Note: Updated in July 2018 for clarity and additional resources.
Do you struggle to detach from outcomes? I see so many people try to control the outcomes of situations. They manipulate circumstances, they obsess and they freak out if things don’t go their way.
If you have a hard time letting go and accepting the way things unfold, this is for you. I want to help you let you go and learn how to let the Universe do its thing.
How are you attached to outcomes?
Are you attached to something happening in the timeframe you’re comfortable with?
Are you fixated on someone doing something in the way you want?
You may be trying to control an outcome in an effort to avoid anxiety. You might think a situation has to play out a certain way and will be a disaster if it doesn’t, so you monitor every little detail.
Obsessing over outcomes only makes us anxious
But in reality, obsessing over outcomes only exacerbates our anxiety. Anxiety is inevitable when we live like this, because we’re constantly on high alert. Our anxious state sends a vibrational message to the Universe that we want more anxiety!
As much as you might think you’re controlling in order not to feel anxious or disappointed, the Universe responds only to energy. And it gives you more of whatever you’re putting out.
As a result of not being able to detach from outcomes, you actually block your ability to manifest your desires and co-create with the Universe.
How to detach from outcomes
If we want to manifest the reality we want, we must be in an energy of detachment. In this energy, we become willing to allow and receive.
Watch the video below or keep reading to learn how to detach from outcomes. When you practice this two-step process, you will live with ease and confidence. And you’ll manifest your desires!
Step 1: Recognize how you’re attached to the outcome
Before you can detach from an outcome, you have to get honest about you’re attached to it. Maybe you post in the comments below and just get honest with me, and get honest with yourself. “I’m obsessed with the outcome of this. I’ve been flipping out over the outcome of this.”
Then start to pay attention to how that attachment is affecting your energy and your vibrational frequency. How is it making you feel? You can start to see how it’s not serving you and how it may be blocking you from manifesting your desires.
Step 2: Surrender the attachment with prayer
The next step is to surrender it fully. This is so simple. It’s just a prayer. You can say this prayer daily for the next 30 days if you want to detach from an outcome. Just say: “I surrender this attachment, and I allow the Universe to show me where to go and what to do.”
That simple prayer will shift your energy immediately. It’s the intermediary between you and the voice of your higher self so that you can actually allow and let go. In that space of allowing and letting go, you start to come into an energy frequency that is receptive and detached. You start to vibrate with the Universe and manifesting your desires. You trust the Universe with the details.
As you practice detaching from the outcome, you’ll start to see many beautiful miracles begin to unfold in your life. Pay attention to how those miracles unfold! Look out for them. Do not dismiss anything. Celebrate each one. Express gratitude for each one. You can come back to this blog and share with me how you detached from the outcome and what miracles you manifested.
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In the video above, I talk about a workshop I hosted before my #1 New York Times bestselling book, The Universe Has Your Back, came out. I’m happy to say that the workshop is still online and still free when you order the book!
In this 2-hour video workshop, I teach you how to:
- Clear away all the blocks to your attracting power
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