings, taking the actions what might result in those feelings on a smaller scale– for example, after a challenging work out. You may also find this blog post helpful: xoxo

  13. Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me for the second time, he said he had no feelings left. But I know this is due to the space and distance created by the lockdown. He says the reasons don’t matter, but I really want him back. I’ve been trying to be positive. How do I manifest him back? We aren’t speaking currently. But there’s no bad blood or ugly fights that we had.

  14. hi, so im trying out manifesting a new iphone on my birthday but i am confused if we can manifest and scripting and meditation and visulaizing every day ?

    1. Great question, Debie. Yes! You can practice the various manifesting techniques daily. You may just want to check in and make sure that you are not manic manifesting. Here are some additional posts and practices to help you manifest your desires and surrender the outcome:

    1. Hi Gabby,
      I want to move to another country so that I can experience my high school life in there…i am new to manifesting but I want to move out of my country within 5 months…is that possible??

      1. Nothing is “too big” to manifest, Mia. People manifest epic love, dream homes, ground-breaking careers, staggering abundance….our ability to manifest is limitless. That being said, it’s important to remember that the universe is always working towards the highest good for all. Continue to hold the desire in your heart, and work on surrendering the outcome! Here are some tips to help you do that:

  15. I have a question! My boyfriend and I recently broke up because the distance was too much for him and it was really hurting him. I would love to manifest him back, but the reason we broke up is nothing I can control. I’m not sure if I manifested the break up either, as I have a tendency to overthink and I’m not sure if I’m the cause of our break up. Do you think it’s possible to manifest getting back together and happiness together for both of us?

    1. Great question, Bella. You can work on releasing any fearful thoughts/pattern that may be blocking you from being an energetic match for this relationship. As you do so, you can let the universe know that you’re keeping the energetic door open for this man to return if it the relationship truly is the highest good for all. Here are some additional posts to check out:

  16. Hi! Loved this post! Just wanted to clarify for something personal, let’s say I’m already in my dream country but I just wish to stay longer, hopefully getting citizenship too, I would have to feel like I already have it to manifest it into my reality?

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