Don’t Fear Your Fear: 3 Ways to Reframe Negative Thoughts

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You don't have to fear your fear | Super Attractor card deckAre you afraid of your fearful thoughts?

It’s not uncommon for people who believe in the Law of Attraction and who are self-proclaimed Super Attractors to get really nervous when they have a fearful thought.

They think their negative thoughts will become their reality — and they get panicky about manifesting what they don’t want, which then strengthens their fear.

Take a deep breath. I’m going to clear this up.

We all have negative thoughts

A few negative thoughts are not going to manifest a negative outcome.

What we want to be conscious of is how much momentum those negative thoughts build up through repetition.

Abraham-Hicks say, “A belief is just a thought that you keep thinking.”

So let’s not let those negative thoughts get so much momentum that they become beliefs.

Simply put: We all have negative thoughts. And we also all have a choice of what to do with them.

You don’t have to fear your negative thoughts

I know that so many people are terrified right now. Maybe you’re afraid of financial insecurity or you’re worried about your health. Maybe you feel isolated or alone or just down. (And maybe it’s all of the above.)

It’s totally fine to feel those feelings and think those thoughts.

But instead of letting them take over, I want to show you how you can reframe your thoughts in the moment.

In the video below, I respond to a question about being scared of negative thoughts. Press play to learn how to slow down the momentum, and keep reading for a 3-step breakdown.

These are tools from Abraham-Hicks that I’ve chosen to live by.

3 Ways to Reframe Your Thoughts

When you notice negative thoughts pop up, or when you realize they’re gaining some momentum, turn to any of these practices to undo them.

These tools will reframe your thoughts within minutes and shift you into a better-feeling vibration.

1. Play the appreciation game

Appreciation mantra | Super Attractor card deckThis practice comes from Abraham-Hicks, and it’s both simple and profound. Out loud or to yourself, express appreciation for all that is good in your life.

You might say things like:

  • I appreciate my family for supporting me
  • I appreciate the food in my pantry
  • I appreciate technology for making video calls easy
  • I appreciate the way the sun is shining in the window

Just keep going for at least one minute and longer if you can. You can also write down everything you appreciate in your journal, or play the appreciation game with another person.

The act of appreciating will reframe your thoughts and redirect momentum within minutes.

Why appreciation is so powerful

Whatever you appreciate you create more of. This is because when you’re in a state of appreciation, you’re in vibrational alignment with your true love nature.

When we’re in a state of appreciation, we’re actively allowing more of what we want to come toward us while dissolving the blocks to the presence of our Super Attractor power.

So whenever you notice yourself worrying about something out of your control, play the appreciation game to redirect your focus. The appreciations you list can be related to the issue you’re worried about or not — it doesn’t matter.

What matters is that you’re shifting your focus off the addictive pattern of worrying and onto the positive habit of appreciation.

2. Practice the Choose Again Method

When you notice a fearful thought arise, you can choose again. Just witness your feelings and use the Choose Again Method from chapter 1 of Super Attractor to reframe your thoughts:

    1. Notice the fear. Notice when your fearful thoughts start sabotaging your positive flow and ask yourself, “How do I feel right now?” Let yourself feel whatever is coming up for you.
    2. Forgive the thought. Forgive your fearful thoughts and celebrate your desire to shift back to feeling good! You can say out loud to yourself, “I forgive this thought and I know it is not real.”
    3. Choose again. Answer this question: “What is the best-feeling thought I can find right now?” Then ask the Universe for support as you lean toward thoughts that feel good. Take your time to reach for positive thoughts about what you want and how you want to feel.

You can always rely on the Choose Again Method to help reframe your thoughts. If fear has you in a headlock and choosing a more positive thought seems far from reach, you can stay in step 2 of the method and simply forgive the thought.

In an instant you can forgive your fear and choose again.

Forgiving the thought puts you into an energy of acceptance rather than resistance. When you forgive the fearful thought, you’re acknowledging that your fear isn’t your truth.

Forgiving your fear gives you permission to return to love when you’re ready. Accepting a more positive and empowering relationship to fear is the fastest way to dissolve it.

3. Meditate

When we meditate, we shift our energy and stop that negative story that’s on loop. We attune our energy with the loving, peaceful, high-vibration energy of the Universe.

Not only does meditating help us feel better physically and emotionally, but it also helps us hear intuitive guidance.

We don’t find solutions through pushing. We find them through pausing. When we pause, we slow the momentum of our fear. A pause offers us an opportunity to turn inward for answers rather than pushing and controlling. When we pause, ask and listen, we are guided.

Want more meditation support?

Spiritual schedule - mobile featured imageI’m excited to share that my first-ever Meditation Challenge starts on May 17th!

I created this challenge because I want to support you in your commitment to meditate regularly and feel better. (You can sign up starting this Friday, May 1st.)

During this 21-day challenge, I’ll give you a simple, structured, daily practice that will get you excited about meditation and make it easy for you to apply.

I’ve laid out the plan for you and I’ll guide you every step of the way. You don’t need to overthink it. You don’t need to be the perfect meditator. And it doesn’t matter whether you have an established practice or you’re a complete beginner.

All you have to do is show up. By the end of the challenge, you’ll feel empowered and energized, able to soothe and ground yourself just by turning inward.

Stay tuned for details. You can sign up starting this Friday, May 1st!

Listen to my free Positive Energy Meditation

My Positive Energy Meditation will help you reframe your thoughts and elevate your energy within minutes. All you have to do is press play and listen to the affirmations!

This meditation is really versatile. You can listen to it anywhere, anytime to feel uplifted and calm. Sit with your eyes closed or play the track while you’re cooking, running, etc. You can make any activity meditative!

Click here to download your free Positive Energy Meditation.

Reframing your thoughts is a moment-to-moment practice

This practice is a moment-to-moment commitment. It requires you to start paying attention to your thoughts, words and energy, and to consciously change them.

In time this will become second nature, but right now you have to develop the habit. So be very kind and compassionate with yourself as you make this change, and celebrate each shift along the way, because each shift is a miracle.

You’ll fall back into fear all the time, so don’t beat yourself up for it. Your goal isn’t to never feel fear. Your goal is to come back to love as soon as possible.

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  1. Wow! I drew the top card in this post JUST THIS MORNING. And the other card I have as one of my favorites on my IG! SO crazy!!!!!!!!

  2. Thank you thank you thank you. This message came at the perfect time ✨Gabby’s meditations have helped me so much and I’m so appreciative to her for sharing her insight and experience.

  3. Love you Gabby, I wish I had more time to follow through with everything you do, the virus has left me with so much work in both my jobs, its hard to find time for a normal life. But when I do have time I read and act on your emails, I have to say you are amazing, keep up the good work.

  4. Gab,
    thank you so much! Im enjoying your book Super Attractor. So many things are becoming more clear to me. Its alot of information and I keep going back thru the chapters to make sure im doing everything. I now know how to get my peace back. Im enjoying the meditating and your clear practices to stay happy!
    Thank you
    Thank you
    Thank you

  5. Thank you kindly for these Soul Tips here that you have forwarded to me. I am grateful in your sharing. I Wish For All Great Health, Love and Positive Thoughts Ongoing In Their Lives.

  6. Just listened to your anxiety workshop. The Choose again method really resonated with me. I am starting t use it. I am also glad to hear that we can have negative thoughts, but you need to forgive yourself and start from there. I thought there was something I wasn’t doing correctly because all I would hear is “you have to be positive” and I thought its hard to be that way all the time. Now thanks to you , I know I can hear that negativity and then turn it around. Thank you for teaching me the tools to help me… I plan on ordering one of your books as well.

    Stay safe

  7. Gabby thank you so much for all you do… you are truly a light… a gift to the world. I cannot begin to tell you how much I can relate to and learn from everything you are saying. I appreciate that you are so willing to share and help people like me. Fear is paralyzing … I know this for a fact and I will use these tools to overcome my fears and hopefully continue to choose faith over fear.

  8. Thank you, Gabby! This was just what I needed this morning! I am so thankful for the timing of my Miracle Membership. I thought I was planning for a peaceful transition from a very busy, long term career into retirement. The Universe knew I would need it for that and COVID support simultaneously. I don’t know what this time period would have looked liked without your support and resources!!

  9. Well I didn’t know your books or that you were an spiritual teacher. At the beginning of this pandemic one of the psychologists I follow recommended your book for reading during this difficult times. So I read The Universe Has Your back and it’s a great book. Yesterday my negative thoughts overwhelmed me and I didn’t feel good, I thought I have to be all positive because I’ve worked with your book for more than a month.. and this morning this email came.. and I feel good again.. thank you!

  10. Tears flow as I hear and embrace the kindness you give and I begin to give to myself. I am reading your book’ The Universe has your Back’! Life changing! I am grateful for these Truths .
    Everyday sacred,

  11. Gabby, my favorite!
    I love that you acknowledge that people are human and have negative thoughts and you show us how to get rid of them. Well, at least until the next negative thought. You are my go to for love and increasing my vibration.

  12. I will just try to keep it short. This choose again is MY MANTRA.
    There is a slight discomfort I feel when I am being grateful in that situation (anxiety,fear), that I am only saying it. Its not coming from within … Can you help me with this please? and deep down I say it to myself (I just don’t have to say it but to feel it )..
    love you so much dear Gabby ..xoxo!

    1. Thanks for your honest share, Akanksha! Rather than express your gratitude for the situation– it might be helpful to focus on things that you’re grateful in general. For example: I’m grateful for the sun shining in the window. Even if you are not 100% connected to your feelings of gratitude– that’s okay. Even with the slightest willingness, we can call in miracles. xoxo

  13. I’m so excited about the Meditation Challenge, Gabby – I’ll definitely be signing up on Friday. Thank you! It’s exactly what I need at this time. I’ve done a bit of meditation work, but not much and it’s something I’d really like to get into the habit of doing on a daily basis. I’m sure that your Challenge will give me the motivation and guidance I need to start my practice.

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