Do You Tend to Self-Sabotage? Here’s How to Handle Success

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Recently I’ve gotten a lot of questions from people about how to handle success, avoid self-sabotage and claim the greatness they manifest. These questions led me to revisit and update this blog post from 2014.

‘How do you trust that all will be well?’

Back in 2014, I received an email from a Spirit Junkie named Cynthia. Cynthia had been on a spiritual path for years, and her commitment had created a lot of outward success.

While she was excited to see her desires manifest, her success was also bringing up a lot of fear. Check out Cynthia’s email, which I’m sharing with her permission:

Dear Gab,

I had a vlog topic for you. We spend so much time wishing and envisioning what we want and what our lives could be like and seeking out opportunities that we think will get us there.  Well, what happens when it actually happens (you get the call from Oprah)? How do you literally not crap your pants and trust that all will be well when you take that next evolutionary step and break your current mold? How can you trust what will be waiting on the other side???

Yes, I have a big opportunity that I’m considering taking and it’s challenging me in soooo many ways!!! Would love your pearls!!!

xoxox,
Cynthia

Success can bring up a lot of fear

Cynthia’s email made me laugh out loud because it was far too familiar. I’ve had countless experiences in my own life in which my ego tried to sabotage my successes.

In my original 2014 video below, I offer up three tips for how to handle success. And keep reading to see the tips, plus new resources that I just added in 2019!

4 tips to handle success and not self-sabotage

I believe that the Universe will not give to you what you cannot handle. When we receive things, they are coming to us at the most divine time. Here are four tips to handle the success that is coming to you.

1. Quiet your ego’s fear with self-compassion.

When you start to elevate your energy, change your perceptions and vibrate at a new frequency, you become a magnet for what you desire. That can feel very scary to the ego, whose goal is to protect itself.

Anytime you start listening to the voice of love, you can expect some ego backlash. At times its fearful voice can become a scream. It will question your success. You may have thoughts like:

  • Who am I to be this successful?
  • I’m not sure I’m qualified for this. I’m in over my head.
  • Things have been going really well. This can’t last.

The way to turn down the volume on your ego’s shouts is by being compassionate to yourself. If this is new for you, check out this blog post on self-compassion for step-by-step guidance.

One simple thing you can do is recite an affirmation throughout the day that supports and affirms how you want to feel. It’s important to choose an affirmation that feels good to you, such as, “I am open to receiving greatness.”

Tapping on the fear of success

Brad Yates has a lot of great Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping) videos focused on how to handle success, stop self-sabotage, allow greatness and more.

Here’s one tapping video you can practice to get better at handling success! Note: As Brad says, it’s important to take responsibility for your own well-being when tapping, since sometimes unexpected emotions can come up.

2. Trust that the Universe has a much better plan.

I often give the example of  when I received a call from the Oprah Winfrey Network saying, “Hi, this is OWN. We’d love to have you interviewed by Oprah.”

Tweet: Embrace your success and trust in the Universe. Step into your greatness fully and have fun! @gabbybernstein

Even though I had been waiting for that call for 10 years,  I was so happy it didn’t happen one day sooner. If it did, I wouldn’t have been in the mental and spiritual state to hold the magnitude of it.

Trust in the evolutionary plan. Trust that the Universe has a much better plan than you do. Don’t try to speed things along and don’t block them when they come.

A prayer for surrender and receiving

Remember that you’re not alone. You can call on the ever-present support of the Universe at any time. When the ego is telling you that you can’t do it, that it’s too scary or that it just won’t work for whatever reason, turn to one of my favorite prayers from The Universe Has Your Back:

Today I surrender my goals and plans to the care of the Universe. I offer up my agenda and accept spiritual guidance. I trust that there is a plan far greater than mine. I know that where there once was lack and limitation there are spiritual solutions and creative ideas. I step back and let love lead the way. Thy will be done.

You can begin each day with these words, surrendering your plans and strengthening your faith in the Universe. Know that all the success that comes your way is part of a divine plan.

3. Become a magnet for what you desire.

When you receive a manifestation, it is your duty as a spiritual student and teacher to just say yes.

Embrace it. Accept it. Step into your greatness fully and have fun! That is the most magnificent part of who you are. Own the fact that as you elevate your life, you magnetize greatness towards you.

Lean toward joy

When I'm connected to my joyful presence, I attract support from the Universe | Gabby Bernstein | The Universe Has Your Back card deckThe most powerful way we become a magnet for what we desire is by leaning toward joy. In fact, we have a sacred responsibility to lean toward joy. The more joyful we are, the more light we can shine upon the world.

When we lean toward joy we raise our vibrational frequency, which gives us the energy necessary to show up and serve. Joy is the inspiration behind creative solutions for difficult problems. It provides us with generosity so we can give more.

Here is a beautiful quote from Dr. Wayne Dyer that will support you on this path:

Passion is a feeling that tells you: this is the right thing to do. Nothing can stand in my way. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says. This feeling is so good that it cannot be ignored. I’m going to follow my bliss and act upon this glorious sensation of joy.

Have fun and success will follow.

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  1. Thank you Gabbi for your words. I have been very blocked in more fields than I could possibly imagine. It has been both a lot of fun and hurtful to heal my wounds and I’m beyond greatful for that.
    Your book The universe has you back had been laying on my best friend’s bedside table for a long time and been staring at me. I had listened to many of your videos for years but not being open enough to receive full guidance. I read your book for two days straight a couple of weeks ago and wow – it changed my view on things in ways I would not even imagine! (I just bought a copy for myself – another block).
    Thank you for knockin on my door over in Sweden!! And thank you for the amazing visdom you share. I now try to surrender (even when I think I have) and ask God what I can do instead of ego-manifest.
    Xoxo
    Maria

  2. Thank you for this! Would you think that these steps would be the same for blocking a romantic relationship? I was dating an amazing man, and part of me couldn’t believe how aligned it felt. When I thought about him actually wanting to commit to me, it scared the sh*t out of me. I’m still trying to figure out why… but then it didn’t work, and he wasn’t able to commit to me at the time. Something deep in me tells me its not really over… Trying to figure out how to move forward and release the blocks… Thanks!

    1. Hi Kait! You can absolutely apply these steps to other areas in your life where you feel like you’re blocking your happiness. Sending big hugs your way. <3

  3. Another message that is out of the park great Gab! I am so eternally grateful for your teachings and generosity in sharing your gift with the world.
    On to greatness….
    XO
    Kel

  4. Thank you Gabby! I signed up through you for B-School last year and went on to do your Spirit Junkie Level I & II last year. It has been truly life changing for me, as it’s given me so much direction, both in a business sense and spiritually, to be able to focus on my dreams.
    I leave my corporate job next week to take on the business I’ve been building full-time!
    Thank you so much for everything you do for this community.

  5. I just wanted to let you know, you & Brad have helped me more than you can possibly know. Today’s topic couldn’t of come at a better time, I didn’t even know I was scared until I started tapping. It was a lightbulb moment, followed by deep wave of emotions that needed to come up so it could be released. All the confusion and self doubt I had yesterday made sense now, it didn’t make sense at first because I’ve been wanting to do B-school for at least 5 years now, but was in an impossible situation before. Plus I was truly blessed with some increadable divine signs yesterday which made me very happy but I was still hesitating, and now I know why. Fast forward post tapping and I’m beginning to be more comfortable being visible, took a test and passed, feel excited and I can’t sleep and I’m now writing this….B-school here I come! Thank you Gabby & Marie because I think she’s great too!

    1. This is awesome Ella! Grateful these tools are inspiring and supporting you. Pumped for your continued journey ahead!

  6. Dear Gabby,

    OMG this blog was truly sent to me by the Universe. I’ve been following you for several months now and I truly believe everything that you say. In fact thanks to you I have become more spiritual and started teaching it to my kids.

    I have a network marketing business with my husband, and although we have achieve a lot of our goals, we haven’t still reached our financial freedom. And March 7th is the day that we will, we are opening a new market, and I know we will.

    But I am soooo scared. My ego is talking to me “don’t put you expectations that high! You may be dissapointed”. “Don’t dream that big, in 5 years you haven’t hit that goal, it is impossible opening a market”.

    So thank you for this blog. I already took a picture of the praying and I will say it every single morning.

    Quick question, I want to start meditating (I have your 4 meditations) can I do it with my children? Do you have one for kids?

    1. Happy that these tools are serving you! You may absolutely do these meditations with your children. I haven’t created any meditations specifically for kids, but many people do these with their families. This is so inspiring!

  7. Gabby I listed to this…I don’t know how many years ago now, but since you resent it in your ezine today I rewatched it and it was EXACTLY what I needed to hear today, literally right now. Last time I heard it, I wasn’t in a space to understand what being a container for what was coming meant…today, I heard it LOUD AND CLEAR #universesupportingme as that has been my journey and is still my most present assignment today. Continue working on being the container.

  8. Dear Gaby,
    This was my first video ever I’ve seen from you. The topic was exactly what I needed. This was 2 weeks ago and right now me and my best friend and also my soulmate are starting week 2 on our may cause miracles journey.
    You’ve come to me exactly when I needed you most at the perfect time. I am thankful for everything You’ve done. Your Energy changes the world. I cannot wait until tomorrow to start working again and I enjoy it so much. Thank You Gaby. ??

  9. I am in the experience now of getting what I’ve wanted: After 9 years of dating, my boyfriend proposed (my ego screams don’t do it! Marriage ruins all! lol); I got a job where I am respected and I am great at it (but we’re supposed to hate our jobs…. and be miserable); I got that raise and I am making more now than I ever have (but you don’t need that much…); and there’s more to list. In the last 2 years I let go of so much and I’ve been able to become “the person who I always have been.” I feel more in my truth than ever before – even when I was obsessively listening to your lectures and meditating. Once I stopped forcing things, things began to roll. I sought out a therapist (the car literally DROVE itself into the parking lot. I had no plan going in, but I’ve passed it a billion times)– I left a toxic job (without another in site); a let go of toxic relationships, friendships that no longer served me and I began to enjoy my own company. I forgave those I needed to fully and completely, I let go of trying to damn hard to be like someone else & to try to fit in. Now I’m that magnet for people and abundance. Frankly, this is the first time I acknowledged it! It scares the hell out of me sometimes to see just how much things are flowing, but after watching this video, I welcome it. I see others struggling with things like I used to – I am there for them and I understand their journey. But I’ve stopped trying to force people to do what I think they should. It’s up to them. it’s up to us. 🙂

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