We Can’t Live in the Light All the Time… But We Can Come Back Fast

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One time when I was giving a talk in England, a woman asked me, “Gabby, do you live in the light all the time?”

I looked at her and I was like, “No way. I get taken out all the time… but I come back fast.”

We don’t have to live in the light all the time

This is something I want to get real about right now, because I get asked these kinds of questions a lot. Many people think that if you’re a spiritual teacher, that means you are enlightened 24/7. That you live this happy-go-lucky life of perfect joy and serenity.

And then they wonder what’s wrong with them that they don’t live this way.

So let me be very clear: I do not live in the light all the time. I don’t expect you to, either.

I don’t care about how perfect of a meditator you are. I don’t care about how often you pray. I don’t care how many Kundalini kriyas you do.

What I care about is your comeback rate.

I care about how quickly you come back to love.

We all get taken out of alignment

anxious girl|live in the lightThe truth is that we all get taken out. We get knocked out of alignment all the time! We all have egos. We stress out, we freak out, we judge, we make mistakes.

It happens to you, it happens to me, it happens to Oprah. It happens to everyone.

The question is not: How do I live in the light all the time? Because that’s not possible.

Instead, the question is: How can I come back to love and feel better fast?

How can we come back to love and feel better fast?

Check out this clip of a talk I gave at the yoga festival Wanderlust in L.A. In it I talk about an experience I had just that day of being willing to tune back in and then restoring my thoughts back to love. (Warning: I drop an F-bomb, so put in headphones if you’re watching this at work or around kids!)

After you watch the video, keep reading for five simple ways to calm down, get grounded and realign with the loving energy of the Universe before you freak out.

We can’t live in the light all the time… but we can come back fast.

Watch below:

How I tuned back in before a live talk

In the video I talked about the experience I’d had that very day when I was backstage getting ready. I felt pretty out of it because I had woken up at 4 am since I was still on East Coast time, and meanwhile there was a whirlwind of energy around me.

I easily could’ve just slumped into a chair and told myself, “I’m way too drained to give a talk right now.”

Instead, I recognized the opportunity to tune back in and restore my thoughts back to love. I prayed and then I meditated. And then I went out of my dressing room and I encountered a man dressed all in white carrying sage and a pitchfork. So I said to this beautiful stranger, “Sage me, man!” He swirled the sage around me and focused his pitchfork vibration on my third eye and helped me tune back in.

As much as I love this encounter, the truth is that you don’t need to be at a yoga festival and have an awesome hippie sage you in order to restore your thoughts back to love! All you need is the willingness to tune back in.

5 simple ways to restore your thoughts back to love

Miracles Now by Gabby BernsteinBelow I share five simple ways to restore your thoughts back to love and feel better right now.

I took these tips from my book Miracles Now, and they all work in just a few minutes.

Use these techniques when you notice yourself feeling drained, stressed, anxious, scared or angry.

They will not only help you feel better instantly, but practicing them regularly will shorten your comeback rate, raise your vibration and amp up your attracting power!

#1: When in doubt, choose peace

Living a miraculous life takes commitment. In every given moment we have a divine spiritual assignment in front of us: Choose love or choose fear.

Bring this concept with you throughout your day. In the moments when you witness yourself choosing fear, attack, judgment, and separation, simply say: “I choose peace instead of this.” Make this your mantra.

When you choose love in any way you’re unconsciously connecting to your higher self, asking for love to reinterpret the situation. When you face a difficult situation, use this principle with even more conviction. Trust in its power and you’ll see results you couldn’t have imagined. A Course in Miracles says, “Miracles arise from conviction.”

Practice this principle in all situations and heighten your commitment to miracles. In an instant you will feel peace set in.

#2: Release the oxytocin

Sometimes the simplest way to drop a BADitude and bring on the happiness can come through an everyday action. Certain actions activate oxytocin, which induces feelings of love, trust and a sense of bonding.

When you’re feeling funky, oxytocin can turn your mood around, make you feel more connected and revive your overall energy.

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One way you can can rev up your oxytocin anywhere, anytime, is to place your hand on your heart. When you do this, your body receives the signal that it’s safe to calm down.

Once you place your hand onto your heart, breathe into it. As you breathe into your heart imagine feelings of love, compassion, and ease pass over you. Proactively collaborate in your healing by breathing into your heart.

#3: Surrender control

I release the outcome and surrender to a plan far greater than mine | Spirit Junkie App by Gabby BernsteinThe ego tries to control all outcomes regardless of how powerless you are over them.

The need to control is a major stressor that wreaks havoc on your well-being and happiness. I know this firsthand because I am a recovering obsessive!

The reason we try to control outcomes is because we’re afraid that if we don’t make it happen, no one will. The key to releasing your need to control is to accept that there is a power greater than you working on your behalf to support you.

A simple surrender practice

To get you back into the groove of Universal energy, practice an awesome tool that will help you surrender your need to control.

Make a list of all of the things you’re trying to control. Next to each issue write: I am powerless over this situation and I surrender it to the Universe. Carry this list around with you.

Whenever you notice yourself obsessing, bust out your list and surrender.

Let me be clear: I am not suggesting that you do not have dominion over your own actions. But once you have made your move, it’s time to surrender the outcome.

A simple intention to surrender your control is all you need to experience miracles.

For more guidance on how to surrender, check out my SuperSoul Sessions talk on the five steps to spiritual surrender.

#5: Feel your feelings for 90 seconds

This is a technique I learned from my coach and dear friend Rha Goddess. When you have an urge to push down a feeling or escape it, instead give yourself permission to feel it for 90 seconds. You can set a timer.

You can be free from your negative patterns once you truly feel the feelings that dwell below them. The next time you notice yourself caught up in a fearful experience or addictive pattern, take a moment to feel the feeling in your body.

Describe it thoroughly (a tight knot in your stomach, tight jaw, fluttering heart, etc.) so you can clearly identify it when it arises. Then for 90 seconds breathe in and out, allowing yourself to experience the feeling fully.

Don’t deny the feeling or push it down. Just be present with it. After 90 seconds witness the shift in your body, mind and actions.

Check out Miracles Now for 103 more ways to come back to love fast

Miracles Now by Gabby BernsteinIn my book Miracles Now, I offer 108 handpicked tips and tools to help you release stress, find your flow and connect to your true purpose!

These simple techniques combat our most common problems — stress, burnout, frustration, jealousy, resentment. Inspired by some of the greatest spiritual teachings, these practical, moment-to-moment tools will help you eliminate blocks and live with more ease.

Get the book and call in miracles now!

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  1. Thanks Gabby for all your help!! I was helping yesterday somebody and suddenly I got the feeling of the doubt but even do a acknowledge the feeling and with much love I come back.

    Thanks Arie

  2. Hi Gabby! I’m all new to this alternative journey spiritual thing and I have been loving listening to your talks and reading your blog. I just been wondering who was the guy with the pitchfork? What is he called? What did he practice and had you experienced that prior to meeting him? Just curious and trying to find my lane.

    1. He was an interesting character attending the yoga festival 🙂 I was grateful for the encounter, which helped me tune back into love. <3

  3. Gabby , can you lead me to a place where I can download the full yoga nidra meditation please? It’s not currently working. I love you and all that you do and I cant wait to do the spirit junkie masterclass in 2019 . #Goals
    I’m going to join your miracle membership I believe. I just hope this comment isn’t deleted like the last one….thanks gabby ! Your such and inspiration … I will be like you one day soon !

  4. I’m sad because I am unable to download the yoga nidra full meditation , is this something you can help me with gabby ??? I really need it and dont understand why it’s not working…..but other than that I love ALL of your blog posts…


  5. Very special thing happened, when I listened to your video. When you talked about the sage, i could smell it
    Love your advice, I tried the hand on the heart. I felt it.

  6. Thank you so much for your light and honesty. I have found having ago at all of them (minus yoga nidra) really helpful and hopeful. I feel softer, more allowing. Thank you Gabby.

  7. Hi Gabby!
    Thank you for this beautiful, powerful, succinct article. Your words make the 5 tips easy to understand and incorporate into a busy life. I can testify to each of the tips. They work so well. In the past three years I have experienced being physically assaulted by a coworker, witnessed domestic violence in my home, and watched powerless as an oil pipeline was placed over my drinking water well. I felt so overwhelmed by all of these events. I did my best to keep hope and love alive in myself. I had to learn ways to come back to that love and light, and angels in my life brought me all of the 5 tips that you speak of and I used each to survive, grow and evolve through the tough times. I love placing my hand on my heart to feel safe at night so that I could fall asleep! And number 5, self-empathy, is sooo hugely helpful. I would imagine giving myself a hug after allowing myself to feel the hurt and pain, and then I felt ready to move on with my day and open myself to love – giving and receiving.
    I also recommend doing at least one loving thing for yourself each day. I made a joy list of 15 thing that cost money and 15 that are free. I do this daily, but eslecially when times are challenging I turn to the list and pick something to bring me joy (i.e. watch a sunset, laugh, have sex with my husband.) 😉

    1. I am so moved by your commitment to your spiritual path through difficulty. You are a lightworker. Stick to it. xoxoxo

  8. Gabby-
    Thank you for the reminder that it is how quickly we return to the light rather than “it’s wrong if we aren’t in it all the time.” It’s not the black and white but rather the gray of knowing the slips are apart of the journey, but it’s getting to the place of love quicker. I have had an intentional focus this past year of really recognizing when fear is standing in my way, of choosing and giving love when I feel insecure or judging of myself. Your words really speak to me on so many levels. So thank you!

  9. Gabby I’m thinking you should make a poster that I can have on my phone background or print up and hang on the wall
    “I am willing to tune back in”
    Much love Jane

  10. Hi Gabby thanks for sharing this and in particular the point about Surrender Control
    I am a big worrier and my main worry like most I am sure is having enough money and beimg financially secure. For me I think the reason is because I love my wife and 2 children so much that keeping them safe, comfortable and secure means the most to me. I am self employed and although I have always been in work and paid well over the last 16 years I worry about not being in work or having enough to provide for my family and in later years. Have you got any advise and can you trust the universe to keep providing?

    1. I want to take a moment to honor your commitment to your family. That is a beautiful thing. Recognize the abundance that is already around you. Focus on all that you have. Cultivate gratitude for the great work you have. Feel gratitude for your home, for your safe family, the food on the table, the gas you put in your car. When you notice yourself stuck in fear around money, conscious focusing on your abundance will help you pivot out of that fearful story and raise your energetic vibration. Joy is the most powerful vibration we can embody. I cannot stress this enough! It is not silly or selfish to focus on joy and do things that bring you joy. The practices in my book The Universe Has Your Back will help you to strengthen your faith in the Universe. You might also be interested in the Spirit Junkie Masterclass – I host it both live and online. (You can get on the waitlist for the digital course here.) This course will help you bring your spiritual principles into your work so that you will have incredible faith in your purpose and know that you will be supported, no matter what happens.

      1. Hey Gabby, thanks for taking time to respond to my post. I’ve saved it to my phone so I don’t forget your tips and advice. I have listened to the universe Has your back on audio and would recommend it to anyone. I even practiced the asking for sign that I was on the right path and within a couple of days my sign showed up, I couldn’t stop smiling. I will focus on what you have said and will check out the sprit junkie class. Thanks again Gabby I love what your doing!

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