The Most Important Question to Ask Yourself

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Hi there, Spirit Junkies!

Today I want to give a shout out to my soul sister Danielle LaPorte….

About five years ago I was at this turning point my career, and I felt like I needed to bring in more support. I was at an event and waiting in the green room with the one and only Danielle. She observed that I seemed stressed and I admitted it was true.

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She said, “I have one question for you: How do you want to feel?”

I looked at her and said, “Wow, no one has ever asked me that before.”

Then I said, “I want to feel supported.” It came to me—it was so clear even though I hadn’t yet even thought about it.

It was like Danielle given me permission to acknowledge that feeling and embrace it.

I started owning it. I made decisions with it in mind. “I want to feel supported” became my affirmation. It guided me daily. I dwelled in the feeling of support and every day I took actions to support myself.

Somewhere along the way, though, I got caught up in daily life and lost sight of that particular commitment.

Five years after that conversation with Danielle — just a couple of months ago, in fact — I found myself in a similar situation with how I was feeling.

So I made a new choice. And I learned a powerful lesson about commitment and honoring your feelings.

Today I want to share this lesson with you and give you permission — the way Danielle did for me — to acknowledge how you want to feel and really embrace it.

Please leave a comment after watching! I’m really psyched to see what you have to say.

I hope this video serves you.

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