Stop Worrying About What People Think of You

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Do you often feel self-conscious in social situations, and worry about what other people think of you? In this post I want to share a couple of simple steps you can take to let go of that fear.

It’s natural to care about what others think

I honor how I want to feel | The Universe Has Your Back card deck by Gabby BernsteinWe are social creatures, so it’s natural to care what others think of us. Having strong relationships helps us feel fulfilled, connected and supported.

But obsessing over what others think just makes us feel judged, disconnected and resentful. It’s hard to be vulnerable and open up to family members and friends when we’re scared of the reaction we’ll get when we’re honest and forthright.

Being on high alert is exhausting

It’s not just the people close to us, either. How often do you worry about what everyone thinks of you, including every coworker, the other people at the gym, even random strangers on the street?

Being on high alert like this drains our energy, revs up anxiety and makes it harder to connect with other people. These tips will help you stop caring so much about what others think of you and feel more engaged and aligned.

How to stop worrying about what other people think of you

Watch the video or keep reading to learn two simple tips that will help you stop worrying about what other people think of you.

Step 1: Realize everyone is thinking about themselves

The first step in not caring what other people think about you is to realize that everyone’s really just thinking about themselves! Everyone around you is walking around thinking about their own personal needs and desires and worrying about others judging them.

We’re all just trying to feel good and be happy. So just remember that we’re all in this together. Take that struggle and discomfort off yourself and realize we’re all doing this all the time.

Step 2: Take the pressure off by asking questions

Another great way to get your attention off of what you think others are thinking and onto just being more casual and feeling more centered is to ask people more sincere, curious questions about themselves.

In your conversations, let go of your judgment (of yourself and them) and simply inquire about them. As you ask them questions you’ll discover things you have in common and reasons to feel connected.

Connection is all we really want! By showing that you’re interested in the other person, you’ll begin to feel a greater sense of presence within the relationship. You’ll be able to let go of inadequacy and stop caring about what they think of you, and you’ll feel more engaged and aligned.

How do you put yourself at ease?

These are two very simple steps. I hope this practice goes well for you. Go out and try it and let me know your experiences in the comments below!

Do you have other ways of putting yourself at ease and connecting with others? How do you stop worrying what other people think of you? Leave a comment and let me know!

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    1. Hi Tami. It might feel good to take the focus of the other person and instead put energy towards yourself. Try incorporating a daily meditation practice, which will help you connect to yourself and your emotions, get clarity, feel grounded, and get to know your inner guidance. Sending big hugs. <3

  1. How do you recommend you deal with people who are actively making hurtful comments to you i.e. your job shouldn’t exist and things of that nature. I am really struggling with this right now.

    1. It can be very difficult when someone is attacking you in such a direct way. I have a few blogs and videos I want you to check out.

      The most important one is my newest blog, which is what to do when you feel judged. In it I give you a very powerful exercise that will immediately shift your energetic momentum. This is no small thing. A shift in your energy sends a VERY powerful message to the Universe that you are ready to manifest positivity and support. Your energy also affects people around you, including the person attacking you – even if they don’t know it.

      Also check out my blog on how to tell the truth when you need to speak up for yourself. And read this one on how to see others in the light, even the most difficult relationships.

      For a deep dive I highly recommend reading Judgment Detox. Practice each step in the book focusing on this particular person or group of people. You will experience deep healing and freedom. And by releasing judgment and healing the old wounds that these folks are triggering with their attacks, you will amplify your attracting power in magnificent ways. If your logical mind is resisting the idea that you are judging, I invite you to stay with me. Judgment is likely not quite what you think it is. I know this book will help you greatly.

      I am holding you in love and light. I am sending you so much love and support.

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