My SuperSoul Sessions Talk: The 5 Steps to Spiritual Surrender

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I’m so excited to share this talk with you. I gave this talk on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sessions.

This is one of the most vulnerable talks I’ve ever given.

It’s also one of the most powerful.

In this talk I share a deeply personal and emotional experience, one that was really hard for me to go through.

But it culminated in a moment of amazing spiritual surrender.

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Listen to the video below to hear my story and discover the five steps to spiritual surrender.

After a meditation, I channeled the energy of the Universe and wrote down the guidance I received. Then I summoned the courage to follow it.

Now I’m sharing this guidance with you. Below, I outline these steps as well.

Watch now: The 5 steps to spiritual surrender

I struggled with spiritual surrender

Right around the time that I began writing The Universe Has Your Back, my husband and I began trying to conceive. I had planned it all perfectly. I wanted to get pregnant right away and then cut back on traveling so that I could relax at at home while working on the book.

I was very committed to this plan. I canceled speaking engagements, turned down big opportunities and freed up my time. My goals were set and the plan was tight.

But there was one problem: I didn’t get pregnant. Month after month I’d rearrange my goals and expectations to stay on course with my pregnancy plans. While I felt strongly that I was meant to be a mother, I couldn’t release the plan. I became obsessed with the timing because my life was so busy.

My need to control the plan totally cut off my communication with the Universe. I judged myself for not getting pregnant and I harbored a terrible fear that it would never happen.

How I found spiritual surrender

hope is the conduit for miracles gabby bernstein card deckAfter attending a party surrounded by new mothers and pregnant friends, I was feeling especially low. With some guidance from my friend Jordan, I realized that I’d been blocking love with fear and with my need to control.

I turned to the love of the Universe for healing. I prayed and asked for help in releasing my own plan and accepting a plan far greater. In the stillness following my prayer I heard my inner voice say, “Your plans are in the way of God’s plan.” I accepted this message as a new Universal assignment.

Fixating on goals blocks divine guidance

As humans, we love to set goals and make plans. Most of the time it’s smart. But when we fixate too much on achieving our goals and sticking to our plans, we get in our own way. We think that we know what’s best. We relentlessly pursue the path of our ego. And we do it at the expense of our connection with the Universe.

This behavior keeps us from manifesting what is of the highest good for all. In order to allow the presence of love to shine upon every area of our life, we must remember that hope never rests.

Hope is the energy that carries us when we lose sight of our spiritual faith. Hope reminds us of the power of love and clears the path toward the highest good for all.

The 5 steps to spiritual surrender

Can you relate to my story in some way? Are you struggling to control something in your life? Do you have a hard time going with the flow?

Embrace your own Universal assignment and welcome the profound spiritual growth you are about to experience! Follow my five steps to spiritual surrender and let the Universe support you.

Step 1: Take your hands off the wheel through prayer

gabby bernstein prayer|spiritual surrenderWhen you feel fear, that’s a sure sign you’re relying on your own strength instead of the strength of the Universe. The Universe is always ready to support you, but it won’t step in until you step aside. So surrender through prayer.

The secret to prayer is to forget what you think you need. Do not pray for a specific outcome. Ask the Universe to show you what you need. Ask for the highest good.

Need more guidance here? Learn how to connect to a higher power and how to create your faith statement.

Step 2: Appreciate what’s thriving

Instead of focusing on goals and the outcomes you want, redirect your focus on what you do have. Celebrate everything beautiful in your life. Tell the people close to you how much you love and appreciate them. Take time each day to devote your attention to what is already thriving in your life.

Remember, joy is the ultimate creator. When we vibrate at the frequency of joy, we attract everything we need. Dr. Wayne Dyer opens the first principle of Manifest Your Destiny with this: “Within you is a divine capacity to manifest and attract all that you need or desire.”

By aligning with joy and appreciation, we activate this divine capacity. The combination of having fun and appreciating what’s thriving makes you a magnet for miracles!

Step 3: Recognize that obstacles are detours in the right direction

obstacles are detours in the right direction gabby bernstein card deckFor me, what seemed to be an obstacle was actually a detour toward my greatest healing. I had healing work I had to do to become a mother, and through the steps of spiritual surrender I was able to uncover the dark shadows that needed to be brought to the light.

Always trust the direction of the Universe and know you’re being guided toward love.

What happens when you choose to see obstacles as detours in the right direction

When you choose to see your obstacles as detours in the right direction, you can begin to find a deeper meaning and personal growth amidst the discomfort. Maybe you can connect to a higher purpose, make a real connection to someone or even be set on a path that will change the course of your life in a positive way.

All obstacles that are perceived with love can be transformed into the greatest life lessons.

When you practice spiritual surrender, you can detach from outcomes and trust the detours.

Step 4: Ask the Universe for a sign

I spent a year not trying to conceive and instead focusing on myself. But when I began to put my attention back on my goal, I noticed my old need to control come back. So I practiced these steps and centered back into the Universe. I surrendered through prayer and focused on what was thriving.

One afternoon I saw five wild turkeys outside my window. Later that evening, during my meditation, I received an intuitive message to look up the meaning of coming across turkeys. So I did my research and learned that they represent fertility!

The Universe will give you signs and winks if you ask for them. Ask for a sign and pay attention to what you receive.

Be in wonder of the guidance all around you!

Step 5: When you think you’ve surrendered, surrender more

spiritual surrender card deck gabby bernsteinFaith is a muscle. You strengthen it through constant contact with God. All too often what happens is that when we get spiritual, we start feeling really good — to the point that we think we no longer need those daily practices. Spiritual surrender becomes a thing of the past.

But there’s a reason it’s called a practice. So practice surrendering every day. Because when we are certain that we are being supported, we can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.

Begin now with a simple prayer from the metaphysical text A Course in Miracles. You can say this prayer every morning:

Where would you have me go? What would you have me do? What would you have me say? And to whom?

Enjoy the practice of spiritual surrender. It will give you so much comfort and relief. You will be able to relax knowing that you are being taken care of. You’ll begin to trust in a plan far greater than your own. The Universe will lead you to creative solutions and miraculous experiences. Let go and receive.

An update to my story of spiritual surrender…

I had no idea that my desire to be a mother would inspire great healing, recovery and personal growth. Through this experience I truly learned the meaning of surrender. Most importantly, I learned that before I could be a mother I had to learn how to mother myself.

When I thought I’d surrendered, I surrendered more.

When I tried to control, I returned to my spiritual foundation.

When I felt helpless I let God work through healers, friends, doctors, acupuncturists and my husband to be my guides.

It was my commitment to surrender that guided me every step of the way.

Surrendering my plans showed me that the Universe has a better plan and timeline than my own. I learned to see my obstacle as an opportunity for great healing and spiritual growth. My commitment to show up for my personal, physical and emotional healing helped me create a healthy environment to bring a child into the world.

This journey has been nothing short of a miracle. Surrendering my time and my plans to a power greater than me gave me great faith. It’s that faith that helped me to conceive. This December I will welcome my baby boy into the world.

Want to go deeper with the practice of spiritual surrender?

the universe has your back gabby bernstein bookTo go even deeper with this awesome practice of spiritual surrender, check out my #1 NYT bestseller, The Universe Has Your Back! (Chapter 11 is devoted to spiritual surrender.)

In The Universe Has Your Back, I teach you how to transform your fear into faith in order to live a divinely guided life. Each story and lesson guides you to release the blocks to what you long for most: happiness, security and clear direction.

The lessons help you let go of the need to control so you can relax into a sense of certainty and freedom. You will learn to stop chasing life and truly live! Get the book here.

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  1. I’m feeling the surrender right now. It’s such a good feeling! It’s like everything is well and in peace. This article had a incredible synch with my moment. Thanks Universe! Thanks Gabby and Congratulations for your baby boy! God bless you! XOXO from Brazil

  2. Congrats, Gabby! Really good to be reminded of these 5 steps. Your SuperSoul session really helped me last year when I was struggling to conceive. I’m very fortunate that I did get pregnant afterwards some time and I’d been wondering how your journey was going. It brought tears to my eyes to hear that you’re pregnant. I definitely have had obstacles detouring me in the right direction throughout this process and I keep using that concept to help me surrender. Thank you for you’re continued wisdom and teachings. Claudia

  3. Thankyou. From the bottom of my heart. Your email landed in my inbox this monring exactly when I needed it. And how do I know that? Because I resisted watching it until after lunch. As I was listneing to your Super Soul Sessions speech, in the exact moment that you said to ask the universe for a sign a butterfly flew right past my face. I knew instantly it was sign but it wasn’t until 30min later that my spirit told me to google the spiritual meaning of a butterfly (just like you did with the turkey) and it symbolises change, joy and a miracle in transformation. Which is exactly where I am now. The tears started to flow, the dam burst and I finally feel I am on my path to spiritual surrender. Thankyou for being the beautiful shining light that you are.

  4. I’ve just come from my al-anon meeting where I’ve heard the same exact message. Let go and let God. What would you have me do? Thank you, Gabby. Changing my prayer for sobriety for my son is difficult I will continue practicing letting go.
    Ok!! Im listening!! You’re the bomb dot com! Xo

  5. Not only was this the exact thing I needed to read today, the update at the end made me cry. Congrats to you!!

  6. Congratulations!! I am beyond thrilled for you and your husband!! Thanks for always being there when I need you. I have been trying to surrender for a short while and realize I need to surrender more and follow your steps.

  7. Hi Gabby,
    I recently read that sometimes when you ask the universe for a sign to prove that your desire will come true, you do indeed see the sign you’ve asked for, but it doesn’t necessarily mean your desire will manifest, it may just mean that your spirit guides are trying to keep you positive. What is your opinion on that? Thanks so much!

    1. When asking for a sign and receiving it, trust that the Universe is moving you towards a positive outcome, the exact right outcome for you.It’s often different than we initially imagine! <3

  8. I am relatively new to leaning toward spiritual guidance (about a year) and it is very interesting that this should come my way today (and again) to remind me of the reality of what I do to myself. I have my ups and downs with wishing I could control my current career situation and today was definitely a down day. Thank you for the reminder of the larger plan. All the best for you and yours! Xoxo!

  9. Dearest Gabby,

    In total transparency, I don’t often have the time to read all the emails that come into my inbox. But for “some” reason this morning something told me to open yours and read it. Wow! I am so glad that I did!! Many congratulations to you, your husband, and your budding new family. How exciting!!! I too understand the importance of surrender, and as a coach myself sometimes we think we’ve done the work already to surrender everything over to God and then you realize that the Universe is asking more from you. It’s truly a daily practice to let go a little more. There are dreams that I have that literally JUST yesterday, I said to myself, “maybe they just aren’t for me. Maybe they’re not going to happen in this lifetime!” And synchronistically reading your beautiful post at just the right time has re-inspired me that I need to surrender even more. I will continue to focus on surrendering a little more each day and a little bit more and remember that what seems like a lifetime to us is a blink in the eye for God. Anything can happen at anytime. Thank you Gabby and many blessings to you and your beloved little boy.

  10. I’m so happy for you….you’re going to be a great mother. I loved reading your story.

  11. I so needed this message today! Even though I have watched this video before, I needed to realign with my truth.
    Thank you so much ! You are beautiful! Your messages are beautiful and I am so blessed that I get to hear your words!!❤️

  12. I’ve been following your story, Gabby, and I’m so thrilled you’re pregnant. It brought tears to my eyes. Thank you. I really need this message as I learn to follow my gut feel even when it doesn’t make sense.

    1. Thank you for this sweet message Kathy! Keep trusting your intuition and your process. XOX

  13. Hi Gabby,

    O my god, I can’t believe I just watched this video randomly. It was a major reality check as this is who I am at the moment. I am planning a baby and almost schedule it in and counting constantly feeling extremely fearful as I am already 40 years old. Thank you for sharing such a personal story and all the best and love to you and your baby. xxxx

  14. Thank you for your touching story, it brought tears to my eyes.
    I regonize myself in your story. Once I truly let go of control, I got pregnant and our son came into our lives. A real blessing.
    The hardest thing I found was ‘shutting up’ the innervoice that told me, this is not for you, your not good enough. I had to let the controlling go first and love myself, before I could became a mother.
    The moment I found out that you are pregnant I felt overwelmed by joy for you and your family.
    Your son will receive the greatest gift, a mother that loves herself completly.
    Enjoy this amazing new experience in life and I can’t wait for all the tips/stories that you’re going to share as a mum.

    Love Mar

  15. Hi Gabby! Congrats on being pregnant. Enjoy this joyful moment of carrying your little baby and feeling the connection building between you two.
    Thanks a lot for your message. I have been practising surrendering as I am in a phase where I feel like it is time for a change and to move on with my life (professionnally particularly), although I have a deep feeling (probably my ing!) that I am not quite yet done where I am… even though it means personnal struggle and very emotionally difficult moments at work…. but somehow I have managed to learn so much about myself over the past few months that I believe it was worth it…. but I still question myself: what’s next? So I guess I need to surrender some more!
    Have a great day.

    1. Beautiful Ludivine! Thanks for the sweet baby blessings. Continue to tap into your intuition and ask yourself what feels good and aligned. And YES, when you think you’ve surrendered, surrender some more <3

  16. Thank you so much Gabby! I really needed to hear this again. It’s strange how some things just need to be repeated over and over until it clicks. I’m ready to stop controlling and negotiating with the Universe and finally surrender to her guidance … As always perfect timing. The Universe has my back. All the best for you and your baby boy.
    Lots of Love

  17. Wohaaa! That totally hit the nail on the head! I needed this to remind me I feel like I’m in this position of surrendering more. I started doing a cleanse with Gala darling called unicorn cleanse it sure has got me on the move of letting go surrendering more as time goes by each day knowing universe has my back. I have epilepsy and government department changed how I received money for my illness I freaked out until I saw a sign with unicorns everywhere like you had. This blog has inspired me to keep going.

    1. Divine timing Lori! Love hearing that you’re working with Gala and connecting with this work. Sending big hugs. XOX

  18. Thank you for this Gabby, your story has resonated with me since the start of the year as i am in the same situation…. i have been surrendering but as per your book i guess i have to surrender some more and keep up with the prayers! Just so hard when its something you want so bad but cannot do anything to make it happen straight away. I always have to remind myself to trust in the divine timing and surrender. xxxx

    1. You’re doing great work Dominika. Know that the Universe has your back and continue to trust and check in with your inner guidance and knowing. Prayers and meditation will help keep you grounded on your path <3

  19. Hi Gabby
    Thanks for the update. I am over the moon for you and your husband. I have to echo your statement “When you think you have surrendered surrender more.” I wish I had discovered that wisdom when my children where little. I have two daughters aged 19 and 16 and learning to surrender has been THE most powerful gift of mothering.
    Lots of love
    Annette Phillips

  20. Gabby, I wanted to say that I can’t even remember how I came across you but I am so grateful that I did! It’s been very inspiring to see you living your life through your teachings and to talk so openly about your struggle and desire to have a child is a very brave thing. To find out that you are now pregnant is such a miracle and proof that there is divine timing with everything! It’s been awesome seeing that result and has proven as an example in my mind of how you stayed true to your own teachings and guidance and got results. Life can sure be tough and we don’t usually understand things while they’re occurring but I really am inspired and so, so happy for you!

    1. Grateful that you’re connecting with this work Jamie! Thanks for the sweet and touching post. Feeling the love!

  21. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with a wider audience. Surrender, gratitude and faith is what I need right now. Thank you for the helpful and applicable tips.

  22. Hi Gabby, I was searching the internet looking for something to help me surrender in my infertility/Ivf journey when this video popped up. I needed to hear these words more than anything and I’m so grateful that I found it. Thank you so much for your honest words. I do have a question and this is something I struggle with everyday. How do you surrender to something when you actively have to try and make it happen in the first place?

    1. Sometimes it is hard to relax and KNOW you’re being taken care of … go slow and take this process at your own pace. Meditation is a wonderful practice and will ultimately help you. when you think that you have surrendered, surrender again

  23. Hi Gabi, I decided to stay together with my boy friend this month, and’s so much struggle for me because he always react negativelly for evrything I do, and everything I say and we lost intimacy and we never go out for dinner, etc. I almost surrender, and want to quit the relationship but suddenly I read this article and found a new word ‘Retour’.. So now I’m start to surrender and faith..I believe universe will do the rest. Thanks

    1. Trusting and collaborating with the universe is a gorgeous and brave act of self care and love <3

  24. Hi Gabby, I just wanted to say how much I admire your strength and work. I share your truth, as the Universe has been guiding the course of my life for just over a year, and I would not have it any other way. My mission is to write, speak, and to empower my clients. I am so passionate about it, but it is difficult declaring your truth, and then seeing the look on people’s faces, like I’m crazy. Do you have any advice for someone who is trying to live and freely share their truth? Thank you.

    1. If you want to go big, register for Spirit Junkie Masterclass!! This is EXACTLY what I break down in this course. I think it will benefit you greatly. But the most important thing you can do is speak authentically. It will not resonate with everyone and that is okay. Honor each person’s path. I recommend writing and speaking every day so that you refine your message and get really comfortable sharing your truth. Figure out how to tell your story. And don’t be afraid to switch up your language a bit in order to reach people who may not be where you are. For many years I kept my language around God more general and accessible to people who weren’t familiar with spirituality. That’s where I came up with ~ing as a fun shorthand for inner guide. Remember that everyone comes to a spiritual relationship of their own understanding. Your role as a teacher is to facilitate their own journey. Nina, I really recommend SJM for you! You can join me live in NYC next month or wait for the digital course to open up. check it out at xo

  25. What an amazing talk that I clearly needed to hear! I’ve been so anxious, that I’m waking constantly through the night, sometimes with panic attacks. My husband and I decided to move our family across country to follow our dream and live near the ocean. We have 2 young children ages 11 and 8, so this was a big decision to uproot them. I was so excited and certain at first but then the doubt and negativity slowly crept in. My family doesn’t understand why we would do something like this and leave them. I’ve been feeling such pressure like I am disappointing so many people I love, I am uncertain of what the future holds, yet I still want to do it. I dislike birds, am afraid of them, but I have always had a fondness for cardinals. I see them in my current back yard and feel like someone or something is looking out for me. Lately, the cardinal has been in my neighbors tree closest to my back yard. I see it several times a day. I was recently in the town we are moving to looking at neighborhoods. While driving through slowly talking with our realtor I heard it, the cardinals whistle. I immediately looked up and spotted it. In someone’s tree watching over me. When we first talked about making this move a reality I actually tried to look up if cardinals lived in that area and I couldn’t really find an answer. I didn’t really ask for a sign, but I feel like I found one. We returned home and the worry came back. I went to mass yesterday. During the homily the priest said, “Have hope. Don’t worry. Everything is going to be fine. its going to be ok. It’s going to be fine.” I had tears in my eyes because i needed to hear those words at the moment. Thank you Gabby for teaching me through your words!

  26. Wow! When I first met Gabby’s work I saw her video talking about signs from the Universe when she was about to buy her house.
    Now I’m starting my work as a Self Love and Empowerment Women Coach and I just saw this video that broght me to teers.
    I happen to be going about the same process right now, I got divorced last year but found a man with the perfect match for me, and it’s not that I’ve been trying to get pregnant but I’m not using any kind of birth control (since before my last relationship) and you said it. I’m feeling like i’m not enough and this speach about being my self mother is soooo real. I’ve beeing talkin with myself constantly about the universe’s time but when you hear someone else talk and feel the same thing you do it’s just like I’m not alone in this world! WTF! Oh yeah it will happen in the right time and place. Thanks a lot Gabby! You are an angel! Thats for sure!

    1. I am so happy this served you. The Universe has your back, this I promise you. Practice this process and turn it over. xo

  27. I found your blog a week ago. The universe delivered you to me. So, today, I’ve been meditating and focusing on releasing and surrendering regarding a situation in my life. I watched your 5 steps video and finally focused on my ‘sign’. I chose the tree of life. It has deep meaning for me. I felt myself surrender and release my attachment to the situation, asked the universe for a sign I was on the right path.

    I went down into my basement into a storage room. Not sure why, I just thought I should go in there. On the floor, was a burlwood carved jewelry box that I’d not opened in probably thirty years. I’d not thought about opening it, touching it or doing anything with it in that long as well. Today, I bent down, picked it up and took it into the other room. I opened one of the little drawers and inside there was a folded piece of paper from the artisan that created the box. I wish I could attach a photo, because there on the paper was the tree. I honestly fell to my knees and tears came from my eyes.

    I thanked the universe. And you. Om namah shivaya.

    1. THIS is what a sign from the Universe looks like! Completely unambiguous and impossible to miss. This is so beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing this. Trust the divine guidance.

  28. I have been trying to conceive my first child for the past 3 month. I’m not pregnant and this has started to affect me emotionally. I was about the check my possible ovulation days when instead I went to YouTube and found this video. I have never heard about you until today and immediately connected to everything you were saying. I am listening to this video at the exact time I am supposed to. Going to listen to the universe and trust fully in it, as scary as that could be. I’m done tracking my cycles, and relax. Thank you

    1. I know you were guided to this video and I thank you for watching it. I want to share all my love and light with you and honor you for your courage as well as your willingness to let go and trust. Expect miracles.

  29. The other day I had a vision of two construction worker angel like people blocking off an area with stop signs and a truck barreling through and ultimately hitting and injuring the workers/angels. It was the oddest thing. Today when I meditated and ask for guidance about what it meant, I got this (referring to a relationship I have been anxious about):
    “It’s a construction zone right now. Protected by angels and telling you to take another path while this is being worked on. Barging through before it is ready would cause irreparable damage. Wait until the road opens again and honor the detour.”
    I had to come back and tell you because I instantly recognized the detour reference which I know was validation that your guidance is helping me not only get through a very challenging time right now but also to connect with Spirit more than ever. Thank you.

  30. I am 30 years old and we’ve been trying to conceive for 5 months now, however I’ve wanted to be a mom ever since I was a little girl so 5 months seems like an eternity. I’ve never experienced something so emotionaly taxing in my life – the constant excitement followed by disappointment month after month. It’s the part of my life I want to control the most right now when in reality something as miraculous as conception is completely out of my control and requires divine timing. Letting go and having complete trust in the universe is what I know I need to do but the hardest thing to do. I stumbled on this post bc of your Instagram video of you doing the burning ceremony of what it is people want to manifest in 2018. I do believe it’s a faithful sign from the universe as I found out I am not pregnant today after another long month of trying and hoping. I needed this so very much today, and I am so grateful for the comfort it offers. Thank you Gabby!


  31. Gabby Gabby Gabby – I just watched this for the first time. I am in awe of you! Thank you for your vulnerability (I connect with your emotion). Thank your being the conduit for the message I still need to learn. Love & Blessings to you my friend ❤️

  32. Truly powerful, truly wonderful.. i believe that is truth. It’s resonates n i can connect your 5 spiritual surrender. Thanks Gabby.

  33. It amazes me when we are so blocked that we do not see what is in front of us, surrender, not just once every day..hmmm that never occurred to me. I thought if I just surrendered once that’s it, I can move forward, trying to move forward when you are stuck in surrender is impossible, thank you!

    1. Surrender is a practice! Make it part of your daily spiritual practice for the next 40 days and you’ll experience major relief. You can keep it going too. 🙂

  34. Thanx Gabby .My dilapidated state of mind is being repaired by ur one statement -Universe has ur back .It is like a Signature statement for me ☝️

    1. Make it your mantra: “The Universe has my back.” Repeat it daily. Free write in a journal on what it means to you. xo

  35. Hi Gabby,

    I am in the same situation like you are, like many women are. Yesterday before going to bed and after trying again to have a baby (I am having my fertile days now), I just wanted to do a guided meditation to step out of these ongoing thoughts . I wanted to watch only one video and by chance I have chosen your talk at Super Souls Session, I have never senn anything from you before. I did not know what it was about. I am so grateful. For the feeling of not being alone, for the reminder of letting go and trusting life.

    Thanks so much for this!

    Best wishes for your own way.


  36. We were trying to get pregnant for 6 months, stressing over it, controlling every aspect, disappointed with a negative test every month, then I decided to surrender, stopped micromanaging it, joined a yoga class, and interestingly, on the day we conceived, the hour before, I had a beautiful meditation experience to the powerful kundalini song you said “comes with a warning”. I was not wishing for anything in particular, just wishing well to the world. Surrendering to light, feeling soft and receptive. My son was born Jan 1st, in perfect time. Thank you for your wonderful work.

    1. Em, that is such a beautiful story. Thank you so much for sharing your truth and your miracle. xoxo

  37. I just wanted to say thank you, Gabby! Your books have truly been a blessing!!! Thank you for inspiring me to choose love!

  38. Hi Gabby,

    I thank the Universe for finding you 🙂 I was at Indigo , a book store in MTL, and out of place was your deck of cards, Miracles Now, & it kept calling me. So I bought the cards. It’s where it all started. I can thank you enough for all of the great benefits reading , The Universe as your back, & meditating has giving me. It’s like a new world. Finally, I can breath & feel at peace. I witness miracle’s everyday. You are so inspiring.

    1. The right tools appear when we are ready for them! Thank you for sharing. Sending you love and light.

  39. Thank you, that video affected me although I am a mother for three children and a
    grandmother for one children. I hope you will get children too. They are the biggest gifts
    I have got in my life 🙂

  40. I love this video so much. My theory why Gabby didn’t get pregnant is that she had to put out her book. The Universe Has Your Back is so powerful, I think she needed to grow by writing it and experiencing the lessons that go into it, and then sharing it with us to grow too. I often remind myself when I want a specific outcome to surrender. Thanks for teaching me that. ❤

  41. This brought tears to my eyes. Took me back to this time last year when i’d been trying for over a year. Working as a fertility massage therapist and health coach made it even harder for me, as I felt like a fraud, I felt like I KNOW all this stuff about fertility yet I can’t get pregnant myself…but it doesn’t matter how much we KNOW does it? So I surrendered, I let go, I stopped reading all the books, and trying the next new thing. Instead, I took out my journal and I wrote and I wrote to my baby as if he was already here. I prayed with gratitude that he was already here. And soon I really began to believe that he was on the way. I don’t know where this sudden trust in the universe came from, maybe my intuition that he was very close? Well it was around this time, late May last year that I did conceive, and now I have a 3 month old son. I’m 41 years old. The Universe had my back and I know for sure it has yours too Gabby 😉

  42. What a beautiful and powerful talk Gabby. I was deeply moved by your authenticity and your message couldn’t come at a better time. I’m growing my business and my ego definitely gets in the way of how things should turn out. It’s time for me to surrender daily and deeply trust that the universe has my back, always.

  43. Thank you so much for sharing this with us, Gabby. Your vulnerability and oppeness to share with us, guide us, and help us see that we need to surrender and surrender some more is amazing.

  44. Thanx Gabby telling your story! It’s almost my story, I could not find the right words to tell mine and by telling your story from the bottom of your hart, you help me tell mine, I’m deeply touched. Love, Marieke

  45. Gabby I love you so much. You inspire me in so many levels and you make me cry every time 🙂
    You are pure light. You are the best.
    Thank God for your life.

  46. A standing ovation Gabby, and deservedly so. Amazing talk. I’ve asked for signs and the clearest one yet has been you. You’re helping me heal so much, I’m forever grateful.

  47. Literally made me cry. I have a tenancy to try to control most things in my life, I get very stressed very easily, I future trip and past over-analyse. When I get overwhelmed with stress it manifests into physical pain in my bladder (I have had various tests and there is nothing physically wrong with my bladder) it is quite debilitating as no pain killers really work. I know that I need to stop trying to control everything, to wonder about future what ifs and how things are going to workout, to stop bringing up past mistakes, hurts and trauma. I need to just be present, let things happen the way they are supposed to. I hope I can get better at this so eventually I don’t get anymore physical pain from trying to control, from stress.
    I am so glad you shared this as it solidifies what I already knew I needed to embrace. xxx

  48. This was so beautiful. I have just surrendered and walked away from 6 years of TTC and going through IVF. This was the message that the universe wanted me to hear, and that I had asked for and I am NOW listening on a new level!

    Love and colourful blessings to you Gabi! You are doing great work! Thank you for being there!

    Spirited & Colourful Love
    Karen x

  49. I was in a very similar situation where I was desperate for a result and feeling very anxious about it. I finally prayed. I told God I wanted to learn how to wait without anxiety and I asked for the highest good of all. The next day the result I wanted came to fruition. It reminded me to trust God’s plan over my own. Since then I’ve continued praying and learning to let go and for perhaps the first time in my life I feel content and at peace because I am not trying to control everything, and I don’t care if things don’t go exactly as I envisioned because I trust something better is on the horizon. All of this is a result of your work and listening to your message. Thank you <3

  50. Dear Gabby, I’ve been following you and loving you for many years and this video and its message brought me to tears. Thank you for sharing this vulnerable and deeply beautiful, deeply touching part of your life and divine journey. The part about learning to mother yourself and what you will transmit to your child was so profound and powerful. I love you and am so grateful for your willingness to share your deepest truth with us. Lots of love and many blessings to you, Zach and your precious child to come.

  51. Thank you for your openness and willingness to share this wonderful inspiration!

    Warm regards,

  52. Thank you Gabby wonderful talk, just what I needed today! Whether you’re making a baby or trying to change your life and get better from life long illness (as I am) in the end the Universe/God has a plan for it and all we need to do is fall into alignment with it, rather than trying to do it all ourselves! I am so relieved to be now asking Universe/God, what would you have me do today for the good of all? So much love to you! ❤️❤️

  53. Hi Gabby. Great talk. I have a question for you though…if detours or upsets for what I want in my life are guided by the universe, (to teach me something) why would I need to ask the universe if I’m on the right path? I’m confused here.

    1. Great question.
      The point here is to be in constant contact with the Universe. This is how you fully realize you are supported.
      When you begin to lose faith or become doubtful, it’s a prompt to go deeper with your spiritual practice which, in essence, becomes a conversation with the Universe through prayer and meditation.

  54. Thank you for you transparent honesty. Spirit was absolutely speaking through you! I was most touched by the learning to mother yourself piece–I identify with that 1,000%! It’s an amazing journey!

    Many, many blessings!

  55. Gabby,
    You have so very eloquently offered your truth and honesty with your story. Our three year journey to conceive ended the day I, too, surrendered. It’s like watching magic happen before your eyes when you get out of your own way and allow yourself to be moved by the Greatness of the Universe. Thank you for allowing yourself be in service to the best and highest good of us all.
    Much love to you,

  56. Wow, Thank you so much for such an honest, heartfelt and inspirational talk. As you spoke I felt something inside me break open, it dropped me right back into how I’ve actually been feeling underneath the wall of isolation I put up each time to avoid others seeing me vulnerable, and pretending I’m fine. So when you offered a prayer I was totally open for the divine will to take the wheel. I feel lighter, softer and openly receptive to life again. Thank you for being you, for surrendering enough to allow the divine to move you to say what you said, so that I and I’m sure many others could hear and receive loves grace.
    much love


  57. Gabby – I was asking for a sign the night before I received your email. I was blown away by your message and it truly spoke to me after a difficult divorce and the aftermath. I have decided to truly lean in to my journey and have asked God for him to work through me for the higher good. We all have so much to offer and I feel like a light flipped on for me. Thank you so much for the inspiring message and your ability to share such a deep story with the world. It is a testament to the work you do and who you are as a person. Blessings. Xo

  58. This is precisely the message I needed to hear. Tears were streaming down my face as I offered up the simple prayer: Where would you have me go? What would you have me do? What would you have me say? And to whom? Gabby, thank you for reminding me that the universe has – and always will have – my back. xo

  59. Thank you so much for this message. I have been struggling with having children as well for quite a few years, having two early miscarriages. I have felt this whole time it was something I was doing wrong or that I wasn’t believing or being spiritual enough. After hearing this message I am seeing things alot differently. You have no idea how much your talk has helped me to release already. I wish you all the blessings and joy your heart can hold.

  60. Oh how you always appear to me with the messages I need to hear on the days I need to hear them…and today when I too got my period. My sign is a hummingbird and I found one nesting in my backyard last week and have yet to look up whether there’s a meaning. Thank you for spreading your message. And to add to your daily prayer…”Who will you have me BE!” Xoxo

  61. I so needed to watch this video…I have desperately been trying to control the recovery of my illness since I was diagnosed in March… The more I ‘tried’ to get better the worse I seemed to get. Letting go of control but nourishing my body well and allowing it to rest has healed me the most… then I start to fight back again and am quickly reminded by my body that it’s not ready yet… Thank you so much for this honest and beautiful speech. I am sure I am not alone in that message hitting home. <3
    Big love
    Jennifer xx

  62. Gabby, I admire you for opening up and sharing this part of you. I am on this journey with you my sister. The desire in our hearts to have these children was put there for a reason. Our babies are coming someway, somehow. Sending you love ❤️.

  63. Man o’ man the power of the Universe was flowing through you in this share. The most powerful part was the lesson of learning to mother yourself. Often, I feel like I’m on that journey. I always knew I was physically mistreated but in the past year I uncovered I was sexually too. It’s still a blur, but I know I’ll heal in the Universe’s perfect timing. I often pushed aside that wounded child because I was running and numbing. Now, I’m embracing her more and more.

    It is my life’s work to help support and witness other complex PTSD survivors thrive! I’m taking my past experiences and turning into something good…isn’t it AMAZING what a shift in perception can do?

  64. I watched your video and my heart went out to you. I remember being in the same place as you; feeling as though I were behind everyone else. Other people my age were married, were settled, had kids, had their lives in order and me? Not so much. I was a bit of a gypsy, moving, starting a new life again and again, not being very settled, no husband, no boyfriend, no kids….in fact, after multiple moves, I didn’t even own furniture or car! It was after reading and learning from you and others (but mostly you 🙂 that I started to stop comparing myself to others and accept that my path is just very different from other peoples. I think there is also a part of us all that feels like you are ‘supposed’ to be at a certain place at a certain time that also adds on to the pressure we put on ourselves. Now I appreciate where I am in life and see the advantages and the positive side of things and am excited about my future rather than having anxiety about not reaching my goals in life as quickly or exactly when I decided.

  65. This post came at the perfect time. I was feeling just as inadequate about my life as you felt. Everyone around me is getting married and getting pregnant and having multiple children while I’m still single and wishing for all those things that are happening to everyone else. Thank you for this beautiful message. The reminder to focus on what is thriving and that I am going in the right direction even though it’s not aligning win what everyone else is doing. I needed the reminder to surrender my control.

  66. Thank you Gabby for sharing this experience with us. So many women suffer in silence, thank you for bringing your pain and learning into the light for us to grow from. I am such a fan and want to thank you for the amazing work, guidance, and wisdom you share with the world. Your honesty and authenticity is inspirational. Much love to you and your family.

  67. Hi Gabby,

    This is exactly how I felt about getting pregnant for the past 6 months and even before, for a very long time, just waiting to get my partner to agree with me that is the time to have a baby.
    I know that I was pushing myself, my body, my partner and the universe to align with my plan but just wanted it so badly. Now, I was pretty much forced to stop due to my health issues. I need to take care of myself first.
    It was incredibly cathartic to hear it from you and how you found your way back and let the universe guide you again.
    Many, many thanks for being so bold, honest and sharing your wisdom with us!

  68. Gabby, I spent 5 years trying to conceive…My husband and I promised to each other when we decided to have a baby that if it didn’t happen we would not obssess over it and would not let it be a burden on our beautiful relationship but that didn’t stop me from feeling that my body was failing me and from being totally disappointed with myself. Then, in the beginning of 2013 I came across “May Cause Miracles” and started what I can now see as a much needed and delayed spiritual journey. In September, when I had stopped waiting for it, I got pregnant, at 43. It happened at the exact moment I was ready for it. I had a beautiful, natural, drug free delivery. I’m about to turn 47 this year and my baby boy is turning 3 in two days. I know the pressure we put on ourselves when we get older thinking our body won’t be capable to conceive but what is age but a number anyway. Trust the universe. A big warm hug from Brazil. I love you ❤️

  69. I opened up registration for my online course for aspiring tech writers about a week ago. I was beginning to have doubts and I watched this talk this morning; I said the prayer right along with you. I wanted that sign to know I’m going in the right direction and received 2 customer payments within a few hours. Wow!

  70. Oh Gabby, this is so beautiful. I bought your book yesterday and can’t wait to hear/read more. There is never a good time to plan to have a baby, but I know that it will happen for you very soon. You had an important message to share first. Thank you xxx

  71. Thank you Gabby. It is an inspiration to see people like you, Oprah,Marianne Williamson, Deepak Chopra & Eckhart Tolle join together in the realization that prayer, meditation and surrender can lead us to peace,oneness and an experience of our highest and best self. We all need to continue to apply these principals to achieve our highest potential and to build a better world. God Bless!

  72. Gabby you literally just told my story… everything, the control, the thoughts, the realisation, the surrender, the sign (although no turkeys ;))… very surreal. Thank you so much for sharing such a personal story, I know there are so many people out there who need to hear it, whatever their struggle. Much love & appreciation.

  73. You are saving my life; I am blown away by what you are saying. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. And soul.

  74. Awe- Thank you for sharing. I feel your pain truly. Last year I got pregnant. Everything was going good. I’m 38 so they give you all the genetic tests for birth defects, my tests were good no birth defects present. At 19 weeks I had my second ultrasound. It went well, they sent me home thinking yah your having a boy all is well. My husband and I celebrate over breakfast, I texted everyone it’s a boy. I’m over the moon happy. Walking home from breakfast we are talking about the activities we will have with our baby. When we get home my world crumbles. My genetic counselor calls, she says We see something on the ultrasound that concerns us, we want to take another look. We rush back down there. This time plain as day on the screen you can see that my baby has a bubble on his lower spine. It was spina bifida. My heart was broken. I prayed that the MRI a week later would confirm that it’s just a tumor that can be removed and it wouldn’t be so bad. After my MRI at 20 weeks, they said my baby might never walk, might never be able to have bladder or bowel control. The list of things he might have wrong went on and on. At 5 months, 2 days before Christmas I had to let my baby go. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. I couldn’t let my baby suffer in this world. Im still healing. Everyday gets a little easier but a part of me aches to the core. Life is hard but I have to believe that gods plan is greater than my own. The good thing that came from my heartbreak is that I’ve been painting like crazy. I’m trying to heal my soul with art. Sending you lots of love and light. Who knows maybe we will both have healthy babies next year. The only thing we can do is have fun trying and leave the rest to god. Love you❤️

    1. thank you for sharing your story. My prayers go out to you and your husband. may a baby come to you soon. god bless

    2. I found myself in a similar situation and had to let go of my baby at 5 months. I totally get it and it’s not talked about nearly enough. Sending so much love your way.

  75. I am so thankful for having you showed up in my life. Your teachings always bring me answers when I need it. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

  76. I’ve been reading and re-reading The Universe Has Your Back as something new always stands out. I’ve struggled a long time with seeing fear and control as safety mechanisms but truly they have created nothing but a deep rooted anxiety. I know the situation I need to surrender and this video has helped me today. Thank you, Gabby. Your work has helped me through a very difficult time and you continue to inspire me. <3

  77. Dear Gaby and everyone on this page. Please could you help on my journey. I am constantly battling weight gain which brings me down at the time but mainly what is bringing me down is my work situation. I am hard working, always looking out for everyone around me but somehow I’ve been struggling to find new job.
    Thank you very much for all support.

  78. Is beautiful that you are taking so much wisdom from the fertility situation. I had more than 10 years of fertility issues, and as you mentioned my journey was pretty much about learning to mothering myself first. I had my baby at my 40 years old (I have now 42), and he is a beautiful spirit which whom I have an strong and amazing connection….your time will come, and you are absolutetly in the right path being open to surrender, even though is so much easy to say than to live it everyday. Much love for you and your husband.

  79. Gabby… first I want to thank you for being so real, so accessible and so wonderful. You are just a blessing to all of us who know and follow your work and to the generations yet to come, which I’m sure will include your own children who will get to say ” yep that’s my mom and she rocks !” You and I have been over, under and through some steep hurdles together even though you didn’t know it. I thank you from the bottom of my heart and soul for the beauty that is you. Keep kicking bum girl !! Together we may yet change the world.

  80. I think I’ve written atleast five comments here, asking for your help with my romantic relationship, or lacking thereof. I’ve been so desperate for guidance, for someone telling me what to do. Although the universe has been throwing me signs that’s impossible to missunderstand, I’ve chosen to stay in the dark and rely on my own strength. I’ve been working so hard, struggling, with myself. Trying so hard to become a better person. To become lovable. Searching for my Perfect match with so much anxiety. I’ve been so upset with the universe for not delivering Him to me when I’ve made such a fucking effort. I’ve read all the books, done all the work. I’ve been REALLY buisy.

    And so, after five years of manifesting and wishing and hoping, I went to see a medium, a couple of months ago. She told me that my next partner is here, he’s already manifested. He’s here now. He’s ready now. He’s coming. If I just relax, he’s coming. He’s like in my vibrational escrow and I just have to let him in. And that may or may not be, but as soon as she told me, I just relaxed. I just let go.
    I’ve done the magic and manifesting and the wishlist and everything. I’ve manifested my perfect match and he’s coming when I’m ready.
    And the last couple of weeks have been amazing and life changing. Realising I’ve missed the last, most important step of the journey…
    I dont know how it happened but I somehow relaxed, not just stopped obsessing over my future husband but I just let go of all kinds of crap. I had a big fall out with my sister when I became single five years ago, and suddenly as out of the blue, that just fixed itself with no effort from either one of us.
    I’ve had a hard time letting go of my ex, and like over a night I just forgot all about him. Dont really care about him at all anymore. The feelings that I thought would last forever just went… poff… And my resentment faded, just like that.
    I’ve had a hard time with my job and colleages and suddenly it’s just running along smoothly.
    I’ve felt uncomfortable in my body the last five years, and today I told my best friend “i cancelled my hair dresser appointment, look at my hair!? Doesnt it look better now then last week?” and she replyed “yes, you look like a new person. You’re really glowing”. I FEEL like a brand new person.

    I dont know what happens next Gabby but I’m really IN LOVE with myself and my life and my home and my family and my work. And maybe that was my lesson all along.
    I really dont care who’s coming right now, i’ve got all these plans and I’m feeling so happy. First time ever.
    Thank you for leading me to my spiritual path. It started with Spirit junkie, five years ago.
    Forever grateful. Love you. <3

  81. Thank you Gabby for your very powerful message! My paths heavily include the Course and the 12 steps of AA. What you had to say so aligns with my soul, I cannot say thank you enough! Interesting story, yesterday while making my Mother’s Day messages on facebook I put a message similar to your story. In my FB message I wished everyone a Mother’s day because whether your physical mother or chid may not be with us, we all give birth everyday and play part in creation, so honor the Mother/creation/Goddess in us all. So blessing to you Gabby and your highest good!

  82. Thank you Gabby! Its great to here that even guru can struggle to manifest and even get lost in their path spiritual path; but in the in we all have the power to reset and realign! Also I am very grateful that the universe has you back book is only .99 cents! Sometimes its pricey for spiritual courses and information, however I can genuinely feel whenever you can by still valuing and respecting your work you give all the opportunity to access your stpiritual teaching! Grateful :*

        1. absolutely right, you gave birth and woke millions of souls on thier journey. including myself Gab. Namaste.

  83. What a beautiful, BEAUTIFUL talk Gabby! The message struck a strong chord in my heart! I have been trying to get pregnant for over a year now with no luck. I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome last year and it has been very challenging. It is very hard to hear about pregnancy announcements and people asking when am I going to have a baby. Thank you so much for being vulnerable and open with us! I really need to surrender this pain to the Universe and focus on your 5 Spiritual Steps. One day, I hope to be a mother with you! Much love to you and thank you Gabby!!

      1. Hi Gabby,

        You mentioned that you looked up the spiritual significance of the turkey. Have you looked up the significance of the number 5?

        Spiritual Meaning of number Five. . . 5 is the number of “manifestation”, it is the number of the 5 elements; earth, air, water, fire, ether. Within the 5 elements are all of the components necessary for creative manifestation. Five is a very free spirited creative number. The spiritual essence of number five aligns to freedom, to feel the freedom to pursue that which fills your heart with purposeful joy and bliss. Five is a doing number representing faith in action, having a mindful connection to the synergy of the forces of nature.

  84. Thank you for this, Gabby! The turkey story touched me deeply. I am also in the process of trying to have a baby. I feel my clock ticking and I want this child so damn much, but I know that he or she will come when the Universe thinks I’m ready, and I’m willing to wait for that moment. Thanks so much. I really needed this this morning. Much love to you.

  85. Hi Gabby. Your speech was my sign of the day! I am going through one of these moments when you need to trust the Universe and release your need for control (to try to control your fears too). I am going through my own spiritual journey and do my best to pray and put my hands off the wheel. Today with you, I feel less alone. Thank you for the learning, thank you for sharing to so many people! I send you lots of love. You’ll be a fantastic mother. Nathalie

  86. Great talk, Gabby! I wish you all the best. My surrender is the opposite of yours in the sense that I want a baby but I am TERRIFIED of being pregnant and giving birth. I have been in that fear for over a year now. I surrendered it with you in this talk.
    Thank you.

  87. AMAZING! I’m in awe of your generosity of spirit. I’m sure it’s not always easy to share such personal things about your life and yet you share in the hopes that it’ll help people. Your amazing! Your children will be VERY lucky to have you as their Mum!

    All the Best,
    Diana Graham

  88. This is absolutely beautiful! Thank you so much for the reminder to surrender and lean into the uncertainty of the divine. So grateful for your wisdom.

  89. too weird…I just re read this chapter, by chance…this morning after gym and meditation….hmmmm…guess supposed to hear it again………….always what I need in moment I need……….xoxoxo

    1. Hi Gabby, do you ever think could I be happy without a baby if it didn’t happen? I am now 42 and I have been trying for 7 years and 6 failed fertility treatments. Could the universe have a different plan altogether? Much love xxx

      1. Deborah, I am so sorry to hear about your fertility struggle. I think it’s different for each person. Some people may be led to adopt children. Others may decide not to have children themselves but to have children in their lives in other ways, such as nieces and nephews or volunteering/working with kids. I’m sending you love and light on your path. However it works out will be beautiful.

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