3 Spiritual Steps for Handling Your Feelings

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We all have unique ways of handling our feelings, and sometimes we can let our emotions get the best of us. I’m no exception! I have the tendency to over-analyze, over-spiritualize and overly obsess about my feelings. But we’re not at the mercy of our emotions–we just have to know how to handle them. I recently created 3 Spiritual Steps for Handling My Feelings, and in this vlog I share them with you. These steps have greatly served me, and I hope they help save you time and energy when it it comes to working through your feelings. In this video I also announce the paperback launch of Spirit Junkie!

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  1. I was just recently having this conversation: is “venting” truly healing? I love your ideas here! I personally think it’s all about how we “frame” our challenges. Every difficult emotion or experience is an opportunity to discover an insight to help others. Love you!

  2. Omg this video was exactly what I needed. I’ll be doing so well and then a situation will come up and my ego and feelings will go crazy!

    I’m definitely going to put this into practice next time a challenge comes up!

  3. Thank you Gabby – so much synchronicities in this video + my life the past few months.

    I for one am guilty of suppressing feelings through addictions with food. And of course this doesn’t solve anything since it was never the solution. Have been tuning into my intuition + higher self lately, and have found that life is much easier and I feel so much happier doing so.

    Keep inspiring! 🙂 xx

  4. Just found you and I’m in love with what you stand for and for what you teach. Can’t wait to get my hands on all your books! This Vlog fell into my lap at a perfect time. Thank you for sharing!

  5. Wow, what great wisdom and your timing with that message is perfect! I am really working on being more conscious about how I handle myself when I have been “activated”. One thing I am also working on is looking at what about the situation is my sh– coming up and owning that. I find that if I can deal with that separately before I respond, my communication will be more authentic, forgiving and compassionate.

  6. What a powerful set of tools, thank you 🙂 I just moved to London and have been coping with serious feelings of loneliness & acting out on them in weird ways….really excited to put this to work!

    1. Hey Gillian! I’ve dealt with feelings of isolation when moving to a new city. Have you tried meeting people on meetup.com? I’ve met a few great friends there. And yes, try herfuture.com, the ladies on there are SO supportive and awesome! Good luck and keep your chin up darling!

  7. This is beautiful Gabby!
    I’ve heard this a lot – to sit with my feelings – but I feel like I’ve always been quite judgmental about them even if I’m sitting with them. Great reminder, thanks!
    Catt 🙂

  8. Thank you! I just actually tried this out a few times and it has been amazing how things just seem to work out by itself. Or I just listen and pick the right time and gesture to resolve an issue. It is kinda freaking me out in a good way! I totally think the allowing part is the hardest and being able to hear your intuition, and having the courage to follow it (a big one for me) . Thanks for the reminder!

  9. Thanks Gabby! I’m loving this “allow” step that I’ve really struggled with in the past. But the tiny reminders that have been finding their way to me (like yours) are keeping me in check 😉 Thank you for that!

  10. I will be 59 tomorrow and am happy to say an old dog CAN learn new tricks! Thank you for your guidance and for helping so many of us get in touch with our inner selves! This message was definitely what i needed to hear today! I have the hardcover, but am going out to get the softcover….just because!!!!!!!! Much love! Nancy

  11. Thanks for this Gabby! I deal with my negative feelings through mindfulness. When I start to notice my mind spinning out of control with negative thinking (which usually comes in the form of catastrophizing when thinking about the future), I ground myself in the present by really noticing everything in my environment using all of my senses. I take a deep breath and remind myself that I don’t have to have everything all figured out right now and I immediately feel more relaxed. I’m going to start implementing my prayer practice sooner too – that’s a great suggestion. Thank you for normalizing the human experience, as always!
    Love and light,

    1. Love your way of grounding yourself and being present! Thanks for the good advice. I’ve been grounding, centering, meditating, listening to my breath… all of these things lately and it’s helped a lot to deal with the intense emotions that start coming up!

  12. I love this. Thank you, Gabby. I always vent too much and then I get myself wrapped up in an even bigger mess in my head. Prayer, forgiveness and letting go is where it is at. Letting my ~ing guide and take care of all my crazy thoughts is such and easier softer way 🙂

  13. Thanks Gabby! Perfect timing for me to receive this message. Each day I’m moving closer to peace. Today is my birthday and I’m ready for a new year to begin!

  14. I love the prayer when you start feeling rocked. I’ve written the process in my journal to reread it when necessary. Thank you Gabby!

  15. Thank you, Gabby! As an empath, I find it difficult to handle negative feelings. I am also going through depression and when I get into the state of mind where I’m in tears feeling hopeless, I am not sure which spiritual tools to apply. I say a prayer and try to disassociate hy higher self from the experience but it’s really hard when I’m emotionally hurting. How does one feel their feelings and not fall victim to them but release them?

  16. Hi Gabby! Your video came up at exactly the right time for me. Thank you so much! I had very confused feelings about my relationship and was really considering to break-up. (I’m a very impatient and talkative person, too… 😉 ) But when I heard you say that we should not act on our feelings immediately and learn to coexist with them, I felt enlightened. Now everything is running smoothly again. You’re a genius! THANKS…
    P.s.: immediately ordered the paperback of Spirit-Junkie and look forward to more inspiring advice to come up!

  17. Gabby,
    Thanks for this wonderful video. I know that I struggle to deal with my negative feelings, especially in being present in the moment. I often rush to fill myself up with other external distractions, and while most of those distractions are good ( like helping others), I neglect myself. Thank you for the reminder of how to be in the moment and how to find a healthier process to deal with things.

  18. Gabby, your Chapter 1 in your ~ing book on feelings was absolutely transformative in my life. I read it last year during a very difficult time in my life when I was finally allowing myself to deal with my feelings after a divorce the previous year, and other issues from childhood that I never addressed. I would do the meditation every day for at least a month, and every day it helped me to get more and more in touch with what exactly I was feeling and how. This was about a year and a half ago, and I can look back and say with absolute certainty that reading that chapter and doing those meditations changed my life and how I process and honor and respect my feelings. Cannot thank you enough. (And I’m happy to report that through a whole lot of spiritual work thanks to you and others, I am in such an awesome place in my life. You are part of that 🙂 )

    Much love. 🙂

  19. What about when someone you love hurts your feelings. You try to talk about it calmly, but they shut you out and put up a wall. So now your not just hurt over the arguement but at the disregard for your feelings.

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