How to Release Fear

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Hi Spirit Junkies! As you probably know, I got married on Saturday! It was a magical day and a really fun party. You can check out the pics here.

Weddings can bring up a lot of old fears. Throughout the process I used my spiritual tools from A Course in Miracles to release my ancient limiting beliefs and laugh at my ego’s tiny mad ideas. The spiritual approach to fear always offers the most profound solutions. In this vlog I share with you my own process of how to release fear.

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    1. Can you trust yourself to be fine, to work at your job and be diligent, conscientious for only one hour at a time? At night be grateful for what you’ve accomplished. In the morning remind yourself that you only have to live one hour at a time today for the next 8 hours. That’s all that’s ever required of us, a few hours, a few minutes, a few moments at a time. Anxiety looks towards the future with fear imagining all the things that could go wrong. But the future doesn’t exist. Ask, What is mine to do today? Do that……and only that. Stay in today and trust that you are there by right. You have every right to be where you are and those who hired you realized that. You are fine just as you are and where you are. Trust that. xo

    2. I feel for you as I am feeling the same too. I have gone out of my comfort zone and I am fearing “what if I can’t pull this off”? I only get paid if I make sales. I want to be successful, I NEED to be successful…so much pressure to take care of my and my child. I am trying to laugh…but I am afraid!

      1. You can and you will. You have a child to teach that once you believe, you can achieve. I have 3 daughters and I quit a lucrative job with benefits to chase a dream of owning my own business and my girls are more proud of me than ever (even though Christmas was lean this year) ha! I know its easy to let fear run shotgun b/c I struggle with the what-ifs myself from time to time. I will keep you in my thoughts. Good luck!!

    3. I know how you feel Monica. I have been there too when I started a whole new career.
      I found just focusing on what I loved about the job everyday drew me into ideas and ways of doing my job well. Think about why you love the job as you are doing it and fear will subside. I always strive to be humble at work, it keeps me learning and getting better and that keeps me confident.
      All the best,

  1. My dog just passed away and last week I just lost my job.
    My husband only works part time. My fear of not having money torments me. How do I laugh about this and release the fear?

    1. I just wanted to tell you that I am so sorry about your loss. As an animal lover I see them as members of our families and in having lost various animals in my life, I identify with your pain. In case it can help you I wanted to let you know about various Grief Recovery support groups that are free and most likely in your area. I am not just recommending I have been to a couple as well and I found them helpful. I believe you can google “grief recovery support groups”

      As a person that helps people in my day job find work I would like to encourage you to utilize http://www.linkedin.com, http://www.facebook.com and even http://www.twitter.com to conduct an effective job search. You can go to youtube to find out about how to use these forms of social media in relation to job search.

      My heart is with you and YOU are in my thoughts and I am sending you love, richness and an over abundance of blessings to you and your family.

      I think in time you will be able to do this exercise. There is a time for everything and this just may not be he time.
      HUGS! (Health, Understanding, Gratitude and Success)

    2. Hi Beth,
      Two big losses, that’s tough. I believe grief is in order. One for the loss of your dog and the other, for the loss of your job that can either send us into major depression or major panic or both. Laughter is a great medicine but total regrouping first in the form of breathing, crying, breathing, crying, praying, meditating, praying, breathing–(I’m not really endorsing the order except to keep breathing deeply) will help the calming and recentering of your spirit. This is not easy to do when you may be conditioned to going into panic and fear mode in how you cope with situations…as the way the majority of us do. I am no different from you and loss is economics is real in our heads. But I’ve also found that after the calm, my mind is freer from the clutter, the noise, the doubts, the fears and I am able to think more clearly and comprehensively. When you also access the Universe by opening your heart and trust that it is always waiting for you to ask what it already has in store for you (and they’re BIG, ABUNDANT AND BETTER!!!) , you will increasingly feel more at ease and eventually, laughter will follow. You will live through this and come out better on the other side! There’s a saying that this temporary setback is only to serve you have a major comeback. Stay in faith, believe, and laugh in due time.

    3. Hi Beth,
      Two big losses, that’s tough. I believe grief is in order. One for the loss of your dog and the other, for the loss of your job that can either send any of us into major depression or major panic or both. Laughter is great medicine but total regrouping first after losses in the form of breathing, crying, breathing, crying, praying, meditating, praying, breathing–(I’m not really endorsing the order except to keep breathing deeply) will help the calming and re-centering of your spirit. This is not easy to do when you may be conditioned to going into panic and fear mode in how you cope with situations…as the way the majority of us do. I am no different from you and loss in economics is real in our heads and impacts our lives. But I’ve also found that after the calm, my mind is freer from the clutter, the noise, the doubts, the fears and I am able to think more clearly and comprehensively. Then I am able to take a rationale course of action. When you also access the Universe by opening your heart and trust that it is always waiting for you to ask what it already has in store for you (and they’re BIG, ABUNDANT AND BETTER!!!) , you will increasingly feel more at ease and eventually, laughter will follow. When your thoughts and belief are kept in alignment, and you stay in faith, all will fall into place. You will live through this and come out better on the other side! There’s a saying that this temporary setback is only to serve you have a major comeback. Believe, and you will laugh in due time.

    4. Beth…my dog also just passed away and I am heartbroken. I try to remember all of the silly things she used to do…I can laugh at that! Thinking of you.

    5. I’m sorry about your dog. The work here is to stay connected to what feels good. When you’re in a positive energy you attract more into your life. focus on what you do have and you’ll create more of what you want.

    1. Oh Ashley, that has been my fear for years. I have been actively working through the fear, (May Cause Miracles has helped tremendously) and I’m now beginning to get in touch with my love again! You can tear down the walls you’ve put up, it’s subtle work, but it’s so worth it! Have faith that you haven’t lost your love. It’s always with you!

  2. First of all congratulations Gaby,and thank you for sharing your wedding with us,I love all the pictures and facebook posts. :-)
    This is so funny,this video. Because just this morning i was devastated because my poems had not been received well on this website i post them to,and i emailed my friend,who started to seriously try to console me. And i wrote back to him,no,this feels wrong,please lets just laugh about this. Let’s make this funny,because it is not important,this is just my vanity being hurt… And voila,this video confirms this for me today :-) Thank you Gaby,i enjoy your lessons and guidance greatly. With much love, Anne <3 xox

  3. I have a few of being successful. As I transition out of my photography business (which has been very successful) and into health coaching, I am deeply fearful of being successful. A few people have said that it almost sounds cocky, but it isn’t a feeling of being cocky. It is a feeling of actually getting what I am want, being a success and then striving to maintain my success.

    1. I have a fear of being successful. As I transition out of my photography business (which has been very successful) and into health coaching, I am deeply fearful of being successful. A few people have said that it almost sounds cocky, but it isn’t a feeling of being cocky. It is a feeling of actually getting what I am want, being a success and then striving to maintain my success.

      1. Hi Amy… I completely understand what you are saying and I don’t think it is cocky at all, in fact it’s just fear getting in the way. You said that you had a successful photography business… well now you are leaving that safe and comfortable environment, it is what you know, into something new which will bring with it different challenges and experiences, how exciting! I have let fear get the better of me and it has crippled me – I have hidden myself and my skills and talents… but no more! So good luck on your new adventure! embrace what you love and enjoy the successes along the way!

  4. My greatest fear right now is this: I abandoned a life of security and stability. I abandoned my ex-husband and I regret it deeply. My fear right now is that I’ll never get a chance to right my wrongs and that I’ll never get a chance to show him how much I truly love him and his family. I also fear that if he moves further away from me that I will miss out on an opportunity to love him again, as friends. I’m afraid that he hates me and harbors resentment. But this is crazy because he still loves me and we have a great relationship now and he has been willing to move through the pain to forgive me.

    1. Kim,

      I just have to respond to your comment. Last September (2012) I told my husband of 10 years that I wanted a divorce. I have been in love with this man since I was 18 (now 42) but, apparently, my love for him wasn’t enough. He didn’t love himself. He was depressed, distant, angry with the universe. Certainly NOT the man I met and married. We went to counseling, but the hurt was so deep healing felt impossible. We even sold our wedding rings to pay for the lawyer fees. I thought we were over. For good.

      Fast forward one year and life couldn’t be better. Somehow the Universe managed to bring us back together and we are making plans for our future. We are back in counseling and moving our family forward daily. Our hearts are open and receptive to love and joy and it feels so freakin’ good!!!! But we had to move THROUGH the crap to get OVER it. In the process, I learned a few things: 1) Never settle. Ever. 2) Never say never. You never know what the Universe has in store. 3) Trust your inner voice. It never lies. 4) Choose joy. 5) Expect miracles.

      Hang in there, girl!

  5. Gabby,
    It’s crazy that you posted this at the time that you did. Just last week I was experiencing some funky stuff and my inner voice loudly told me to laugh at the ego’s tiny mad idea. Even though I have read your novels and heard your lectures, I can’t believe my inner voice directed me to this passage. And here you are speaking about it! Synchronicity at it’s finest.

    When I received your book in January, my ego was too loud and I was afraid to get started. Yesterday it became really clear to me that I needed to start this 40 day journey. I am day one and I feel great already!

    By the way, you looked gorgeous in the wedding pictures!

    -Meghan

  6. Gabby –
    I am always worrying that my boyfriend is cheating on me. He has a TON of female friends but, I have never seen/felt signs that he would ever do that to me. My self-esteem tends to tell me that I’m not good enough which typically leads me down the path to then feel that my boyfriend would cheat. It’s hard to laugh at but, when I am really seeing clearly, it’s easier to see that he wouldn’t do that to me. How do I make that feeling stronger so I don’t get that pang every time he gets a text or call from one of his female friends?

    1. Hey Carly,
      You are so brave to admit you feel this way. I’m sure there are plenty of women out there that are also in the same boat as you. For me when I get these kinds of feelings I then know it’s time to work on myself and gift myself with love. I exercise, eat healthy, do things that make me happy and talk about it to my boyfriend.

      The rubbish thing is that when we don’t feel that we are good enough then the other person in the relationship picks up on it and may act differently and seek attention elsewhere. You’ve got to totally love yourself and go confidently in the direction of your dreams. There is nothing more appealing than someone who knows what they want, is confident, healthy and loves them self.

  7. I am afraid that I moved to the wrong place this past weekend, I am afraid I am going to loose my job and I am tired of being single!

    1. I know exactly how you feel with all three of you fears. I am trying to laugh it off by reminding myself that I care about my work and it is making a difference in the world. As far as being single sometimes being able to handle difficulties on our own makes us better prepared for the relationship the universe has in store for us.

  8. congrats on your marriage! I really enjoyed looking at all your pictures. As far as fear goes – i’m not afraid of anything, because I know if something comes up I will deal wtih it then and I don’t spend my time thinking about what could happen.

  9. scared of not having enough money, big time! In between jobs, scared I won’t be able to manifest my perfect career and scared I won’t be able to create a lifestyle where I can travel freely between US and Ireland. Also scared of health fears – as always, underlying due to phobia.

    1. Ellen–I come from a long line of Irish hypochondriacs and it can be debilitating at times, so I truly feel for you and understand. What I have learned over the years, is that it can be easier for us to put our focus on our health (as a control mechanism) rather than what is REALLY bothering us. My health phobia truly gets out of control when I am feeling most of out of control. Please email me any time if you need to vent to a fellow sufferer. Good luck with your job search and I will keep you in my prayers! Lori

      1. gosh Lori, thanks so much, usually those I talk to have real trouble relating, I am nearly 4o now and this has been going on since my early 2o’s. man. I hear you though in that if I look back there is usually a reason why it surfaces when it does, I would love to be in touch, let me know how i can mail you, thanks so much for your comment. xx

      2. Thank you Lori,

        I have also noticed that my health fears come up, as the other parts of my life change or become less stable. I have also noticed recently that the more things go right. My wonderful husband, my healthy kids (I am a pediatric nurse), my job …, the more I freak out that something aka my health will go wrong. Thanks for sharing! Hugs xxx

        1. Sharon & Ellen!!! You guys are SO not alone and please email me whenever you afraid. I am 48 and have been going through this for over 30 years in some form, but it really kicked in, FOR REAL, when my son was born 15 years ago. The hormones went crazy and it was in my genes. I also learned how to deal with problems this way by watching my mother deal with her problems by focusing on her health. I am sure you can relate. My email is dolphn1@sbcglobal.net and please don’t hesitate to email me when you are afraid–you don’t need to suffer alone which is exactly how we feel in the middle of one of these “episodes”. They are tough, but we are tougher! Big hugs to you both!!!!! Lori

  10. Hi Gabrielle,

    Thank you for all of your beautiful messages and videos. I read your work and watch your videos all the time and they consistently provide me with clarity, lessons, and inspiration.

    The biggest fear that I have identified that is in my life now is the fear of failure. Now that I am looking at it, I can almost laugh about it. I have been absolutely terrified of the fear of failure. For the past 10 years, I have worked very hard at my goals of being an artist. And now I am applying to a MFA program for painting and working on my portfolio and applications now. I am working to find my voice as an artist and the deadlines are several months away. I am so scared of rejection! I feel like I have cried just about every day for the past several months because I want to get accepted so very badly, and I am so scared of failing.

    Just saying all of this right now helps me to see that I am going in the natural progression of my life and the goal is always to be a better artist, which I can do at any given moment right now. All the applications want to see if who I really am right now, which is a joyful thing. Yay, I get to be myself.

    I am going to keep working on this. Thank you very much for your video! This is helping. :)

    Sincerely,

    Fotini Christophillis

  11. I have the opportunity to do what I love to do in my career, on my own. I have several fears that accompany this new venture. First is the fear that I won’t be taken seriously. I also fear that I will start it and then something will happen financially or health-wise to derail my plan and I will look like a flake. And lastly, I fear the unknown. How will I make money while I am in the start-up phase? I will have to do freelance work on the side which will split my focus…another fear. But I am ready to take the leap and if I fall, at least I will hope for a soft landing.

  12. My fear is based around an event I was supposed to have posted and promoted last week. I have so much anxiety about speaking in front of groups! I’m afraid the women that come will not resonate with my message or that I will have a hard time handling all of the energy coming at me at once. I have a lot of fire and a big voice but fear is winning lately. <3

  13. Mine is not a fear, but what is staring me right in the face today. I quit my job last spring, because my soul was screaming at me to get out and create something totally new — and to rest for a while. Being in the job, I was miserable, getting sick frequently, and my kids were suffering from feeling chaotic all the time. For two years I have worked at listening to my heart, laughing at the ego, releasing releasing releasing. I entered this Journey filled with Joy and Love and NO worries about how I was going to manifest opportunities for income that suited me and my family, and NO worries about how I was going to support my three children and myself (single mom here). Today I have a negative balance in my checking account. Haven’t yet paid this month’s rent, now 13 days past due. I created a viable business and have more opportunities flowing to me. And today I’m experiencing financial poverty. Having a really hard time laughing at that one, or knowing what even to do next.

  14. I am afraid of not having enough money…i’m thinking about leaving my job because i don’t feel it’s offering me the space i need to grow…and i really want to find something that i love doing…i want to experience the “work is fun” concept but keep thinking i won’t make it on my owm without this income.

    Congratulations on your beautiful wedding and thank you for all this wonderful tools you’re sharing with us!

  15. Firstly, I want to say Mazel Tov again on your wedding…Right now my biggest fear is not being successful in my jewelry business. I make decopauge cuffs & they are really beautiful & made with love. I have been afraid to do shows or market them the way I should because I’m so scared that I won’t sell any…I need to get over this fear & would appreciate any advice…
    Blessings,
    Marie

    1. Dear Marie,

      do you know Marie Forleo? Nice name coincidence. She is great at giving marketing advice to women like you. Her posts are always inspirational for me.

      All the best.

  16. Dear Gabby, thank you for your post. I’ve been walking my dog and stressing myself with thoughts of not having enough money (although I just got the book “Money a love story” from the wonderful Kate Northrup), with fear of not being strong enough to set healthy boundries with my family and not being good enough (more smart) to finish my studies. Tiny mad ideas? Oh yes!!! I am going to dinner with my friend and will fully enjoy the time with him. We both deserve my full attention.
    I finally moved towards your guided meditations. Just when I needed it, I found your Forgiveness meditation. Very powerful. It helps to hear your voice while going through such a powerful process. Thank you for that.

    Girl talk: You look beautiful. You always did, but now you are full of light. It’s very empowering to see you grow. Best wishes for your marriage.

    Coffee: I am two days of it.

    Thanks.

  17. Scared I don’t love this guy I am having a baby with. Scared I don’t know,what love feels like and that if I give up this guy and this baby through termination that I will not find anyone else.

  18. Hi Gabby,

    I have a deep fear of not being good enough. That no matter how much love I put into my songs, no one will really want to listen or buy my CD except for my family and friends. The tears are welling up and I’m not sure I can laugh at this yet or look at it as insane.

    Lori

  19. I call it the spins! I get obsessed with thinking something negative and then I just keep running with the idea! It’s awful. Recently I have been obsessing about something going wrong in my relationship and my partner not being as in love w me as he was last week or my not feeling in love every minute of the day so telling myself something must be wrong !
    When I look at these thoughts I see very clearly that I have absolutely nothing to base them on. I have been so used to things not working out or being abandoned by loved ones that I can’t relax and enjoy this wondrous time that I have worked so hard to get to but instead anticipate how and when the other show will drop!
    I deserve happiness and I finally know it so am def going to use this technique a lot to ground myself and dismiss the insanity!!!!
    Thanks Gabby and congrats! Xx

  20. 4 years ago, I went to the hospital with horrible abdominal pains and had the awful idea to drive myself instead of calling the ambulance. I got caught in traffic with level 9 pains, very traumatic.

    I’m always scared when I feel a pain in my abdomen and feel the need to locate a hospital quickly just in case. I have travel anxiety because what if I can’t get to a hospital or get help quickly?

    I need to let this fear go.

  21. Gabby –

    This was awesome!! You are such an outstanding resource. I have always been told that you get what you need, when you need it. I did do your entire Course in Miracles in January of 2013 and I have had huge shifts come my way – mainly because I took action and did this stuff.

    I still struggle with two major issues: (1) Having been single for over 10 years now, I am afraid that I won’t find someone to love me and (2) I am fearful of not being able to build my new house.

    I will work hard to laugh at these, because I know that when I’m not afraid I can accomplish so much.

    Thank youf or the reminder(s). You were such a gorgeous bride and what a most handsome man you married. WOW. You are so blessed and I believe that a great guy is coming my way. Be well, Gabby, and thank you, again, for sharing.

  22. Hi! And congrats on your marriage! I’m afraid of dying. I really don’t know why, it just scares me… I have had panic attacks years ago because of stress but feel better now but sometimes death comes and scares me and makes me paralyzed. Want to feel peace and calm and not be afraid anymore.

    Jen from Sweden

  23. This topic really hits home. I am afraid I will not be able to pay my rent this month. In fact, I know I’m not bringing in enough money. I can’t figure out how to laugh at that.
    I am talented and educated, but I’m making minimum wage working–and looking for new jobs. I’ve just been rejected from so many I’ve applied to.
    How can I laugh about finances when I’m really in a bad situation?
    Also, thanks for inspiring me :)

    1. Have you tried the finance chapter in MCM? It’s been profound for me & ~ing showed me I have talents & deserve to earn! All the best x

      1. I have done the finance chapter a couple times…I love it.
        I am trying my best. I know what I deserve, I just feel blocked?
        I need spirit sisters to help.
        You guys are great. Xx

  24. I have a fear of not having enough money. I moved to AZ to restart my life at 30 years old and focus on my business. I am in a new place with a clientele built business and I am running really low on money.

  25. So thank you for sharing this post and allowing me to post my fear of not having enough money, losing my home, not having a place to live & failure to live up to my fullest potential

  26. My tiny mad ideas are that I will never find someone without a ton of baggage and who leads a similar healthy lifestyle similar to my own, and then I will never make enough money. I see that these both are silly because I WILL attract the perfect companion who is healthy and stable like myself, and I fully support myself (not raking the money in) but can pay my rent, eat healthily and organically, and lead a supportive lifestyle.

  27. I fear not fulfilling my purpose. I am a stay at home mom and sometimes I wonder is this it? Is this my purpose? But I feel like there should be more. I guess I fear I will never know and what if I misread the signs and question my instincts? It’s something I pray for constantly. I guess I still doubt myself.

  28. I am deep in financial fear, that there isn’t enough money. It gets compounded from visits to a critical parent, and it become defensive and feel small.
    I have a good job, a bright future, a pension and own my own condo with plans to buy a house with my boyfriend next fall.
    Evidence suggests I have nothing to fear!

  29. Gabby,
    Thanks for the vlog, as always right on cue. I am fearful of having a good relationship with my mom, that she won’t or doesn’t love me. Even though I Know she does. I also think I push her away because she almost died 12 yrs ago and I haven’t forgiven her. (Not that it was her fault she had cancer)

    How’s that for breakthrough, I just figured that out right now!
    Christiane
    Thank you & Blessings on your wedding/marriage!

  30. I’m fearful of rejection and/or disapproval. It’s sort of ridiculous how downtrodden I feel when I feel this coming from people. Why it matters, I don’t know. It’s this latent fear of not being good enough. Good enough for whom? Most of these people are people I don’t even like, but must deal with every now and again due to responsibilities. I find them boorish and narrow, confined by judgment and clinging to views that divide rather than unite. It really is ridiculous that it matters, I like them so much less than they disapprove of me.

  31. My fear of not having enough money, helping people in a meaningful way.

    It’s an insane idea:

    1. Have to be patient that 3 businesses will flourish. The lesson is to be patient. You just have to surrender control.
    2. Universe will always give you enough. You are always abundant.
    3. Scared my passion of helping people won’t give me a sustainable income. Want to become an author but do I have anything new to spread to the world.

    Thanks for always giving me inspiration Gabby. I hope to someday create my own platform of helping people on astitvaseekers.com Kudos to your amazing platform and success =)

  32. My biggest fear: I am in a job that I have come hate. I am fearful I can’t get out of it.

    Haaaa! As if the job is a cage! I guess, if it is, I can probably figure out how to get the door open and find a new job!

  33. I am struggling with the end of a 15 year relationship and my fear is that I will not find another with the same sense of romance. The lie is that it was a superficial self-centered dance that was toxic from the beginning. I need to laugh at the false evidence appearing real that it was a relationship that was nurturing to my true self. It was SO far off, it truly is laughable. Wow, does the ego play!

  34. Gabby,
    This video is perfect timing for me. I have been feeling anxious all morning that a particular someone who means a lot to me is in trouble. I have no real reason to believe this. There are so many reasons that could explain why this person is doing what they’re doing, but of course, I have to choose that they are in trouble. I know it’s most likely insane and I do need to laugh at it!

  35. I am afraid that I will not find a fabulous new career. That I will run out of money before I find this new career. I am afraid that I will not find authentic love from a man. What this all points to is that I do not value myself. I am practising self-love. I am ok. I am safe. I am lovable. I am looking forward to my next career.

  36. I am afraid that we won’t have enough money to pay our bills and get out of debt. I worry that I will never get to a healthy place with my body image, I worry that I’m not a good mother and that I’m not giving my children what they need, I worry I will never have a career that fulfills me and I worry that I dot have close like-minded friends

  37. i’m afraid of: being alone, the product i’m developing being a failure, not having the financial freedom i want, being lazy, not accomplishing enough, having an ordinary life.

  38. 1 Fear of losing job – which I resolve with I’m working plus working 60+ hours now, have great skills and will get another job – probably better!
    2 Fear of not finding someone who I truly want to be with, who wants to be with me, has similar interests, healthy, active, wants to travel, etc. – I haven’t resolved this yet.

  39. Fear that I will not be successful building out my health coaching business. I recently quit my corporate America job to pursue my dream of having my own health coaching practice and I am scared sh!tless that I will fail.

  40. I am afraid of the unknown when there is a big change coming. I am pregnant with my second child and I’m scared about if/how I will handle it and how this will effect my family and how we will financially support all of it when I’m not working.
    –This is laughable because of course a baby will bring us joy! It is a blessing! It is what I always wanted-another baby! People support children on far less that we have financially and when I put it in this perspective my fears do seem silly.

  41. I have a fear of being rejected in love again. I have a fear of trusting again. I have a fear that I will waiver in my love of myself. I have a fear of failure. I have a fear to start and overcome. I have a fear of taking the wrong path.

  42. I have a fear that I will be forced to stay living in the Yukon rather than my choice to move to Victoria in BC. I once again remind myself self that I am blessed with loving people to help me make this move happen and so it is!

    May each and everyone of us expand with the cosmos sharing the light!

  43. My No. 1 Fear this afternoon is that “I will always be a failure”. This is ridiculous since I’ve achieved things both in outward achievements & inward achievements in my life; and even if I had achieved NOTHING there would still be hope for me not to be a failure! Feeling like I’m not where I want to be with my music career is triggering this.
    Great video today. X

  44. I fear that the new business I’m working on will not make any money or help anyone. I fear I’ll have to go back to my old job and everyone will laugh at me. Phew! Out there!

  45. I’m fearful of the work that lies ahead of me. It feels overwhelming and a bit terrifying because I can’t know how it will uncover. I’m also afraid to even say it here because when I used to say things, they often, would not happen. But i’ve been stepping into “the work” now and engrained it into my being here in the physical, that has set a current underneath it all – a deep knowing that THIS is the path to serve and I can’t not keep stepping into it.

    Thank you for the space to share this.

    Most of all,
    Congratulations Gabby on your special day. Sending love.

  46. Hi Gabby,
    Congratulations! What a beautiful day.

    I have the fear of being complacent. I tend to harbor the attitude that “tomorrow will be better” in terms of how I am treating my body, my attitude, and really going for my dreams in my professional career. I procrastinate and use social media to avoid the things I really want to do but I am scared that I will maybe do them and not be satisfied? As I type this out, I’m not even sure what that means! And I can laugh at that. I’m avoiding to avoid but acting in my fear already – I have been complacent!

  47. Fear of not having enough money to make ends meet… and fear of completely messing up if I really try to “get myself out there” by doing workshops or speeches for my new business. Then there’s some fear and a bit of an intuitive sense that if I just go ahead and do work for someone else at this time that I’ll focus my energy too much on to that work rather than put enough time into building my business.

  48. Although I grew up in an affluent family for some reason I think I have always had a fear of not having enough money. Nobody else in my family and environment is like that but for some reason I got the “bug”! I wake up with panic attacks everyday. I remind myself every moment how grateful I should be for everything I have, my health, family, so much love! And yet, the subconscious I think is playing tricks on me; I have struggled to de-touch from this insanity, so your video today is so timely. Thank you for giving us the opportunity to put it out there…you rock!

  49. Wow, so grateful for your vlogs and website. Thank you so much!
    I’m fearful that my marriage will fail and that I will be abandoned. Laughing at this helps me to see a different side of the relationship. I have a roll in how I got to this place and I have a choice about what to do to make it through this tough situation.

  50. my fear is not having my life all together.. not having one big nice picture.
    I want a stable job and stability in all aspects of my life and currently i have none. i dont have a job and i have no idea where to go… ive asked for signs etc, done workshops and I just cant get a stable answer to what i should be doing. how do i laugh at this when it is my life situation??

  51. Oh man, it’s difficult to choose just one fear that is bogging me down. I have three major ones that seem to enjoy rotating on the fear based playlist. But I think the one that is the most prevalent currently and ironically is the one I can do the most about is the fear that I cannot fulfill my potential as a writer. It’s definitely a tiny mad idea, mainly because I have been writing my whole life and I know it’s my gift.
    I think the hold up with me is the action of actually SHARING it with the world. I’m working on an inspirational blog right now, that encourages people to let go and let their creative spark and trust in guidance lead their lives. I know it has great potential, but I’m just hung up on the actual writing part. Crazy, I know. But I know it’s just really my ego being a negative nancy in the background because IT is the one that’s actually afraid that I will succeed.

  52. I live in a state of fear and move from one fear to the next. Lately, my biggest focus is on my health and that I will never be without pain or some sort of ailment. It’s hard to move out of this thinking when your body hurts. I’ve been trying to focus on what’s good knowing that staying in the state of fear and panic is not going to help me heal any part of my life.

    Thank you so much for this vlog and congratulations on your marriage!

  53. Where to start, fear of not having enough money, the fear of not losing weight and the fear of being alone. I am a widow and have had quadruple by-pass. I am healthy now and am very grateful to be alive. The fear of not finding my passion in life.

  54. I fear other people’s judgement of me. I am currently battling this fear as I try to venture out and start my own business. I constantly wonder what my friends and family will think and if they will approve.
    Candice

  55. I am having a lot of fear regarding money. I am fearful that my family will continue to struggle with financial issues and that it will cause problems between my husband and myself.

  56. I fear that my health will not get back to what it was and that I will not be able to make enough money (doing something I love) to help my family and provide for my daughter the life that she deserves.

  57. I have a fear of not ever having enough money. I also am afraid of being stuck in one position at work and never advancing. The two are connected and it is so hard sometimes to see a way out. I have had the fear of not having enough since I was a child and I hope it has not bled over to my kids.

  58. Congratulations on your marriage!!!

    I am afraid that I will not be a good mother and that I won’t be able to breastfeed… my first baby is due in 10 weeks.
    It might be insane to think that because I love this baby so much already and I’ve done so much to prepare, including my psychological & spiritual work and tons of classes! And my boobs are going to work fine because that’s what they are meant to do!!

  59. I just wanted to congratulate you on your marriage. I loved how you shared on Facebook about how in Jewish weddings blessing each individual and I truly know your ceremony must have been awesome as you stated. I am so excited for you and I truly love hearing you at any opportunity I get. I love everything you say and believe your an awesome individual. Thank you for using your gifts to help us. I feel a little resistance to this exercise but find when that happens it usually is something that will be greatly beneficial so I am going to try it. Thank you and I appreciate you.

  60. I am scared of being scared!
    Failure, getting old, sickness, lack of love, loneliness, being broke, uncertainty, doubt, sex, men, friends, family, …..
    How insane is that?
    As of yesterday, I am starting to laugh at all these…

  61. I am scared of being scared!
    Failure, getting old, sickness, lack of love, loneliness, being broke, uncertainty, doubt, sex, men, friends, family, …..
    How insane is that?
    As of yesterday, I am starting to laugh at all these…

  62. A video right on time as I deal with extreme fear today. I committed to a high level coaching program to help remove the blocks within me to manifest my dream business of interior/textile design ….Only the cost of it has me fearing the worst. I was rendered homeless 7 months ago after a job loss from car accident injuries stopped me from working. I did win a settlement and that money has arrived and allowed me to rent an apt. and keep going while I start my biz….but to commit a large portion of it to coaching has me stressed out and fearing the worst. I know I manifested the last one…I’ve read all the books I get it…but I am in babysteps putting it all into practice. I have not slept since I committed to the coaching in fear of giving over all my money….and winding up not able to manifest a thing…and homeless again. OK. Funny cuz the past does not equal the future…..and funny that I feel the universal laws don’t apply to me. wtf

  63. I have a fear of getting married. My parents never had a great relationship and marriage; seeing how they were for so many years before they separated, had been engraved in my brain. Now, I am engaged to be married September of next year & sometimes I wonder if things will be the same for me. I have a fiancé who tells me he loves me, tells me I’m beautiful, is honest with me, and wants me in his life. He went all out to propose to me in Jamaica in my birthday! It’s crazy what fear does to a person. Just releasing this makes me deal better already. I have to change the battlefield my mind has been in for so long, as it will affect my relationship and soon-to-be marriage. I am not my mother and father, I am ME..
    Praise God to the most High for revelation. Thank you so much Gabby for your work ????.

  64. My greatest fear is that I won’t be able to do what I want to do for a living and won’t be able to take care of myself and survive.

  65. FEAR – let’s change the acronym – forging evolutionary actions responsibly. Fear is merely a message. You have the power to choose what to do with the message.
    In the tradition of handling incoming mail or your work in box you can:
    1. DO something about it now. An action step to resolve it. / 2. Delete it, as in “not worth my precious thought time”. / 3. Delegate it. Identify it as a pretender action for you when it is really someone else’s action item. / 4. Delay it – postpone action, legitimately, meaning for later referencing as appropriate. Remember that fear can dress itself up as procrastination.
    If you let fear percolate on the back burner, like a stew, it becomes an attractor for other stew items.
    And after a short while it becomes a huge stew meal for many people. Don’t feed the stew. Starve it.

    Step 1 under “DO”. Breathe, meaningfully, deeply, and often. Contraction will not serve you! Deep breathes will free you.
    Step 2 under “DO”. Know that this fear emotion is a gift. Yes, a gift. It’s a wake up call to help you evolve. So, say to yourself “Damn, another wake up call.” Then find the courage to dig deep and get on with it. Turn toward it, face it. Stick your tongue out and give it a lion’s roar. Fear will be shocked at your action and begin to fall back. Then laugh at it. Big belly laughs. Fear does not like to be laughed at and will fall back even more.
    Step 3 under “DO”. Ask to be led to, shown, the perfect response at this moment. We live by current present moments not future ones. Our point of action is in this moment, which could be to sit still and listen. In this present moment ask yourself this qualifying question, “For what purpose?”, for any and all anticipated actions you might take. Be brutally honest here with your answers. What is your heart’s, your soul’s, desire here? What does your wisdom body tell you? Whatever the action, can you feel a sense of rightness in your anticipated action, a sense of “yes”, somewhere in the body? Fear, as ego, shouts demanding recognition. But spirit whispers. You have to find the calm inside to listen for the whisper….. and then feel it. ACIM – “The Holy Spirit’s Voice is as loud as your willingness to listen.”
    (T-8,VIII,8.7)
    Step 4 under “DO”. Take the now identified action trusting yourself. Have the conviction that you can identify the next right step, for you and all concerned, and then follow thru on it.
    Step 5 under “DO”. Stay the course. When doubt arises, as it will, look at it in the face (doubt does have a face), smile, and say “Thanks anyway but I have to go.” Repeat the 3 C’s process of stabilized forward movement: courage – desire and discipline to think right and act right, care – love yourself enough to do what needs doing without beating yourself up and leaving black marks, and conviction – that you are on your soul’s journey and not merely just a physical one. If you capitulate to fear and fall in that same hole, or fear filled response, the third and forth time life will continue to send you back to school to relearn the lesson. Graduate and earn your 3C’s diploma.

  66. Fear of not having enough money…
    Reorganize/Positive Outlook – I have everything I need and I can do with less. I have to remind myself that abundance flows into my life!

  67. I have been feeling afraid I will never live out my full true potential. I see that I am taking many steps daily to walk towards that and hear my ~ing, so this is a lie! It was not made up by love, and therefore not real. I choose to have faith in love and surrender. I forgive this fear and wrap it in love and compassion

  68. I’m always afraid that I’m doing something wrong & something bad is going to happen as a result & will make me regret

  69. I’m 66 and chose to be a mother as opposed to a career…very little social security. We went completely broke 7 years ago and although the bills get paid, we cannot seem to get ahead…we own our own small business. My husband is younger than me, works from can to can’t and still… I’m terrified we will end up on welfare when he can no longer work and somehow it will be partially my fault because I chose a home and kids instead of a career. At my age, there just don’t seem to be a lot of choices younger people would have in this situation. Laugh…how?

  70. Your skin is so glowy. What is your secret?

    My biggest fear right not has to do with it being midterm week. I am in grad school and haven’t been in school in awhile and I’m worried I won’t do well. It really is a tiny mad idea because I have so much time on my hands to ensure I complete all my work and I have great people around to proof read for me. I also am pretty smart and take the time to complete my tasks. I truly can’t fail.

  71. I’m scared that I won’t fulfill my potential.

    This fear feels extremely overwhelming now that I’ve put it out there. It doesn’t look funny at all. It feels very real.

  72. Fear of not taking any actions toward my goals; fear of dreaming big; fear of wanting a better life; fear of making mistakes with my kids; fear that I will not be with “the love of my life”; fear of not finding my purpose in life; fear of living small; fear of unknown.

    I think that will do it :)

  73. I am afraid of truly surrendering to Love…I feel this odd need to control my life through old thoughts and vices and remain stuck in a familiar pattern…

  74. I am afraid of becoming so overweight that my health and life will suffer. (Even though I have never been so overweight that I cannot run and swim and bike and hike and compete in triathlons and I have always been healthy.)

    I am afraid of being alone and closed off to love. (Though I am not presently dating, I am not alone, I have plenty of friends and family and am surrounded by love. I have had great relationships in the past and there is no reason to believe this will not happen in the future)

  75. I fear I will not be able to fully experience and hold success in my life. I’m afraid this fear will cause me to settle for a livelihood/career that does not live up to my highest potential and stifle my creative and financial well being. Ultimately, it is a fear of failure and a deep rooted belief that I am not good enough. The funny thing is I am experiencing success. I am moving closer to my ideal career and right livelihood every day. I know I am good enough. However, my ego wants me to be perfect. It wants perfection immediately. It’s a silly expectation because perfection often comes from making mistakes. Failing and mistakes will lead you right to success if you allow yourself to learn and grow from them. Allowing myself to take a chance, make a mistake and possibly fail is empowering!
    Thank you for the space to share.

  76. Holy crap, I just had a breakthrough. Here I am sitting at my computer asking myself, “what am I afraid of” when my inner guide (or what I call my high-femme or goddess) said “you are afraid of changing your eating habits and exercising because you’re afraid of any commitment that creates restriction”… so now I’m like ok well… what are ways that I can change my eating/exercise habits so that they make me feel free and expansive? Thanks for the breakthrough Gabby <3.

    Congratulations on your marriage!!

    1. I have this same fear. Now that you point it out it might be my biggest and I really really want to overcome it. I think I am going to break it down into the tiny mad idea it is.

  77. I have a fear of not having friends. Perhaps it’s a fear of rejection in friendship. But its mostly applicable to specific people who mean a lot to me. I don’t deal well with being rejected by someone I care about. I get unreasonably depressed and obsessed with why. What did I do wrong?

    1. Ditto BJ. I’m so afraid if that I make all the plans with my friends and if always has to be something super fun. Then I get depressed when no one calls me to hang out.

  78. That my husband is going to cheat on me again. It’s funny because there’s no reason for him to and we’re in a great and new place! Why would he?! (It’s only half funny but I’ll work on it 😉 !!!!! Lol) xoxo

  79. TELLING THE WORLD ABOUT MY LIFE IN THE MEMOIR THAT I AM WRITING. I’VE GONE SO FAR AS TO WRITE SEVEN CHAPTERS AND THE LITTLE VOICE CONSTANTLY SAYS, WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS? YOU HAVE NOTHING TO SAY. YOU’RE GOING TO MAKE A FOOL OUT OF YOURSELF. YOU WILL BE JUDGED.

  80. Hi Everyone,
    For years I have been uncomfortable leaving the house or going too far from it. I have been trying to figure out what I am afraid of and I guess it’s having things happen that aren’t in my control and being out of my comfort zone. On the positive side -I am feeling stronger and know that I have grown and have learned who I am. But I really want to be carefree again and start living without worry. Any thoughts?

    Best Wishes Gabby
    Nameste

  81. My ego is making me fear that I will feel fat and heavy forever and never feel comfortable enough and never look good enough to do the things I truly love like dancing performing and acting.
    But at the moment acting and stepping out of my comfort zone and showing the world who I truly am scares me even more. I am frozen by fear.
    Thats probably why I’m carrying weight in the first place to protect me! Hahahahahah how STUPID!! I’m protecting myself from being awesome, far out thats silly. What do I do! :/

  82. I have a medical condition which causes a lot of nerve pain in my body, when this pain gets unbearable I have a fear that it will never go away, that I will never be able to do the things that I love to do again. With this also comes the fear of being misunderstood, or not believed (because the condition is invisible).

  83. I’m afraid the obsession the eat dirty food will not leave me this time like it did the first time I stopped binging. Surrender…. I release the ego’s tiny mad ideas about my body and ask for a shift in my perception. Amen.

  84. I am currently five weeks pregnant. I’ve been pregnant before and I lost my baby when I was on the 8th week. Right now I’m terrified of loosing this baby. How can I laugh about this gigantic fear?

    1. Maria,

      As much as I appreciated this vlog, I think that it only addresses fears that a person can laugh at, and maybe ‘smile’ at would be better … but then there are others that we have to support ourselves through and adding that in would make sense to this vlog. Some people have posted things that really are not able to be treated by laughing. I’m not ‘judging’ necessarily Gabrielle’s vlog or maybe I am but I think this vlog needed a bit more context to it. The things the author might be sharing with her friends and laughing about might not be at the same level of some of the things mentioned here (a person’s dog dying, losing your job, and your fear of losing your baby) and I think that should be acknowledged and maybe even a follow-up vlog done on this to address that.

      We all make mistakes and I’m sure Gabrielle is reading these comments and didn’t mean to be flippant.

      Best of luck to you! … Phillip Moffit has some really good thoughts on fears …

      Cat

  85. I fear that people don’t like me.
    I fear that I won’t get my homework done.
    I fear that I won’t be able to fulfill all that the Universe wants me to.
    I fear that I will cycle backwards.
    I fear that I will drown in inertia.
    I fear that I am not good enough.
    I fear that I am insane, sometimes.
    I fear that people think I am crazy.
    I fear that sometimes I have pushed people so far away that they are gone.
    I fear social situations and making small talk.
    I fear being judged.

    I am realizing, I have many small fears. I try to live in Love, but wake-up ANXIOUS almost everyday. Hmm.

  86. A Suggestion

    This is a generous message and super vlog.
    However here’s a small alternative idea:

    Thinking and talking yourself out of fear – is to use the ego mind to judge your ego mind.

    So, rather than “talking” yourself out of the ‘fear’ by using your ego mind or that of your friend, to rationalise why the fear is irrational – instead, just “feel” it.

    Don’t run, don’t resist, don’t try to ‘detach’ from the fear by thinking and talking about it and poking fun at it- instead clearly identify the fear as unreal by going through it – going into it and feeling it.

    In so doing, be present to it, watch it, bear witness to it and be fully conscious of it – dont’ resist it by talking yourself out of it with someone else. Unless your friend is someone who is fully present, conscious and aware, the risk is inviting someone else’s ego (‘your fear is silly’), to talk to your ego (you’re going to lose your job, you’re going to lose your job, you’re going to lose your job!!!!!).

    After some moments of feeling the fear that you have cleary identified in your head – the laughter and insanity of the fear is not that the event won’t happen (as you may in fact lose your job) – the insanity is that even if the feared event does happen – you won’t die.

    You will hopefully realise the truth that even if the feared event happens (you do in fact lose your job, your partner does leave you, someone who is terminally ill does eventually pass into the light etc) – you witness the truth that the event itself won’t kill you (is all fear really just a fear of death) and that you will be fine – regardless.

    In that moment – you will hopefully awaken to the truth of acceptance that no matter what happens, the Holy Spirit ( your ‘Ing’) always ‘has your back’ in the face of future unforeseen events we cannot predict or control. But we can do something about them in the here and now, in the present moment, by being still, witnessing the fear through feeling it (ie. not thinking about it and trying to ‘detach’ from it as a form of resistance) and consciously choosing to ask the Holy Spirit (your ‘ING’) – for divine guidance on it.

    If you are supposed to do something about this ‘fear’ – have faith that you will receive intuitive guidance (eg: you will be motivated to ask your boss for clarity on your job’ security or you will have an idea on what you can do to make money, or how to rekindle your partnership/marriage and/or start looking for a new job).

    Fear is not to be rationalised away and detached from – fear is an energy to be transcended and transformed. Christ feared his own crucifixion well before it happened; he expressed his fear to his disciples who all ‘thought’ he was wrong. Christ however chose to embrace the cross and transcended it. As A Course in Miracles says, the Crucifixion shows why no-one need ever go down that path again as it is has already been done and transcended.

    There is thus no need to avoid fear by resisting it through ‘thinking’ about it (ego – mind – fear) and detaching from it. Is fear thus in fact an energy that is to be transcended by us and thereby transformed into love throughout the world – by choosing to consciously walk through it with our eyes wide open through our feeling it – rather than just thinking and talking about it? Does more thinking and talking (the ego fear in the mind never stops talking and thinking!) instead have the opposite effect of burying fear deeper so it can grow to sprout bigger, later on?

    Instead of giving fear about a future event that may or may not happen – to a friend for two minds (two egos) to think and talk about it – why not consciously feel it and surrender it to the Holy Spirit (‘ING’)?

    Losing your job may well happen; your partner may indeed leave you.
    But the ‘fear’ energy and meaning that is attached to it – is not real. Hence that is the insanity. Are you attached to your job as defining who you are? Are you attached to your partner as your only source of love? Are all fears in fact manifestations of hidden attachments to material aspects of this world which each of us think we will die from, if we have lost or are about to lose them?

    As Tolle says – the trick of life is to die before you die, and realise there is no death.

    As Marianne Williamson says – darkness must be brought to the light.

    So, instead of detaching from your fear by using the ego mind to ‘think’ about it and ‘talk’ about it (with someone else’s ego mind) – why not alternatively choose to bring your fear, in whatever form it is tempting you – to the Holy Spirit (your “ING”)?

    Thank you for your great vlogs – please keep them coming.

    Blessings xo

  87. I’m newly married and am scared I married the wrong man. I love him but there are many things we don’t see eye to eye on. In the past I over looked them but I think the permanence of being married is making me magnify our differences in my head. I want these feelings of doubt to go away so I can be my happy, fun loving self. But they are taking over my thoughts and making me question every decision I’ve ever made. I’m not sure how to laugh this one off…other than focus on all the reasons I love my husband and all the positives in our relationship. I have some serious spiritual work to do because I constantly second guess myself at just about everything. But buried beneath all the noise and fear I have a lot of hope and a lot of love to give.

    1. Sam, here’s hoping you see this. I’m always more-than-fashionably late to these things…
      This is a hard one, but I think it’s something *everyone* deals with and I feel like I have those exact same thoughts anytime I let fear seep in. It seems to be a hallmark in human society that we can’t live in close quarters with someone else without eventually going crazy about some aspect of them. Staying positive is one of the big things; you chose him for a reason and have to keep those reasons in mind. Sometimes, people change and those reasons no longer apply, but I believe this is rare. On the other hand, according to Harville Hendrix’s Getting the Love You Want, you also chose him for other reasons you wouldn’t believe except for the open-mindedness helped by your (and mine, in my personal case) connection to Gabby and therefore The Course: You chose him because of your guilt and your hurt. Many times, we illogically and unconsciously choose partners that have qualities we know will hurt us because we want to confront and release those fears. He gives examples, like you had a father who was distant, so you chose a husband who is “clingy”. Of course, this opposite extreme eventually leads you to being annoyed and frustrated by *too much* attention instead of too little. But it’s not his fault; you made the choice. The real key is not changing him but getting over your fears; maybe that one day he won’t be so attentive and you’ll be left alone again. The other extreme is that you chose an inattentive partner and didn’t realize *how* inattentive he was until now. But that’s still not his fault. Communication is key, in expressing your fears, making sure he can validate, reflect, and empathize with them, and accepting that he doesn’t *not* love you and isn’t angry with you; he is who he is and your perception of his actions is a reflection of your spiritual turmoil. Try Gabby’s method here. He is there to help you be happy, so you can work through it together. Tell him, not accusingly, that you feel a certain way due to some way he or you interacts and that you think it is insane and illogical. Figure out why and laugh about it. For example, if he raises his voice when he’s frustrated *at* something else, but you feel attacked, the insanity is that your ego is telling you that something is wrong with *you* and *you* are why he is agitated. The insanity is that he wasn’t even talking about you, but your ego somehow changed the whole subject. The insanity is that *his* ego made him agitated about something that is probably silly and not a risk to either of you due to some other fear (like fear of the extra time/effort required to “fix” the problem), which led to your ego’s reaction! These chain reactions build on themselves but neither start or end as anything that truly matters. So laugh about it. Be happy that he feels like he has someone he can talk to, however indirectly, about his fear. And realize that your happy, fun-loving self is one of the things he saw when he chose you, whether or not his consciousness things it is a good thing.

  88. I have a fear of not being in control of the outcomes! Today is my birthday and in the past few days I have realized that I even get nervous when I don’t know about GOOD surprises – for example surprise parties, gifts I don’t know people are getting for me, etc. How silly is this?! Who even wants to be in control of that stuff? I need to let go and let the Universe (and my family and friends) surprise me with amazing, wonderful things! :)

    PS. Congrats, Gabby! The wedding looked beautiful! Loved the pics of you giving blessings to your guests- I felt the blessings through my phone!

  89. Thank you Gabby for this video! It’s timing is so ridiculously on par with what I am working on right now! FEAR this simple four letter word has crippled me in so many ways – but no more! I no longer give it energy, power or control over me! as I breathe this fear out of me, I am thankful for all that I have, I am grateful for all the lessons I learn and I am excited and empowered to make the changes necessary now and moving forward to becoming my authentic self and embracing happiness, success and LOVE! x

  90. I am afraid my relationship 24 year old daughter will never be the same. She is judging me for something but she doesn’t have all the information. If she had all of the information, she would think badly of her father. She hasn’t spoken to me for almost 3 weeks and it breaks my heart because we have always been so close.

  91. Owning up to mine: I am afraid that I’ll never get out of my own way. I am afraid of taking responsibility for my own life and happiness! Which is insane, a “tiny, mad idea,” because I am my own obstacle. If I can be my ally, if I can believe in myself, I can step out of the way of my destiny and birthright.

  92. I’m afraid I’ll never get pregnant. I’m 37, trying for two years, and suffer from PCOS. I’m so anxious about not being able to achieve my dream. I feel like I’m not special like my friends and other women who get pregnant so easily

  93. I am afraid not to finding the right path of love and happiness during this lifetime… and I am afraid of not living the fullest I could.

  94. Hi Gabby!
    Amazing vlog, as always!
    I am afraid to continue being lost while trying to reach my Element.
    I am afraid to not be wealthy enough as I want to do good things with this financial, spiritual and entrepreneurial wealth. I know I will do great things, that I matter, I am just afraid to be afraid to live my truth.
    Love,
    Claire

  95. I just started my own part-time business and I am terrified that I will have no customers at all. In the mean time I am looking for a new day job as I was made redundant two weeks ago. I am afraid that I will have to settle for a job again that is less fulfilling than the dream job I had in mind and where I worked so hard for the past few years. I now I am good enough but still I am afraid that the path I am on is leading nowhere. Super silly stuff:)

  96. I’m afraid of not finding a house to live in soon.
    just writing this here makes me feel empowered and confident that I will, something is coming, and I’m right where I need to be now.

  97. I am afraid that I will lose my health. Which, is crazy because every doctor I go to has told me that my health is great, I have nothing to worry about, the only thing out of whack is my cortisol (stress hormone) which is high ONLY because I am having anxiety about my healthy (which, again, is fine).
    It’s like I am chasing my tail and creating a problem where there is none!
    At 34 your body reacts differently to stimuli but that does not mean it’s falling apart, only that it’s evolving.
    Last time I checked, evolution brought us from amoebas to fully developed humans…it’s a go(o)d thing! :)
    Phew! I DO feel better!
    xoxo

  98. I fear I will freeze during interviews and and completely loose all capability to get my point across. Basically I will look silly and not be enough. Thank you for this Gabby! xoxo Kim

    1. I have a bunch of fears, usually money related. And I’ve been in many of the situations people are discussing here.
      I get the laughing at it thing, but when you are deep in it, it’s hard to step out of it like that and get perspective.
      For me, I walk myself through ‘what would happen if my fears are realized’ scenarios. For example, if I have a monetary loss (current fear) what then? Declare bankruptcy (BTW already did it!). Get a second job? Cash in a 401K? Sell the house (it’s just a house, it’s not my child-I can live in an apartment)? Get a cheaper car? Move in with my parents temporarily? Sometimes when you take yourself through the reality of what you’d do, you realize you’d do whatever it takes and you’d be just fine. Yes you’d sacrifice ‘stuff’ and it would be hard, but it wouldn’t be over. You keep living…and learning…and growing. And then one day you look back and you’re in a better place. You gotta believe that everything you go through is the thing you’re supposed to be going through. To learn and grow and be a better person, a better soul. Keep moving forward, follow your instinct and above all you gotta STAY POSITIVE. We all break down from time to time and have a little pity party for ourselves but don’t give it more than you should. Keep the positive affirmations going the other 99% of the time.

  99. My fear is this project I am managing is going to be a total disaster and I’m going to be into a constant state of fix-it upon rollout.

  100. I am afraid of never being able to fully support myself doing a career that is fulfilling to me.
    I have a fear of being ordinary – I want to do extraordinary things in this life.

  101. My fear is that the person I want to be with does not want me. I have a feeling we will be together eventually, and I’m trying hard to keep the faith and be patient until the time is right, but we aren’t really talking right now, and it scares me.

  102. I’m definitely afraid of never realizing/deciding what it is I want to do in life, or what I’m called to do in life.

    But at the same time, I’m still so young. And I know that this is the time I should be exploring my passions and getting closer with myself and God and not worrying so much. I have a TON of passions – something good will come out of them, I’m sure!

  103. I have such a fear that my depression will come back that I bring it on through the anxiety it creates. Vicious cycle. Today I am going to try to laugh at the idea of my depression chasing me down the street. All I have to do is turn around and scream NO and watch it turn and walk away. That does sound pretty funny.

  104. I’m afraid of not finding a steady job after I graduate. I am graduating in December, going on an (unpaid) internship from January to the end of March, and after that is open for anything. I have time because of the internship to figure out what I am going to do, but I just want to start making money. I have ideas of little things I want to do: sign up for Institute of Integrative Nutrition, get my Group Fitness Certification, Pilates Certification, and teach group fitness classes somewhere – those are 4 of my goals. But none of them will really make real money. Money I can live off of. I’m feeling a little bit lost in that sense. But at the same time, I know I will have a good degree in Biology and I have this incredible internship opportunity in South Africa – maybe that will pave the way for a career? Here’s to hoping!

  105. Ok, I’m going to “put my ego out there”. I’m afraid of not being a successful light worker and failing in my business. I’m afraid to take up a job that I hate in order to make money while building my business and clientele because I’m afraid of not making enough money to support myself. I’m afraid of being alone and not being able to share my life with someone because I continue to attract men who are unable to love and support me in a mature and healthy relationship.

  106. I am afraid of my dream, which is to be a self-employed graphic designer. I want this so much! I seem unable to fully go for it though, procrastinating, wasting time. Maybe I am afraid of failure. And a little afraid of being successful. I’m afraid of never being fully independent (right now am dependent on parents). I’m afraid of being vulnerable in friendships and relationships.

    All of this is SO ridiculous that I’m trying to laugh at it. I have been holding back and it’s time to live in love and not in fear. Thanks for the video.

  107. I am most likely going to have to declare bankruptcy in my 5 year old business within the next few months. I’m afraid of the messy, complicated process, and the fact that I will be left with nothing.

  108. My fear is that I haven’t hit my bottom and it is hard to laugh about it after 4-1/2 years in recovery. My Son has 6 days today and I fear that if he makes it, I will end up failing both of us. Nothing to laugh about :(

    I hope this dosen’t get posted to my Facebook, as my annonimity was outted before from this sight in the reply you sent.
    Please use my email if you care too comment. Thanks Gab,
    Namaste’,
    Caren

  109. I am totally gripped with the fear that I will not ever be in a relationship. It has been about 7 years since I have been in a serious, deep relationship and I want that kind of connection so badly but have become almost convinced that it is not possible for me to have this because it has been so long and I have formed my identity around the story of being single. I find my ego doing a lot of crazy things with this fear. It will have me grip onto the concept of a romantic partner like it is the only good thing that is or could be in my life. It encourages me to isolate and then dramatizes my loneliness and makes it a bitter and embarrassing experience. Alternatively, it leads me to act out through casual hook ups. I am willing to see this differently. I am willing to see my romantic love with ease, abundance and joy.

  110. I’m scared of not doing well in school…of not getting perfect A’s in my Master’s program. I think i am scared of the embarrassment of not being the perfect version of myself that I want

  111. I am not going to settle for anymore flings because what I really want is a deep and intimate connection with someone. However, I’m afraid of getting involved with someone seriously because I don’t want to make all the same mistakes I made in my last relationship. This is silly because I have worked my butt off to become more aware of myself in this world listen to my inner guide, and make more intent choices. I deserve to try my best (whatever that is) and know that I will be supported no matter the outcome. As long as I keep doing what I’m doing I will be aware of certain paths that look familiar. I have changed so much, and I realize that change is inevitable and fear is nonsense. Ahhhh feels good to say it!

  112. What do I do if I out my fear, but it is only a “surface fear,” just covering up my true fear underneath?

    For example, my fear from today is that I will never be skinny again. Well, I feel like that is not what I am really afraid of. Instead, I am really afraid of maybe not being good enough, not finding myself attractive, etc., but I don’t know how to figure out what this underlying fear is!

    What do you suggest?

    Thank you, you are awesome!
    Namaste, Rachel

  113. Im so afraid of being cheated on that i keep sabotaging my relationship and always doubting that my boyfriend just wants me. It’s been better but it keeps hunting me. He is younger than me and i keep thinking all this crazy things of him leaving me for someone younger. My dad was a very macho creative liar and I know that is the root of that, but i have to get rid of this doubt because i deserve better!
    I’m also searching for my life path and feel lost, I’m a nanny and im good at it but I dont like my job and want something better and that i feel passionate about and I fear that I’ll be stuck in this still place I’m in right now.
    Help!

  114. I fear I won’t make any new friends, I moved across the country been here for two months, finding it so hard to be courageous and get myself out there to even start socializing.

  115. Iam pregnant (planed), my partner of 7 years broke up with me on the phone after 2 weeks of knowing that iam pregnant. I am in a different country because of him, i dont speak the language and i just came out of career change means i have a job which cant support me and the baby. I have to decide till tomorrow if i want to keep the baby. My fear is to make the wrong decision

  116. I fear that I failed my marriage, and that if we decide to divorce I fear I will be alone the rest of my life and will never truly have the family I desire, and the closeness I desire with another person.

  117. I’m afraid of death! It’s so final when we are here without that special person/friend. My dog is getting old and it scares me! I’ve lost about 6 dogs and it’s very tough when they’re gone.

  118. My ego has me in fear that I won’t spend my time wisely. I’m in a consistent mild panic that I’ll “waste” my time and live a mediocre, uninspired, boring existence. This is insane! It’s only the fear that could make this so because I lose the beauty of just being when I’m in that space. Now that I’m writing this I see that it’s also part of my ego’s need to be special and “above-average” which puts me in competition with my brothers and sisters that I am here to love. It’s a competition with no winners. Darn you crafty ego!

  119. I am scared of failure. I just started a yoga teacher training course and can’t seem to find confidence in myself when teaching. I want to succeed so badly for a better future for myself and my family.

    1. Hi Lauren,
      I had that same fear when I was in my yoga teacher training 12 years ago. My fear came especially when I adjusted people. I was so nervous that they would feel my fear and anxiety. Then before one of my observation teaching classes, I prayed for God to go through me, to my students and not let them feel my fear only His love. After the class, 3 students approached me at separate times and said, “I felt so much love coming from you when you came by and adjusted me.” I knew then that my teaching yoga was a talent God had given me to serve others. I found my confidence by giving it up to God and knowing that I was doing exactly what I should be doing in service to help others feel good and love. I hope this helps. Enjoy your training!

  120. I am fearful that my spending habits are putting me in a scary path of self sabotage. I use spending like I used to use alcohol and I fear I’m out if control.

  121. I really want to leave my job teaching music to perform full-time, but I’m afraid that if I choose to leave I will a) not make a living as a performer b) will damage my current relationships with my students/parents in trying to leave c) will have to return to teaching and will struggle again to find students if they don’t want to take me back d) the fact that i would have to return to teaching is not fun in itself!

  122. Great video, wise words Gabby. As per our brief chat in NYC, I would love to do an interview on WomenOnTheFence.com. Your voice is very relevant- our community looks for strategies to get unstuck, off the fence, and thriving in life, and I think you represent this so perfectly. I look forward to hearing back. You may also view other interviews at http://WomenOnTheFence.com/category/interviews.

    Thanks Gabby!

    Hugs,
    Erica

  123. I fear I won’t be able to survive financially post-divorce. I fear that I will continue to spin in a career I hate, just b/c it’s ‘all I know’ and provides a decent income (security). I fear I’ll never be never find happiness, though I try so very hard to.

  124. I recently “realized” that I am in love with an ex-boyfriend. The bigger part of me knows that he feels the same way and that we are meant to be, but another part of me feels that we have gone thru this many times in this lifetime and in past lives and for some reason it doesn’t stick.

    I am open and receptive to love, but I don’t know if I am cheating myself by being open and receptive to love in general or if I should just stick to focusing on Brian.

    I am afraid of not fully focusing on what I want and then it not manifesting.

  125. I have a fear of being accepted and understood in my vision. I have had a successful children’s and prenatal yoga studio but I feel guided to open a new business that inspires. I want to help people find their happiness. I can see The Spirit Room clearly in my mind, buy verbally communicating my message is incredible difficult. People who know me constant tell me that I have a gift in finding balance in life and pointing it out in a helpful way. But when anyone asks what do you do? I immediately get heart palpitations and begin to feel uncomfortable. I normally just say, “I teach yoga” and leave it at that. Yoga is about a tenth of what I do and want to do, but it does not require me to explain. How do I clear my anxiety with discussing my path and fear of judgement?

    1. Amy, it’s good you recognize it is your fear of judgement (but maybe other fears are there, too) as the culprit. I think the insanity there is that your ego is telling you other people’s thoughts about you and your capabilities actually have some affect on your being. But that’s very illogical (the ego’s specialty!) because if you really were that afraid of what other people thought, you wouldn’t be doing it in the first place! You are on the path already, something that so many others struggle with even starting. There are others on the path you *want* to be on, and they probably feel the same as you toward their next goal! Every step will tempt new fears, but you have the advantage that the fears you have beaten should make the new ones easier to handle. You learned yoga, and the naysayers (including your ego!) didn’t stop you; you opened your own studio, and the naysayers didn’t stop you; you will __________, and the naysayers won’t stop you!
      Maybe your real fear is that *they won’t listen*. You want to get your message out, but either don’t know how to articulate it or that people won’t hear what you want them to hear, or that they won’t listen either way, or a hundred thousand other things. Well, you can’t control that. They will understand when they are ready to understand. You can’t identify who will listen and who won’t until you get it out there. Some will be ready, possibly many more will not. Their insanity is that they are probably AFRAID of accepting or following your path because it might invalidate their own or force them to face uncomfortable truths. But hey, that’s a key point in finding happiness, which is what you want to do all along! So for all you know, they bash your ideals all over the sidewalk, and you go home sad, and they go home feeling bad or angry, churn over their outburst in their minds with their guilt, and eventually recognize that their fears are controlling them and need to be faced to allow them their happiness. Mission accomplished 😀
      I love responding to these because I see my own fears here, and feel like it gives me a way to express and then address my own fears and insanity! You know what my biggest one probably is? That I’m a hypocrite because I can talk all this and hopefully provide a motivating message to others…but doing it myself is infinitely harder. How’s that for insanity?!

  126. I fear not being physically good enough/unattractive. I fear not being successful, that I will not amount to anything of success. I fear not having enough money && always struggling.

  127. Gabby, I feel like I should congratulate you. I am very happy for you, but am at the same time very confused. One thing I haven’t figured out yet even though I am mostly through MCM and have started Disappearance of the Universe and The Universe is a Dream: how does marriage work under the Course’s principles? Isn’t the very act of choosing one person as a partner almost the definition of a special relationship? Is it just an ok choice to make if it assists you both on your spiritual journeys? Conversely, I am very happy with my marriage but I have been challenged in figuring out how my relationship with my wife should exist compared to my relationships with others. I feel like acceptance that there is nothing special between us kind of invalidates the point of marriage. Maybe this is all just “special” thinking and I need to shift my viewpoint somehow…
    At least she is on this journey with me, but I’m maybe a bit afraid that we’re not going to come to the same realizations at the same time, so one of us could feel stranded because the other suddenly relinquishes special relationships and the other still feels the need for that support.

  128. Hi Gabby! I’m 21 years old but I’m afraid of ending alone and don’t find a good boy or don’t have the oportunity to live a good love story. Do you have any recomandation for me? Thanks a lot. I really enjoy and appreciate your job.

  129. I am fearful that I am not living an inspiring enough life. I have always felt like I was supposed to do my own thing to make my mark and make a difference. I have alway in the past started new initiatives because I have big ideas that are philanthropic and non-profit based or for start ups. I have a big innovative idea to create a prototype that will help with runner safety but have fear about when to start it, who to connect with as well as who would be interested in serving as my mentor. I also, work full time at an ad agency and am growing so much and able to help so many different companies. I have fear about when the right time to do it is, who to connect with, as well as next steps.

  130. I am afraid as I feel I have so much to do. I have a new job in France and there’s so much to sort out. I am afraid that I won’t have enough money or things won’t go to plan. I am afraid that I won’t be able to sort my phone ,bank, flights out etc. I am willing to see how my ego is blowing these things out of proportion and I am willing to ask Spirit for help and for Peace xx

  131. I am affraid that I will always live with depresssion and anxiety. That I am not strong enough to win this battle. That I will not experience the feeling of true hapiness inside.

  132. I’m afraid that I will lose the guy I’m in love with because I don’t pursue him while I’m also afraid he doesn’t have the courage to pursue me.

  133. I so love this I will definitely have a laugh on my ego. I can see mySelf calling a friend and laughing together. I can also see sharing this insight. It is so freeing. Thanks

  134. I am in the process of separating from my husband.
    My fear is not being able to stand on my own feet with my current financial situation (I have a full time job but I need one that pays more). And other other is that I feel like I am losing the love of my life.

  135. Money and always trying to fill my own shoes. These two have taunted me all my life. My job is self fullfilling but not financially. I am always striving for success and the need to fill my shoes/others. What I mean is, is that I know many successful people and most I them are my personal greatest friends. They are very smart, intuitive, creative, successful, confident and $$$. Though, I always feel like I am the outsider (fear) because of my lack in many of these areas.

    I feel lost in my own mind at times!

    ????

    Lora

  136. I’m afraid of my student loans, and afraid that I am not smart enough to find a good job that I enjoy. But, I am still in school. These are irrational fears from the present that I am projecting into my future. Thanks for the video!

  137. I just got married in July, and I am so afraid of losing my new husband. I’ve been in multiple terrible relationships in the past, and my parent’s divorce was devastatingly long and painful, and I find myself scarred from these experiences. The fear of both of these things resurrecting themselves in my marriage is paralyzing.

    1. these fears are not real. they are based on past experiences that are not your current reality. it is time for you to accept that you can re-write the script and have a life that is different than your past or your parent’s experience. you can claim a new experience now. celebrate your marriage and every day pray to release your fears. one day at a time surrender your fears and accept the greatness of your new marriage. i also recommend that you read (or re-read) the power of now by ekhart tolle. that book is perfect for where you are right now. http://amzn.to/1gVhMQ2

      1. Thank you Gabby… How inspiring to have gotten a response from you. Your words are reassurance that if I listen to my ~ing and surrender my fears and reach out, I will be guided to what I need. Your message is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you for all that you and your work have done for me so far.

  138. I am afraid of my student loans, that they will cripple my future. I am afraid the I will not be good enough to land a nice job. However, I am still in school. These fears are not rooted in anything that is real- I know I am allowing fear to root itself into my future, which does not exist yet. Thank you for the video!

  139. Well….here goes nothing.

    At 42, I am sitting here feeling I am at rock bottom….all because of something I have carried since I was 21.

    I had just walked in from my summer waitressing job after working the breakfast shift. My mother was waiting for me with “something she felt she had to share” (Some background, I was mostly raised by mother/stepfather and 4 half siblings….they were hippies when I was younger than became overnight Fundamental Christians when I was in my early teen years due to “seeing the devil” during a drug binge) My parents, at this time, were attending a church that embraced pre-destination, end times, the Rapture, etc. Sooo…my mother shared, that after talking with her pastor, my old Sunday School teachers (I had stopped going to their church at 18), and the church elders that HER punishment for raising me as a “hippy ungodly child” was that I was forever, completely, and utterly “unsavable” and “would be sent to the pits of hell upon my death” That no matter what I accomplished in my life or what good deeds I did….I was unlovable in the eyes of God. (“Jacob have I loved but Esu have I hated” and all that)

    I wish I could tell you that I laughed if off…but inside my head the whole time she was “lovingly” sharing this with me I was thinking, “of course…this all makes sense now…my innate sense of not being good enough…of being different…outside…well…..yes…THIS was the reason…it was my biggest fear made tangible….that I was flawed/cursed/inwardly deformed and completely unlovable….even by those that were supposed to love me unconditionally.

    I could on about the effects of this…but I won’t. Needles to say, I am a workaholic perfectionist who pleases everyone but herself…whose EVERY life decision comes from a place of fear…like a wild animal trapped in the corner fighting for their life. I value security…don’t take risks….and being “irresponsible” is not an option. I feel like a walk around with a scarlet “U” tattoo (Unlovable/Unworthy) that I keep hidden under my clothes.

    I am having a hard time, honestly, trying to laugh at this..unless hysteria counts as laughing-LOL. But I just bought your MCM book today…so hopefully this will bring me to a place of peace and at least self tolerance (self love is a bit of stretch for me right now)

    Blessed Be!

  140. I am a 32 yrs old and have slowly become addicted to my migraine medicine. Was not intentional but cannot go a day without. Has been years. I feel like an awful wife and mother and think all day about this. It is so engraved in my mind that I cannot go without it or will feel too weird if that makes sense. How do I change my thoughts when this is all I think about? Want to get through this so bad but am extremely anxious. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

  141. My fear is that I will not find my way in this world. With that, I mean my way to make money and be happy. Have been on sickleave for 2 years, simply because working without passion makes me super sad. I have not degree, and could, if I wanted to, get one. But I do not know what to do with my self in this world. I’m so stuck, and have been all my adult life. So that is my fear, that even how hard I am trying to find my passion and bliss, and to find a way to survive on it, I am not moving forward. We live in a material world, and I don’t fit in anywhere. Just leaching on daddy government..and it helps now reducing the stress, but still, the fear of not getting out of this is paralyzing.

  142. I am afraid that I will never discover what my passion is, and I will continue to live a mediocre life. I am afraid that this is it.

  143. Hi Gabby,

    Congratulations on getting married — you two make such a beautiful couple and serve as an amazing example of fearless unconditional love and commitment. In ‘May Cause Miracles’ you mentioned that you were guided to revisit the relationship with your boyfriend, now husband. Could you please elaborate how this guidance came to you at the time and how you knew you could trust it? Thanks so much :-)

  144. I’m afraid of rejection / Fear of Money…weird b/c I’m a people magnet and people seem quite drawn to me in a likeable manner and I was just blessed with a large sum of money mysteriously in my bank account!

  145. My fear….I am now studying this new world of mine for 6 years now….I have lots of books and attended many ,many seminars & lectures. I just came back from Sedona , Arizona I attended an amazing retreat with communicating with Angels, I meditated in the most powerful vortexes. Now the lady who held the retreat feels that her & I can start our own lectures and seminars. Which I am so excited about because my passion is spreading LOVE & LIGHT!! my fear is will I be good enough for her & the people??? Which I do know I can help people because I started with myself & now all i witness is miracles everyday! Living here in Staten Island has been my challenge because i deal with a lot of catholics and they”re extremely closed minded, how i know this is because was once there myself….Gabby can I borrow some of your confidence & the way you inspire everyone??? I seen you for the first ti,e this October before I left for Sedona and GIRL you so speak my language!!! BRAVO!!!!! You def are a star seed !!!!

  146. I reached my breaking point and quit my job last week. I am starting my own career services business but I am afraid 1) it won’t be successful and 2) I won’t have enough money. Right now I am being supported by my husband both financially and emotionally.

  147. My fear is school. I went through a year of college and took a semester off. My fear led me to believe I would fail at my program and to stay a hairstylist. I want to continuing school without those fears. I prayed to god give me guidance to where I should go. Monday morning my dietetic program called me to schedule my classes. All I have to say is… Freaky. I’m continuing to ask for guidance and notice my fears, but for some reason, the school illusion really set me back. I have to let that go.

  148. Hi Gabby,
    So im outing my fears as you suggested. I just stared dating an old friend from high school and he thus far seems like the guy iv been waiting for all my life. But with that said I have this really bad fear some how ill mess things up. or that he wont want a relationship with me. Most guys drool all over me but he doesn’t do that. Which is one of the reasons I really like him but at the same time its making me insecure. I try laughing at “the tiny mad ideas” but they keep coming up. I noticed it gets worse if we don’t talk for a day. Im not the obsessive type so i don’t know whats happening here.

  149. my fear is based on my children, if they get hurt or sick. I just have a hard time with dealing with that. I guess my fear is any mothers fear. I just love my kids so much. I also fear that I lost the love and feeling for my job. I am a high school teacher and the kids are not what they used to be. I do love being a teacher but it is so hard with the youth of today. I fear for what this means for our world.

  150. i’m afraid that I’ll gain weight this Holiday season. I’m afraid that if I tell my boyfriend I love him for the first time, he won’t say it back. I’m afraid I won’t get the job I applied for.

  151. My family is visiting from out of town and I am scared to see them today. I am scared that I will lose control and fall into arguing and negativity. I am worried that I will be a bad example of myself, that they will judge and criticize me, and that I will be doing something I don’t want to do and going against my internal knowing. I am worried they will be able to take away the beautiful life I have built for myself here just by entering it somehow.

    I know this is silly! I know that nothing is happening in my experience that isn’t for my highest good. I know no one can take my life away from me, I have built it with so much love and intention. I know that I am fully capable of maintaining a high vibration regardless of what other vibrations I run into and that their only choice is to match me or not be here. I know that they would not be entering my physical world today if they weren’t on a high vibrational level and ready to spend time with me for all of our highest good. I can still follow my intuition and take breaks to stay positive like I do every other day. I know that thinking about what they’re going to do wrong is taking the power out of my hands and I know that I definitely have the power to make this is a pleasant, mutually beneficial interaction. I know that I am flanked with so much non-physical and physical support that nothing can really go wrong at all.

    Thanks!

  152. i am afraid of not being good enough. Now that i am getting a divorce after getting married on february, i am afraid of starting over, of not finding my true soulmate. I am afraid of staying in this black whole of huge numerous debt i accumulated during that awful relationship. i am afraid of not being able to move forward and up and be truly happy.

  153. Hi….
    I had been suffering from a mental disorder for the past 5 years
    I am practising sadhana, daily meditation practice since long and its really amazingly effective because now I am the happiest person I know!…..wohoooooo……
    But I discovered that I fear that the unknown fears and that really sad experience could occur again…….
    So I really want to laugh at the ego’s tiny mad idea because
    Whatever happened in the past was necessary to bring me where I am today…
    Because I know welll how to handle my feelings and annoying situations…..
    Because every set back is a spiritual assignment
    Because I am the happiest person I know…..
    Oh my god I have so many “because” to laugh at….
    Thankyou gabrielle for this wonderful video

  154. I had suffered from a mental diorderfor the past 5 years
    I hadbeen practising sadhana, daily meditation since long and it has been a really amazing experience because I am thehappiet person I know!
    But somewhere there was a fear that that the unknown fears that occured during that time and the sad experiences could occur again…
    But I want to laugh at the ego’s tiny mad ideas…
    Because the past was necessary to bring me where I am today.. ( I wounldn’t have been watching this video and getting this wonderful tip)
    Because I know how to handle me feelings and annoying situations
    Ecause I am the happiest person I know…
    Wow I have so many reasons to laugh….wohoooooo…
    I thankyou gabrielle with all my heart for this video and everything…..

  155. I fear losing control of myself and going crazy/violent, especially when I am alone and when I am driving. I guess my true fear is that I do not feel comfortable with the body sensations and thoughts that come along with it.
    I do not feel secure inside myself.

  156. I’m afraid to write my book and tell my story. I know I am supposed to but I am afraid no one wants to hear what I have today. That It won’t be any good. That I will fail. Again. Wow. It didn’t feel that way in my heart. In my heart I was just afraid.

  157. The biggest fear troubling me lately is a fear that my boyfriend will lose interest/leave me. I was so confident early in our relationship but have slipped into insecurity, which is creating even more fear that my insecurity will ruin the relationship and drive him away! I’m having difficulty even accepting the love he does give me because I am reading into every move, word or gesture he makes. I then fear that my discomfort is my intuition telling me that this is not the right partner for me (fantasy of the ideal partner that will save me, perhaps?) Beneath that is a fear of being alone. I pray to be released from this debilitating fear and to allow myself to be happy and confident and enjoy my relationship and trust that I am loved and supported no matter what! I want my old faith and confidence back!

  158. I’ve been on disability for 3 years due to multiple sclerosis, and need to return to work due to financial hardships….I’m terrified to get back out there because I feel not good enough, or I feel like I’m a loser, even though deep down inside I know I’m great at what I do, with over 20 years of experience under my belt……I feel trapped in my “comfort” zone due to my paralyzing fears :(

  159. I am completely afraid to begin my legal practice. After law school I worked for a few years, but then stopped so that I could stay home and raise my children (which I do not regret). I feel paralyzed. I want to get back into my profession but feel unprepared and completely inadequate. It has been around 12 years since I last worked and by fears won’t let me proceed. I am afraid that I won’t be able to succeed. Who is going to want me as their attorney without any experience (this is the voice inside my head…total fear).

    1. I have a similar fear. I just qualified as a lawyer and also feel completely inexperienced and inadequate. I am terrified that I won’t be able to develop my own practice and that I will be fired from my firm. My firm is not in the best of shapes and I am afraid that if they let me go I don’t have the experience to be hired elsewhere or start on my own. I have worked hard to get where I am and I want to succeed but sometimes I get so scared that I will fail that I don’t even want to try.

  160. I got a job in a group home this weekend, I but petrified that I won’t be able to do it, even though to serve others has always been a constant dream, and intention, of mine after working 14 years in the beauty industry. I surrender this insanity. Sending love Gabby thank you.

  161. I’m afraid that i’ll never leave my abusive, unfulfilling, demoralizing job and that there’s nothing better out there for me. And that my husbands chronically severely painful illness will never get better. And that i’m stuck at this job because my husbands illness needs the benefits for medication.

  162. I’m afraid of not being good enough. Starting a new job on Monday & I’m procrastinating instead of preparing…sabotaging before I even begin because of that fear in the back of my mind that I will ultimately fail & be completely humiliated. I tell myself that everyone has such high expectations for me…but my own expectations are far higher…almost unreasonable…almost like I set myself up to fail so that it makes it okay for me to give up & quit before I put myself in a scary, new, or uncomfortable situation. Change is scary. Stepping up & showing up is scary for me right now…so I’m outing my fear & my ego so I can let it go. Waking up with pangs of anxiety is unnecessary. I choose to see love instead of fear.

  163. I am afraid that my love interest is not interested in me anymore. I have a hard time letting go of control and simply surrendering the outcome to the Universe. By commenting on here, I am showing my willingness to let go of this tight grip, and to get into a space of receptivity. I am willing to laugh at the negativity that is keeping me stuck.

  164. I am afraid that I will not be able to successfully start over after being in an abusive relationship and moving across the country to reset and get safe.

  165. I am afraid of dying. I love my life so much and every day I am plagued of thoughts that one day i will not be here. That scares me so much. How do I laugh at this fear when I know it is real and nothing can stop it from happening? I am meditating and reading and trying so many things. I wish so badly to sop thinking about this daily.

  166. I am afraid of cancer coming back after dealing with breast cancer.
    I am afraid there is a reason why I am still single and that fear is part of the reason why I am. I have turned off to love and not sure how to turn it back on.
    I am afraid of being alone in old age as I have no family.
    I am afraid to leave a secure job but I know I need a change.

    Feels good to write these fears down.

  167. Well, there is alot :))

    I’m afraid i would get bad grades so my professors wouldn’t like me
    Afraid that i stutter when i speak so people would disrespect me (that’s an obviously mad idea because it never happened in many years)
    Afraid i fight with my mom
    Afraid of the possibility of never being happy
    Afraid that my body wouldn’t be fit and beautiful
    Afraid that i would never meet my soulmate
    Afraid of loneliness
    Afraid of not being worthy or not landing my dream job
    Afraid of being a hypocrite or self-contradictory

    Well, i never really saw that i have so many fears ! :))

  168. I am afraid that I will gain weight and won’t be attractive. I am a restricter by nature, but I want to “reframe my script.” I’m gong to out my ego here and say that my fiancee and those I love think I am beautiful, so I know what my thoughts are saying is insanity that does not serve me. It feels like a selfish obsession. I’ve prayed here and there on it but not consistently. I just want to accept and love myself as I am right now, not as I think I should be.

  169. I’m afraid that I won’t finish or get everything done. It’s a tiny, mad idea because I believe it but have no idea what everything means. Fear seems to see it as something in it’s entirety; like creating a website or reading a book or cleaning a cottage. Fear doesn’t recognize it as incremental or small almost imperceptible actions that complete the website, the book, or the cleaned house. Oh fear…you are so crazy!

  170. hi gabby,

    i get really fearful that my partner’s never going to propose to me – this is totally irrational… because i’m fearful even though I know we love each other and we’ve even talked about marriage and all the stuff that comes with it so many times! We argue a lot because i end up just holding such a big irrational fear and so much pressure on us of what i think we should be doing or see others and wonder why were not doing that and get upset and this fear – it’s so impatient too and just takes over my whole body and being and thoughts and mood…! i know i’m not the one that is crazy it’s the ego.. i’m trying to take it every day day by day to let go and let god but lately it’s been really going through my mind. and then being projected out into my relationship :s

  171. I am afraid that I won’t have enough money. I am afraid that I will always be stuck in this job. I am afraid that I will not be where I want physically.

  172. I am afraid that I wont find my true love (well the guy I already like).. I am losing him/lost him and he is in love with someone else?

  173. My fear is to be alone and by myself. I’ve also recently lost who I believe is the love of my life because of issues we went through in the past that had a lot to do with choices I made. I know her choice is beyond my control but I can’t seem to let her go. I can’t shake the feeling that we are perfect for each other and that we owe it to ourselves to make this work. I’m trying to be patient and let the universe guide me through this time but I wake up every morning in a panick that I need to fix things in my time. Some mornings I allow this feeling i wake up with affect me so much that I stay in bed till noon. I don’t want to feel like this anymore and just want to feel at peace and happy and my wish is that my ex finds it in her heart to let go of the hurt and pain from our past so we can be friends again. I honestly can’t imagine my life without her and her boys in it. I really hope you can give me some advice to shift my thoughts and feelings. Thank you in advance Gabby

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