A few years ago I was in Australia, giving a talk in Melbourne.
A young woman raised her hand. She said, “Hi, I’m American. I’m here now in Australia and I’m paving a new path for my life. I’m so excited about all that I’m creating… and I have a question for you.”
And I said, “Okay, cool. What is it?”
She went on to say, “I’m creating this new life and I’m trying to make change and pave a new path in my career. Would you recommend that I just go with the flow, or should I push forward and make things happen?”
Our words have a profound effect on our energy
The second that she said the words “push forward and make things happen,” I felt my entire energy just drop. I felt my whole presence weaken. And I even felt that energetic drop ripple throughout the entire auditorium.
I literally sensed the vibration of those words. We’ve put meaning into concepts like “push” and “make things happen,” and as a result they have an energetic frequency. That frequency was so powerful in that moment that it affected all of us in that room.
So immediately I pointed it out. I said, “Did you see how the energy shifted in the room when you said the words, ‘push and make things happen’?” First, I called out how it was an amazing question because it brought up such an important concept.
And then I started to very gently explain to her that the words she was using around this question, both out loud and in her mind, were very low-vibe.
I asked her, “How does that concept make you feel?”
She said, “Well, it makes me feel really anxious and nauseous.”
Our words affect everyone around us
And then I started to ask the group, the room, “What does that concept bring forth in you? How does it make you feel?”
The people in the room started shouting replies:
- “I feel nervous.”
- “I feel uncomfortable.”
- “It makes me feel anxious.”
- “It makes me feel scared.”
- “It makes me feel freaked out.”
This one sentence that this young woman said had the capacity to trigger an energetic shift within 400 people. Everyone in the room felt the same. They all felt this sense that the low-vibe concept of pushing and making things happen was weakening our power and felt scary.
Our thoughts and words can elevate us or weaken us
The words that we use in any given situation have the power to elevate our energy or weaken our vibration.
Our words, and the energy backing up those words, affect how we feel. So it’s important that we become mindful of the words we use. Because as we repeat the words, we create momentum around the energy they carry.
That’s why I asked this woman (who was so brave to raise her hand and ask this question to 400 people), “How does this concept make you feel?” She got real and said that they made her feel anxious and nauseous.
Witness how your words make you feel
We tend to think we don’t have much control over our thoughts unless we’re deliberately very focused.
We have about 70,000 conscious and unconscious thoughts a day, so it’s easy to feel like they’re beyond our control.
But, in fact, we do have the ability to consciously step back, interrupt the stream of thoughts, and ask ourselves, “What am I thinking right now? How do these thoughts and words make me feel?”
This is a habit we can cultivate. In my book Miracles Now, one of the lessons I teach is called W.A.I.T., which stands for “Why Am I Talking?” It’s a tool you can use when you notice that you’re talking (or thinking) mindlessly.
When you notice that you’re using low-vibration words that don’t feel good, whether in a conversation or in your own mind, just ask yourself W.A.I.T. Take a breath and then reframe your words or thoughts. You can even stop yourself mid-sentence and say something like, “You know what, these words are dragging down my energy.” Then reframe or change the subject.
How to reframe your thoughts and words
Let’s go back to our lovely American expat in Australia. When she said she was “pushing and making things happen,” she felt anxious and nauseous.
So I worked with her to reframe her thoughts and words so they made her feel empowered, inspired and joyful.
I said to her, “Let’s find some language that’s going to keep you in the spirit of creating, but also keep you in the receptivity of surrender.”
Together we said that she is going to let go, surrender and open up to taking spiritually aligned actions. For her, that statement meant that she was in the place of peace and surrender. It reinforced her faith in the Universe and simultaneously empowered her to take actions from a place of inspiration.
By no means did that statement say, “I’m just going to sit on my meditation pillow and wait for everything to drop into my lap.”
That statement for her said, “I’m going to take action, but from a place of inspiration, not a place of control and manipulation.”
She experienced a radical vibrational shift simply by reframing the words around what she wanted to create!
Find words and thoughts that fuel joy
Joy is the operative word. Joy is the catalyst for all that is good in our life. It’s what brings forth all the synchronicities we’re longing for and the connectedness that we want. Joy is what brings forth the power within us to create, to be inspired, to live the life we want, to attract our deepest desires.
When we vibrate with the frequency of joy, we have a ripple effect on the world. We’re an energized force field. And we send out a vibrational memo that tells the Universe and everyone in it that we’re a loving, amazing, positive person who lifts up the world around us.
Ultimately, our capacity to be joyful is our power. This is why it’s so important to lean toward joyful thoughts that elevate our energy and joyful intentions that elevate our moment-to-moment life. (This is a big theme in my upcoming book Super Attractor, so get psyched to learn even more methods for leaning toward joy!)
Leaning toward joy is a radical act of love.
Examine your own thoughts
Now I’m going to ask you to take a moment and think about the monologue running through your mind each day.
- What are the words and stories that weaken your energy?
- What are the intentions that lower your physical, emotional and spiritual experience?
Open your journal and jot down a few of those words, or some of the ways that the energy in your words is creating a negative vibration in your life. You can take this exercise even further by answering these questions, too:
- How are your words and thoughts affecting the people in your life?
- How are they blocking you from feeling connected to the Universe?
- How are they holding you back from stepping out into the world with confidence and inspiration?
Get fearlessly honest with yourself about how your thoughts and words are keeping you from living in a vibration of joy.
Reframe your thoughts and words
Keep in mind: It’s not just about changing the words. It’s about changing the feeling that your words create within you.
When you reframe your thoughts, you might feel an instant energetic shift. But you have to believe in the words that you’re choosing in order to feel the shift and raise your vibration.
So make sure that when you change your words, you change them to something that you believe in. Something that is very energizing for you.
When you interrupt those low-vibe stories and reframe your thoughts, you can bring your new statement with you all throughout your day. Anytime you notice yourself fall back into that low-vibe language, just choose again.
Every time you choose again, that is a miracle.
When you elevate your vibration, you can find a way through every block
This practice is all about reframing your thoughts to shift your energy. So what you want to keep in mind is this question: “What is the energy that I want to bring forth?”
Do you want to elevate or do you want to pollute? It’s a choice we make.
But I can guarantee you that if you work and live and create and intend from a high-vibrational place, you will always find a way through every block. You will always be guided toward what you need to open a door or discover a new way of thinking.
Bring this practice to your most difficult situations
For some people, this may be pretty easy, because you might be fortunate enough that your greatest struggle is that you don’t like your boss, or maybe your most difficult situation is that you just aren’t happy with the way that you’ve been treating yourself.
But then there are folks who may be struggling right now with a painful disease. Or maybe your marriage is ending, or you’re struggling with a fear of financial insecurity that keeps you up at night.
Even in the most dire circumstances, when you feel the weakest, most afraid and most misaligned with love, you have the capacity to reorganize your intentions and reorganize your life. Particularly when you’re in your darkest moment, there’s a beautiful opportunity for spiritual surrender.
Wherever you are on your journey right now, start to pay close attention to your words and intentions, and how they are informing your energy and creating your reality. Reframe your thoughts and your words, and choose again. Choose a higher-vibe perspective.
If you’re really struggling to find a way to reframe, then turn to a mantra that feels good to you. “I surrender and trust that the Universe has my back” is a mantra you can repeat to interrupt those negative thoughts.
This is a moment-to-moment practice
This practice, choosing to reframe your thoughts and choose a higher-vibe perspective, is a moment-to-moment commitment. It requires you to start paying attention to your thoughts, words and energy, and to consciously change them.
Every shift toward love is a miracle.
In time this will become second nature, but right now you have to develop the habit. So be very kind and compassionate with yourself as you make this change, and celebrate each shift along the way, because each shift is a miracle.
Being on a spiritual path is really being on a path of talking yourself out of fear on a moment-to-moment basis. It’s such a simple concept, but it’s not that simple to stay committed to. Most people don’t.
You’ll fall back into fear all the time, so don’t beat yourself up for it. Your goal isn’t to never feel fear. Your goal is to come back to love as soon as possible.
Perfection is not the goal
We’ve been trained to lean toward fear, so we’re going to do it continuously. It’s automatic. But the more we proactively and consciously lean toward joy, love and inspiration, the more miracles we experience. We create momentum around our joy. We begin to attract all that we need, and we strengthen our faith in the Universe.
As you reframe your thoughts and strengthen your faith, you’ll be able to loosen your grip. Your actions be aligned with love and inspiration, and you’ll begin to trust that you’re always being guided to what you need. It may not be what you thought you wanted. And it may not happen in the timeframe you want. But what you receive, and when you receive it, will be exactly right.
It’s our commitment to the light that will lead us toward more magnitude and greatness. And it’s not so much about how perfect we are in each moment. It’s about how our intentions can shift and how open we are to change. Our receptivity, openness and desire to create change are all we need to continue forward in the journey of unlearning fear and remembering love.
I want to hear from you! If you feel called to share, leave a comment and let me know how you’re going to reframe a thought and change the words you’re using so you can elevate your vibration.