We are social creatures, so it’s natural to care what others think of us. Having strong relationships helps us feel fulfilled, connected and supported.
But obsessing over what others think just makes us feel judged, disconnected and resentful. It’s hard to be vulnerable and open up to family members and friends when we’re scared of the reaction we’ll get when we’re honest and forthright.
And it’s not just the people close to us, either. How often do you worry about what everyone thinks of you, including every coworker, the other people at the gym, even random strangers on the street?
Being on high alert like this drains our energy, revs up anxiety and makes it harder to connect with other people. These tips will help you stop caring so much about what others think of you and feel more engaged and aligned.
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Step 1: Realize everyone is thinking about themselves
The first step in not caring what other people think about you is to realize that everyone’s really just thinking about themselves! Everyone around you is walking around thinking about their own personal needs and desires and worrying about others judging them.
We’re all just trying to feel good and be happy. So just remember that we’re all in this together. Take that struggle and discomfort off yourself and realize we’re all doing this all the time.
Step 2: Take the pressure off by asking questions
Another great way to get your attention off of what you think others are thinking and onto just being more casual and feeling more centered is to ask people more sincere, curious questions about themselves.
In your conversations, let go of your judgment (of yourself and them) and simply inquire about them. As you ask them questions you’ll discover things you have in common and reasons to feel connected.
Connection is all we really want! By showing that you’re interested in the other person, you’ll begin to feel a greater sense of presence within the relationship. You’ll be able to let go of inadequacy and stop caring about what they think of you, and you’ll feel more engaged and aligned.
These are two very simple steps. I hope this practice goes well for you. Go out and try it and let me know your experiences in the comments below!
Do you have other ways of putting yourself at ease and connecting with others? How do you stop worrying what other people think of you? Leave a comment and let me know!