The Do’s and Don’ts of Manifesting

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IG Stories poll: Have you ever felt confused about how to manifest? | What is manifestingThe Spirit Junkie community recently opened my eyes to something.

I kept getting messages from people on Facebook and Instagram asking about manifesting and saying they weren’t sure they were doing it right.

So I ran a poll on my IG Stories that said, “Have you ever felt confused about how to manifest?”

I was shocked to see that 96% of people said yes!

I felt called to clear things up, so in this post I’m sharing 3 do’s and don’ts of manifesting.

What is manifesting?

Manifesting is cultivating the experience of what it is that you want to feel — and then living and believing in that experience so that you can allow it to come into form.

Gabby Bernstein smiling and laughing | What is manifestingYou can practice manifesting to attract whatever you want, whether that’s a successful business, good health, a relationship or even a material object.

Sometimes we manifest things far beyond our wildest dreams. So when manifesting, it’s important to stay open to possibilities that are beyond what you think you need. When you align with the loving energy of the Universe, there are no limits to what you can attract.

Manifesting is the process of vibrating at a high frequency so that you become a vibrational match with the Universe and can co-create your world.

The do’s and don’ts of manifesting

Let’s break it down more. Keep reading to discover 3 big do’s and don’ts of manifesting. Follow them and you will truly co-create with the Universe!

Don’t: Expect exactly what you want to just drop in your lap

This may be the biggest manifesting misconception around. There’s this idea that all you have to do is make a vision board and write a thousand affirmations in your journal… and then the exact thing you desire will magically appear before you.

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Vision boards and affirmations are great because they offer clarity. I love both of them! But we can get caught up in thinking that we know what’s best. We get very attached to a specific outcome or want things to happen on a particular timeline.

When we do this, we cut off Universal guidance and shift into manic manifesting.

Do: Trust that the Universe has a plan better than yours

Manifesting isn’t about having complete control or satisfying all our short-term desires. True manifesting isn’t even about getting what we think we want. It’s about receiving what is of the highest good for all.

You will have experiences in which you’ll attract exactly what you want. But controlling outcomes to get just what you want isn’t the goal. Remember, your plan isn’t always the best plan.

For example, if all your meditations and affirmations are around landing a promotion at work, you might completely block a way better opportunity at a different company!

In this video I share about how I surrendered to a greater plan when it came to having a child…

There is a plan greater than yours. When you surrender to the art of manifesting you can trust that spirit is guiding you toward your desires — and much more.

A prayer to let go and trust

Here’s a short prayer from my new book, Super Attractor, that will help you surrender your desires and practice patience:

“Thank you, Universe and guides of the highest truth and compassion. I am ready to feel free. I welcome a newfound faith.”

Say the prayer out loud and take a moment to settle into the feelings of what it means to surrender to faith in the Universe.

If you feel some resistance, honor it and then return to this prayer. You can say it as often as you want. It’s a request for guidance. You’re turning over your plans and clearing space for the energy of the Universe to support you in ways you can’t imagine.

Don’t: Try to “make it happen”

Trying to control and force things to happen is a deeply ingrained habit for many of us.

If you’re on a spiritual path, you may have done some beautiful work to release this pattern. But the ego’s need to control is sneaky, and we can fall back into this pattern without realizing it.

Even if you don’t really identify as a control freak (and I’ll be honest: I do), there are some subtle ways that we try to control. If you:

  • Sweat the small stuff,
  • Ask a ton of people for their opinions before doing something, or
  • Avoid dealing with things…

…Then it’s likely you’re secretly trying to control your life.

Remember, the Universe has a plan far better than our own. You can stop controlling and start receiving by tapping into that guidance.

Do: Practice the Spiritually Aligned Action Method

Manifesting is also known as co-creating because it’s a collaboration between you and the Universe. In Super Attractor, I teach a method that I intuitively developed and applied in my own life. It’s called the Spiritually Aligned Action Method.

When we take spiritually aligned action, we can trust that an energy beyond our own is working on our behalf and that everything is working out for us — even if we don’t know exactly when or how it will happen.

I want to give you a sneak peek at this method now…

Step 1 of the Spiritually Aligned Action Method

Oneness is my true nature | Gabby Bernstein | The Universe Has Your Back card deck | What is manifestingPracticing step 1 on its own is a game changer. Try this practice to get ready for the full method in Super Attractor!

Step 1 is to make sure your desire is backed with inspiration and service.

When the desire you’re manifesting is aligned with service and inspiration, it’s invincible.

You might be thinking, “How do I know if my desire is backed with service and inspiration?”

Or, “What if what I want isn’t about changing the world? What if I want to find love or get out of debt? How is that of service to others?”

If your desire brings you sincere joy, then it’s backed with inspiration! And as long as you surrender to the highest good for all, spirit will support it.

However, you also need to understand why you want something and what energy is behind it. If you want a new job so your family will approve of you, or if you want a relationship because you feel incomplete on your own, then your desire is likely backed with neediness and fear.

Here’s how to clear up the energy behind your desire: Ask yourself, “Does this desire make me feel inspired and serve others?”

Open your journal and write about how your desire lights you up inside. Write about how your inspiration and positive energy serves others. When you align your energy with service and inspiration, you can trust that it will propel your vision forward.

Finally, let yourself cultivate the feelings of joy, inspiration and great contribution. Give yourself permission to celebrate your desires!

In this video I share more about what it means to take spiritually aligned action:

Don’t: Save your manifesting practices for one special time and place

Many folks think of manifesting as something they do only while in their Zen den, on their meditation pillow, with every crystal lined up and candle lit. They spend some amount of time in that space meditating, journaling and doing whatever else helps them get aligned, feel good and connect to spirit.

…And then they get up, go about their day and leave their spiritual practices behind.

When you compartmentalize your spiritual practices like this, you’re cutting off the flow of inspiration.

Inspiration isn’t something we can feel only on a retreat, in a yoga class or at a religious service. We do ourselves a great disservice when we put it in a box and keep it separate from the rest of our life.

Do: Make manifesting part of your daily life

Manifesting is something we do continuously. In fact, we’re always manifesting and attracting — it’s just that we usually do it unconsciously.

Instead of saving your manifesting practices for “special” places and times, infuse them into your daily life.

  • Commit to meditating every morning, even if that means sitting in stillness for a couple of minutes and tuning in with your breath.
  • Turn to prayer when you want support or guidance.
  • Play the Appreciation Game!
  • Stay aware of your finances to help attract abundance.
  • And when you do get into your Zen den, be sure cultivate the feeling you want!

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Manifesting is an art

If you’ve had any confusion around manifesting, I hope these do’s and don’ts have helped clarify things for you.

I want to wrap up this post with a short excerpt from Super Attractor about what manifesting truly is…

Manifesting is the creative process of aligning with the energy of the Universe to co-create an experience that elevates your spirit and the spirit of the world. Manifesting isn’t about getting; it’s about becoming. The more you let go, the more you become a match for what you desire.

I hope this serves you.

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  1. Hi Gabby,
    I was wondering if you have ever manifested on some not talking to you? My Aunt and I had a really big situation and she doesn’t want to talk to me anymore so I was gonna manifest on getting my Aunt to talk to me again and I just wanted some advice from you. Please get back to me when you can : )

  2. Hi Gabby. Say that i wanted something for someone else that would benefit not only me but the loved ones around me. For example say my father needs a job opportunity where he is happy and makes a lot of money. Is this backed with inspiration and service?

    1. This is beautiful, Li! You can absolutely hold this intention for your dad. This may help him believe that a job opportunity were he is happy and abundant is possible for him! xoxo

  3. I don’t get what we’re supposed to manifest then? Isn’t the whole point of manifestation to get exactly what we want?
    “For example, if all your meditations and affirmations are around landing a promotion at work, you might completely block a way better opportunity at a different company!“ This sentence seems to contradict the whole point of manifesting what you want.
    If I want a promotion and manifest it, then it should happen since I’m doing positive affirmations and putting my faith into the universe for that outcome?

    1. Yes, Jan. When it comes to manifesting, we can absolutely be specific about what we are asking for, and then surrender the outcome and trust that the universe will deliver this or something better. Surrendering the outcome may seem counterintuitive from our human perspective, but it’s important to remember that the universe sees the big picture and is always working towards our perfect happiness. Here are some additional posts that you might find helpful

  4. As one could expect, the Universe sent this post to me on the day after I had a huge mental shift on something I’ve been putting off doing for the last few years. Thank you for opening my eyes and understanding the messages I’ve been receiving for a very long time. Having the ability to look at something now and understand that there is more than synchronicity is inspiring and sometimes quite overwhelming to be honest. ❤️

  5. Thanks Gabby. Your teachings really resonate. I bought your super attractor book via amazon for kindle and so was wondering if I can still access the bonus workshop?
    Many blessings,

  6. Thank you for opening my eyes to a better understanding of how manifesting works. I started taking baby steps on learning how to manifest and after reading your post, I know now not to hold back on what I want, but to go full force into what I desire in my life.

  7. Thank you Gabby. I’ve been doing fairly well at manifesting what I want in regards to service to humanity… Service and inspiration. I needed that reminder. Letting go again and detaching and staying positive and work towards it. Ok bye bye.


  8. Hi Gabby,

    My 10 year old daughter started losing hair. Upon meeting with doctor , i came to know about this autoimmune condition and doctor on first visit injected steroids which made her hair severely tangled. inspite trying hard, hait did not untangle and we had to go for haircut finally . I did not realize then that it was due to steroids. This doctor recommended to experts. they did the same and remaining hair was gone too. I stopped going to doctors. I was crying every night on the condition. I got your book one day and then read all the books. Last month i read super attractor and manifesting a dream…this is difficult…to my miracle , i have started seeing the sign every day. There is one treatment available but i am not sure if that is the right solution I am requesting universe to guide me to the right solution. Kindly advise how to reach to the right solution and know when there is time for treatment. I trust that universe has a plan and i can patiently wait to become more kind, loving and gentle. My daughter has started to believe and says the prayer “Thank you Universe and guides of highest truth and compassion. I am feeling free now. I believe in newfound faith’. She has started meditating and receiving guidance too. The life is so much filled with love with you, Gabby….

    1. Hi Sarita,
      I’m so grateful that my books have served you. I am sending your daughter (and you) prayers and healing light as she heals from this condition. My suggestion is to consult with your physician and/or additional medical professionals to determine possible next steps. I am a strong believer that the Universe works through people and I hope that you are guided to the right perfect team to support you on this journey. I’m so proud of you and your daughter for your willingness to heal and experience miracles. Much love to you both.

  9. I love this manifesting as an art: have experienced and need to keep remembering to go back to basics of alignment to allow for continuous divine flow/inspiration v control or take ownership for yesterday’s gifts.
    It’s in the NOW that I receive.

  10. Love this! I have Only been meditating for a week and I feel calmer in my mind. I’m not sure of manifestations yet, but I am going to trust the Universe to guide me when it’s time to choose ‍♀️

  11. I used to follow you on social media but didn’t read or listen to your stuff until a friend sent me to your Super Soul talk. I was so touched since I am going through a similar challenge as you were at that time. Now, I am a follower. I am learning to meditate, manifest and simply trust the universe. I am queuing up your books to my reading list for the next year. Can’t wait!

  12. I ordered this book on Amazon because i didn’t know if I ordered it from you directly there would be a free workshop that would prepare me for the book. That being said, the book came through next day and I started reading. The immediate impact I felt was startling but also created a spark in me that I thought didn’t exist. I have been in the dark and resonating at such a low frequency for so long that I thought it was normal. It also explained why I kept attracting negative things, situations and people. I have been really depressed, anxious, and sometimes very lost. I feel like I have hope now and something to reach for.

    Thank you for writing this book, providing guidance, how to meditations and videos, and teaching me how to turn back to the light.

    One question – I am transitioning jobs because i have been so unhappy and unhealthy in my current job and have gotten in a lot of debt making the transition. (I was making six figures and now I’m 100% commission so I can be my own boss and work from home, set my own schedule etc.) What advice do you have so that I don’t let that consume me or scare me back into going back to a traditional, extremely stressful six figure job?

    1. Amy, you can still access the Manifesting Jumpstart workshop. Just visit the following link and scroll down to enter your order number:

      If you are struggling financially, I suggest you be more gentle with yourself and honor your transition. Can you find part-time work or even full-time work that will allow you to pay your bills, save money and feel supported as you build your dream? I suggest you try the mantra and prayer, “I am open to creative possibilities for abundance.” This will help you to find an opportunity that resonates with you and feels good to you. Having this financial security will alleviate your stress so you can raise your energetic vibration and free yourself up to work toward your dream without the stress of needing to pay the bills, etc. As you begin to do this, consciously look for examples of abundance in your life right now, no matter how small they are. Focus on them every day. Consciously paying attention to the abundance you already have will lead to more and more of it. Remember that when you are aligned with the Universe, asking for guidance and paying attention to it, your path will unfold. It may not be how you pictured it, and it may not be on your timeline, but it will be for the highest good.

  13. Thanks Gabby, I am finding it bit difficult to know if I’m manifesting correctly. I have my Super Attractor book now so will read it and try out your techniques and tips.

  14. I live in NYC and I am really struggling with dating. I go on a lot of dates with guys from online or on apps. They try to be physical with me ASAP on the first date and it makes me so uncomfortable. I tell them “no” and I never hear back from them again. I keep attracting all these men that just want sex. I am so frustrated because I just want to attract a high-quality man who treats me well and is also someone I am physically attracted to. Any advice?

    1. Hey Gabby I was wondering what are your thoughts on manifesting a SP back into your life? For me it’s an ex. Have you seen many success stories with this?

      1. Nothing is “too big” to manifest, Dre, if it is for the highest good. When it comes to manifesting, we can absolutely be specific about what we are asking for, (like an SP), and then surrender. Surrendering the outcome may seem counterintuitive, but it’s important to remember that the universe sees the big picture and is always working towards our perfect happiness. Here are some additional posts that you might find helpful

  15. Gabby, hoping you or one of your support team can clear something up for me. In the Law of attraction, like attracts like. But in scientific Laws, opposites attract, eg positive and negative charged particles, or north and south poles of a magnet. Like repels. It’s difficult for me to reconcile these two seemingly opposing Laws of the Universe. Hoping you can help clarify this for me, particularly in a scientific sense. Thanks.

    1. Hi Annette! The principles of negative and positive ions, or attraction and repulsion, are what prevent a solid object from moving through another. However, when it comes to humanity and our energies, the Law of Attraction holds true. I hope this helps! <3

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