How to Make a Big Decision with Confidence

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How often do you feel paralyzed by decision making?

When you have an important choice in front of you — like changing your career, leaving a relationship, taking a leap in your business — are there places within you that resist that change, even when you really want it?

I see so many people freeze up with fear that they never take those leaps. They put off decisions and stay right where they are.

When we don’t allow ourselves to make big decisions and move forward on our desires and callings, the consequences are real. Not only do we feel frustrated and unhappy, but we also deny the world our light. We deny the world our great gifts and contributions.

If you can relate to this, you will want the 3-step method I share below! These 3 steps will help you trust the Universe and shift your energy when you’re faced with a big decision.

Watch my Facebook Live video or keep reading to find out the steps you can take to make a big decision with confidence and without anxiety!

In my life I’ve had many moments where I was disconnected from a decision, feeling resistance, fear, doubt, uncertainty. I let others tell me I couldn’t do it and I believed in the doubt of the world.

For example, when I first started writing, I wasn’t yet a writer. I had no background in writing, and even though I was comfortable speaking publicly, I could barely string a sentence together on the page!

When it came time to sit down and write my first book, I almost didn’t do it. I had so much fear and uncertainty around my ability to write a book that I almost ran away from it. But as a result of practicing the steps I’m going to give you below, I was able to release my resistance and fear. I was able to make the decision to write that book.

If you’re at a crossroads in your life where you’re deciding whether to move forward with something, leave something that’s not working for you, or invest in something that’s going to take you to the next level, practice these steps so you can say YES — and not miss out on that big decision that could change your life!

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Step 1: Look closely at the ways that you’re resisting.

This step is simple. There is often fear within us that holds us back from making a big decision. Start to pay close attention to the way you feel when you think about this decision. Are you feeling terrified? Energized? Are you feeling good about it, but the voice of limitation keeps holding you down?

As you become more conscious of your feelings, witness them without judgment so you can begin to understand them. When you honor your feelings, you can recognize that they are creating a story — one that you can choose to let go of.

Step 2: Witness how your feelings are creating a universal response.

Your feelings become your energy, and they inform your own actions as well as other people’s actions toward you.

Here’s an example. I had a great client many years ago who felt called to go to Africa to teach and be in service of others for 6 months before starting college. She went to her parents and told them she wanted to do this work. But despite how much she wanted to do this, she was really unsure when she sat down with them. Their immediate response was, “This is crazy! You can’t go to Africa right now! You have to go to college. We can’t believe you’re even considering this.”

She came to me really upset after her conversation and I said to her: “Their resistance is a reflection of your fear and of your OWN resistance.” So together we did spiritual work to heal her own resistance. She began allowing herself to accept that this was a great decision, and she got into the feeling of that great service work she wanted to do.

As a result, she completely changed her energy. In the presence of feeling better she went back to her parents and brought up, again, her desire to go to Africa to do service work. And their walls fell down, too! They agreed that it was a good decision and they trusted her choice. I told her that healing her own resistance was what healed the reflection of her resistance that she found in them.

When you witness and honor your own feelings of resistance and fear, you can see where they may be creating a story of lack and limitation within you — and informing how others feel about your decision, too.

You can heal that resistance by getting into the feeling of what it is you truly want, and by doing spiritual work such as praying, meditating, reciting mantras or reading a book like The Universe Has Your Back. You can also use a card deck as a springboard to understanding and healing your fear and resistance when you’re not sure where or how to start.

Step 3: Cultivate an “Eff it, let’s go” mentality.

This is the final step in getting unstuck from that in-between place in the decision-making process, saying YES, and taking that action!

I share about this a lot because I love it! This is a mentality of “I’m going to do this!” Often when we’re stuck and can’t make a decision, the best thing to do is just GO. As the great Kundalini teacher Yogi Bhajan said, start and the pressure will be off.

When the voice of doubt and limitation is holding you back, I challenge you to just go. Take that action. Make that decision. Make that commitment to move forward in your life. When you realize that it’s just the voice of fear holding you back, the act of moving gets you out of that space of fear and creates more energy that propels you forward!

“Eff it, let’s go” diminishes that resistance and allows you to take action and make a move. Just do something and the pressure will lift!

Remember: When you don’t make a decision and don’t move forward, you are doing a disservice to the world. So I hope you take in these steps, honor them, follow them and take the next right action in your life!

When you don’t take action on your dreams it’s a disservice to the world.

I want to hear from you! Are you inspired to take action on a dream? Are you ready to heal fear and resistance? Did these stories resonate with you?

Keep Reading
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The Decision That Changed My Life Forever

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  1. Thank you so much, Gabby!
    I have your book but I haven’t read it all yet. I will get back to it right now.
    You look so beautiful and relaxed. Is that your new home?
    Blessings from Vancouver, BC canada

  2. Gabby, This blog today was a miracle for me. 10 minutes ago I was praying asking to the universe guidance in the doubt I WAS feeling. And when I looked my mailbox —> your email ❤️ I am reading your book “the universe has your back” I it is like medicine for me ✨ I read it every day and I started I spiritual journey wich is helping me so much.
    I would like to ask you a question that it is related to this topic. ¿It is bad to feel doubt in the spiritual process?

    I love you and thanks for be how you are! ❤️✨

    1. Doubt is totally natural. Be honest with the Universe about your thoughts and feelings and be open to guidance.
      big love,

  3. Thank you so much Gabby! The video trainings are awesome. I just did the second one and I take lots of notes. I like this video too. I have a lot of naysayers in my family and yesterday I said something about my future, and my mom said you say that but….. mind you I’m 49! I responded with I make things happen in my life, and I’m going to make this happen. It reinforced what you said about being non resistant about my decision and showing my confidence when I speak and act toward a decision. My mom said nothing. I love my mom but she can be very negative, so I learned to not share as much. I do want to share with you that I called my local library and I’m going to be teaching a meditation class in the fall!! They said if they like it, I may do a series! Thanks for your help. All your nuggets and free advice helped me send the email. I felt fear when they said yes and we’d like to meet you. I was so nervous buy I just took some notes and owned my years of practice and knowledge and they were pleased with the meeting. One girl said I want to take the class. So it was approved and now I’m nervous and it’s not until October. I was a school teacher for 20 years so I have a lot of skills. I’m also looking for places to tell my story.
    Thanks and I wish you lots of love and good wishes!

    1. Hi Traci, (And Hi Gabby- thank you from the bottom of my heart for this blog post)

      I’m 46 and I feel ya girl. We must keep creating our lives. I’ve been trying to work this entrepreneur thing for two years and frankly I miss the interaction among actual people. The behind the laptop is hard for me.
      I too was in Education for 20 years as a High School administrator. I miss the interaction, the energy, the big huge swings of everything in high school and teens!
      So with this blog post I am taking action and have scheduled a meeting with a former colleague to discuss some options.
      And the big reveal is to tell my partner honestly, I miss working with young adults and I want to create more of that again in my life. I may even reach out to the school where I once worked for 11 years and see what might be available, but that’s for another day because I first need to sit with my man and talk it through. We are in business together, so my leaving may make for some big changes for him. And so much needs to be considered.

      Gabby- I’m scared. But I’m gonna’ be brave and walk through this with my head held high. The worst thing is I’ll be told no by the school. But that will be information, right?

      The other BIG reveal is I know I am supposed to work with teens in a service/travel capacity. Not as a trip leader anymore (they save those positions for 25+) But rather as a leader in a Teen Travel Organization that brings cultures from around the world together to learn from one another and make this world better. 🙂

      As alwasy, thank you for listening and being there for so many–like me. XOXO

    2. Thanks for posting your story. I am a teacher as well and am in the process of finding other ways to contribute to others. Best wishes!

  4. This message is exactly what I needed to her today. As I am willing to go into the places that scare me and examine what the lesson is, opportunities keep popping up. Now I have a way to move forward and celebrate what’s on the other side. Namaste.

  5. I have been holding myself back in writing courses to better my new business. I think due to not having belief in myself or feeling overwhelm. Thank you for this video Gabby, after a few days away and letting go of my doubts I do feel ready now to start moving forward.
    This training has helped me in so many ways. Whilst away I didn’t wear makeup, a first as I was always hiding behind a mask, also I took myself off alone to walk on the beach instead of going back to our cottage because of my husband wanting too. I have found a new confidence which I love. Thank you, thank you thank you so much for being the Earth Angel you are – love you
    I’m looking forward to this new way of life and feeling and seeing what this newfound freedom can bring. Much love to you

  6. Thank you Gabby! This was right on time and resonated so deeply with me today. I cringe every time you remind me to ask to be guided towards the greatest good… Why am I so afraid to be guided towards the greatest good? Where does that distrust stem from?

  7. Thank you very much Gabby! I’m just about to start reading The Universe Has Your Back for the second time and this video came right on time. I have so many decisions to make about career and my relationship. I feel anxious, afraid, uncertain and not good enough. Thank you for always reminding me about the good energy of the Universe and for making me trust and choose again!
    Much love and light to you!

    1. You are being divinely guided, even when it doesn’t feel like it! I love that you are using the book as a practice. You will continue to dive deeper and get more and more out of it. Sending love and light back to you!!! <3 <3

  8. What does one do when you can get a clear answer from your meditations, there is noise or fear creeping in as a distraction so I give up on the meditation. I can’t tell which is intuition and which is fear. I get my sign but trying to get some insight from my meditations. Thanks. Learning so much from you 🙂

  9. My next step was definitely to watch this video. Thank you so much Gabby and thank you God/Universe. And I also want to thank you for writing “The Universe Has Your Back” it has helped me in so many ways I love it! Best, Eva

  10. Oh I love making big decisions, however the uncertainty that comes afterwards, I feel like it misaligns my initial decision. Like an “oh crap, was that a…” Do you have technique to stand in power and not go into uncertainty? Like an “eff it, forget it, move it” mindset? 😉 I’ll go back to the surrender chapter too.

  11. I wish I had seen this 6 months ago. I had an awesome opportunity set in front of me but I didn’t take it and now I am having a hard time getting past passing it up. After seeing this I feel better equipped should another opportunity come my way. But it is hard to get past the hopeless feeling that nothing else will come my way. Thank you for your inspiration.


    1. Let yourself grieve the lost opportunity and find the lesson. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. You were not ready for that opportunity. You were not ready to surrender to guidance. Now you are and your path will unfold as it should. Expect miracles.

  12. Inspired by Simone & Dolly i started to read your work.
    The judgment detox book: Listened to a preview from the book. Although i did deep transformational spiritual work on the fears and thinking patterns. There’s still a dark cloud over me that keeps me away from living my full potential.

    At the moment i am very aware of my capability to serve this world.
    Only thing in the way is me and the way i think about myself 😉
    Now on a crossroad where i am in the space of not knowing i feel a little stuck sometimes.
    I want to take a different road and start all over with the knowledge i have now.
    I recognize the fear you are talking about. Especially business wise.
    When ideas for my business are coming in i get so excited and the moment i need to take action, there’s fear, doubt blocking my way.
    It’s like a rise and fall. And for once i would like to break this cycle.

    What does it takes Gabby to think bigger?
    And what book would you recommend to support my process?



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